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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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A bunch of stuff

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It’s been like this for a while now but a lot more recently I’ve been feeling super down and had some intrusive thoughts and stuff, plus more frequent auditory and visual hallucinations too ‍ I don’t really know what’s wrong with me, but I feel like I can’t focus on my studies, nor work or anything else. It feels like I can’t do anything anymore, like I’m at some sort of dead end here haha

feeling really bad about myself

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hey all! i hope ur all doing welli'm just feeling really low today, have had my mum say i should talk to my therapist about my 'unhealthy relationship with any movement at all' i think she thinks i'm obese or something and i know i'm kind of overweight but i do my best. having some bad relapse thoughts from when i used to $h last year, but i don't want to do it again but feel like i have to hurt myself somehow because i'm so worthless. idk, just feeling horrible tbh, any advice on how to get past the urges and feel better would be appreciated whoevers reading this go get a drink of water and stretch - take care of yourself!!-

Gassed.

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I’m at the point where my limits have been reached and about to be breached. I wake up every day wishing that I hadn’t. My past seems pointless and I have no interest in making effort towards the future. I don’t know what made things change or what I... View more

Bad Feelings Haven't Gone Away

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Hi there,Sorry to be posting again. Sort of just a follow on from the last time I posted a few months ago (October I think)? Same scenario, not much has changed other than I am feeling more and more stuck every day. I genuinely don't see things getting better. I feel so isolated from my friends now, I have no energy to be the person constantly initiating anymore so now I barely talk with them because they never reach out to me first. I'm always the one who has to start, so if I don't, no one says anything. I feel so detached from the person I was closest with for all of 2025. In the span of a year we went from best friends, to partners, then broke up and said we'd remain friends, but now a few months later I feel nothing but guilty and hurt by it all. I feel whenever we talk now he is just chastising me, telling me off for little things or teasing me or ignoring my messages. I know I likely need more time to adjust from how close we are to going back to friends, but it feels like he no longer cares about me at all, but will still talk and hangs out with our other friends as usual. We were so close and now he seems to want nothing to do with me anymore. Any time I try to talk with people about how I'm feeling I break down in tears and can't articulate myself and then they don't want to talk to me about it and change the topic or don't engage with me for days afterwards so I end up feeling worse than if I'd just said nothing. All the things I used to love don't bring me any sort of joy now and I can't think of a single thing I like that doesn't bring me considerable amounts of stress. My friends make me feel isolated. Food makes me worry about my weight. My pet dog is sick and animals in general (which I normally love) just now make me depressed because of my veterinary degree and all the stress that's giving me. I really don't want to be here anymore and can't think of many good reasons for staying honestly.

Sick of being sick

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I’ve had severe Long Covid for over a year and I am primarily bedbound/housebound. The first few months were ok, I was thinking positively about recovery and was still able to do some part time hours with my work. In January, I made the decision to resign as I could no longer continue working due to worsening symptoms. Since resigning, my mental health has continued to decline as any hope of recovery seems like a fantasy and positive thinking is no longer working. I’ve had three attempts since February and I have tried to get help. The couple of times I’ve been to the hospital, I’ve been monitored for a few hours in ED and then sent home with no follow up help in place. I see a private psychologist, but I can only see her once a month due to her workload and it’s not enough. To say I’m at my wits end is an understatement. I do try and distract myself. I write songs about living with Long Covid and watch TV when I’m up to it. I’m not sure what else I can do. Over the last few weeks, the thoughts have become a lot worse and I’m struggling to figure out where to turn or how to get myself out of this spiral. I’m terrified I’m not going to make it and I don’t want that, hence I’m reaching out here. I refuse to go back to the hospital just to be dismissed again.

its getting worse

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i dont even know what to writemy chest hurts and aches and theres this horrible gnawing feeling deep inside me that eats away at everything good in my life. i hate it here i dont know what to do with myself i feel like a walking corpse nothing can save me (lie)lie(lie ) therapy coild save me btu im too scared to evenspeak out or go anywhere i have nothing ihavenothing to turn to i have nothing at all imso scared im so disggusting and i cant i cant i cant i dacnnirothnkjlj fskdjls

Self harm

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I have been self harming for many years but this year has been the worst, it started when I was first got SA. im just wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can try and stop harming myself the longest I have gone without doing it was 19months bu... View more

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Hi,I've never been able to actually connect with a lifeline,beyond blue or another service before I've attempted suicide.Does anyone have any good resources for programs that can help?

need a reason to live

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recently ive been feeling like im not worth anythings, and that nobody likes me. i change my personality so people will like me and yet nobody ever does. i figet during class and i cant stay still. im starting to feel like a burden to everyone and im shit at basketball even though ive played for 4 years. this year i started highschool and its just... made it so much harder to be useful. im the therapist of my friend group and dont have anyone to talk to about this. suicidally-Sky

I don't have a reason to live

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Hi, my name is alchi and I am M15 and I have been feeling very numb recently.I don't know if I have any mental health conditions but for a while now whenever I look in the mirror I see every flaw in my body and have a powerful desire to kms. I moved alot when I grew up moving schools going between Mongolia and Australia every year, I have time limits on my phone so I cant talk to any of my childhood friends and thus have always felt alone. I got depressed earlier and I was shivering in waves with crazy desires to end myself and that I was worthless, I can't talk to my friends cause im not allowed on insta and snap and whenever im with my friends I feel excluded heavily. Like I said I hate myself so im probs gonna not eat for a few days. I feel numb everyday and my parents (one mom that loses temper and hits/breaks things) and (one step-dad that doesn't care) made me feel alone for years, which I dealt with by hoping that things would get better in the future.

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