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Hi!

 

I have known BB for a while, but was informed that they also have a forum! takes me back to the forum days! I feel like I always need someone to accompany me, even when I'm alone and do not wish to talk to anyone. Perhaps I'm feeling quite lonely. But when I'm in a crowd, I feel drained. I guess I haven't found the right balance yet.

 

I'm open to any suggestions!

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi, welcome

 

Yes, a very active forum at that and its grown a lot in the 12 years I've been here. 

 

We are open for your posts 24/7/365 so that means even on xmas day we answer posts when we get time. Just post and wait. That also helps in the middle of the night when you are dwelling about a topic.

 

We have an extensive library if you utilise the search feature. eg put the following in the search bar- 

 

"distraction and variety"  and "anxiety how I eliminated it"

 

At least you know that the right balance in your life between being lonely and being in amongst action is not found yet, thats a good start to realise your needs for a safer and happier future.

 

The link below gives you an idea on how to mentally protect yourself from people that are toxic or dangerous to our health. It's a screening process that I developed because I trusted everyone and got hurt down the track. The other thing to consider is a move to a in between place eg if you reside in the city a move to the regional area might help.

 

 https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/a-city-to-country-relocate-why-not/td-p/323767

 

I was a prison officer at 21yo (now 69) and I found that environment damaged me to the point whereby I got on my motorcycle 5 times in 9 years and fled to the mountains with the view of not returning. But, you cant eat pine trees so I returned but it made me realise that a move to the country was an ideal remedy to my anxiety.

 

So I hope you enjoy our forum. Reply anytime

 

TonyWK

sbella02
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hey there!

 

Thank you so much for reaching out, and welcome to the forums. I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling lonely. It can be quite difficult to find a good balance between being surrounded by people and being completely alone.

 

If I'm reading your post correctly, it sounds like you might find it the most meaningful to be in just the company of one or a few close people, without necessarily being engaged in conversation. As a "love language", that's often referred to as "quality time", where existing in each other's presence during different activities or moments is enough to make you feel fulfilled and supported.

 

This could look quite active if you have specific things you like to do, like a sport, crafting, watching TV... or it could look a little more passive - taking a friend with you to do the grocery shopping for instance, or heading to the bank with a family member purely just to have somebody there with you. People who value quality time as a means of showing and receiving affection tend to enjoy engaging in activities with other people as opposed to by themselves. 

 

 

Do you have any loved ones/close connections in your life who you can depend upon? Who in your social circle may be a good person to have with you during some of those monotonous activities, or even things that you've been meaning to try out but haven't had the chance yet? If you're feeling like you need somebody with you during certain activities, or if there's an activity you've been wanting to try with somebody, you may find that tapping into this helps ease that feeling of loneliness a little. 

 

I hope this helps, please feel free to keep chatting with us if you'd like, we're here to support you. 

 

Take care, SB