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AzureHorizon Feeling Trapped: Depression, Anxiety, and Finding My Way (Cross-dressing, Uncommunicative Marriage)
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## Reaching Out - Struggling with Depression and Anxiety Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum and wanted to reach out because I'm at a bit of a loss. I've been living with depression for a while now and take medication to manage it. Lately, though, wit... View more

## Reaching Out - Struggling with Depression and Anxiety Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum and wanted to reach out because I'm at a bit of a loss. I've been living with depression for a while now and take medication to manage it. Lately, though, with the pressure at work, it feels like I'm barely staying afloat. The depression and anxiety team up to really mess with my mood and sometimes even my work performance. It's like being trapped, and it's hard to see a way out sometimes. I'm married, and my wife knows about my depression. The thing is, I don't think she quite knows how to help. Maybe it feels overwhelming for her. To cope, I've turned to some things that aren't necessarily healthy – like looking at pornography and occasionally cross-dressing. Cross-dressing, in particular, can help lower my stress, but it's not something anyone in my life supports, especially my wife. We've had arguments about it before, and while I stopped for a while, the urge keeps coming back. The problem is, I can't really talk to her about it openly. It just opens old wounds and makes things worse. Lately, I've noticed her spending more time focusing on her faith – she's Catholic, and I'm not. I've been in Australia for 25 years now, having migrated from India. I don't have any family here, which adds another layer of isolation. Honestly, I'm just looking for some answers. Has anyone out there dealt with something similar? Any advice on managing depression and anxiety, especially when work adds to the pressure? Thanks for listening, and I hope to hear from some of you.

anotherPeter First visit here in 9 years
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I've forgotten how to find my way around here. Haven't been here for nine years. A lot of changed in nine years. Separation, divorce, forced resignation. Haven't worked for two and a half years and I don't want to. I live in a caravan in the cheapest... View more

I've forgotten how to find my way around here. Haven't been here for nine years. A lot of changed in nine years. Separation, divorce, forced resignation. Haven't worked for two and a half years and I don't want to. I live in a caravan in the cheapest showgrounds that I can find. Haven't seen my sons for more than three years. Family dynamics are such that I am no longer in communication with any of my 6 siblings. I don't know anyone at all in the town where I have been for over a year. I stay in my caravan and get drunk. I am lonely and except for staff at the local bottle shop and supermarket I never talk to anyone.

akv123 New here
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Hi everyone, just joined Beyond Blue earlier this week. Looking forward to learning and sharing with you all, and helping in any way I can 

Hi everyone, just joined Beyond Blue earlier this week. Looking forward to learning and sharing with you all, and helping in any way I can 🙂

BB Social Zone

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Lana bipolar parents
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When do you tell people you meet that you are not ignoring them but have bipolar and at times being social is too much. And how do you explain to your kids why you have good and bad days without getting them worried. I would like to know if there are... View more

When do you tell people you meet that you are not ignoring them but have bipolar and at times being social is too much. And how do you explain to your kids why you have good and bad days without getting them worried. I would like to know if there are any parents on this forum living with bipolar. It would be great to connect.

BindiChops I think life’s won.
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My whole life was a typical undiagnosed bipolar life…. Ups, downs, alcohol, sleeping pills, smoking, previous attempts etc etc. at 38 I was finally diagnosed, medicated and I changed. Left a toxic relationship, quit drinking, smoking and pills. Got a... View more

My whole life was a typical undiagnosed bipolar life…. Ups, downs, alcohol, sleeping pills, smoking, previous attempts etc etc. at 38 I was finally diagnosed, medicated and I changed. Left a toxic relationship, quit drinking, smoking and pills. Got a good job, became a single mum and bought a house. I was finally doing life ‘right’. Well, I just got made redundant and everything is crashing down around me. I’m alone and I don’t think I have the fight left in me for this, I thought this darkness was over. I’m failing, again. But I’m so tired. I don’t think I can this time.

depression50 Bad days
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I am a 63 yr male.I have suffered depression for as long as i can remember,about 50 yrs.I have had all the drugs all the phsic evals nothing has worked. I have no interest in taking my own life,to stubbon for that shit. Biu it would be great if i cou... View more

I am a 63 yr male.I have suffered depression for as long as i can remember,about 50 yrs.I have had all the drugs all the phsic evals nothing has worked. I have no interest in taking my own life,to stubbon for that shit. Biu it would be great if i could get better and enjoy life,thx to anyone who reads this

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One_More_Day Thank You
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I just wanted to thank the Beyond Blue community for getting me to this point. When I can, I will donate to this invaluable resource. I will be offline for a while. Safe travels everyone.

I just wanted to thank the Beyond Blue community for getting me to this point. When I can, I will donate to this invaluable resource. I will be offline for a while. Safe travels everyone.

ProjectTeam Login and profile image updates
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Hello everybody Some of you may remember our big update in July 2022 with a brand new look and feel for our Forums, and we thank everyone for the feedback and support while we’ve improved on this new experience. Coming up soon we’ll make our next big... View more

Hello everybody Some of you may remember our big update in July 2022 with a brand new look and feel for our Forums, and we thank everyone for the feedback and support while we’ve improved on this new experience. Coming up soon we’ll make our next big change, and this time our login, registration, profile picture upload and account management features are getting a refresh. What does this mean? The software that runs the login and registration experience will be swapped out for a new, secure platform to handle your anonymous identity while you use the Forums. We’re really excited for this opportunity to improve the experience of using the Forums while also increasing the security of your information. It also will finally resolve an issue many of you have raised with us - that you haven’t been able to update your profile pictures / avatars. As part of the change we’ll be moving that feature into the Forums itself - and in the not so distant future you’ll be managing it in the same place you manage your notifications (https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/user/myprofilepage/tab/personal-profile). From this point on, we’ll be using this space in the forums to provide updates on the work that’s in play, to get your feedback and comments and really bring you along this journey. When can we expect these changes? At this stage we’re aiming to make this improvement at the end of March 2024 - and if there’s any changes to that timing we’ll be sure to let you know. We would love to hear your thoughts, feedback and questions! While we can’t respond super quickly to all questions, the aim is to send answers to any questions we’ve received. Thanks for your support.

LooneyToones53x Help with “unread” replies
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Please help! I’m logged in and trying to follow through on some posts. Where it says at the bottom of the post “x unread” when I click on that to see the replies, nothing happens. I just can’t seem to get any synchronicity whatsoever. 

Please help! I’m logged in and trying to follow through on some posts. Where it says at the bottom of the post “x unread” when I click on that to see the replies, nothing happens. I just can’t seem to get any synchronicity whatsoever. 😣