Grief and loss

I think my sister is dead

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sorry for information overload, i want somehwere to unload this, its been weighing me down. i think my sister may be dead.im a child of divorce, my mother had four kids, which i am the youngest one and i fear im the only one alive i dont have memorie... View more

sorry for information overload, i want somehwere to unload this, its been weighing me down. i think my sister may be dead.im a child of divorce, my mother had four kids, which i am the youngest one and i fear im the only one alive i dont have memories growing up with them becuase of my age, but we lived all toghether up until i was 4, they moved to a different country while i stayed in my home country with my mothermy brother had depression, and both of mysisters had muscular dystrophy she stayed in contact with my siblings as best as she could all these years, she'd tell me to say hi and talk to them, i never understood why my sisters couldnt speak and my brother translated what they were trying to say, i thought he had magical pwoers that helped him understand their mumbles and groansacross a time period, my eldest sister stopped shwoing up, i never saw her in the calls anymore, i still dont know whtat happened, but i want to hope that shes not dead, maybe she's being cared for elsewherethenmy brother killed himself a few years ago, i wasnt meant to find out, it was an accident, coinicdence that that was the day my mom dropped me to school, it was terrifying to see my mom break down, i got traumatized by the experience of finding out he diedit was then just my older sister, we'd call her on my way to school and say hi, catch up on her healthher condition got worse, she couldnt even groan anymore, it stung seeing her lay immobile on the bed, they said her condition was getting a bit better thoughand then it stopped, i never see my mom call that number anymore, she doesnt talk about her anymorem not the most mentally stable person, is she not telling me because of that ? i want to ask but i dont know if i should, i dont want to make my momsad either, i love her so much and dont want her to be sad . im scared, and i dont know what to do.

Grieving one's self

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Hi there, I was diagnosed firstly with ADHD. This was something I could identify with. Then after two hospital stays I was further diagnosed with Bipolarity and then ASD. Big markers in your life. I also was successful if you could it that with the D... View more

Hi there, I was diagnosed firstly with ADHD. This was something I could identify with. Then after two hospital stays I was further diagnosed with Bipolarity and then ASD. Big markers in your life. I also was successful if you could it that with the DSP. I am losing myself. My brother was killed in 2013 and I was abused by my father. I guess I never really took the fact of my trauma from the abuse given the realtively new diagnosies of me being in my 50s. I have always considered myself young at heart and have great natural connections with the young, animals and seniors. But I am truly lost in all of this.

bereavement

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i am nt sure whether this will be approved re stand by bereavement support for survivors of ppl taking their life that u can find via google i learnt of them via a community centre i c a lived experience lady who had a friend pass away they are an ex... View more

i am nt sure whether this will be approved re stand by bereavement support for survivors of ppl taking their life that u can find via google i learnt of them via a community centre i c a lived experience lady who had a friend pass away they are an excellent service

Surrendered puppy

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My sister has a dog and I thought i would get a puppy so they can be friends. Her dog is reactive to other dogs so i thought it would be good socialising. Also i wanted a puppy for a long time. I realised on the first day i had this feeling of regret... View more

My sister has a dog and I thought i would get a puppy so they can be friends. Her dog is reactive to other dogs so i thought it would be good socialising. Also i wanted a puppy for a long time. I realised on the first day i had this feeling of regret but pushed thru for my family. But it was affecting my mental health which already wasnt good. Puppies are no joke. My family werent able to help as much as i thought cos they had work&school so it was just me and the puppy alone everyday, setting boundaries, training, enforced naps, etc. I was burnt out, not eating and drinking in the afternoon and started to feel suicidal - which is why I surrendered her 3 months ago only after 10 days of having her. This is after researching that puppies are great at adapting to change and i thought i would rehome earlier than later for her benefit. She was put in foster care straight away from the shelter & quickly found a home with a family with kids. (Had to email shelter to get an update. Im unable to get updates from new family so im just trusting strangers which is smthing ive had to learn from this) I just feel so much guilt for getting my familys hopes up. They wanted her too but werent willing to change their schedules to help. Which is why i also feel let down by them, just an unfortunate situation. Of course no one in the family wants to talk abt it (i tried but theyre very short with their responses) so ive been stuck in my own head for 3 months. It seems like theyve moved on. I miss that puppy and i know logically i did the right thing and i dont regret it but ive just been sad this whole time. Honestly ive progressed so much since then but some days are harder & its constantly on my mind which is draining

Pet loss and grief

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My dog of almost 15 years is almost at the end of her life. We're at the stage of deciding when is the right time to let her go. I struggle so much because it never feels like the right time. I do not cope well with loss at all. I can't eat, I cry al... View more

My dog of almost 15 years is almost at the end of her life. We're at the stage of deciding when is the right time to let her go. I struggle so much because it never feels like the right time. I do not cope well with loss at all. I can't eat, I cry all the time. My heart hurts so much. She's been with our family for so long. She was our baby before we had kids. They don't know life without her either.My mum passed away from cancer when I was 16. My daughter also battled cancer as a baby. I know I can get through grief, but man its such a struggle. I seriously hurt so much with things coming to an end. The grief is intense. I feel rage. I hurt so much I just want it all to end so I don't feel this way. Anyway, just wanted to vent and share how I was feeling.

Navigating Grief and Loss

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I’m coming here in the hope of reaching someone around my age who has experienced a similar loss.For some context I am 27 and I lost my beautiful mum at the age of 11 after an eight-year battle with metastasised breast cancer. She was my best friend,... View more

I’m coming here in the hope of reaching someone around my age who has experienced a similar loss.For some context I am 27 and I lost my beautiful mum at the age of 11 after an eight-year battle with metastasised breast cancer. She was my best friend, and as the youngest of four girls, we shared a very special bond. After Mum passed, our dad did his absolute best to raise us through incredibly challenging times. Navigating teenagehood and life without a mum was, and still is, one of the hardest things I will ever go through.Fast forward ten years and my dad passed away from pancreatic cancer. His battle was confronting, cruel and short, he was given just five months from diagnosis to his passing. I don’t think his death has truly sunk in yet. His anniversary is next week, which feels surreal to say, it’s been five years.I am so incredibly grateful for my sisters. We are all very close, even though we live in different cities. I also have a beautiful group of friends and a supportive partner who does his best to be there for me. Still, I can’t help but feel a mix of emotions.My grief comes in waves. Some days I honestly struggle to get out of bed. Other days I have more energy and positivity than I give myself credit for. I carry so much sadness, which often turns into anger, wondering why this had to happen to our family.Recently, I’ve moved cities with my boyfriend and started a new job, and I can’t help but feel incredibly overwhelmed and, at times, quite negative. I’m usually a glass-half-full person, but lately I find myself feeling sorry for myself. I hate feeling that way, it brings up a lot of guilt, but I also know I should be allowed to feel this way given the amount of grief I’ve experienced and, truthfully, haven’t fully processed.I often feel isolated, as none of my immediate friends have lost a parent let alone both. It makes me feel like I don’t have anyone who can truly relate to how I’m feeling.

Father passed 24 jan 2026

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my father passed away under a week ago and now I’m struggling with emotions. I’m sad I’m numb and now sometimes I’m angry. We have a blended family with stepmother‘s son the executor of the world. I do not know what is in the world. Part of me wants ... View more

my father passed away under a week ago and now I’m struggling with emotions. I’m sad I’m numb and now sometimes I’m angry. We have a blended family with stepmother‘s son the executor of the world. I do not know what is in the world. Part of me wants to contest and part of me just wants to let it go and let that side of the family disappear from my life. Also, I am a kindergarten teacher and if not face any student since six past and not sure how I deal with that. Or how you return to work or act normal. This is a very confusing time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Grief. 10 years later.

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Hey. I'm back again. I don't really know where to begin. All I know is I want it to end.The lonliness and feelings of being lost in a foreign place without him are very overwhelming. Its 10 years next August.10 years without my sweetheart is crazy. 2... View more

Hey. I'm back again. I don't really know where to begin. All I know is I want it to end.The lonliness and feelings of being lost in a foreign place without him are very overwhelming. Its 10 years next August.10 years without my sweetheart is crazy. 20 years we spent together. 6 kiddos and a reality I will never be able to exist in ever again.What a ride it was! I took it for granted. Now. It's gone. I tried other relationships. Got "swept of my feet" literally 5 months after he passed.The guilt and shame and absolute disgust in myself for that decision haunts me every single day. The guy ended up thinking he could access my then 14 yro daughter, whom I'm proud to say, spoke up right away. I kicked (i wished literally) him to the curb and supported my sweet girl throughout the court proceedings. Can understand why people stopped wanting to be my friend after that though. So, super isolated, with only my children ( who's love is unconditional) . But had to leave town. New community, new beginnings right? Nope. The pain. It follows me, the self doubt, the self loathing, the ugliness of it all tags along with me every single step and day I exist. ... and....You know what..... I kinda think I deserve it tbh. So I've become numb, things that excited me no longer make me smile.I have to act to convince myself that I should be happy. I mean, I'm great at being a social worker, I can slap my hat on for the day, and flick it off when I'm home. Its not fair on the girls, now 16, 18 and 25. But I respond on cue, smile when everyone's laughing and just be there, in the moment, even though I'm miles away. I'm morbidly obese at 122kilos and have become interestingly masculinly ( if that's a word) unattractive. I now am just waiting to expire.46 next week. And I'm so so sad. I'm sorry for the lengthy post. I get it if none has even made it down this far.But, I need to off load it somewhere. Any words would be greatly appreciated. I dont know ..

Jewish National Day of Mourning

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Hello dear members and readers. Today Australia had a national day of mourning for the many victims of the Bondi massacre. As part of my sadness of this terrible event I've written this poem. Fell free to leave your thoughts, prayers or comment for t... View more

Hello dear members and readers. Today Australia had a national day of mourning for the many victims of the Bondi massacre. As part of my sadness of this terrible event I've written this poem. Fell free to leave your thoughts, prayers or comment for these Australians ... EXCEPT FOR TODAY (19.12.2025)RIP Matilda Bee (Bondi)I'm an atheist except for todayAnd maybe more that come my waySo you might be alarmed if I prayIts so I can grieve as one, with you all today Matilda an Aussie by nature she gaveSo innocent, she'd give a gentle waveThat smile helped her angel wings growAn angel taken away- tears ebb and flow Don't fear no more child of ChristThose heroes and police and sacrificeYou are safe petal of flowers brightThe Lord will tuck you in every night Through the blur of love we've had our sayHer friends and family wear bees todaySo don't be surprised if you see me prayI'm an atheist sweety... except for today...TonyWK

Don’t be sad,Mummy

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Those were the last words my baby girl said on Thursday, knowing she was able to be sedated and intubated to try to save her life as she couldn’t breathe enough in her own. It’s a long story and it was a long road. I was her carer as well as working ... View more

Those were the last words my baby girl said on Thursday, knowing she was able to be sedated and intubated to try to save her life as she couldn’t breathe enough in her own. It’s a long story and it was a long road. I was her carer as well as working ft. We had some support - under strict guidelines from my baby girl, who couldn’t be around men or people who were judgemental and not kind. She was 31. It was just her and I, we were a team all her life after her dad left when she was 4.Now it’s just me and I don’t know how to live without her. I used to just potter at home happily - read, watch tv, do chores, chat to my daughter, hang about generally. We had an amazing and unbreakable bond and knew each other so well. I didn’t travel more than 5km from home due to her separation anxiety and she became housebound in the last 18mths. What do I do now? I can’t sleep at home. I’m sleeping at my dad’s place and coming home at daybreak to be with the 2 cats at the flat. They are grieving too. I don’t have the energy to do anything with her things or her room. It’s been cleaned up since she died- all the mess taken care of. But it’s her belongings. They are everywhere. Her books, her craft, her clothes. Everywhere I look I see her. It hurts so much. I have people around me but it’s Christmas and they have celebrations to have and families to be with and I just don’t want to but I am still lonely. I don’t want to be far from my home as it’s going to take a minute to be able to do that safely after so much time, but I want to be somewhere I think. What could I do?

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I think my sister is dead

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bereavement

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Surrendered puppy

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Navigating Grief and Loss

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Father passed 24 jan 2026

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Grief. 10 years later.

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Jewish National Day of Mourning

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Don’t be sad,Mummy

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Welcome to the Grief and Loss section

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I think my sister is dead

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Grieving one's self

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bereavement

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Surrendered puppy

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Pet loss and grief

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Navigating Grief and Loss

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Father passed 24 jan 2026

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Grief. 10 years later.

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Jewish National Day of Mourning

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Don’t be sad,Mummy

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