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Struggling with University and last minute information

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Hi there, no problem. That’s correct… Obviously, I wish I had known that the last two weeks are public holidays. If I had, I could have planned something. Now, it feels too late and scary because the assignment is reaching its final phase, especially... View more

Hi there, no problem. That’s correct… Obviously, I wish I had known that the last two weeks are public holidays. If I had, I could have planned something. Now, it feels too late and scary because the assignment is reaching its final phase, especially the subject with the seniors. There was one scenario where a group member said I wasn’t supposed to be in the group. Now, I’m too scared to figure this out because it’s very last minute. The other subject is because either the lecture instructions or the information was very unclear or very last minute. Or, I need to go places, and the group member is like, “Don’t care if I’m in the group. If I miss out or something, it’s all on me. The group member won’t be responsible if I miss out or willing to clarify.” I’m unsure whether the class lecture and the group’s assumption is that everyone knows or what. But I for sure know that I wish I had chosen a better group. Sadly, I can’t because all the spots are filled, and that’s not something that can be done anymore. Now, I’m filled with worry and fear that I might fail or receive a grade of zero for a subject simply because of this. I feel like the entire project relies on the organization of my group members. I’m at a loss for what to do at this point and am concerned about the possibility of failing due to lateness or difficulties. I wish I could have been in a group with better members. I’m unsure of what to do and feel that there’s a risk of failing because of these issues. I should contact these people for clarification, but it wasn’t the case during the previous semester. I wish I had been in a group with better members.

No passion

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Hi, Im 15 years old and I really don't have any passion. There's nothing I want to pursue or look forward to anymore and I feel like my life has amounted to nothing. Everyday after school I just go to my room and get into bed, fall asleep and then wa... View more

Hi, Im 15 years old and I really don't have any passion. There's nothing I want to pursue or look forward to anymore and I feel like my life has amounted to nothing. Everyday after school I just go to my room and get into bed, fall asleep and then wake up and go to school again. It's a cycle I want to break but I just don't know how, the only sport I really enjoy Is volleyball and it genuinely makes me happy when I play. However I'd only play once a week and I want to do more, I want to be something and have fun adventures, yet I can't find the motivation to and just feel tired and burnt out. My rooms messy and I feel so lazy despite giving everything my best efforts, I just want to find things that make me happy and get off of my phone. I would love if anyone could help or give any tips.

Being alone and not feeling lonely

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I have realised recently, I don't know how to be alone and not feel lonely. I use to love being alone but now I only put that emotion with being lonely. I am an introvert and need my alone time, but I don't want to keep draining myself with hanging o... View more

I have realised recently, I don't know how to be alone and not feel lonely. I use to love being alone but now I only put that emotion with being lonely. I am an introvert and need my alone time, but I don't want to keep draining myself with hanging out with people because I don't want to feel lonely. If you have any tips please help a girl out.

Is there a nice way to tell a friend 'grow up' or should I put an end to things? Help!!

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Hi, currently in year 12 and one of my close friends since year 8 is really bugging me. She spends a lot of time whinging about how stressed she is about school and how she wishes should could go home and how unfair everything is (like wearing a unif... View more

Hi, currently in year 12 and one of my close friends since year 8 is really bugging me. She spends a lot of time whinging about how stressed she is about school and how she wishes should could go home and how unfair everything is (like wearing a uniform or having to go to class - I don't see this as a big deal). It's really draining and I always feel like crap, so have been kind of avoiding her, which makes me feel worse. Sometimes I think she's doing it because she doesn't know what to say and is filling in space, but then wouldn't you ask a question instead? We're graduating in 5 months so I don't really want to rock the boat, plus she's having a really hard time at home (parents separated, mum is unwell) and I don't want to be that crappy friend that ditches someone as soon as things get hard, but shes been getting worse over the last few months. And she keeps asking if I'll still be friends with her after HSC and it wasn't really something I thought about but now it's really irritating me. She's always super loud and defensive and I feel embarrassed for her at times because her reactions are way out of proportion. When it's not so intense I actually enjoy seeing her from time to time but right now am kind of sick of it. Any advice?

Is there something wrong with me?

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I feel like I'm hideous or there's something seriously wrong with me. I've never been a popular guy, I'm disabled, queer, fat, brown and trans; so it's hard for me to make close friends, and I've never been in an actual relationship. The few people w... View more

I feel like I'm hideous or there's something seriously wrong with me. I've never been a popular guy, I'm disabled, queer, fat, brown and trans; so it's hard for me to make close friends, and I've never been in an actual relationship. The few people who've been interested in me have either been WAY older than me (double, sometimes triple my age) or they're "chasers" (people who sleep with trans people for clout). My best friends are in relationships, and I'm really happy for them. They deserve everything and their amazing people. I find it hard to talk to them without feeling awful. Every time they talk about their partners or show affection to them its like I'm punched in the stomach with the reminder that I have no one. They say I'm a catch and that I'm attractive, but I don't know. I'm on "the apps", I try to put myself out there, but nothing happens. The people I match with on Tinder all unmatch as soon as I send a message, and the only responses I get are for people trying to get me to join their MLMs...I just feel like I'm broken. I'm so tired of being alone. I know I'm not a ten, but I'm not completely unfortunate looking, people always say that "I'm such a great guy" and "I'll make someone really happy one day" I just wish that day would come sooner. I don't want to feel jealous anymore, I'm just tired of watching everyone around me be happy and in love when I'm always hanging around the back. I'm tired of jokes being made at my expense just because I'm single. I'm just tired and alone and I don't want to be.

Questioning Sexuality

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I’m writing this because I’m standing at the edge of something that feels like it could change my entire life and I don’t know how to step forward without hurting a person I love. I’m a married man oof close to 30 years. My wife is kind and loyal. Th... View more

I’m writing this because I’m standing at the edge of something that feels like it could change my entire life and I don’t know how to step forward without hurting a person I love. I’m a married man oof close to 30 years. My wife is kind and loyal. There’s nothing really “wrong” with our marriage in the obvious sense. And that’s what makes this so terrifying. For a long time, years, if I’m honest, I’ve been questioning my sexuality. I kept telling myself it was a phase, or curiosity, or something I could just manage quietly. But the truth is, the question hasn’t gone away. It’s gotten louder. I’m starting to think I might be gay, not just “a little unsure,” not just bi, but actually gay. Writing that sentence makes my stomach drop. Recently, something happened that forced me to stop pretending this was abstract or theoretical. I’ve made a really good friend who is a gay man. What started as an easy, supportive friendship has grown into something much heavier for me. I’ve developed strong feelings for him, feelings that surprised me with their intensity and clarity.I’ve tried to keep firm boundaries, but emotionally it’s been confronting. The connection feels different from anything I’ve allowed myself to acknowledge before and it’s made my questions about my sexuality impossible to ignore. I don’t have everything figured out. I don’t know exactly what this means for my future, my marriage, or my identity. What I do know is that continuing to live as if none of this is real feels increasingly dishonest, especially toward my wife. And that feels like its own kind of betrayal. I’m considering telling her and that thought alone feels like it could split my life into a before and an after. I’m scared of devastating her. I’m scared of losing the life we built. I’m also scared that if I don’t face this honestly, I’ll slowly disappear inside the marriage and become someone resentful, distant, or numb. I’m not asking for permission to walk away, I’m trying to understand whether honesty, even when it threatens everything, is still the right thing. If you’ve realized you were gay while married, or if you’ve had to tell a partner something that fundamentally changed your relationship: How did you know it was time to speak?How did you balance honesty with compassion?Did telling the truth ultimately lead to more damage or more integrity? I feel like I’m choosing between two kinds of loss, and I don’t know which one I can live with. Any perspective would mean a lot.

Guilt about going home to another city while parent in hospital

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My father had a stroke two weeks ago and I have been going to hospital every day since, taking my mum along (a one hour drive wa h way) and advocating for my dad”s health and treatment. He’s doing better now and waiting to go to regab, but is quite w... View more

My father had a stroke two weeks ago and I have been going to hospital every day since, taking my mum along (a one hour drive wa h way) and advocating for my dad”s health and treatment. He’s doing better now and waiting to go to regab, but is quite weak after being in bed for 2 weeks. He’s 88 years old and I’ve been helping keep his spirits up and doing exercises with him to help keep some muscle tone. I don’t know when a rehab bed will become available for him, but I’m feeling exhausted and I’d like to go home for a few weeks. However, I’m feeling terribly guilty about it, and if he declines without such regular visits to boost his morale, I know the guilt is going to consume me. How do other people cope with the guilt of beng away and potentially having a good time with others when an aged parent is unwell or declining?

Racism on the media

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Hey all, I thought to express some thought here. I am of immigrant background Indian to be specific. I think the mental stress is just unbearable at this stage. Any tips how to get by and keep going when you are constantly abused for just trying to b... View more

Hey all, I thought to express some thought here. I am of immigrant background Indian to be specific. I think the mental stress is just unbearable at this stage. Any tips how to get by and keep going when you are constantly abused for just trying to be a "human" and get through life

Job Search Blues

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Hey everyone, Glad to meet everyone on this forum (hope it's the right forum). I quit my full time job 2.5 months ago without a job in hand, and have been looking for a job in the same field. While I have time until next December to stay in Australia... View more

Hey everyone, Glad to meet everyone on this forum (hope it's the right forum). I quit my full time job 2.5 months ago without a job in hand, and have been looking for a job in the same field. While I have time until next December to stay in Australia and look for a job and have had some interviews, I have been living in constant stress and anxiety, wondering when my next opportunity will appear. I have been regretting the time I quit my job since it acted as golden handcuffs, even though the months leading up to the exit were rough, and I was experiencing stagnant growth from a salary standpoint. Every application rejection is playing with my patience, and is making me look desperate. I am afraid people will call me out for not getting a job. Is there anybody else that is or has experienced the same issue as me? I am keen to hear people's thoughts.

I’ve been through a lot this year.

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Hi lm struggling to live life after my brother taking his own life this year 10/2/26 due to work cover and drug issues. I’m shattered he was 51 lm 50 & sister is 52 we are a year apart I’m the youngest. My son who’s 11 at the time first witnessed my ... View more

Hi lm struggling to live life after my brother taking his own life this year 10/2/26 due to work cover and drug issues. I’m shattered he was 51 lm 50 & sister is 52 we are a year apart I’m the youngest. My son who’s 11 at the time first witnessed my brother’s passing. I ask myself WHY! He was full of talent, very intelligent & attractive didn’t look like a drug user. why didn’t he speak out? I can’t believe it . My mother who’s 75 didn’t have to experience that. At the time l wasn’t living here at mums cos my brother used to abuse me. Plus my mum is a difficult mother to live with. Waiting for high priority housing so me & my beautiful boy can live a healthy life without interruption. I can’t stand my mother she’s put me down, yells at me omg my brother she pressured him all day. secondly my god son & nephew who’s 30 passed away on the 15/5/26 he got abducted & murdered it breaks my heart they caught 6 of them. He didn’t deserve that they had weapons etc he had nothing they have been charged for murder etc. how can l move on I think I never will. He had no enemies of any sought. He was a drug user just a little & had mental illness problems & arguments with his parents on a daily basis. So he used to live at mine temporary in public housing after 37 years l got it. But waiting as high priority to be moved due to severe circumstances living there and how it’s built etc when am l going to be free of problems daily arguments with mum. Son sees it. please help me what should l do? I won’t say it on here u should know urself. How? thankyou for reading & please try assist me as best as you can cos lm at that point l can’t deal with it.

Help missing him

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Hi my partner passed away 2 months ago we separated 8 weeks prior . He did have me as next kin and a photo of me in his wallet and us on his bedside table .i have since discovered he cheated on me last year . Which has been heartbreaking . I still lo... View more

Hi my partner passed away 2 months ago we separated 8 weeks prior . He did have me as next kin and a photo of me in his wallet and us on his bedside table .i have since discovered he cheated on me last year . Which has been heartbreaking . I still love and miss him .

Lived experiences

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Hi im looking for support groups with people that have lived experiences with losing there child 2 a car accident please

Welcome to the Small Business Owners section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Small Business Owners section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide a space for small business owners a space to discuss the challenges that come with running a small business and connect with o... View more

Hi there, Welcome to the Small Business Owners section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide a space for small business owners a space to discuss the challenges that come with running a small business and connect with others who understand. Please be mindful that anyone can read these discussions. Just like all other sections of the Forums, this space is completely anonymous. Any identifiable information, such as business name or exact location, will be edited or removed to preserve anonymity. This is not a space to promote your business, but a space for peer support and connection as you manage stress, worry, or feeling overwhelmed. Thank you for being here. Owning a small business can be tough, and we hope this can be a supportive space for you along the way. Kind regards Beyond Blue

Big mistakes

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6 years ago I was working for family business and my father passed away. I was left to run the business on my own not knowing what to do or how to run a business. In this time I turned to gaming apps to cope with everything. I spent a lot of money on... View more

6 years ago I was working for family business and my father passed away. I was left to run the business on my own not knowing what to do or how to run a business. In this time I turned to gaming apps to cope with everything. I spent a lot of money on these apps without even realising the amounts I was spending. Fast forward to now I have been hit with 160k of tax bills from not knowing what to do or the implications of not being compliant. I have ATO threatening to close the business and potentially bankrupt me.I informed my wife of this and she was supportive and wanting to help find a way to refinance our house and get the debt under control. Since then she discovered my spending on the gaming apps and has completely shut down from me and is extremely angry saying she doesn’t know if we can continue after this debt is sorted. She doesn’t want to leave me because it would ruin our 12 year old son but is so angry that she doesn’t see a future. She says she needs space. I have deleted all games and am waiting on banks answer to refinance.I am completely broken, scared of losing everything, embarrassed that I let it get to this I feel alone with everything and could not live a life without my family. I don’t know what to do to save my family and myself

Small business pressure -How do I keep pushing through when I’m drained physically and mentally.

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I took over a hair salon business when I was 24 years old I’m now 31.It started with myself, a close friend who was my business partner and 1 apprentice.i was the hairdresser my friend who I went into business was the Bookeeper.From day 1 it has not ... View more

I took over a hair salon business when I was 24 years old I’m now 31.It started with myself, a close friend who was my business partner and 1 apprentice.i was the hairdresser my friend who I went into business was the Bookeeper.From day 1 it has not stopped with the challenges. My business partner was constantly taking money out aswelll as putting it back, i regularly voiced my concerns and it took me 2 years to finally have enough of the financial strain she put on me. I was already operating the floor, hiring staff, training them, doing clientele, working 44 hours with little to no lunch breaks. I decided to call the accountant to work out a buy out figure to which he told me he hasn’t done the books since we started. Turned out the tax and super that was being paid was straight to her personal account and got spent. I was in court for 3 years disputing it. First year into court, covid hit. Now I was fighting to keep the businesss I worked so very hard for. With lockdowns of a total of 9 months over 2 years without funding was stressful to say the least. I recently decided to put my business up for sale as my mental health has completely deteriorated the last 2 years, I was constantly getting sick, trying to still work and manage 4 employees that iv had since they where apprentices. 2 months into it being advertised and 2 months out from Christmas 2 of my employees handed there resignation in not for any bad reason other than it was time for them to explore a new direction. I was happy for them personally but on a Business level it left me with one hell of situation. It took me 5 years in total to train them up to fall apart in 2 months right before the madness. I’m worried I can’t keep fighting through all these obstacles that come my way with so little energy as it is. I’m having panic attacks during work, I’m run off my feet and I’m working more hours to cover the clients who where booked in with the 2 girls who are no longer here. I’m exhausted mentally and physically and I feel trapt till I can sell it. I’m having manic crying episodes nearly every night after work dreading each day that comes. I’m starting to loose control of my emotions within work and can’t hold back them tears. I can’t take time off now being so close to Xmas with only 2 partimers left and one being an apprentice.financially iv ran at a loss the last 2 years and the pressures are suffocating me.Any advice on how to manage the pressure and self care with little time to do so?!

Struggling with University and last minute information replies: 3

No passion replies: 2

Being alone and not feeling lonely replies: 1

Is there a nice way to tell a friend 'grow up' or should I put an end to things? Help!! replies: 2

Is there something wrong with me? replies: 2

Questioning Sexuality replies: 1

Guilt about going home to another city while parent in hospital replies: 1

Racism on the media replies: 2

Job Search Blues replies: 3

I’ve been through a lot this year. replies: 1

Help missing him replies: 4

Lived experiences replies: 1

Welcome to the Small Business Owners section replies: 0

Big mistakes replies: 2

Small business pressure -How do I keep pushing through when I’m drained physically and mentally. replies: 5