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Husband charged with sexually abusing my 7 year old Grandaughter
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I separated from my husband the day he was charged - January 2025
i am now living with my daughters.
I miss my husband terribly and worry about how he is coping.
i know contacting him is not the right thing to do but the pull is extremely strong.
Has anyone been through anything similar and has some advice for me.
It would be greatly appreciated
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Hi, welcome
The sudden changes in your life must have been devastating. Immediately single with no time to think. Then the grief of loss followed by the gravity of inner love that still lingers.
Many people would be questioning your feelings, I don't, I can imagine the labyrinth of emotions.
However as parents we have a duty of care that trumps all other feelings a duty of protection. The other possible issue is, if you recommenced any friendship at all with this man, your daughter within a few short years would begin her resentment and that could be permanent.
We get member here that have issues sorting out their feeling about their partner having an affair. Most realise once trust is broken its game over. An alleged sexualising misconduct on a 7yo child should imo have similar if not, more determination to not revisit his life.
I have a suggestion. Try to fill your life with many more activities including dating or close friendships, hobbies, sports etc. By being distracted you'll eventually drift away from that gravitational pull. Also every time you begin to think of him think about the long term psychological effect this alleged action will be endured by your daughter.
"Moss doesn't grow on a rolling stone"
I hope you are OK.
TonyWK
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Thanks Tony WK for your reply. I really appreciate it.
of course you are right and I wonder if my feelings towards him are linked to denial that he could do such a thing.
We had what I thought was a wonderful marriage. This man would do ANYTHING for me. He adored and loved me unconditionally as I did him.
I am seeing a psychologist who deals with trauma and I am hopeful she will help me with my feelings. It’s just times when I am feeling so sad and lonely that the pull towards him becomes overwhelming.
i will try to be like that rolling stone …………..
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Well done. Yes it's sad, yes it's hard but you'll get stronger as time goes by.
TonyWK
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