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A_Tech PTSD for Medical and First Responders
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Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting t... View more

Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting to others). Im a 40 year old female that has spent the last 10years in the State Trauma Hospital as an Anaesthetic Technician. My PTSD was brought about after years of exposure to shocking traumas, deaths, and no support from management. I would love to hear from anyone that has a similar story, or just wants to chat. Cheers

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Guest_13849797 Trauma after cardiac arrest
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I recently suffered a cardiac arrest and am struggling with the emotions surrounding this, as well as my kids also being very anxious about it. I constantly think about the what ifs and my daughter who is 16 is often breaking down into tears and cant... View more

I recently suffered a cardiac arrest and am struggling with the emotions surrounding this, as well as my kids also being very anxious about it. I constantly think about the what ifs and my daughter who is 16 is often breaking down into tears and cant really put into words why. Anyone have any advice?

21e Injury Trauma
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Hi,im 16 and about 10 months ago i dislocated my shoulder playing netball and really struggle to put myself back out there, I still have not fully recovered due to the dislocation, it was out for 3 hours effecting my spine and the same of my neck whi... View more

Hi,im 16 and about 10 months ago i dislocated my shoulder playing netball and really struggle to put myself back out there, I still have not fully recovered due to the dislocation, it was out for 3 hours effecting my spine and the same of my neck which effects my hips bc of nerve damage, but thats not why i wanted to do this, I was wondering if theres anyone else out there who has had an injury and has like flashbacks or like gets into a state were they can't do anything but replay that moment over and over in there head.And uh, i was just wondering if theres anyone who has suffered this traumatic experience my physio and chiro keep telling me ive faced,a and managed to find a way to stop the so called "flashbacks" or "states" that im struggling to get out of.I really miss netball and i can't play yet but hopefully i can build up enough strength eventually to play again, so if anyone can also maybe tell a story or give some advice about how they managed to put themself back into doing sport even though they could injure themselves again that would be very helpful.sorry to bother anyone whos actually dealing with huge trauma rn i just thought someone might have some ideas or something... thanks,Ellie

21_23 Narcissistic Abuse recovery
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Hi everyone, I am really needing help and support, or even advice. I have recently split from a 7 year relationship from what I now believe is a malignant narcissist. I am feeling damaged and empty, and also generally anxious and scared. I made the d... View more

Hi everyone, I am really needing help and support, or even advice. I have recently split from a 7 year relationship from what I now believe is a malignant narcissist. I am feeling damaged and empty, and also generally anxious and scared. I made the decision and it took 4 months to get him to actually leave the home. I have since been told many things he said and did that I was completely unaware of. It seems that he had a laid a very cunning long term plan which mostly centred on my trust and naivety. My whole sense of self has been rocked and my world turned upside down. I am now 52 and feel so stupid for trying so hard for so long with this person. I think a lot about laying down to sleep and not waking up and what a relief ir would be. I have 2 children who that would hurt greatly, so that is not an option. As a result of the type of person he is and the way the relationship was, I am highly anxious and fearful. There were violence and threats in the beginning of the relationship which eventually ground me down to a fawning and weak person. He has no empathy for anyone in general so he would actually laugh if he knew how bad I am feeling. I have gone completely no contact for months now, but he is now attacking me through the legal system. I suppose that I would just like any advice anyone may have. I have been having some counselling but it is expensive. I am so incredibly disappointed in myself.

Tigs888 PTSD Battle - Toxic Relationship Situation
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Hello I am a medically retired veteran from the policing fraternity. I have severe PTSD and manage daily life as best as I can. My partner of 9 years has been my Saviour Angel and I treasure her immensely. I have a son 21 and daughter 18 who are very... View more

Hello I am a medically retired veteran from the policing fraternity. I have severe PTSD and manage daily life as best as I can. My partner of 9 years has been my Saviour Angel and I treasure her immensely. I have a son 21 and daughter 18 who are very close to myself. My relationship with my ex wife who is a psychologist is good and she has been supportive all through my journey living with my PTSD. Our marriage broke down due to my ptsd and my reluctance to leave the policing career. I was open from day one with my current partner about my ptsd. She understood the seriousness of my mental health. I cannot ask for a more loving partner. Here is the issue….she has a 27 year old daughter who is married with 2 kids under 3. She and her family live with her dad. Since the early days of my relationship with my partner, her daughter has constantly attempted to sabotage it through the following methods…creating jealousy issues when my kids use to visit us for school holidays..by trying to get them in trouble by false stories, bringing up her mum’s ex partner often to see my reaction, inviting her dad along to private gatherings that her mum and me organise to attempt to cause an issue. Now that she has 2 kids….she is attempting to create a bigger conflict between her mum and myself by constantly forcing her mum to visit her at her house where her dad lives in the granny flat. I have for years gone along to visit her with my partner even though it’s been uncomfortable to be around her ex husband who is autistic and has no concept of relationship boundaries.The ex husband constantly dredges up about my partners married life with him and relives the thing they use to do eg holidays. I have ceased going along for the weekly visits to my partners daughter’s house to maintain my calmness. I feel my ptsd is getting worst as the narcissistic daughter now demands frequent weekends away without her kids and my partner has to babysit the whole time at her house. The daughter is very aware that her mum is a pushover and that this is causing major issues in my relationship with her mom. My partner works in high stress corpoarte environment and the weekends gives us a chance to have couple time by either travelling or catching up with our friends. I am at a crossroad now and wonder if its better for my ptsd to rent my own place and end the relationship? My daughter has moved in with us for her university studies and is concerned for my mental health. She has confirmed my opinion about my partner's daughter being a narcissist person. I have tried so many times to get my partner to join me at my psychologist office to discuss the dire situation that is been caused by her daughter but she says 'theres nothing wrong and your just picking isssues'. Close friends and family have adviced me to walk away and be happy rather then be 'gas lit' and stay in a coercive situation.....any advice?????? Please.....

TimTams Bad experience with police/reporting rape?
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Hi, I am hoping to hear from other rape survivors in hope someone has been through what I have. When I reported my rape an officer encouraged me not to report 2 other assaults by this person because it sounded like "risky sex". This really hurt, beca... View more

Hi, I am hoping to hear from other rape survivors in hope someone has been through what I have. When I reported my rape an officer encouraged me not to report 2 other assaults by this person because it sounded like "risky sex". This really hurt, because each time I was badly assaulted. I am wondering is anyone else who has reported rape in Australia has had bad experiences with police like me? I am finding it really hard to understand why not all victims are given the chance to go to court due to 'not enough evidence' as well. Of course rapists will deny it and I just cannot understand how this is all the system does before closing a case. Has anyone else struggled with not having 'enough evidence' to get a conviction and bad remarks from police officers? This has really deeply affected my trust in society. It just feels hard to understand the world when you are raised to believe these things are wrong, yet police support the rapist. Thank you for any insights. I have felt very alone in this and was wondering if there are others out there who have had similar bad experiences when reporting their rape?

Federer How can I fight against corporate people?
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How can I fight against the corporate environment and the previous who took me for a ride and abused me to the point of no return. Sadly, these people in power are much smarter than me because they eat meat and fish they are able to outthink my every... View more

How can I fight against the corporate environment and the previous who took me for a ride and abused me to the point of no return. Sadly, these people in power are much smarter than me because they eat meat and fish they are able to outthink my every move and they got away with sleeping with anyone they want. Emotionally abused me and brainwashed me without my consent sadly I have no say in the matter because it's a form of gaslighting where the parties got away with subtle abuse and I saw them play god with my life without my consent I think this should be posted as well for people to know how horrible working Centrelink /Medicare in the corporate environment out there is it's made me lose passion in my life where I go what's the point and my team leader got away with a lot of bad thing.

Female PTSD @ Trauma
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Hi everyone, I’m here today to reach out to like minded people like myself who suffer from PTSD & Trauma . I’ve suffered Trauma all my life , but the last 7 years has been challenge for me .If your suffering like me I would love to hear from you all ... View more

Hi everyone, I’m here today to reach out to like minded people like myself who suffer from PTSD & Trauma . I’ve suffered Trauma all my life , but the last 7 years has been challenge for me .If your suffering like me I would love to hear from you all to help with many strategies to overcome them thank you

Scampy Narisstic adult daughter
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Hi I am new here. For many years I experienced abuse from.my husband then left him when my daughter was 6. She has autism and an intellectual impairment. I always ha difficulty dealing with her behaviour. We saw numerous therapists and psychologist b... View more

Hi I am new here. For many years I experienced abuse from.my husband then left him when my daughter was 6. She has autism and an intellectual impairment. I always ha difficulty dealing with her behaviour. We saw numerous therapists and psychologist but no one helped me with her aggressive, revengeful control behaviours. I honestly don't think they believed me. I have a teaching degree so I knew how to manage children's behaviours but I couldn't control my own child. She is now 21 and is living with a boyfriend who is now under her control. She displays narisstic traits. He has been so good to her and he is a kind soul. His family is now very worried about their son and have asked me to help. But she won't listen to anything I say to help her in any kind of way. As a result of years of abuse from my own child I also have received trauma from her. It breaks my heart that she is now hurting another gentle soul and family. Is there anything I can do to convince her to get some help?

Tonic Self Loathing...
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Hi Gang. Saw a post here somewhere "I Hate Myself".Made a few posts here... Bipolar (Depressive since 14, MAD since 2003), CSA Survivor (8/9-12-14) Peer Group Survivor Supporter and friend for 20 years. SELF HATRED.Knew THAT back in My Day. Despised/... View more

Hi Gang. Saw a post here somewhere "I Hate Myself".Made a few posts here... Bipolar (Depressive since 14, MAD since 2003), CSA Survivor (8/9-12-14) Peer Group Survivor Supporter and friend for 20 years. SELF HATRED.Knew THAT back in My Day. Despised/Disgusted with myself. "It's SH*TE Bein' ME! Ah'm the Lowest of the LOW!" - TRAINSPOTTING (Adapted) I saw it all as Weakness too. Too WEAK to say NO to Predators (not yell "No WAY!!" and run a Km like a virtuous boy ought).I was Pathalogically Shy as a kid too, and saw this as WEAKNESS too, Social COWARDICE, and Hated myself for THAT too...My School Reports (Bombed in EVERYTHING But English and History) All said "NOT working to capacity/Potential" "Inattentive in class". Easily Distracted. So I thought I was a LOSER and Weak Failure THERE too. It ALL Builds UP, reasons NOT to be a ((((FRIEND)))) To Yourself. I wasn't for Decades. Pretty Proud of what I do these days, Life has HOPE and PURPOSE, and using a Skill Set to Comfort Others. Buddhist PSYCHOLOGY!! (Not Philosophy)."Everyone's Problem is the Same, down Deep, we just don't SEE it for the Surface Squalls and Trials. It is living a Dissatisfied/Unfulfilled Life with No Hope or Purpose to it.Found Mine.Share it.

Sambucca Sexual harrassment and sexual assault
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My landlord has been sexually harassing me and touching me for 3years. Due to the housing crisis I kept a diary of the happenings until it was time I move out and then proceed to report to police. Landlord has just found out I have been keeping recor... View more

My landlord has been sexually harassing me and touching me for 3years. Due to the housing crisis I kept a diary of the happenings until it was time I move out and then proceed to report to police. Landlord has just found out I have been keeping records of his behaviour and has kicked me out onto the streets. I have reported to police 2 times now as I was told by the woman's sexual assault councillor that there is a victims assist package to get me out and safe but need a police report number. Police are not taking it seriously making excuses for his harrassesment. I feel let down by police, they are meant to protect us. Police said I'm only reporting as a retaliation because landlord has kicked me out. It's actually the landlord retaliating on me because he found out I have evidence. The justice system is broken in north Queensland. My mental health is beyond control. My meds don't work, I'm on the streets were I don't belong. Why is it so hard to prosecute this behaviour even with evidence?