introduction and Information. I recently sent my Phycologist an Email
just explaining the terror and time line of horror and abuse I went
through. I’m 38. And I have no support so I thought I’d post it on here
on the forums, in hopes that I can get s...
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introduction and Information. I recently sent my Phycologist an Email
just explaining the terror and time line of horror and abuse I went
through. I’m 38. And I have no support so I thought I’d post it on here
on the forums, in hopes that I can get some comforting support in
between the time I see him and Now. . I am presenting to you as a
private patient because the public mental health system government
clinics have severely failed to understand my needs, misread my complex
trauma history, and neglected my critical need for healing and comfort.
have experienced wrongful psychiatric detentions for up to six weeks at
a time where my reality was dismissed. I am seeking private, independent
care to bypass these system failures and safely rebuild my life.Below is
the exact timeline of the chronic physical, emotional, and housing
trauma I have survived :Childhood & Teenage Years (Family Instability):
My parents divorced when I was a child. I have not been close to my
father since I was 15 years old. My mother constantly kicked me out of
home, forcing me into survival mode at a very young age. Because of this
extreme instability, I was deeply isolated, had not had a proper
boyfriend since age 19, and had been completely cut off from all of my
friends for four years by the time I turned 22. 2009–2012 (Severe
Physical Domestic Violence - Andrew): Met Andrew when I was 22 and
highly vulnerable. For three consecutive years, he physically assaulted
me every single fortnight. The police were involved multiple times, and
Andrew was arrested repeatedly for these assaults. In 2012, SAPOL issued
a lifetime Apprehended Violence Order (AVO) against him 2013 (Andrew's
Remand, Joel, & Trauma): Andrew breached my safety and assaulted me one
final time in 2013, resulting in his arrest. He was subsequently placed
in the remand centre due to unpaid DUI and breeching the intervention
Order. Later that year, I met Joel on online. He violently assaulted me,
and I went through a painful abortion in September 2013. Joel shattered
my personality and psychologically manipulated me into believing I was
mentally unwell, deliberately pushing me to seek psychiatric
intervention. He later confessed in writing via email that he
intentionally "sucked the life, psychologically" out of me and was not
sorry 2014–2018 (Systemic Institutional Failure & Medical Gaslighting):
Crushed by Joel and homeless, I reached out to my father to reconnect
and seek safety. My dad did not know that Joel had psychologically
pushed and manipulated me into going to those clinics. My dad took me to
government mental health clinics, where I was placed on medication for
PTSD. When I presented to the Emergency Department in a severe crisis,
staff laughed at me and labeled me "confused." They failed to see that
Joel was still actively taunting and emailing me every five weeks while
I was homeless. This initiated a four-year cycle of wrongful,
involuntary public psychiatric detentions lasting up to six weeks at a
time .2016–2020 (Family Abuse & Legal Betrayal): In 2016, my mother—who
has a history of severe intoxication—entered a relationship with Joel’s
stepbrother, fully knowing what Joel had done to me. That same year, she
assaulted me, falsely reported to the police that I had attacked her,
and took out a fraudulent AVO against me, which was finally removed in
2020 2014–2022 (Physical Survival Shutdown & Severe Housing
Instability): Spent nearly a decade in a chronic "freeze" response,
spending days in bed to survive. Due to continuous trauma and fleeing
unsafe environments, I have moved addresses 55 times over the last 14
years, handling trailers and applications entirely alone. During this
time, I endured over 25 surgeries in public hospitals. My family
dismissed this pain, forcing me to take taxis home from operations
completely alone. I have not had regular intimacy or a safe relationship
during this decade of survival. Current Status (February 2026–Present):
On February 6th, I secured a brand-new, Housing Property.
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