Mental Health Conditions

Relationship

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I’ve been dealing with a lot in my relationship. I’ve got anger issues and other things I don’t know what it’s really ruining my self, my partner and our relationship. We’ve been trying to fix this for years now and it’s not working out. We were supp... View more

I’ve been dealing with a lot in my relationship. I’ve got anger issues and other things I don’t know what it’s really ruining my self, my partner and our relationship. We’ve been trying to fix this for years now and it’s not working out. We were supposed to get married this month but I don’t think it’s going to work maybe we should break up, it’s just so hard to do it because I love him and it’s not his fault it’s me.

New puppy triggering anxiety

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Hi everyone,I’m feeling deep anxiety I wasn’t expecting as a result of getting a new puppy. We are experienced dog parents and have older teenagers who are happy to help. We lost our last dog almost 2 months ago. I don’t really know where the anxiety... View more

Hi everyone,I’m feeling deep anxiety I wasn’t expecting as a result of getting a new puppy. We are experienced dog parents and have older teenagers who are happy to help. We lost our last dog almost 2 months ago. I don’t really know where the anxiety is coming from but I’ve been wanting to escape it all and return the pup. I feel so bad and a bit stupid. We’ve only had him 2 days so I realise it will most likely pass as he settles and as we settle. I’m worrying though that I don’t have capacity. We work full time but my daughter is home a lot now as she completes her HSC. We wouldn’t have got the puppy if it wasn’t for this fact that she’ll be home. We’ve raised 2 puppies before but I think I’d forgotten how constant the routine is. I guess I’m after words of reassurance.

Hopeless

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Few things bother me 1. after 10 years of being single after DV marriage, now I found a man who is calm and home help but not making my soul lit …. I live with him for a year but not sure if it’s helping mei am untidy and lazy but he keeps house clea... View more

Few things bother me 1. after 10 years of being single after DV marriage, now I found a man who is calm and home help but not making my soul lit …. I live with him for a year but not sure if it’s helping mei am untidy and lazy but he keeps house clean.he is very stingy and that bothers me. He doesn’t top up toilet rolls and all burden falls on me but he is trying to find a job. I am 50 & he is 59.Nothing excites me about him but atleast not lonely.if he leaves then I will be alone and that scares medaughter is 22 years but she keeps house even messier and rude to mehave good friends.my worry is if I can’t keep up with chores and cleaning? Atleast now I have some adult support . Is it worth itEhat will I do if I can’t cope with my life not much support around.but I eat healthy and go to gym … social girl fear of being alone and unable to cope with life as I am lazy haunts me

Boomer Blues

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I have just joined today out if desperation. I'm 65, retired & have moved to the country with my husband. I loved living here initially. All that fresh air, growing my own vegies, view of the kangaroos or cows out the front door, watching the birds, ... View more

I have just joined today out if desperation. I'm 65, retired & have moved to the country with my husband. I loved living here initially. All that fresh air, growing my own vegies, view of the kangaroos or cows out the front door, watching the birds, hanging out with my little dogs ... You get the picture. Then it started - slowly at first. I got sick; just a flu but couldn't get off the couch from then. I had trouble breathing - multiple tests, COPD diagnosed. I had pain down my side - more tests, chronic osteoporosis diagnosed, together with multiple (5) spinal compression fractures. I have put on a lot of weight to the point I can't bear to look in the mirror any more.So now I know I need to diet &:get some exercise but I can't get off the couch. My husband is doing all the housework, most of the cooking & still working a couple of days a week & I feel really guilty but I just can't do it. When he's not home I sit here & cry. My house is a mess, my garden is neglected, I'm fat & unwell & I'm lonely. Pretty crap all round really. Any ideas? I need to get off this couch before it devours me.

Lost

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I don’t really know how to describe how I’m feeling, but I thought writing it somewhere might help.I’ve been seeing a psychologist, and they think I may have bipolar disorder, so I’m currently trying to work through what’s actually going on with me. ... View more

I don’t really know how to describe how I’m feeling, but I thought writing it somewhere might help.I’ve been seeing a psychologist, and they think I may have bipolar disorder, so I’m currently trying to work through what’s actually going on with me. At the same time, a lot of trauma from things that happened about five years ago has suddenly come back up. I thought I had moved past a lot of it, but apparently I haven’t, and dealing with it now has been really overwhelming.I honestly feel like a lost puppy in a park sometimes. I don’t really know where I’m going or what I’m supposed to be doing. Some days I feel wild, energetic and like I want to do everything, talk to everyone and just live. Then other days I’m completely the opposite. I feel depressed, exhausted and disconnected from everything. I don’t want to do anything or talk to anyone, and sometimes I genuinely feel like I could just stare at a wall for hours.I think the hardest part is never really knowing which version of me I’m going to wake up as. I know there are people who love me and I know there are good things in my life, but knowing that doesn’t magically make the sadness disappear.

Depressed

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I don’t want to keep living my life. All the things I’ve suppressed over time hasn’t gone away. I can’t see a way through. I’m embarrassed and ashamed. Really struggling. Want this suffering to end.

Getting ready to share

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When I was 14/15 I was sexually assaulted at a party. For years and years I felt shame as I was very drunk and therefore ‘allowed’ or ‘asked for’ the assault to happen. I was embarrassed and felt it was my fault. Years and years later I’m at an art e... View more

When I was 14/15 I was sexually assaulted at a party. For years and years I felt shame as I was very drunk and therefore ‘allowed’ or ‘asked for’ the assault to happen. I was embarrassed and felt it was my fault. Years and years later I’m at an art exhibition for SA survivors and start reading stories. Stories like mine. I have a light bulb moment that what happened to me wasn’t my fault. I felt huge relief but was unable to speak to anyone because I simply don’t know how to bring it up. So I pushed it down again. Now with the college case in America where a woman was assaulted by 7 men with 50 others being part of the chat, the memories have come back. I have no desire to press charges or anything like that. I would just like to build the courage to tell people….

Lost my job unfair dismissal

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I got terminated 2 days ago and I knew it is not due to my performance it is an unfair dismissal. In my 5 months in the company my manager criticized my nails that they make loud noise when I type a she can’t stand it. I got picked on by small mistak... View more

I got terminated 2 days ago and I knew it is not due to my performance it is an unfair dismissal. In my 5 months in the company my manager criticized my nails that they make loud noise when I type a she can’t stand it. I got picked on by small mistake and those are the ones the team members made all the time. I did noticed red flags on the role a month after I joined, and I questioned that to my manager and she put it all back on me. I asked why there is no set of tasks that are assigned to me to do and to get training on, she said I need to build up relationship with the team members for them to assign tasks to me to do! I was confused and said to her, it wasn’t mentioned in my interview that I need to pleased the team members in order to receive tasks. I felt I was scammed by them. It’s like what if my team members don’t like me then they wouldn’t give me tasks then how can I demonstrate to succeed in th role and how the person can be monitored for success. To me it is all about how the person can suck up the team member to stay in the role. I have then trying to find my way then eventually I start to receive simple tasks from team members. I have nailed those without any trainings in fact I have been solving issues on process and develop process manual for my team. i got terminated before my probation ends. I wasn’t given an opportunity to speak up in the meeting with the HR and the manager. The manager gave me the reason why I didn’t pass the probation because she feels that I don’t understand the program and I don’t build relationships with team members! I asked her give me examples of her saying and she didn’t respond. The HR person was backing the manager up all the way. i now feel betrayed and unfairly dismissed by them and I can’t do anything because I was in probation that the law does not cover me. I am angry and upset and feel I am so alone to face this and no one can help me.

Trying to get out of my own head and back to reality

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I posted before about dealing with alot of trauma the past 18months or so, have been physically and mentally unable to work since June last year, but i'm trying to get back into it before i completely go off the deep end again and my income protectio... View more

I posted before about dealing with alot of trauma the past 18months or so, have been physically and mentally unable to work since June last year, but i'm trying to get back into it before i completely go off the deep end again and my income protection gets cut off.While i was in the depth of dispair and in hospital wards for surgery recoveries i found solice in helping others and would love to do that, especially the elderly or disabled. I have an opportunity to do online course in Cert II in individual support or Community Services to get into that type field BUT my head wont shut up telling me you'll have a trigger, you'll have a breakdown when you are in that situation again, it will be pointless once you get to the actual working in those roles. Are you really a good fit considering you are messed up mentally yourself?Also dealing with gender issues and chronic pain and restrictions, too but i don't know which is worse, too much going on, it's getting harder and harder to keep going.My wife does cleaning, social visits, transport for the elderly and that sounds great.Anyone else work in a similar field and also dealing with PTSD can share some advice?Or just chat about stuff in general.

Suicide

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I feel worthless. The past week I have woken up crying feeling alone and just wanting to kill myself. Now I know periods can take a toll on you emotionally. But this is constant I’m constantly crying and having no one to talk to. My wife is all I hav... View more

I feel worthless. The past week I have woken up crying feeling alone and just wanting to kill myself. Now I know periods can take a toll on you emotionally. But this is constant I’m constantly crying and having no one to talk to. My wife is all I have and I barely see her due to work I just hate everything in my life and not one person can help

my younger sister has been self harming and idk what to do

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i know for certain as ive seen scars.. I've also and sometimes still do struggle with self harm and feel as if this is my fault. I want to help her but im not much older and it may come off as hypocritical if i try to talk to her about it. When my mu... View more

i know for certain as ive seen scars.. I've also and sometimes still do struggle with self harm and feel as if this is my fault. I want to help her but im not much older and it may come off as hypocritical if i try to talk to her about it. When my mum found out i self harmed she really just cried and yelled at me which didn't do much to improve anything and when she suspected that my sister was she yelled at us both and cried and essentially blamed me. In summary i doubt she'd be much help at all. On one hand as her older brother i know i have a responsibility to take care of her but on the other hand shes my best friend and i know that she'd be mortified if i told anyone or even bought it up. My sister has also expressed that she doesn't want to live past a certain age and doesn't have much hope for the future and is much more angry than she used to be. I love her very much and just want to help but i'm not sure how and also terrible i'm with words. I'm scared as shes still really young and i know my parents just keep making it worse and she's also being teased/messed with a lot at school. I went through something really similar at her age and i was also in a terrible place mentally and its really horrible knowing that shes followed in my footsteps.

I'm trapped in a cage, I can't excape

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I recently been through a loss in January I didn't had suicide thoughts back then but I was thinking about the person and then I missed her so much, I lost interest in things and I been so bored of my life that I feel suicide. I've been trying to do ... View more

I recently been through a loss in January I didn't had suicide thoughts back then but I was thinking about the person and then I missed her so much, I lost interest in things and I been so bored of my life that I feel suicide. I've been trying to do the things I love like music, drawing, sports but they aren't helping me I just don't know what to do anymore.

Relationship replies: 2

New puppy triggering anxiety replies: 1

Hopeless replies: 2

Boomer Blues replies: 1

Lost replies: 1

Depressed replies: 2

Getting ready to share replies: 1

Lost my job unfair dismissal replies: 4

Trying to get out of my own head and back to reality replies: 2

Suicide replies: 1

my younger sister has been self harming and idk what to do replies: 1

I'm trapped in a cage, I can't excape replies: 1