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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Guest_55730222 I moved to a new school and nobody likes me
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hi guys. I just need someone to talk to. At the start of this year I moved to a new school, not knowing anyone. Things were going well, except everyone already knew each other very well, so it was hard for me to fit in. I had found a friend group qui... View more

hi guys. I just need someone to talk to. At the start of this year I moved to a new school, not knowing anyone. Things were going well, except everyone already knew each other very well, so it was hard for me to fit in. I had found a friend group quite quickly, the ‘popular group’, but I never really talked because everyone I would talk, everyone would kind of go silent, or it would be ignored. It wasn’t too bad until about 1 or 2 weeks ago, when all my friends stopped talking to me. I would stand next to a few girls in the morning before class (my friend group) and they would ignore me every time I said something or answer it but not really pay attention to me. I try to make conversation but lots of them just ignore me. Then one of my actual friends from that school who left last term ( just my luck), showed me messages between one of the girls in my friend group I was quite close with today. The girl in my friend group said that I am being annoying, and that our group no longer likes me. She said that I don’t talk and just sit there (which I do I’ll be honest but only because no body listens to me), and that I make no effort to initiate conversation ( which is not true). I once tried to initiate convo with that girl and she ignored me so like yk. Anyway lately all the girls in my group have been ignoring me, taking photos infront of me, it’s so bad and it’s made me full on depressed and had self harm thoughts. Please does anyone have any tips or something I am desperate.

Ellie7 Getting over someone
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I live on a small island in Australia. I met this guy earlier in the year and it was casual fun to begin with. I wasn’t super into him at first but I started to like him not long after. We weren’t sleeping together at first but spent most nights toge... View more

I live on a small island in Australia. I met this guy earlier in the year and it was casual fun to begin with. I wasn’t super into him at first but I started to like him not long after. We weren’t sleeping together at first but spent most nights together. We were partying a lot and we didn’t really spend a whole lot of time sober together. But we got along really well and had a mutual attraction. I could tell he was into me. He is a local on the island and wasn’t living here at the time, just visiting. We spoke for a while after he left and then one day he just left me on read. He moved back to the island a few months after and I was nervous to see him but he reached out to me and I could tell he was excited when he saw me. He told me he hadn’t been with anyone else since me and him. After a while of him being back something changed and he started to distance himself. We still occasionally hooked up. I found out he had kissed another girl and when I tried to ask to talk to him he avoided me. When I eventually told him, he didn’t really reassure me of anything and I told him it upset me. Then the season ended here on the island as it’s only a 10month seasonal work. So I left for 2 months and when I came back he told me he didn’t want to get together again. But we’ve had a sleepover here and there after that and hooked up. It’s really hard here because there isn’t a lot of males to meet and a lot of single girls. I know the day is going to come when I see him or hear about him with someone else. It’s making me paranoid and sad. I just wish he liked me back and I don’t know what went wrong or why he changed his mind. I know I shouldn’t get with him again but I like him so much that I’m weak when he wants to. Most often he doesn’t even really talk to me when we see each other out which is a lot because it’s a small island. But occasionally he will. I just don’t know how to get over him and be ok with him liking or being with someone else

Mumma2267 17 year old son has left home
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My 17 year old son asked to leave home after several months of feeling down and some medical illnesses that created low motivation and fatigue. He is a high achiever and he fell behind in school adding to his load and was often unable to attend schoo... View more

My 17 year old son asked to leave home after several months of feeling down and some medical illnesses that created low motivation and fatigue. He is a high achiever and he fell behind in school adding to his load and was often unable to attend school or attend Late not being able to get up. He would look low everyday telling me everyday he was screwed and there was no hope.He sees illness whether mental or physical as a weakness and says he can fix it himself. We tried to support him but everything we said appeared to be the wrong thing. After another heated argument he asked to go stay with his grandparents where he is currently, and making a go of it - attending school and is doing better which is such a relief. This has been very heartbreaking for us but we understand that this is what he needs and home is not working for him. We were sending him occasional messages letting him know we love him and funny photos just to keep the lines of communication open- he would reply occasionally but with neutral replies or questions back. In a 10 day period I phoned him once to chat about an excursion but then when the conversation moved to about him he lashed out asking “ what I wanted from him?…. And he ended up asking me never to call again and that he would never come home. He has been putting on almost a facade at his grandparents and school so I don’t know if it all just came out or he is angry with me for asking. This was 4 days ago- I know I just have to give him time and not call- I am heartbroken at the loss of connection - I think I used to be his “safe landing zone” but obviously not any more and he has fully blocked me out. I want to respect his wishes despite being so desperate to contact him- should I still send messages that I’m thinking about him? So lost to know what is best- he is sending a clear message that he wants to be away from us - it has only been 10 days but so hard to cope - we would love to be able to have some sort of contact even if he chooses never to come back but even this seems impossible right now. Any advice would be appreciated

Guest_65104155 I have been teased all of my years of my school
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Hello, my name is Natalia and I have been teased and bullied. I remember I had cried and cried and all I thought about was to self-harm myself and hate my life. A couple of years later it was very best I moved to another school with the best supporti... View more

Hello, my name is Natalia and I have been teased and bullied. I remember I had cried and cried and all I thought about was to self-harm myself and hate my life. A couple of years later it was very best I moved to another school with the best supportive teacher and best network of teams who helped me when I was struggling. I have an important question for people like me if you get bullied all year what the point of continuing your life if the bullying continues all your life you can escape but you can't run from the fact that you are getting bullied.

meeeeeeee sick, tired, overwhelmed and cant stop crying
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omg im so stressed!! and im tired cause last night i was up till 10pm dancing non stop from 12pm and ive got so much school work due tomorrow and i just cant stop crying, help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

omg im so stressed!! and im tired cause last night i was up till 10pm dancing non stop from 12pm and ive got so much school work due tomorrow and i just cant stop crying, help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guest_42570635 Just wanna chat
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Find that I'm lonely and wanting someone to chat to

Find that I'm lonely and wanting someone to chat to

crazy_empanada I really hate myself
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Hi,I just needed to tell anyone that i really hate myself so much. I eat right (don't eat sugar/processed foods, eat fruit,veggies,protein, etc.) but have never lost any weight, I'm just ugly in general, my personality is horrible and I pretty much j... View more

Hi,I just needed to tell anyone that i really hate myself so much. I eat right (don't eat sugar/processed foods, eat fruit,veggies,protein, etc.) but have never lost any weight, I'm just ugly in general, my personality is horrible and I pretty much just hate myself, both how i look and act.I also don't have any close friends and am not allowed to see the school counsellor (my parents don't 'believe' in mental health issues), but i think i ended up with depression. I end up alone at school a bunch, my parents pretty much don't notice me until i do something wrong, and just really don't like my life.Sorry to rant, just needed to say this.

Ocean Needing advice on relationship
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Its a tricky one and its starting to make me feel crazy. I have been dating my bf for a year and a half and he has had this prob From the beginning when i talk to him about something he looks away or speaks pver the top of me about something totally ... View more

Its a tricky one and its starting to make me feel crazy. I have been dating my bf for a year and a half and he has had this prob From the beginning when i talk to him about something he looks away or speaks pver the top of me about something totally different or when i bring up something i find interesting he walks away into the kitchen. Last night i talked about a book im reading and something in the book I found interesting, i was trying to talk and he just walked away into the laundry and said “can you help me”…. So i just said why cant you engage and listen and then we can get to this, you make me feel like you dont care and you are not even listening. So he shut down, put a wall up and didnt speak to me the rest of the night. I finally built the balls tp say hey can we talk, and he said “when i grew up my mum always picked things about my dad and i hated it, i dont want you telling me things you dont like” and i responded with this is basic communication and this is how we fix things and basically turned the whole thing on me how he feel not good enough and i ended up crying and apologising, now he went to work today, hasnt talked to me. Makes me feel crazy and thinking omg is it my fault?

nivk idk a little vent ig
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hi. im 14 and for the last few months my mental health hasn't been the best. i've been struggling for a while, when i was 11 i struggled with body image and since then continued to struggle with food. i've become so overwhelmed and it can keep me dow... View more

hi. im 14 and for the last few months my mental health hasn't been the best. i've been struggling for a while, when i was 11 i struggled with body image and since then continued to struggle with food. i've become so overwhelmed and it can keep me down for a while. it's hard for me to keep a happy outlook, especially when there's lots of people around, sometimes i just shut down and sit there. the smallest things can ruin my day, and even if i set off happy and feeling well i come back tired - im always so tired - and go to bed feeling like shit. i started today off happy but burnt out by 12; we have a group of 7, me and two other girls were at our lockers waiting for the other four but they didn't come, so we went to the bathroom and eventually figured out where they were, but that was my last straw so i had a go at them, i feel bad. then everyone started playing tag ig bc they could. i didn't play. i had already hit my limit, but normally i'm fine, i looked around to try and find another friend so i wasn't being a buzzkill but couldn't see anyone. so i just stood there in the middle of the oval trying to stop myself from crying, there was so much going on. thank god for my bsf, i tried to be fine but i wasn't. sometimes i'm fine but others i feel so low. i think i need help, but idk if i'm being silly.