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Hi Caravan,
I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I definitely understand what it feels like to be lonely.
I often wonder if our modern lifestyles are making us sick will how isolating they can be. It used to be that we lived, slept and worked with the same tribe of people everyday. Hunting and gathering would typically be a group effort and the meal would be shared. Nowadays you don't have to interact with a single soul to feed yourself, you can just go down to the supermarket and use the self service checkout.
It's just all to easy to become socially isolated in our world but there are things we can do in order to connect with other people. You mentioned you tried to get out there? What types of things did you do?
Are there any old friends that you can try reconnecting with? I'm not sure where you live but you could try joining a Meetup group or Men's Shed.
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Dahhh just lost post
Hey Caravan welcome & good for you reaching out, you now have two people to chat to & if you're interested you could jump in other threads & be talking to others as well as your thread here & theres a few social threads too
Good idea Ellie re mens shed
Another thing i've always enjoyed is public transporting,even if you dont talk to people which mostly i do you're stil around them & amongst it which can fill voids
Do you have interests sport or hobbies maybe you could join a club or join a card playing group.i know here there's a group plays Euka dunno if you like poker i played that for while was good being round new people as i'd lost my darling partner found myself using distraction to get through grieving. Getting there
There are ways of making contact with people, another is if you contact your community centre you'll probs find more avenues there too. There are also volunteers visit people so you might be eligible too
Hope to hear back from you ☺
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Life you too have here now as well.
Not face on but real people
That care
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Thank you Ellie for your care. You are right the bigger the city gets the more isolating it becomes.
I've tried meetup and still go to some events but nothing works on an ongoing basis. It is just so bloody hard making friends as an adult. I've also tried volunteering but i don't get the emotional fulfilment i need and it doesnt fill the void. Everything is so quite...
Thanks for your advice, i will look into mens' shed as well...Cheers
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Hey demonblaster thanks very much mate for your care and advice. I've been trying hard to find social outlets and make friends and i'm just sick and tired of trying. Nothing is working. I feel like time has passed me by and I'm staring to loose my mind!
Sorry to hear about your situation and hope things get better for you.
Thanks mate and i will look into the options you recommended. Cheers!
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You're welcome Caravan - sending you a cyber hug. I'm betting there are a lot of people in our society who feel this way. It it difficult to make friends as an adult but not impossible. What is it you do for work? Do you ever get an opportunity to socialise or network with colleagues or others in the industry? Another good thing to do (if you haven't already) is to talk to your GP. They can refer you to a counsellor who in the very least can act as someone to talk through your worries with. I find this very helpful.
Life - welcome to the thread. Loneliness is a horrible feeling - I do hope we can provide a bit of understanding and support. Have you ever sought at counselling about this? Keep us updated on how you go.
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Your welcome Caravan ☺
Good on you
Ya know as much as i get your sick of trying im wondering what do you think fair enogh hav a break for a bit but then persevere. Worth to keep at id imagine cause the alternatives not good aye
Thx for coming back & you have us here here's so its a start 😊
Take good care
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