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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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i don’t know what to do

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hi i’m ella, i didn’t really know this website was a thing but here i am. i guess ill just start. i’m 20 years old and i’ve already accepted my death. ive accepted life isn’t going to get any better and that sometime in the next couple years i wont be here, everytime i hangout with my friends i cry because i think about how oneday they wont have me. i really wish i had a better life but theres nothing i can do now. i feel so bad for everyone in my life but im not needed here

Audhd losing the will to continue

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I am really struggling. Late diagnosed female, got the diagnosis of autism and adhd at 34. I’m 37 this year and I feel so hopeless. I do know how to be a person. I’ve just attended a birthday party with my daughter and I could not interact with anyone. I’m so awkward and strange and my brain is spinning a million miles an hour and so nothing actually comes out of my mouth. I don’t think I can be this person anymore but I don’t get that option. I don’t know why I’m here. im lost and lonely and I have no one I can talk to or help make sense of my spinning thoughts.

my younger sister has been self harming and idk what to do

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i know for certain as ive seen scars.. I've also and sometimes still do struggle with self harm and feel as if this is my fault. I want to help her but im not much older and it may come off as hypocritical if i try to talk to her about it. When my mum found out i self harmed she really just cried and yelled at me which didn't do much to improve anything and when she suspected that my sister was she yelled at us both and cried and essentially blamed me. In summary i doubt she'd be much help at all. On one hand as her older brother i know i have a responsibility to take care of her but on the other hand shes my best friend and i know that she'd be mortified if i told anyone or even bought it up. My sister has also expressed that she doesn't want to live past a certain age and doesn't have much hope for the future and is much more angry than she used to be. I love her very much and just want to help but i'm not sure how and also terrible i'm with words. I'm scared as shes still really young and i know my parents just keep making it worse and she's also being teased/messed with a lot at school. I went through something really similar at her age and i was also in a terrible place mentally and its really horrible knowing that shes followed in my footsteps.

Suicide

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I feel worthless. The past week I have woken up crying feeling alone and just wanting to kill myself. Now I know periods can take a toll on you emotionally. But this is constant I’m constantly crying and having no one to talk to. My wife is all I hav... View more

I'm trapped in a cage, I can't excape

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I recently been through a loss in January I didn't had suicide thoughts back then but I was thinking about the person and then I missed her so much, I lost interest in things and I been so bored of my life that I feel suicide. I've been trying to do ... View more

New job is making me suicidal

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Hi everyone,So, I started a new job 2 months ago and unfortunately, I feel it has drastically impacted my mental health. I'm alone 7 hours per day and my older male co-worker is very inappropriate (including continuously touching me when speaking and placing his arms around me). The workload is minimal and I'm often left with very little to do. I'm used to consistent work in fast-paced environments. I have made 3 suicide attempts since working here and I feel as though I need to leave this position. I just feel guilty about it because I'm still on probation. I work as a medical receptionist and have a solid resume, so there is some comfort in knowing there are plenty of jobs in my industry. I do have a psychologist and he is aware of all of this. He supports the idea of me leaving the job, but I'm still conflicted about it.

Endless pain

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I have been battling depression, anxiety, addiction, grief and loss of my mum, and just a constant bad luck... I feel that the world has constantly drags me down all day everyday that it's as if I don't deserve to live a meaningful and bearable life... I had a job that I wanted for years and thought that it is the one until a welfare check by the cops was done whilst at work (they went to my house and I wasn't there, they called me a few times and have answered the last call and had a agreement of me calling them back when I finish at work by 1am. They arrived at 12am! And had to be pulled away from the bar). And I knew when I saw them that this is gonna cost me my job which it did... It seems like if I yarn about what my overly active head is thinking and has the context of feeling suicidal that I get into more trouble... Maybe the world wants me to suffer in silence but I do know that if I do, then no one would be able to intervene and maybe I won't be here writing this post at all... Maybe the world has been telling me that there's nothing here for me and that it's time to rest eternally with my loved ones above... Coz either way none of this pain is worth hoping and fighting for... I got no friends, barely have a relationship with my family and have bad habits just so I can get through... No matter how hard i try to do better, it is never enough to anyone including myself... So, that's where I'm at now... I'm tired and exhausted from waking up each day like this...

Where do I start...

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I am losing any reasons to keep it together... Here's why:1. I got no friends because people seems to have just used and abused my generosity and kindness2. Lost trust in humanity, I trusted the wrong people3. Lost my job just because a welfare check done by the cops whilst I was at work. Company sacked me immediately without having a discussion of whats going on not how I am. 4. A Next to non existent relationship with my family: I accept that when mum was still alive I wasn't present much but thats because whenever I come visit them, we almost always end up in an argument but I try and understand that everyone is trying to look after mum who had an early onset of dementia. No one try asked how much I was hurting whenever I see her because it's me grieving that piece that she lost each time.. And I try and understand that everyone is stressed about her. I am judged of my bad habits, the bad life choices or the job I do. Theyve been pushing me to be a nurse which I aren't passionate anymore. I am a proud aunty of 2 beautiful kids with the 3rd one on the way pretty soon. When the 3rd baby arrives more than likely I won't be meet the baby because my sister wouldn't allow me to see and spend time with my nephew and niece for 2years now... Because of my sister not allowing me to be within her property, Our 93 year old dad would have to drive out to the station to pick me up just so we can spend time together... There are times that I feel like I am worthy of their time and don't want to be an inconvenient to my dad if he doesn't really want to come up. 5. A long time sufferer of my bad habit and have been to 4 rehabs and each one have discharged me because of me being a high risk for suicide. Just proves that my bad habit isn't the reason why I feel suicidal because when I am clean I still struggle with it. 6. The awful treatment of my local hospital staffs. I always be left on a recliner in the ambulance bay without any medical tests done specially when I have overdosed as well as barely a nurse interaction even just to say hi. They have labelled me as a aggressive, abusive, a liability, hard to look after, and unfixable. They don't even honor the section which means I can just walk out in front of the staff and they won't do a single thing. They labelled me as manipulative and that my 'issue's aren't real. Got assaulted multiple times by the securities. I don't even see the mental health team at all. No follow up in the community, then my local hospital took it upon themselves to send this care plan that never worked and wouldn't have that conversation of it., it took me a year to realise that such care plan was created with out conversing with me. 7. The emergency services mocking me, allowing the hospital staff treat me like that. As well as them treating me the same way. I might lose my temper here and there but it's because of me feeling that I am not worthy of their care and time. Be rejected which instead of de-escalating the situation they seem to pile on top of my already high distress. If I I then react in a way that everyone doesn't want, they end up either charging me or restrain me chemically and physically., sometimes be handcuffed and be transported by the Paddy wagon in the cage and not at the back seat of the cop car. I am feeling hopeless because I feel unworthy of everyone's time and that everyone has basically gave up on me... So now I gave up on me too... No matter what I do things won't get any better and that to be six feet under is where I belong... I feel that I am wasting their time from someone who they would rather help than me. I have been reminded of that all the time... I don't know what everyone wants me to do just so I can possibly receive the right support to lessen my ED presentation s.

Self H@rm

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I’ve been properly clean from self harm for like 2 years now, but things have just been building up again and all I can think about is reverting back to it. I have so much going on in my life and I’d just feel better not burdening anyone anymore

kinda confused

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whenever I'm at home, I feel normal and happy, but I don't understand why is it that when medication or pills are brought up, I imagine myself overdosing them. I like my life and I like the people around me, I feel safe around them. but the thought of pills keep crossing my mind more frequently. I don't want to tell anyone at all, especially not my friends - they have their own...issues? and I would rather not have them worry about me since it feels sort of suffocating in a way when I know people are going out their way to pay close attention to me. I understand that they do genuinely care for me, but I don't think they suspect me having thoughts like these at all. its hard for them to read me, considering how I'm often really confident and vocal about how much I adore myself. so I don't know how they'd react if I even brought it up, and I get the feeling that their view on me might change and they feel uncomfortable around me. at the same time, I think that maybe I'm sabotaging myself from getting help. I don't like feeling this way.

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Do you have a safety plan? replies: 97

i don’t know what to do replies: 3

Audhd losing the will to continue replies: 3

my younger sister has been self harming and idk what to do replies: 1

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I'm trapped in a cage, I can't excape replies: 1

New job is making me suicidal replies: 3

Endless pain replies: 4

Where do I start... replies: 1

Self H@rm replies: 16

kinda confused replies: 1