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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Khan_sarah123 Exclusion
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Hello, I was studying bachelor of education and in my second year I got excluded from university due to poor academic performance. I have been trying since to re enrol but have been unsuccessful. They asked for a statement about why I think I am fit ... View more

Hello, I was studying bachelor of education and in my second year I got excluded from university due to poor academic performance. I have been trying since to re enrol but have been unsuccessful. They asked for a statement about why I think I am fit for studies which I provided. Despite providing all that I still couldn’t re enrol. I am really stuck and don’t know what to do I really want to continue studying again, I just need a chance. My family doesn’t know and I don’t want them to know as they are already going through a lot and them finding out about this could negatively affect them. I don’t what to do how to enr again. Please can anyone help me in this case.

NESSLEE BaHa- does this stop tinnitus?
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Has anyone had a BaHa fitted and has this stopped your tinnitus? 

Has anyone had a BaHa fitted and has this stopped your tinnitus? 

EGB Recurring lying, about to break my marriage.
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Hello,I have searched high and low for a “lying support group” in Australia and this is the best thing I can find so I hope it helps me the way I want it to.I have a problem with lying to my husband. I have looked into ways to stop and the first thin... View more

Hello,I have searched high and low for a “lying support group” in Australia and this is the best thing I can find so I hope it helps me the way I want it to.I have a problem with lying to my husband. I have looked into ways to stop and the first thing they all say is you need to find your ”trigger”I have done this and know that my trigger is money. My husband is great with money, I am not. I have a tendency to rack up big things on the “buy now pay later” platforms and in the past have taken money from him or used the family card for unnecessary things without asking (this isn’t a regular thing but has happened more then once) I am a stay at home mum and because of how hard my husband works our yearly family income is high enough that we don’t qualify for Centrelink and all our family income comes from him working long hours 6 days a week.I have been seeing a therapist for a few months now and she is querying me for possible ADHD however I don’t want to use that as an excuse, I just want to find a way to stop lying and be a better person and the wife my husband deserves. This is not how I want to be. He is such a selfless, soft, caring and trusting person and my lies are slowly breaking him down and making him question everything. It is hurting me so much to see and knowing that he is feeling that way because of my actions.We have 3 children and have been together for almost 16 years, since I was 15 years old. I’m so scared I’m not going to be able to stop and I will lose my family. I want my husband to be happy and deserves so much better but I’m not ready to give up on my family.

Anum Relationship advice
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I have some trust issues with the partner. How to communicate in a good manner? He always confess me to not think negative. But there are some things going on that bothers me a lot. Mobile issues etc.

I have some trust issues with the partner. How to communicate in a good manner? He always confess me to not think negative. But there are some things going on that bothers me a lot. Mobile issues etc.

lemonadetears am I the only one who fears my dad will die after I yell at him?
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when I was 7 my father who works nightshift got into a rather serious car accident. after all, I was just 7, and didn't really understand the brutal nature of what happened. when I was 8 I randomly got reminded of the fact that my father almost died ... View more

when I was 7 my father who works nightshift got into a rather serious car accident. after all, I was just 7, and didn't really understand the brutal nature of what happened. when I was 8 I randomly got reminded of the fact that my father almost died and I became extremely paranoid and pedantic about making sure he knew I loved him i.e. always saying 'good night, love you' before he would leave for work. there's been many times throughout those years since then that I would bawl my eyes out if I didnt get to say goodbye and be drowned in crippling anxiety and overthinking about if he was going to die and then it'd be my fault and that I was a terrible child. im now in my late teens and am currently bawling my eyes out because I had yelled at him and then he left for work without telling me and I didnt get to say my usual farewell message. im so worried he's just going to... die... and he wouldn't know that I loved him. I kind of recognise that my feelings are a bit irrational but I also fear this so so so strongly and genuinely feel like it's all my fault as an inadequate child. is this just me? I feel broken and entirely worthless and useless and again, like an inadequate terrible child. been sobbing for ages now and my mother has been yelling at me to shut up and stop being stupid but I still feel so terrible and it's honestly only made me cry further. I really hope it isn't just me whose thoughts go wild like this. It's kinda like the case of trauma that I never confronted because I wasn't emotionally able to at the time continuously manifesting in my life, usually quite minor but at times able to entirely take me over. I feel so alone.

Baileyjoyce Feeling uneasy and uncomfortable
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I dont know how to start this other than describing whats happening and how i feel. So im 17 and in my group of friends there are a few people who i feel are toxic and destructive, like theyre participating in under age drinking with high % alcohol, ... View more

I dont know how to start this other than describing whats happening and how i feel. So im 17 and in my group of friends there are a few people who i feel are toxic and destructive, like theyre participating in under age drinking with high % alcohol, saying racial slurs and other activities that make me feel uncomfortable and uneasy, with also the feeling of being unmotivated due to most of the people in the group not studying and not providing much support at all (in yr 12). i guess its accidently rubbing off onto others if you will. these activities are causing me to feel uneasy and uncomfortable, for not only there activities, but seeing innocent people interact with people that they KNOW are toxic makes me feel like i should do something to help. What should i do?I can give more context if needed

LemonJnr Depression and racial discrimination
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I believe Racial discrimination is a big issue in Australia. It really takes a stab at someone, for being what they cannot control or do not get a choice in from the start of their life. In fact, the idea that someone can be treated differently becau... View more

I believe Racial discrimination is a big issue in Australia. It really takes a stab at someone, for being what they cannot control or do not get a choice in from the start of their life. In fact, the idea that someone can be treated differently because of their race, colour, descent, nationality or ethnic origin is so wrong that I feel I may have mental health issues. It's just unbelievable. I feel that these attitudes are inherent through people who feel threatened in some way and attempt to marginalize these 'different' people from functioning as human beings in society. I feel like I cannot do anything about it because it is a fact that racism does exist, anywhere really. The act can be so subtle that I do not think many who have experienced it have hope of combating such extreme attitudes. I just felt like I needed to share my thoughts because I believe that if I feel that I've experienced it, then there will probably be others out there too who wish to be heard.

jas_mine444 i’m fat and it’s killing me
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my name is jasmine, i’m 13 going on 14 and i’m severely overweight (side note: this is my first time writing down my feelings so apologies for poor punctuation and/or typos), i have hypothyroidism and due to my depression i was never motivated to do ... View more

my name is jasmine, i’m 13 going on 14 and i’m severely overweight (side note: this is my first time writing down my feelings so apologies for poor punctuation and/or typos), i have hypothyroidism and due to my depression i was never motivated to do anything, i skip my meds…skipping one day of exercise turned to never exercising and the list goes on, my parents are immigrants and they don’t understand anything essentially i’m forced to deal with everything myself, my anxiety and depression and self harm. back to me being overweight… i was always a fat kid, i remember when i was 8 it got so bad that i stopped eating for a period of time, I WAS 8. and when i was 10 i started self harming...i tried everything but nothing would ever work for me, i just gave up, i look at all my friends and all the girls my age and they have such perfect bodies and they can wear what they want and do what they want, in my culture people like to fat shame alotttt and my parents and relatives would constantly fat shame me. i’m fat and i hate it, i honestly don't want to livebecause im a total failure, i just want to look pretty, i want people to look at me and think “she’s beautiful” i want to be confident but im just a loser who rots all day…i hate this and honestly i wish i looked like all the other girls and wear cute clothes and take cute photos and be able to have a special someone and be confident.

candy_21 Feeling upset about results post hsc
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I’ve been crying nearly everyday about my atar since I got it. It’s not a bad atar and I got into the course I wanted but i still feel incomplete and so angry that it wasn’t what I wanted. I feel upset cause I knew I deserved it and at the same time ... View more

I’ve been crying nearly everyday about my atar since I got it. It’s not a bad atar and I got into the course I wanted but i still feel incomplete and so angry that it wasn’t what I wanted. I feel upset cause I knew I deserved it and at the same time I feel angry at myself for not studying enough. But the truth is I did study, I studied a lot I just lost a lot of my motivation and found it rlly hard to focus and was just so tired all of the time. And since I fell back in maths I couldn’t cope with the new topics that would build on the old ones. I would zone out in tutoring and class and would feel really stressed in tutoring because I thought I couldn’t understand. Recently I’ve been feeling really upset about this number. It wasn’t an atar above 90 but it was rlly close. And that’s what bloody stings. I’m trying to stay positive saying I’ll do better in uni but I’m finding it rlly hard too. If I do well in uni will it really matter that much? Everyone makes such a big deal about atar and everyone respects u if u get a good atar . But when u go to uni if u do well no one rlly cares apart from your employers. No one asks. So is it worth it?

liv_a lonely, sad and paranoid
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Sometimes I just feel so alone.It’s just my mum, dad and I. Although on my dads side there’s my grandma, but I don’t see her much anymore, we used to be reasonably close but now she lives in a dementia care home and she doesn’t remember much nor do h... View more

Sometimes I just feel so alone.It’s just my mum, dad and I. Although on my dads side there’s my grandma, but I don’t see her much anymore, we used to be reasonably close but now she lives in a dementia care home and she doesn’t remember much nor do her conversation make sense anymore. I don’t know my grandpa because he died before I was born.On my mum’s said there are my other grandparents who died when I was in the early years of primary school. They lived in America and so did my aunty and uncle so I never really saw them though. My family is quite small and sometimes I wish that i had a sibling or someone else. I wouldn’t exactly say I’m friends with my parents but I mean they’re my parents. I’m always getting into arguments with them and I always feel very defensive because if I do something wrong then most times they both scold me and I have no one to at least talk to. I find it’s hard and if I had a better relationship with my parents maybe it would be easier. I know it could be a whole lot worse. But so many times feel so alone. I can be triggered or get upset reasonably quickly and now days my parents may try once or twice to try and understand what’s going on but I always push them away. Deep down all I want is a hug and someone to talk to but when upset I always resort do sending them away and they don’t come back. I keep telling myself to stop but every time it’s the same: I push them away. They don’t come back. I cry until my eyes are dry or I dwell in my sorrows. And then, by then I have given up hope that they would come back to comfort me and I pick myself up and try to get on with my day. I know I not a perfect child and Im always upset with my parents but I still love them and I know it’s just my paranoia but I always have the same thought looming over my head and it’s that what if one day I get into a fight and then that is the last words I say to them. My parents had me at quite an old age. I’m 14 and they are in there late 50’s nearly going into their 60’s. I am constantly sacred that something will happen to them and that they won’t be there to see my life unfold, and that I need to do everything as soon as possible when I become an adult, like:get married, have kids so they can see it all happen. I’m scared that’s I’ll lose them. AndAnd everyday the weight crushes me more and more. I don’t know what to do.