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BeyondBlue Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section
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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a ... View more

Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

Sophie_M Do you have a safety plan?
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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts wi... View more

Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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Guest_38457219 I don’t know what to do
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I’m losing must of my pay to child support and lost everything my car my future. I have to sell ever go because I can not afford it

I’m losing must of my pay to child support and lost everything my car my future. I have to sell ever go because I can not afford it

Beaser Tired of fighting this battle.
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I hope im ok to post as ive posted so often on other forums but im feeling very desperate lately. Im just so tired of fighting. I left a job i was in for many years last year. I have since had some part time work that didnt work out. Im lonely and go... View more

I hope im ok to post as ive posted so often on other forums but im feeling very desperate lately. Im just so tired of fighting. I left a job i was in for many years last year. I have since had some part time work that didnt work out. Im lonely and going broke. I was desperate and called triple o last week only to be left to my own devices again. I may be going into a facility called parc a non acute inpatient service but that thought scares me. I dont know how much more i can endure. I hope every one is well and thank you for reading Brett

CamH Broken
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Unsure what to do, where to go. I know I need help but can’t afford specialists. I read ‘do this’ and ‘think that’….. if it was that easy I’d do it and think it… wrong side of 50 these days and the future is terrifying. I wish everyday I would go to ... View more

Unsure what to do, where to go. I know I need help but can’t afford specialists. I read ‘do this’ and ‘think that’….. if it was that easy I’d do it and think it… wrong side of 50 these days and the future is terrifying. I wish everyday I would go to sleep and not wake, crazy how it all works. Got someone who cares about me, she’s amazing and the only reason I’m still here, I just can’t get over that wall…… tried anti-depressant but no real change there, and as time has gone on my temper gets worse, the anger sometimes scares even me. Apologies for the rant, just don’t know what else to do, got to vent somewhere….

M-MM Football suspension
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I got suspended from football for 11 games after i got made fun of and was provoked during the game and i made a mistake i didn’t hurt the person but i made a mistake i got banned for 11 weeks football is all i had i have nothing without football it’... View more

I got suspended from football for 11 games after i got made fun of and was provoked during the game and i made a mistake i didn’t hurt the person but i made a mistake i got banned for 11 weeks football is all i had i have nothing without football it’s my escape from everything it’s all i had and i lost it im not a bad person i apologised to my coach and the person right after and a few weeks later i got told at training that im suspended from games for 11 weeks i cant eat and i cant sleep since the suspension i haven’t slept before 4 im spiraling down fast everyone has such high expectations of me and i dont even know if i can play anymore my future might have been ruined im really tired of everything without football im actually nothing there’s no point of me being on this earth i would do anything to reverse this and if i can’t i know what i should do there’s gonna be an appeal soon and if that doesn’t work ill have nothing after this ive lost everyone i dont know if i can do this for that long i had everything a few days ago now i have nothing im not a bad person ill do anything to change this if anyone has any advice please help me i was really good too i had offers in good clubs higher age groups training with people that are multiple years older in the first division learning training everyday doing what i love its all i can talk about and now i have nothing if anyone has any advice please this is my all and im losing please help.

Joshp Suicide dark
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Hey! I’m 15. Last couple weeks I been struggling with suicide thoughts and attempts. I feel very very dark and sad. And I feel alone and afraid

Hey! I’m 15. Last couple weeks I been struggling with suicide thoughts and attempts. I feel very very dark and sad. And I feel alone and afraid

Guest_30647098 Stuff
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Hi guys I have been struggling with my mental health and I have been having certain thoughts lately and people around me are terrible people and I have no support all my friends call me fat

Hi guys I have been struggling with my mental health and I have been having certain thoughts lately and people around me are terrible people and I have no support all my friends call me fat

BeyondBlue Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section
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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a ... View more

Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

Guest_52489569 How do I get over an ex
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I have an ex, she has bpd and bipolar and a few other disorders. But she decided one day just to get up and leave. She's gone back to her ex and slept with the guy she told me not to worry about. She let me know all of that. But I was so in love with... View more

I have an ex, she has bpd and bipolar and a few other disorders. But she decided one day just to get up and leave. She's gone back to her ex and slept with the guy she told me not to worry about. She let me know all of that. But I was so in love with her I ruined all of my friendships so now i''m stuck with no one and nothing left. I just feel like the easiest thing rn is just to end it. Because I genuinely dont think i can continue like this

Guest_59543016 Mental health poem
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*Your skin is not paper so don’t cut it,*Because paper can be torn away,But your skin has carried every silent battleYou never spoke about. It remembers the daysYou smiled when everything felt heavy,The mornings getting out of bedFelt impossible,The ... View more

*Your skin is not paper so don’t cut it,*Because paper can be torn away,But your skin has carried every silent battleYou never spoke about. It remembers the daysYou smiled when everything felt heavy,The mornings getting out of bedFelt impossible,The nights tears soaked into pillowsWhile the world slept. Sometimes sadness feels loud,Like thunder trapped inside your chest,And sometimes it feels worse—quiet.The kind that makes you thinkNobody would notice if you disappeared. But pain lies. People notice small things about you—Your laugh,The songs you play too much,The little things you think don’t matter. *Your neck isn’t a coat so don’t hang it,*Because coats are left behind,But you were made to stay. You were made for better days,For laughter returning unexpectedly,For moments you cannot imagine yet. Sometimes life feels unbearable,Like carrying storms nobody else can see. People say, *“You’ll be okay,”*As if healing is simple.But healing is messy—Crying without knowing why,Feeling tired all the time,Trying your hardest just to survive the day. *Your body is not a book so don’t judge it,*Because your body has carried youThrough sadness, fear, and exhaustion,And still whispered,*“Keep going.”* You are not numbers, mirrors,Or cruel thoughts. You are a person—A universe of memories, fears, dreams, mistakes,And reasons to stay. *And your heart is not a door so don’t lock it,*Even though hurt makes people try. You say *“I’m fine”*When really you mean,*“I don’t know how to explainHow heavy everything feels.”* Maybe the saddest partIs how many people hurt quietly,Smiling in classrooms,Saying *“good thanks”*While carrying oceans inside them. But hearts were never madeTo carry oceans alone. Needing supportDoes not make you weak. Sometimes the strongest thing someone can say is,*“I’m not okay.”* So if someone feels like they are breaking quietly,Please know this: You matter more than your hardest day.The world would notice your absence.People would miss the little things. So please—stay long enoughTo see what tomorrow brings. Because storms do not last forever,And somewhere ahead,A future version of youWill be glad you stayed.

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