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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Hi everyone, I'm in Year 12 and used to get A's and B's, but recently I've been flunking advanced math and my grades in all subjects have dropped. This year, I've studied more than I ever have before (30-40 hours a week) and even got a math tutor, but it feels like it's all for nothing. I need a 95 ATAR, and there's only one subject where I'm consistently getting A's. I feel like I've ruined my ATAR, and I hate myself for it. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm getting all my exams back this week, and I've been so upset that I've just cried in the school bathrooms. I can pretend to be fine and happy around my friends but as soon as I leave I'm a mess. The stress and disappointment are overwhelming. I feel like I've let myself and everyone around me down. The pressure to do well is constantly on my mind, and it's making it hard to focus on anything else. I can’t seem to get a good night’s sleep because I’m constantly worrying about my grades and my future. I feel anxious all the time, and it's affecting my ability to enjoy anything without thinking about my results. I know ATAR isn't everything, but to me, it is. I’m the first of six in my family to do the HSC, and I feel a lot of pressure to do well. I want to set a good example and make my family proud, but right now, it feels like I'm failing. I’m feeling so lost and desperate for a way to turn things around, but right now, it just seems impossible. If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice, I would really appreciate it. I’m just hoping to find some support or guidance to help me get through this tough time. Thanks.

no money, recently fired, no idea what to do

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hey so i’m a young person living in a house that i rent, i recently got fired from my job and looking for a new job seems futile (im still trying but every day i apply to more places with no luck) i can’t move in with my parents because they would just make me pay rent anyways (and about the same as i pay now) and my parents refuse to help me financially, i have tried to get help through centrelink, but i am not considered independent by them, and so there’s nothing i can do to get any help! my parents earn too much for me to get anything as a dependant (ironic since they won’t help me out i know) and im losing hope… i may end up homeless or couch surfing and i just feel like my life is already over.. can anyone give me some advice? im trying to scrounge up anything of value to sell at the moment but it takes too long

so, i wanna tell my parents im a furry

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so, i want to tell my parents that im a furry. i just think it would be so much easier to do that as i want to explore more about it and create things. but i am not sure how they would react. because there was this one time when i was at supernova (a convention.) with my family. i saw a group of furries and they looked like they were having so much fun, dressing up in their fursuits. (this was before i realized i was a furry.) And i would glance over at the group a couple times because it was just so interesting how excited they were. i told my mother how much i admired that, but she just said, "anna, they are furries." and honestly, i don't know what she meant by that. so now, i am nervous about telling her because i feel like she may hate that or something. honestly i dont know and sorry for bothering you guys.

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my name is river and i am 12

i’m sad and hate school

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i hate school idk what to do anymore. i love being with all my friends but they are all in year 10 and i’m in year 9 and i hate my grade because everyone is so mean to each other. i hate most of my core classes especially math because i don’t get along with my teachers at all i also barely have any friends in class and feel ignored because everyone is so close. i feel like i’ve given up and now i can’t do anything mostly cuz i don’t want to because i’m a huge procrastinator. i struggle the most in math on my own but my new math teacher is so annoying he’s so mean to people for no reason and he gave up on me and ignores me so i can do whatever but i wish he at least pretended he cared even tho i’d still probably not wanna do anything. it’s like when teachers don’t help i’m mad but when they do i’m also mad because i really don’t want to do the work. i like to draw and make art and i want to do it as a job one day and i always draw in class and when i’m meant to be doing homework and stuff. i don’t feel bad normally but my parents get mad. i used to feel extreme guilt to the point i would skip days of school from things that really didn’t matter much. that was a few years ago now but i went to counselling to help me last year (i was mostly feeling guilty about my thoughts even tho i can’t control them) i feel so trapped in school and it’s worse because my closest friend lives far away. and my parents NEVER let me stay home because they don’t want me to be behind. i love my parents and they are so supportive of me but i just desperately don’t want to go to school sometimes but i can’t do anything because of them it’s so annoying. i’ve thought about just dropping out and going to tafe or something. i also do music (percussion/drums) so i have stuff to bounce back onto. but i just hate my school and i also think i have a lot of intrusive thoughts thats are annoying me a lot recently and weird dreams. sometimes i think i have adhd or something going on but i feel like i can’t talk to mum about it cuz she said she thinks she diagnosed my sister too early and that she just says everything is cuz of her autism (but she has a lot more problems going on and she is against therapy) i skip a lot of my classes in chill out space. whenever i try to tell adults about how i reallyyyy don’t wanna go to school they tell me “i don’t wanna go to work but i still have to” but it’s so different because they chose to be there i didn’t choose to be at the place that makes me miserable i feel like no one really listens to me even when i genuinely feel really upset no one ever helps me feel better except for my friends or my brother (he doesn’t live with me) i love my parents so much but when it comes to school they don’t comfort me in the way i wish they would i feel like adults don’t take me seriously anymore . anyway sorry if the grammar is bad i just have a lot of feeling right now. i’m so tired and can’t sleep so i thought i’d just write this instead

Hate year 12

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I just want to rant because I don't have anybody that I can talk to this about.Well, I guess there are a lot of things that have caused this but for I hate myself. I am behind on all my subjects because I spent the entire year focusing so much on my assessments. I am so stressed because now there is less than a week of the holidays and I have to cram all my subjects in. I really have nobody but myself to blame but now, I don't even feel like working. I get so demotivated somedays so I usually do nothing most of the day, and then I also don't go out with my friends because I feel guilty because I know I should be working but I'm not. I just like, there's nobody I can blame, so I hate myself for not doing anything. There's another thing that's been weighing on my mind a lot. I just want to start by saying, I know my friends all work extra hard, their marks show that so I am in no way trying to discredit their efforts or what they have done. Sometimes I feel like I work really hard for my subjects, and I feel like that is the hardest I've worked in my life. But then I get a bad mark, and no matter how hard I try, I still get a mark that is lower than my other friends. So it's really demotivating and I feel like no matter however hard I try, I'm going to get the same bad mark. I mean, there's not much I can do really but just keep trying, but it's just like why do I have to work so hard when it feels like nobody else is. I know I am a jealous person and I know that I compare myself to my friends a lot. I just hate year 12 because these marks and ranking thing just makes it so much worse. I know there are a lot of people who have worse stress when dealing with school, but I just really needed to get this out since I couldn't talk to anybody about this.

I hate school, I'm writing this because I feel like I can't talk to anyone anymore

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I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday. I feel like I'm wasting my youth by going to school until I turn 18, I hate my teachers and I hate everybody. I used to LOVE school, I use to be excited to go to school everyday until last year, I don't really know why I think and act like this now. I guess I've lost movtivation and don't know what I'm doing anymore, I also think I'm not really allowed to think like this since I'm only 14. I don't know what I wanna do with my life either or what direction I wanna go. I want to do certain things but my insecurity makes me feel like I won't be good enough. I feel like my friends hate me and I think I got a real problem going on and I'm not 100% sure on what to do about it. I'm starting to become real rude to my teachers and authorities and not paying attention in class anymore, I feel like if I continue doing this I'm ultimately gonna turn out to be a lazy person with no life or job when I'm older. I always feel tired and agitated, I'm unorganised and I just want to disappear, not die but disappear. Thanks for reading, I would love to hear other people's opinions and tips on what to do

Therapy?

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Im sorry to be a bother to anyone but ive never been close to my parents and i was wondering how to ask them to get me therapy or support for what i think is ptsd since somthing recently happend that has extreamly affected me i dont know how to ask f... View more

idk

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recently it was my birthday, and i turned 16. idk why but i feel so different. i feel older but then again not really. i haven't changed, but everything around me is changing. im closer to becoming an adult, closer doing my hsc, i got my Ls yesterday. i just want to be a kid again, i don't want all this stress and this pressure to be happy and content all the time. i cried a lot on my birthday, and i dont know why. not really. im scared of growing up. im scared of being 16. i know im still young, i just need someone to tell me that.

Lack of all motivation

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I'm in my final year oh high school and I have been doing well in terms of grades and managing my work load and had a general idea of what I wanted to do after school. but in the last month or so I have lost all my motivation to complete work and I don't have any idea on what I'm meant to do after school, I feel lethargic and simply I just don't want to do school anymore but I know I need to finish. any advice or tips?

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