Hi, welcome
This is sad news but I do have some things to recommend.
Some say "life is easy", nope, it isnt. As adults we have to carry out actions that we need to endure alone because some people dont know what we are going through, this is very true with mental illness so you have come to the right place whereby members here have gone through pain alone.
There is a positive in nearly every situation if you search hard enough. In your case the positive is the short time together. Imagine being with someone 11 years with 2 kids and buying your own home and it all goes pear shaped- thats what happened to me, then 10 years with the next woman, didnt last the distance. So in your case I can say that when and if you break up, you'll take a couple of weeks of grieving then you'll pick up. In the period keep as busy as you can, friends, hobbies, sports and so on.
The decision to break up is yours however ask yourself- do I deserve better? can he be trusted? is he worth putting faith into?
Bare in mind that the longer you are together the harder a separation will be.
Yes, life can be hard, if you break up remember the positives and remind yourself you deserve the best and seek him out when you are healed. A visit to your GP to discuss any deep sadness would be beneficial.
All the best.
TonyWK
