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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Men and crying- a long way to go

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Like many AFL fans I've been taking notice of the Sydney Swans latest story of late night activities (that break club rules) and mistreatment of women that is being investigated by police. But its what occurred after the Swans won their game on the weekend that worries me. The team had 5 top players not playing, those involved a week earlier. The club had been rocked, the players stressed knowing their finals campaign was at risk. Two players were emotional, opening crying. Players and coaching staff consoled them. On social media the team got solid support. However, sad it was to read the rather old fashioned view "stop sooking"...."act like a man"... joins the women's league". Its disgusting. I replied to a few, the usual about suicide numbers compared to the road toll, the we should encourage open emotions by males and females. I think we have a long way to go. So I encourage men to cry if you want to cry and at the same time ignore the types I've described for they are a poor example of real men, men with old expectations that have been misled. Change will take time. TonyWK

Looking for someone who can help or relate.

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For around longer than a year now, I have been self-harming. I haven't told my family, and only a few close friends know about this. A few months back, my best friend was trying to help me feel better, and it was working. I was doing it less and less, my self-esteem was improving, and I felt happier. Recently, the thoughts have been coming back, and for some reason, even though I promised I would tell them when I self-harmed or had those thoughts, I can't bring myself to let her know. In fact, the thought of talking to people leaves me feeling drained. It's no help that I force myself to get out of bed in the mornings to go to school, which I hate. I feel like I'm back where I was last year, in a place where I wanted nothing to do with the world, yet the world wanted everything to do with me. I don't really know what is wrong with me. Some days I wonder if I'm just being dramatic or seeking attention, but the times where I feel emotionally exhausted are moments where I realise that I'm stuck in a dark place while time keeps ticking away. I know I'm just fifteen and barely understand anything about the real world yet, but seeing how things are going now with my life, I don't think I want to know. I apologise if I wasted your time by reading this, but I think I need someone to help me find that happiness again, or to at least understand how I'm feeling.

Abandonment

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Just had someone close to me tell me that they don't want to have anything to do with me. This seems to be a recurring theme - it has happened before, several times. I'm beginning to think that there is something seriously wrong with me. I have bipolar disorder so events like this cause all sorts of conflicting emotions and trigger unhealthy behaviours and thoughts. Because of this I am unable to seek support from most support services because I end up getting sectioned and taken to hospital against my will. I know there aren't any quick solutions to this issue but maybe someone else has been through a similar experience and can share what solutions they came up with.

Feeling Suicidal

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Hi There I'm Alex and I thought I would like to say to people that I am a Paranoid Schizophrenic And I have multiple personality's. I hear voices in my head and I have one in particular named Alice and she tourchours me Day and night. Image someone that you can't get away from. Someone who won't stop talking and Abusing me. Calling me names and putting me down 24/7 someone who likes to see me upset. Someone who wants to hurt me. Someone who yells me and says cruel and nasty things about my dead mother and dead sister and my dead granddaughter. My Anxiety and Stress are through the roof. I can't sleep most nights because Alice won't leave me alone. She is an Evil Thing. I contumplate Suicide all the time and sometimes I think it is a good solution to my tourchours Existence. But I Digress. Peace Love And Light Too All.

i want to die

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i was dating this girl (i am lesbian) we dated for around 5 months and i thought we were ok but then she dumped me because she didn't feel like she liked me more than friends, i was really sad but i believed i could push forward and through the depressive episode i was in and i stayed in the friend group for months happy but when i stayed the night with my ex and another friend i noticed that my ex was constantly on her laptop talking to someone for the majority of the time and i was a little confused and looked over her shoulder and found out that she was flirting and talking to my best friend (male) and then my ex confessed everything so that was how i found out she was dating my best friend from a week after we broke up and she just let me trust her and be friends with her whilst secretly dating my best friend and to rub salt in the wound it turns out she became straight after we broke up and she was simultaneously crushing on my friend while we dated so i just pretended to be ok with everything until i was picked up in the morning because i didn't wat to trouble my mum with picking me up so late at night the next day when i saw him and i asked about it he just thought it was funny i found out and acted like it was nothing i feel like i am less than a person and i really want to die now because when i dated her i felt like someone could actually love me im not that insecure but at the same time i dont believe anyone could like me or feel attracted to me i eventually sent a large message to the groupchat to explain everything i felt and how betrayed and shit and then i kind of just left that friendgroup so now i am all alone in class besides from one friend who is still in the friend group i dont know how to ask my parents for a therapist im just ranting now and i doubt anyone will read this but i need to get it out

Suicidal, everyday.

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So, I think about suicide on a daily basis or almost everyday, but I am normally a cheery person, I just have really bad mood dips and I was talking to my sister and she said I need some help because when I was feeling suicidal today and half-attempted to fall off the roof but it was too scary. Why is it that I feel like if I weren't in the world there wouldn't be anymore problems for my family, I feel like my families failed child. My mum had to quit her job to look after me as I have autism and ADHD and she often gets upset because of her potential to work and she enjoyed working. I feel as if she hates me and my dad is disappointed in me. I have thought of suicide since at least 4 years of age. In 2022 I posted on FB that I wanted to die and FB was nice enough to remind me.. I don't know what else to add so I'm leaving it now. Thank you

Am i doing enough?

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This will probably be a ramble. Im 20 i work fulltime and study as an apprentice fitter and mashinist. both work and school are roughly an hour and 20 mins of driving each day somtimes more depending on traffic. I exercise during the week and weekend to regulate myself. I live only with my sister now shes 21 but we both cant afford to move out student wages and all ny mum moved 2 hours away ny dad moved 7 hours away we have no support close by my parents help pay rent but mother insisted we stay in a very large 4 bedroom house the rooms nice and all but its alot to try and manage. Heres the problem i have alot of conditions that make me not as abled learning disabilities and some other things main ones being adhd,ocd,mixed mood/bipolar i suspect i have autism and dyslexica but diagnosises are really expensive. I fall behind in school its nothing new they never helped me though the system and gave me special help to actually get me to succeed i dont have very good maths or writing skills. Now im in tafe and can barely handle the anxiety from maths i was alienated all the time the teachers put me in situations like quick maths or spelling but I have a processing issue so id always fail on basic things. I have definitely developed a anxiety and depression around the education system dispite how much i tell myself were all adults and it doesnt matter if anyones judging me i still cant shake it as soon as maths in play i start super eager confident. Then i fall behind maybe i got distracted for a moment or i couldn't write fast enough. Now iv missed the steps and it doesnt make sense. By that point i give up in my head it boils down to "whats the point" the teacher gets everyone to figure it out and they all yell the answers i can never do it fast enough to see wether i was right or even had a chance to type it out. So i give up the stress of failure complies though the 2weeks im there im the only girl in the class no one talks to me i have breakdowns almost everyday i have to leave the lesson beacuse I feel a meltdown i look like such a child I get treated like one i get why from the outside. I feel so alone im asking for education support from the school but theres no free time to actually do it and i dont thinj ill qualify for ndis because they'll assume im abled enough im appling anyways though. I went on adhd meds which I'm coming off my ocd and bipolar are really bad on it often times i couldn't shake the feeling that today was the last day u couldn't visualise the next days so many times i think about ending it even if its not really what i want. I feel like such a burden on my family and friends i must be hard to be around my meltdowns are scary i dont hurt others but i hurt myself physically. I regulate them as much as i can but i know people are scared of me. I still wait for the day everyone finally leaves me gets sick of me so maybe i can end it without making people upset. I doubt that will happen though i try not to push others away but how do u tell people that u cant visualise a future that ur alive in. I get told to try harder be better but i cant i tried the pills i tried getting support i have a therapist but i just keep falling behind again and again. Im really tired of fighting what comes to others so naturally. Im always tired i cant ever sleep iv tried so many things the doctors barely helped if at all. I masked so well i pretended so well that i comptent like its all just a good show but the curtins fell once my parents left and i went back to school. I cant pretend anymore im struggling i really really want this i wanna pass tafe but everything feels so crushing i dont know if my love for mechanical engineerings gonna pull me though. I need to feel like im doing enough im trying hard enough im fighting hard enough am i enough? Maybe these meds are just driving me insane and maybe ill snap back once im off them idk its tuff out here. Once my mind clears i know i wont kill myself i cant i think my brain just likes the idea since it seems like the most logical way to not feel this way or suffer. All my money basicly goes to health while my peers buy new cars im stuck trying to fix myself and pass basic schooling idk if tafe mechanical engineerings considered hard in others eyes my peers say they keep dumbing it down and yet i still cant pass. Idk i really dont know what to do i just wanna work on mechanics. Ratchet world.

Who helps me with this?

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Im 60 male, going through my 2nd divorce.23 years ago the family court awarded my $25000 settlement for my house ect. My solicitor, who told me all the way through the 18 month ordeal, that I should get about $120000, gave me a bill for $23000. Current day, been married 20 years, and she wants to keep 2 bed townhouse that is currently an investment property. She has our 12 year old son 100% because i couch surfing and live in my van.Our other invest property she wants 50% of that too.Each property is modest in Beenleigh, townhouse about $650k and house $800k with $230k mortgage.My father recently passed away, after 4 years in nursing home with dementia. Almost nothing to his name, but my sister and I didn't get mentioned in his will. Everything (which is nothing) to his defacto male partner.I now have a hatred for my dead father.I walked out of work 3 months ago, for 2 months, to sit on the edge of the ocean or Broadwater, just numb, depressed, working out how to sell everything and deposit the money to my kids accounts then end my suffering.I know why they say Rest In Peace. That's all I want...peace.I went back to work, just existing, not enjoying much, 4 weeks and I walked out again halfway through a day last week.I feel that life just doesn't like me. I don't even like me.I tried to apply to centrelink 3 weeks ago. I had a bit of savings, so the said I must wait 12 weeks before first payment. They want me broke and desperate too.This world has become horrible to live in. I watch posts online about living costs and comparisons for phillipines, Thailand and Japan.It all looks better than here. But then id be lonely and depressed, and hating myself, while looking at a different ocean or river.I read somewhere that a full emotional breakdown takes 2 years to get over.Who can access me? Services to help?

Alone and now l don’t care about bullying anymore

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Now l am powerfully and l don’t care about online bullying and before l feel anxiety and depression and suicidal and mental health issues too now l don’t care anymore.

Self harm

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I have been self harming for many years but this year has been the worst, it started when I was first got SA. im just wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can try and stop harming myself the longest I have gone without doing it was 19months bu... View more

Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section replies: 0

Do you have a safety plan? replies: 97

Men and crying- a long way to go replies: 0

Looking for someone who can help or relate. replies: 3

Abandonment replies: 1

Feeling Suicidal replies: 4

i want to die replies: 2

Suicidal, everyday. replies: 2

Am i doing enough? replies: 4

Who helps me with this? replies: 1

Alone and now l don’t care about bullying anymore replies: 1

Self harm replies: 10