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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Mc_fluffy Physically different reactive brain and not being seen
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This is not needing a response, rather is vent into the digital universe. As someone who has a physical reactive, responsive brain, I feel neglected, ignored, and patronised in many ways. Sometimes the physical changes in my brain result in socially ... View more

This is not needing a response, rather is vent into the digital universe. As someone who has a physical reactive, responsive brain, I feel neglected, ignored, and patronised in many ways. Sometimes the physical changes in my brain result in socially unacceptable physical responses. A seizure in public will most likely result in urinating and pooing myself. A recent seizure in an airport was treated as if a threat and Fed Police activated. While being treated in soiled clothes by emergency responders and carted off to ER. Beyond that there are additional issues of significant injuries and scaring the heck out of nearby strangers. Gawkers and busy bodies, I have found videos of myself seizing and being treated on the internet. Often seizures or uncontrolled physical changes in brain responses can result in visits to the ER and run the risk of being placed in an induced coma or at the extreme death. A different seizure not long before resulted in fractured vertebra. Recovery can take hours, days, weeks to become lucid. I am finding it increasingly difficult to be cordial or appropriate when people offer dismissive, patronising sympathies or support… “focus on the good things… it will be alright… etc”. It is not good, and it will never ever be alright! Those of us with severe structural brain differences or decline need to look at these issues straight on, directly into the face. Trying to offer glib responses makes it worse. Damage to the brain can result in learning and adaptive difficulties, being compared with causes harm and is deflating. I feel my concerns of mental “emotional” welfare is being swamped by other forms of expression or needs. Again this is not needing a response, just venting and shaking my fists into the sky…

amd1953 Owed to Solitude
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I owe a lot to my current situation in life. In fact, it's probably as close to heaven on earth that I will ever get. I've served my apprenticeship in the School of Hard Knocks. It was actually a life sentence with no time off for good behaviour. I t... View more

I owe a lot to my current situation in life. In fact, it's probably as close to heaven on earth that I will ever get. I've served my apprenticeship in the School of Hard Knocks. It was actually a life sentence with no time off for good behaviour. I think it was Mr. W. Shakespeare who said "All the world's a stage". And that is precisely what we are - actors on a stage. Some of us play our parts really well and fool the audience into actually believing what we say we are. Then there are those who find it impossible to be anything other than what they are. Not good actors at all. That's where I make my entrance. But I don't play to the audience any more because it is a complete and utter waste of time and effort. Now that I have settled into retirement, I can stop the acting and the pretence and be whatever I choose to be. It's a great pity that we have to spend the greater part of our lives playing to an audience. Some people get away with turning their backs on the bright lights and sink into blissful anonymity. This is what I am trying to do now so that I can gather a little happiness around me before I drop off the perch. When I think back, I seem to have spent so much time trying to keep everyone else happy and giving in to do things when I don't want to. I never had the nerve to say no so I guess I was a real pushover. I think it's time to turn the page on the script and write my own dialogue for a change. Or is that asking too much? I'm not really sure myself. Maybe I am expecting too much. Shame on me eh? But there will come a time when I run out of choices and that will be the end of it. The curtain comes down on another production. I only hope it doesn't come too soon. If we do what we want to when we want to do it, we are called selfish. I have nothing left to give. It's all gone. The audience have gone home and the stage is a dusty platform waiting for the next deception. Sorry, production.

cat15 Getting over narcisstic abuse
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Hi everyone hope you are doing OK. I have been in a narrcistic relationship for 30 years and am now divorced. Anyone who can help me get over this, and to help me stop thinking about all the things my ex has and is still doing to me, what be helpful.... View more

Hi everyone hope you are doing OK. I have been in a narrcistic relationship for 30 years and am now divorced. Anyone who can help me get over this, and to help me stop thinking about all the things my ex has and is still doing to me, what be helpful. People don't believe me, as my ex is so good at convincing people I'm,crazy. My head won't stop, and I'm at the end of my tether.

zues Advice
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Hi I’m currently struggling and wanted to know what I can do. walking and keeping busy helps. But when I stop it just gets bad. thanks

Hi I’m currently struggling and wanted to know what I can do. walking and keeping busy helps. But when I stop it just gets bad. thanks

Gato46 Wife left
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Resided in China for 20 years, married a Chinese women some 7 years ago ,(wife is 35 and myself 77 now) returned to Australia 4 years ago and with child and wife, she is very unhappy, myself not perfect some lies were told but I am to blame on all mo... View more

Resided in China for 20 years, married a Chinese women some 7 years ago ,(wife is 35 and myself 77 now) returned to Australia 4 years ago and with child and wife, she is very unhappy, myself not perfect some lies were told but I am to blame on all most everything, she suffers depression blame me for it but won’t seek help. Left home some 3 weeks ago and said she needs time to evaluate our relationship and she wants to come back in two months. For the las 4 year no sex and the level of personal insults toward child and me and swearing is staggering. She said sorry for being a monster but her excuse ‘I am angry’. Twice had to call the police got crazy and wanted to commit suicide and taken to hospital , she convinced the doctors nothing wrong with her, they let he go back home. Despite everything , I still ,call me stupid, I have some felling’s for the women just very worried to let her back home without her seeking mental help , I have a child and she doesn’t want mom to come back home. Advise pleaseRespectfullyGato46

Nelson-t Income protection if resigned.
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Hi all I've been at my employer 15 years and was struggling with keeping up with constantly increasing workload. Eventually I had a breakdown and resigned a few weeks ago with no reason on the resignation. I booked into my doctor who I couldn't see u... View more

Hi all I've been at my employer 15 years and was struggling with keeping up with constantly increasing workload. Eventually I had a breakdown and resigned a few weeks ago with no reason on the resignation. I booked into my doctor who I couldn't see until the next day and he said I'm having mental issues which will need to be addressed and gave me sick leave until notice ends. My employer didn't care and just wanted me to finish up early .I have income protection on my super and tpd and wondering can I claim income protection from the event date which is when I resigned?Thanks all

-Kaz- I’m awake at 4am, and I’m confused on how I feel
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Hi everyone, I’m a 23 year old male living in Sydney, and I’ve always felt I had some sort of depressive or anxiety disorder when I was young but couldn’t put my finger on it until relatively recently. yesterday I started my first job and worked thro... View more

Hi everyone, I’m a 23 year old male living in Sydney, and I’ve always felt I had some sort of depressive or anxiety disorder when I was young but couldn’t put my finger on it until relatively recently. yesterday I started my first job and worked through the entire shift with no apparent issues, but as I returned home from work I felt empty? Like I hadn’t accomplished much of anything even though I was excited to finally earn some kind of income, and as I decompressed at home I had thoughts of “thank god that’s over”, “Why am I doing this?” And the like, and while all of those thoughts of themselves are red flags, I’ve grown accustomed to these thoughts as I’ve grown up - especially from High School. But what really grabbed my attention was that as I laid in bed, my mind kept going back to the job, worrying over situations that haven’t happened, and making reasons on why I don’t like working there. While the job I work at isn’t what I want to turn into a career, I understand that I do it to support me and those I care about. These thoughts have gotten to the point where I believe that I don’t trust myself driving to work, just in case I subconsciously do something to prevent me from going there, and these thoughts have also driven me into an almost anxiety attack-levels of distress and emotional turmoil. Has anyone felt this way before? Is this a ‘natural’ way of showing anxiety and/or depression in some way? Because at the rate I’m going with the way my mind races, I’m more scared of my potential actions than I am about the thoughts themselves. Kaz

GeminiLion Why am I here?
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Only hopped on following email about changes. Often I think about reaching out on forums. Just learnt to hide and deal with world in my bubble. Getting older and older caring for my father and never had a relationship or even basics that others take ... View more

Only hopped on following email about changes. Often I think about reaching out on forums. Just learnt to hide and deal with world in my bubble. Getting older and older caring for my father and never had a relationship or even basics that others take granted. Considered professional encounter but I scared. And now its too late (this what I mean I now feel unwell but I have to care for my dad). I did have odd friend but rare times and last friend was over decade ago. Im not got holding conversations. I do struggle a lot and have hard time getting through the day but dont drink or drugs. Trying to get back into painting and that makes me feel better. I cant handle rejection well and tried applying for jobs and after all hardwork writing dont get interview (I dont know how to communicate to others. plus no references but highly skilled and solid independent worker). Live in regional city and have to hide. Love traveling but been couple of years. Situation now: 1.Still relationship alone and its too late me, hurts alot. I have to hide/scared of people/not good understanding others. 2. Rentals hard to find and my unit 10 yrs NRAS is to be sold off as too dad NRAS ending. I dont want to live with him but what can I do?? Dad more risk of homeless because age pension isnt enough to survive with way rent skyrocketted. He will need more care anyway as age 87. 3. If I stay away in my bubble Im better but anxiety for future. Have great week anyway;)

Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Bonabie Am I actually well?
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Hi, so I’ve been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and I’ve been on quite a lot of meds for the management of it. I work very well as a nurse currently collecting stem cells for cancer patients or donors but I was an emergency department nurse ... View more

Hi, so I’ve been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and I’ve been on quite a lot of meds for the management of it. I work very well as a nurse currently collecting stem cells for cancer patients or donors but I was an emergency department nurse for a number of years. I got married mid last year and am now wanting to start a family so I’ve decided considering I’ve felt well for quite a while that I will stop taking my medication so I can have a healthy pregnancy and child. Since coming off my meds I’ve remained feeling well and if anything feeling better. I can now cry, not feel tired all the time and can lose weight instead of gain from my meds. I now doubt my mental illness but am also worried that I could relapse but im just so unsure. I’ve stopped seeing my psychiatrist and psychologist because they seemed quite against me stopping my medication but other than anxiety that I face now I’ve been quite alright but I also don’t trust it. I also have a much better lifestyle now than I did when I was really unwell but I just don’t know whether I should keep riding this wave or continue to get help.