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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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phightingphan I hate art
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Art is probably one of the only good coping mechanisms I have in life. For as long as I can remember, I've loved to just... pick up a pencil and draw. Or open up a drawing application and draw on it. However, lately, for the past year or so, I've sta... View more

Art is probably one of the only good coping mechanisms I have in life. For as long as I can remember, I've loved to just... pick up a pencil and draw. Or open up a drawing application and draw on it. However, lately, for the past year or so, I've started to despise drawing. I can never draw the way I want, and I'm aware I need to actually practice the fundamentals and practice and whatnot, but I have 0 energy and drive to do these things. Making art and seeing how ugly or disproportionate it is has genuinely caused me to have multiple breakdowns, because I realise how far behind I'm falling. I was so convinced I was ahead of other kids my age in art, but then going onto the internet and seeing the masterpieces people YOUNGER than me can make destroys me. "Be happy for them!" Like it's that easy for me, oh my GOD?? I try my best to be confident in my skills, but it is so soul-crushing to see that everyone else can somehow grasp these things that I'm unable to. I've tried to study a few times before, but I can never create study routines or good practice methods, or do things that actually stick in my brain, and it's like... am I missing something?? Is there just something wrong in my brain that doesn't let me understand/do these things? This is also the reason I'm falling academically. Studying is something that seems to come easier to others, but never to me. It is impossible, and when I try it, it's unenjoyable. It is NEVER fun. Which, I guess, you would assume it would be, but studying anything feels like hell. I refuse to learn anything at all. I've seen people say that I don't need to study art, but I want to! I want to get better, and I want to understand these things I just... can't. It's likely a matter of me having a very fixed mindset; I'm aware of it, too. But once again, I can never get up to fix it. Do you understand how it feels to see something I thought I was so good at, something I put endless hours into, being done 10x better by another teenager? Someone in the same position as I, someone who has lived the same time I have, someone who can do it better than I ever could dream of. It's not a competition, I'm aware, if anything, I should only be improving for myself, right? I know these things, but I can't believe them. I'm losing my passion. I hate art.

phightingphan I don't know what to do
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I really don't know what to do with myself. I've gotten so lazy and apathetic that it's pushing me back. All I wanna do is play games and lie down and not talk to anyone. My family has noticed. Everyone has, for that matter. I'm not who I used to be,... View more

I really don't know what to do with myself. I've gotten so lazy and apathetic that it's pushing me back. All I wanna do is play games and lie down and not talk to anyone. My family has noticed. Everyone has, for that matter. I'm not who I used to be, I'm freshly 16 and I have no job or license or drive to do anything at all. My mum tells me to wake up and do something, or she tells me I can't do anything.I feel so hopeless I don't know what to do anymore. I need good grades, but I'm too lazy to get off my ass and I have nobody to blame but myself. I'm in fucking year 11 next year and I can't get a grip on anything, I have no solutions or anyone to lean on. I'm alone. I have trusted adults, or I thought I did, but I tried opening up to them and got shut down instantly. My friends can't help me, nobody can even tell I'm suffering so what the fuck do I even do??? Im so tired of everything and everyone I wish I could stop time, curl up into a ball and rot. For what reason??? I don't know. I don't know anything. Im burnt out and stupid and lazy and weird and ugly and slow I cant do anything right and I want to kill myself because of it.

Emotions26 Do not feed the monster
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I am struggling to understand this website and find my way aroundI have replied to some peopleI think that two champions replied to my first two postsI do not know where they are now I have supported several posts of othersI have replied to one perso... View more

I am struggling to understand this website and find my way aroundI have replied to some peopleI think that two champions replied to my first two postsI do not know where they are now I have supported several posts of othersI have replied to one person I think today I am resonating with several posts in different areas but cannot remember where they are I am literally lost within this website as well as within myself I am working very hard at keeping the dreaded "D" at bay which I have battled with too many times.I have had this since young apparentlyI have had large gaps of time where I am mostly symptom free I think The monster is the dreaded "d"It is also a relative whom I have had to relinquish her hold over me.I have only learnt about this stuff recently so struggle talking about it. So I think of do not feed the monster as in do not think of her. Or do not feel guilty or upset or worry or a thousand other things Also do not feed the dreaded "d" as it lurks waiting I will not find this piece again

Guest_10343 Taking small steps when depression makes everything feel heavy
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Hi everyone,I’ve been reading through a lot of the posts here and finally felt ready to share something of my own. Depression has been part of my life for a while now, and lately it feels less like intense sadness and more like a constant heaviness a... View more

Hi everyone,I’ve been reading through a lot of the posts here and finally felt ready to share something of my own. Depression has been part of my life for a while now, and lately it feels less like intense sadness and more like a constant heaviness and lack of energy. Even simple things, getting out of bed, replying to messages, taking care of myself, can feel overwhelming. Some days I don’t feel “bad enough” to justify how hard things feel, which then just adds guilt on top of everything else. I know logically that depression doesn’t always have a clear reason, but emotionally it’s hard not to question myself. One thing I’ve been slowly trying is breaking help into smaller pieces. Sometimes that’s just talking things through online rather than face to face, or checking in briefly with a GP or mental health professional when I don’t feel up to a full appointment. I’ve used a couple of telehealth services like Hola Health Beyond blue, abby and while it didn’t fix everything, it did make reaching out feel a bit less daunting on low days. What I’m still struggling with is consistency, keeping up routines and self-care when motivation is basically non-existent. I wanted to ask:What small things have helped you when depression feels flat and draining rather than intense?How do you get yourself started when everything feels like too much?Has anyone else found low-pressure ways of reaching out for support helpful?Thanks for reading. Just being able to write this out already feels like a small step.Sending strength to anyone else who’s having a hard time right now.

Guest_55975423 ECT
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Hi, I have had 7 bilateral ECT sessions and dont feel any better. Is this normal. Regards, Steve

Hi, I have had 7 bilateral ECT sessions and dont feel any better. Is this normal. Regards, Steve

Guest_69577657 The only thing stopping me
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Is my pets. I have family, but we are a little distant, i am studying towards a phd...but financially i am in the shit. My husband is sometimes very supportive, and sometimes a abusive (psychologically mostly). Literallly my responsibility for my pet... View more

Is my pets. I have family, but we are a little distant, i am studying towards a phd...but financially i am in the shit. My husband is sometimes very supportive, and sometimes a abusive (psychologically mostly). Literallly my responsibility for my pets is what makes me keep going. Does anyones else feel this way? I need some help.

Guest_58143876 Depression Symptoms
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Hey Guys! I’m Scarlett an I am a 15 year old Aussie. i have had Symptoms of Depression most of my life but have never been diagnosed or reached for help because I’m not totally sure if I have it or not an don’t want to have to tell my mum about it. I... View more

Hey Guys! I’m Scarlett an I am a 15 year old Aussie. i have had Symptoms of Depression most of my life but have never been diagnosed or reached for help because I’m not totally sure if I have it or not an don’t want to have to tell my mum about it. I have had a not very great past that included verbal abuse an a lot of other stuff from my biological father for 7 years until my family and I went through court for 5 more years an now are far away from him an my mother now has full custody. When I was 9, I got diagnosed with Autism lvl 2, that included difficulty with learning an so I struggle with that. The reason why I think I might have depression is because I have had all the symptoms of it for a long time an even struggle just to get out of bed. I have told my mother but she calls it attention seeking behaviour and at this point, I now doubt if I have it or not. Guys I need some advice on this.

Pebbles1988 Can’t see a way out
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My husband left me four years ago with nothing to my name while I was studying at uni and being a stay-at-home mum. I was forced to leave uni and go back to work, and now my ex has bought a house-something he refused to do for me and the kids after 1... View more

My husband left me four years ago with nothing to my name while I was studying at uni and being a stay-at-home mum. I was forced to leave uni and go back to work, and now my ex has bought a house-something he refused to do for me and the kids after 12 years-travels overseas several times a year, and pays me next to nothing. He only sees one of his children, while I’m left struggling as the cost of living keeps rising and my mental health declines. I work from 10:00 to 2:30, but I’m always the one called to pick the kids up from school when they’re sick or need support. I’m now considering taking on a night job just to keep a roof over our heads, even though I know my health will suffer and that scares me. I know I’m a great mum, it’s all I ever wanted to be, and I never planned for a future like this because I never expected to be left. I gave everything, helped build my ex’s business, and I do all the emotional and practical work with the kids, navigating the ups and downs of raising teenagers. I’m the one who is always there. I love them more than anything and live for them, but right now I’m so depressed I feel like I’m drowning, sitting here crying on the floor and not knowing what to do.

JacintaMarie Can't get rid of anger
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Hi againI've been okay, but I can't stop my anger about my management. I go okay than I get angry than depressed.I don't have evidence against them, just a gut feeling. I think I'm the only one, as everyone else thinks their great. My brain is gettin... View more

Hi againI've been okay, but I can't stop my anger about my management. I go okay than I get angry than depressed.I don't have evidence against them, just a gut feeling. I think I'm the only one, as everyone else thinks their great. My brain is getting filled up with crap & its sore in my head. I don't know why I can't let it go, & just them get on with it, as they'll be found out sooner or later, but I just can't. And do my work & just get paid. I think it might be because I don't think their very good & gotta find evidence, so government can rid of them.I want my brain to be peaceful, but don't know how.And it is terrible to think your management are not very good & they'll be there until they retire, so between 9 and 28 years.Just want peace in brain & to be able to let them go. All my ideas are stupid, the people aren't doers & you need to climb up to make changes.Also depressing, is that even if I leave, the new place will be the same, so gotta "fix" myself before I leave. It was my fault, as I write this, I made my head sore.

adri4na_em i dont know anything
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there are so many things i feel that kinda go against eachother. i like to do things but then at the same time im always so unmotivated, everything feels like an effort, but sometimes i like to do things so i feel like everythings an excuse for how i... View more

there are so many things i feel that kinda go against eachother. i like to do things but then at the same time im always so unmotivated, everything feels like an effort, but sometimes i like to do things so i feel like everythings an excuse for how i feel. I have no diagnoses, i cant because i dont think my family would even be open to that. i feel so many different things and i feel like no one truly understands me. sometimes i feel like im just lazy and making up excuses for the way i act and im trying to blame something to have a reason why but i feel like i see signs of depression in myself. for maybe almost 3 years now ive just gotten worse. i struggle with pretty bad (i dont know) body image issues that have driven me to want and do certain things (still undiagnosed to). i dont know if my lack of energy and motivated is because of that. (reasons for being tired) or if its the depression i could be speculating. i dont really enjoy anything. i dont have any hobbies. im not interested in anything. i kinda really hate going out unless its something im really excited for. i hate being percieved a lot of the time. i just feel super ugly and sometimes i dont exactly know what my future is going to lead. i dont know what i have going for me exactly. i dont want to die but i also have just no idea what im living for. i dont care about anything that much. maybe i am just super lazy but i feel like i just want to be understood by someone. i want to know if there is answer to why i feel things that i feel a lot of the time. i want to know whats wrong and why cant i do and want to do a lot of the things that people do. all my friends can do it but why to me does everything feel like the biggest task ever. like i just cant picture myself really doing anything. i dont know. i spend most of my time, unmotivated to move in my room. i dont like it but i also just dont like doing anything else. a lot of the time im moody. i kinda get irritated easily and i dont mean to be like that. i want to be a great friend and be a really great person but sometimes the way i feel (lacking the motivation to go out with friends soemtimes or just the effort of it all) makes me feel like i just cant really be a great friend but not in that way. i dont know. i just have so many things to kinda say but cant put it into words.