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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Keats Heart-wracking Loss / Shadowlands
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Greetings to fellow anonymous web-dwellers,I am a 35-y.o. who has suffered from Social Anxiety, Depression, and OCD since adolescence. I lost all my friends around 20 due to shame, embarrassment and stigma, as I withdrew from the world. I thought tha... View more

Greetings to fellow anonymous web-dwellers,I am a 35-y.o. who has suffered from Social Anxiety, Depression, and OCD since adolescence. I lost all my friends around 20 due to shame, embarrassment and stigma, as I withdrew from the world. I thought that they would be better off without me - I didn't want to be a burden. However, looking back my friends were never very supportive, nor very emotionally dependable - it was never the deep and meaningful friendship I have yearned for all my life.Years of fruitless therapy later, I dropped out of my final semester of university, even though my marks were excellent, due to overwhelming anxiety and depression. I was brave, and I tried my best to make friends, but my university experience was lonely and alienating. Again, I withdrew from society. I soothed myself by watching television compulsively - the vicarious illusion of company which helped the empty years drift by. Isolated, my heart became numb, insensate to either profound depths or exalted highs - I suffered, I was alone, but I did not feel the intense pain, the pain that is so excruciating one thinks only sleep or death can offer relief, that afflicts me now. I have not had a single friend since I was 20, loneliness being my constant and ever-present companion.However, in very awkward and unfortunate circumstances, I recently met someone who I thought became my friend - a true friend. I proceeded very slowly at first, and with caution, ever having to overcome my anxiety to speak with her little by little. We didn't see eachother very often at first. Later, unique circumstances caused us to spend a lot of time together, talking and getting to know eachother. Early on, she cried in front of me, and I attempted to console her. Of course, I hid my mental illness from her - I wore my dissembling mask. It seemed we were kindred spirits with a lot surprisingly in common: both interests and personality traits - both perfectionists and people-pleasers - with similar struggles and adversities. We had both suffered in life. However, she was not at all shy - just an anxious person. If ever I found a perfect friend, it was her. One day she confided in me a very deep, and sad trauma which she still continues to struggle with - resulting in suicidal ideation and profound sorrow. At that moment I began to love and care for her deeply. We grew closer and closer, and I tried to help her with her struggles as best I could, and with my experience. I was often rebuffed for trying to help her - she placed boundaries which I respected.As we grew close, I began to feel the pain and sorrow I described above. The thought of never seeing her again tore at my soul. I couldn't imagine life without her in it. I summoned the courage and asked her cautiously, 'Are we friends?' 'Yes, of course', she replied. Prior to that I often asked her whether she actually liked me, out of insecurity. She affirmed she did. The pain throbbed in my chest - it was unbearable. I decided to disclose to her my sad story, and emphasised that after hearing it she was not obliged to remain my friend. 'I am your friend', she replied, 'We are friends'. A week passed, and the reason for I cannot say, but she betrayed me. She renounced our friendship, and my world reeled. I was angry and upset at her deception - her callous cruelty. I could no longer bear to see her; we have parted, and we will never see eachother again.I am in a world of hurt. I cannot stop my tears from flowing. Life is empty and meaningless without her. The thought that I will never hear her voice again, see her face, her smile, her bright eyes is unbearable. I do not know how to cope; everything reminds me of her. I loved her as a friend with all my heart, but as best as I can I cannot remove the memory of her from my mind - dislodge the place I made for her in my heart. I don't know how to deal with the heart-wracking pain of her loss. I am in despair; I am all alone, again!Sincere gratitude to anyone who reads this - apologies for the literary quality (I studied literature at uni!).Yours sincerely.

Beebee Bullying
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Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out Into this forum in the hope of meeting other people that might have been through similar to me or who might actually understand what I’ve been through. I was bullied at school (a girls school) which led to anxiety a... View more

Hi everyone, I wanted to reach out Into this forum in the hope of meeting other people that might have been through similar to me or who might actually understand what I’ve been through. I was bullied at school (a girls school) which led to anxiety and depression from my teens where I would dread going to school and feel like I didn’t want to live. I had a group of friends that would witness my bullying and would never stand up for me they would always say they wanted to be friends with the people who I felt like tortured me on a daily basis. I then left school and had a partner cheat on me and those same friends told me they all wanted to stay friends with him. That group of friends began to shut me out invite me to parties and not speak to me. Also a video was posted on Facebook of them calling me horrible names. Then at my second year of university one main girl created a Facebook group stating how she wanted us all to be friends and move forward and as soon as I replied they all blanked me! I became really depressed but didn’t realise I was depressed, drinking a lot until I blacked out but just acting as if it was normal because I was young and it was what everyone does. I then moved away to university and I suffered at the hands of girls again, dismissing me or being horrible for no apparent reason and I continued in my depression. During my second year at university those friends that I went travelling and began to move forward also with recent help from a counsellor. Then I met my current partner but he was fully attached to the same group of friends from school that were never there for me more so the boys. Last year two of my partners friends were getting married in which I felt like I had no choice to go to the weddings with him. My partner didn’t take seriously what I have previously been through and I felt like I had no choice. The girl that made the Facebook group whilst at uni was going to be there. The fear in me was real I felt like attending those weddings was causing me PTSD. I was travelling before both and I spent a lot of the time talking about the weddings in which I now realise was complete fear that I was not able to understand or explain. The final wedding was horrific, that girl had basically created a gang of grown adult women against me and I felt completely traumatised leaving on my own. This second experience of bullying as an adult has completely broken me. Has anyone had similar or can understand or relate to my experience?

Guest_66491630 Depression and suicidal thoughts
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I’m just sitting here with the perfect life on paper with my favourite music up loud having thoughts of how I would end it. Been through calling lifeline and Psycologist’s and medication all those things. Has anyone had experience being through the t... View more

I’m just sitting here with the perfect life on paper with my favourite music up loud having thoughts of how I would end it. Been through calling lifeline and Psycologist’s and medication all those things. Has anyone had experience being through the things that should help but having life trigger bad thoughts etc. My family is out and I’m tired of my mind.

Jessksch The cost of getting help is making me more depressed...
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Thankfully I have savings, but now I had to see my GP who said I have to go back to my psychiatrist to talk about meds AND see my psychologist weekly. I was losing it before and I dunno, I just can't care anymore about my savings, just waiting for th... View more

Thankfully I have savings, but now I had to see my GP who said I have to go back to my psychiatrist to talk about meds AND see my psychologist weekly. I was losing it before and I dunno, I just can't care anymore about my savings, just waiting for them to be completely depleted as I "get healthy" again. For years I have been fine on medication but now as the world is getting so expensive, me having no career or having to work so much instead of enjoying life is draining me... I saw my psychologist on Wednesday and now just tempted to say I want to see how new meds on top of my old ones are going to affect me before seeing her again since it's all so expensive! In the end I know my partner would be fine with supporting me, but what if I didn't have him? I would never be able to cope with all of this and the cost too! I

leonkennedy Can I get antidepressants through Telehealth?
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Hello everybody, I am 18 in less than 2 months, and that is the age I am able to go to the doctors without my parents and get medication prescribed to me I wont get too deep into my mental illnesses, but I'm pretty positive I have depression and some... View more

Hello everybody, I am 18 in less than 2 months, and that is the age I am able to go to the doctors without my parents and get medication prescribed to me I wont get too deep into my mental illnesses, but I'm pretty positive I have depression and some other things wrong with me. Both my parents have depression and both my siblings have it so I think its very likely I have it. We also have family history of Autism, OCD, and anxiety. But I don't really feel comfortable walking into my GP's office or going to a psychologist/therapist for now. I can't afford therapy and all I really want is antidepressants. I'm certain I need antidepressants because it's affecting my life and my relationship pretty badly. I'm alright with living with depression since I feel i've been depressed since childhood, but I don't want to negatively affect/worry my bf (and my friends become assholes and take it personally when I isolate due to depression, so I dont wanna deal with that drama) I've gotten acne prescriptions from telehealth services before, and I was just wondering if you could ring up a telehealth service, have a quick appointment, and simply get an antidepressant prescription from a GP? If so, what are good services for this?Thank you

Elham What is depression
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Don’t know where to start Hi people, i am 34 yo male living in Australia i came to study my Masters after completing bachelors overseas and i did one year job after my bachelors in IT and my father asked me to apply for australia as it is good countr... View more

Don’t know where to start Hi people, i am 34 yo male living in Australia i came to study my Masters after completing bachelors overseas and i did one year job after my bachelors in IT and my father asked me to apply for australia as it is good country etc so i did and its been 9 years i struggled alot and after Masters or even during my studies i was introduced to gamnling world by my friend who insists to go to casino several times and somehow i hooked to it and not blaming anyone i was weak minded and used to spend all my hard earned money on gambling whether it was to recover the losses and 3-4 years went by and then obviously i lost my mind in that time and couldn’t focus on really really important stuff then i think went to depression and bit of homosexuality too out of self hate. Finally got married as i always was straight acting but never had any gf due to culture norms overseas. Due to my bad financial planning and stuff wife left me and compared me with my other friends who are so called settled now have office jobs and its been few months i can’t cope up with it and still working like 7 days but don’t know where i am heading and no plans and age is passing by idea of working like this in casual jobs for more years kills me. Most hurting part is i am heartbroken due to divorce. How to pit my life together anyone in the same situation i have never seen a doctor but think i need help coz of headache and feeling lazy all the time. Cheers

frankoceanisbae Am i real?
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i hate the feeling of not feeling real.im in year 11 and next year will be my last year of school and honeslty it terrifies me. i have no idea what i want to do or achieve when im "older" like why am i here? what is my purpose? and i feel like i cant... View more

i hate the feeling of not feeling real.im in year 11 and next year will be my last year of school and honeslty it terrifies me. i have no idea what i want to do or achieve when im "older" like why am i here? what is my purpose? and i feel like i cant be sad becuase i have so many things to be greatful for, but deep down i'm not happy. its so hard to explain this feeling like its not numbness but im not happy. i think its the mood swings from being happy when im with friends then sad and upset when im in my room and alone.I dont want to ask my bestfriend for help becuase i know her life was so much tougher than mine and i dont want anyone feeling bad for me and saying sorry. my sister was diagnosed with depresssion ages ago and now is fine, so i feel like i cant ask for help becuase i dont want to end up like how my sister was.i get these random episodes of dissassociation quite frequently and when i snap out of it i feel so fake, its like gettting deja vu, it freaks me out and really makes me think like wtf just happened and then i get this wave of dissassosiation and it repeats. a never ending cycle.i just want to be happy and 'normal'

Titanic Lost and don’t know what to do
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I’m not one to talk about what’s going on in my life even to those closest to me. I’ve always tried to be the supportive one to everyone but life has gotten the better of me and now I’m in a deep struggle, I’ve lost my partner of 4years, lost my gran... View more

I’m not one to talk about what’s going on in my life even to those closest to me. I’ve always tried to be the supportive one to everyone but life has gotten the better of me and now I’m in a deep struggle, I’ve lost my partner of 4years, lost my grandfather a couple months ago and a lot of family drama In-between it all, I don’t know what to do anymore and it’s scary, I’m on the path of help but have no hope it’s going to get better, at the moment my daughter is the only thing keeping me going, but I don’t want to have to rely on her for my own happiness just seems selfish, currently sleeping on the couch in my exs house as I have no where to go but I only think it’s making me worse being around her still

Firestorm86 When Psychological manifests as physical pain.
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So I guess this weekend is one of the worst weekends I’ve felt for a long time. I’ve just been lying here on my couch alone, in the dark, crying, listening to music… I just stood to go to bed up and couldn’t even stand up straight. I guess the only w... View more

So I guess this weekend is one of the worst weekends I’ve felt for a long time. I’ve just been lying here on my couch alone, in the dark, crying, listening to music… I just stood to go to bed up and couldn’t even stand up straight. I guess the only way to describe the feeling is “gut-wrenching”. Not a physical pain per se, but like my brain was telling my body to stay in foetal position. So I just curled up on the floor. Sobbing for another hour or so.

Hxtycyty Darkest hole in my life
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Hi all, I'm in a terrible way...I am 51, have no job, partner, friends, money, anhedonia, peyrones disease, bipolar, extreme loneliness & copd. I want to feel the connections with others again but don't know where to start. I haven't worked for 6 yea... View more

Hi all, I'm in a terrible way...I am 51, have no job, partner, friends, money, anhedonia, peyrones disease, bipolar, extreme loneliness & copd. I want to feel the connections with others again but don't know where to start. I haven't worked for 6 years due to mental health reasons however I feel guilty & think it's out of laziness. I busted My partner of 7 years having threesoms with 2 people I used to be friends with. I used to see her everyday & was totally invested in her that now, I have zero social life & with the peyrones disease I can't really meet any women!! I've been used to a life of great success but ever since divorcing my narcissistic ex wife in 2013 my life has just spiralled downwards at a great pace. Oh, peyrones disease is a build up of scar tissue in your penis that creates a bend when erect making intercourse impossible. It also shrinks your overall size. It's one of the most soul crushing things for anyone to go through. I am hopefully having an operation early next year but the surgery is 34k without p/health (which I now have and am on the 12 month waiting list) but even then, after the operation, I won't just have chicks knocking on my front door for dates so I'm scared I'll go through all the pain of recovery and $ spent on p/ health for nothing as I've got no friends to go our with!! (And don't like going out alone). I just sit at home, sleep all day sometimes as that's the only time my brain switches of for being such a loser. I dont watch TV, don't have the radio on, I just go on my pc like YouTube etc and mind numb myself even more. Idk if I should try and myb start working again however it's so soul draining on you as a person and tbh, im on the disability pension now yet I seem to be just as broke as I was when I was working so I find it a pointless goal to chase. I have various substance use disorders now also as a result of my messed up life & it's harder to interact with people re driving to places etc. I just DONT know what I should do & in what order!?! Pls any advice would be gold, Thankyou so much.