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BeyondBlue Welcome to the Grief and Loss section
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Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and annivers... View more

Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and anniversaries, and honour the memories of your lost loved ones. Everyone’s experience of grief or loss is unique. You might experience all kinds of difficult or overwhelming emotions, and you might sometimes wonder if the sadness will ever end. This - and anything in between - is a normal reaction to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but it can help to allow yourself to share your grief, and let others support you. Please be aware that discussions in this section of the Forums may include references to self-harm and suicide. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. If need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Griefline – between 8am and 8pm (AEST), call 1300 845 745 to chat with a specially trained volunteer You are not alone in this, and we are here to support one another. Thank you for being here. Kind regards,Beyond Blue

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Ember_Glow Grief, the deaths of loved ones, and the gradual attempts at moving on.
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I know 11 poeple who have died. From 2015 to this year, 2016. I'm only 16. It's too much. I try to count them. I can't let myself forget them. If I do then it's like they've never lived at all and thats not fair to them. If theyre all dead why can't ... View more

I know 11 poeple who have died. From 2015 to this year, 2016. I'm only 16. It's too much. I try to count them. I can't let myself forget them. If I do then it's like they've never lived at all and thats not fair to them. If theyre all dead why can't I be too? One of the ones that died (I'm gonna refer to them as K) was my mum's best friend. She was like a second mum to me. She was my best friends mum. She died on the 7t of May, 2022. It has been over 4 years. Her husband has moved on. He has a new partner now. The partner is pregnant. It feels like it's too soon. I can't cope. My bestfriend is gonna have a stepbrother. He already has a llittle brother (2 years younger than us). It's too much. It's too soon. It feels like theyre moving on. Forgetting her. And I'm stuck in the past. Unable to fully forget. Unable to move on. How do I get through this? I wanna be happy again.

Renie Should I ? Not sure
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Hi I met a guy online. I guess I’m using it to distract myself as I lost someone I loved dearly 3 months ago. He is a guy that wants to come back to my place for a one night stand . I don’t feel comfortable bringing a stranger into my home if I don’t... View more

Hi I met a guy online. I guess I’m using it to distract myself as I lost someone I loved dearly 3 months ago. He is a guy that wants to come back to my place for a one night stand . I don’t feel comfortable bringing a stranger into my home if I don’t know them. Than he suggested a hotel room and go 50/50 in the cost. I told him my heart still belongs to the guy I just lost 3Months ago. Should I block this guy ?

Guest_97760106 Grief
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My baby girl died today. I can't help with feel the pain that I wasnt there in her final moments. What helps you cope.

My baby girl died today. I can't help with feel the pain that I wasnt there in her final moments. What helps you cope.

Missmymum Lost my mum
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My mum passed away Wednesday night suddenly and I’m not coping. She was my best friend and only support. I don’t know what I’m gonna do without her, and I’m terrified. I promised her I wouldn’t give up when she passed but it’s so hard. Does anyone kn... View more

My mum passed away Wednesday night suddenly and I’m not coping. She was my best friend and only support. I don’t know what I’m gonna do without her, and I’m terrified. I promised her I wouldn’t give up when she passed but it’s so hard. Does anyone know anything that could help me, please?

Rach28 Surrender pet aftermath
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Hi everyone. I'm really struggling a month after surrendering my pet. Today I found out he's with a foster carer and up for adoption. My heart is literally broken once again. Has anyone else had to make the heartbreaking decision to surrender your pe... View more

Hi everyone. I'm really struggling a month after surrendering my pet. Today I found out he's with a foster carer and up for adoption. My heart is literally broken once again. Has anyone else had to make the heartbreaking decision to surrender your pet/best friend and are you struggling with the news that your pet is being cared for by someone else and will get a new mum soon. I just so badly miss being his mum beyond words. I miss it every single day... I should be the one caring for him. And I'm not... it's unfair..

Guest_53168226 Loss of partner.
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I lost my partner of 15 years six months ago. We were just beginning to adjust to a new stage of life together, with all of our children having moved away. Our youngest had recently started secondary school and was living in a boarding house, so for ... View more

I lost my partner of 15 years six months ago. We were just beginning to adjust to a new stage of life together, with all of our children having moved away. Our youngest had recently started secondary school and was living in a boarding house, so for the first time in many years, it was just the two of us.Then he was diagnosed with a chronic illness, and within five months, he had passed away.I am now living completely alone. I returned to work part-time to help manage my grief and to have some human interaction. During the days I work, I cope reasonably well. But when I come home to an empty house and the evening begins, the tears come. The loneliness feels overwhelming, and I am consumed by grief and loss.My grief is not only for my partner. It is also for the life we shared, the future we had planned, and the everyday moments that are now gone. For 15 years, it was always us, alongside our family. Now I am trying to find my way in a life that feels completely different from the one I knew.I don't know what my life looks like without him. I feel lost, lonely, and uncertain about how to move forward.

Renie How do you move on ?
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my ex partner passed away 2 months ago we separated not long before . We said I love you in his final Moments .i found out some secrets and deception after he passed. Plus two very close female connections which i had no idea how close .how do I deal... View more

my ex partner passed away 2 months ago we separated not long before . We said I love you in his final Moments .i found out some secrets and deception after he passed. Plus two very close female connections which i had no idea how close .how do I deal with that ? Thank you I still miss and love him

Guest_40285827 I’ve been through a lot this year.
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Hi lm struggling to live life after my brother taking his own life this year 10/2/26 due to work cover and drug issues. I’m shattered he was 51 lm 50 & sister is 52 we are a year apart I’m the youngest. My son who’s 11 at the time first witnessed my ... View more

Hi lm struggling to live life after my brother taking his own life this year 10/2/26 due to work cover and drug issues. I’m shattered he was 51 lm 50 & sister is 52 we are a year apart I’m the youngest. My son who’s 11 at the time first witnessed my brother’s passing. I ask myself WHY! He was full of talent, very intelligent & attractive didn’t look like a drug user. why didn’t he speak out? I can’t believe it . My mother who’s 75 didn’t have to experience that. At the time l wasn’t living here at mums cos my brother used to abuse me. Plus my mum is a difficult mother to live with. Waiting for high priority housing so me & my beautiful boy can live a healthy life without interruption. I can’t stand my mother she’s put me down, yells at me omg my brother she pressured him all day. secondly my god son & nephew who’s 30 passed away on the 15/5/26 he got abducted & murdered it breaks my heart they caught 6 of them. He didn’t deserve that they had weapons etc he had nothing they have been charged for murder etc. how can l move on I think I never will. He had no enemies of any sought. He was a drug user just a little & had mental illness problems & arguments with his parents on a daily basis. So he used to live at mine temporary in public housing after 37 years l got it. But waiting as high priority to be moved due to severe circumstances living there and how it’s built etc when am l going to be free of problems daily arguments with mum. Son sees it. please help me what should l do? I won’t say it on here u should know urself. How? thankyou for reading & please try assist me as best as you can cos lm at that point l can’t deal with it.

Renie Help missing him
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Hi my partner passed away 2 months ago we separated 8 weeks prior . He did have me as next kin and a photo of me in his wallet and us on his bedside table .i have since discovered he cheated on me last year . Which has been heartbreaking . I still lo... View more

Hi my partner passed away 2 months ago we separated 8 weeks prior . He did have me as next kin and a photo of me in his wallet and us on his bedside table .i have since discovered he cheated on me last year . Which has been heartbreaking . I still love and miss him .

Guest_14218046 Lived experiences
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Hi im looking for support groups with people that have lived experiences with losing there child 2 a car accident please

Hi im looking for support groups with people that have lived experiences with losing there child 2 a car accident please

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