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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Lia-v Lonely, tired, overwhelmed
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My name is Lia I’m in year 11 and have been struggling with school forever, last year I finally realised that the group of friends I had been with since preschool were actually bullying and excluding me. I would be sitting alone in silence the whole ... View more

My name is Lia I’m in year 11 and have been struggling with school forever, last year I finally realised that the group of friends I had been with since preschool were actually bullying and excluding me. I would be sitting alone in silence the whole day as every talked to anyone but me feeling worse and worse each day causing me to go to school less and less until my parents moved me to a different school half way through the year. Even after that I was still really struggling with going to school every day and I would be in the staff room crying almost every day. My parents decided it would be best for me to attend distance education instead this year, is was going ok at first until my grandparents decided to take over my learning and enforce strict schedules of what i was doing and when, they would call me several times a day to talk about school plans and would show up to my house to do things like clean my room or take me to lunch every other day it was fine at first but it kept on escalating until my grandmother dropped me off at the distance education campus one day and dragged me out of the car as I was crying from anxiety and dragged me to the classroom as the entire school and my whole class watch me cry. I told my parents that I didn’t want my grandparents help anymore but they said that if they didn’t help then they new I couldn’t do it myself and they were both to busy with work to make sure that I was on track and said that I didn’t have a choice even thought I now don’t like my grandparents and hate school and the idea of getting a job or doing anything in the future even more now my mum would always tell don’t worry it will be better next year for three years now, after it got worse then she just said sorry but this is how the real world works I feel like I’ve lost the support of both my friends and family in the span of two years I was just arguing with my mum about this and just wanted to post here to feel a bit better and know that others have seen it.

Pinkrose I feel lost and alone after accident
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Hey so I've never written on here for myself before but I'm just really feeling lost and alone right now. I'm 21 years old female and was working until I had a pretty sever car accident about a year ago which rendered me unable to go back to work unt... View more

Hey so I've never written on here for myself before but I'm just really feeling lost and alone right now. I'm 21 years old female and was working until I had a pretty sever car accident about a year ago which rendered me unable to go back to work until I was well enough. At first they told me 1 month then 2 months then 4 etc and now we are here over a year later and I have just started back at work. I am struggling. I'm good at my job but it's overwhelming and still painful with my injuries and i am frustrated because I still can't do the hours I could before. I t feels like somone stole 1 year of my life and I'm so lost and don't know what to do. No one around me seems to understand how hard it is for me to go back to work when I've been down at home for so long. I just keep thinking about what my life would be like if I wasn't in that accident which I know is stupid to do but I can't help it. I feel lost and alone even though I have people physically around me. Anyway I don't know where I'm going with this or even if anyone will respond I guess I just wanted to talk about it somewhere. Thanks for taking the time to read if you did.

kingzen69 Lonely. Self-Help. Sad. Therapy.
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Hey y'all, I'm 23, and I have been lonely and sad for a while now. I live with my mates and their partner, and it sucks most days I just end up being alone. I don't really know anyone in this new city I live in, having been here for nearly two years.... View more

Hey y'all, I'm 23, and I have been lonely and sad for a while now. I live with my mates and their partner, and it sucks most days I just end up being alone. I don't really know anyone in this new city I live in, having been here for nearly two years. All I really know here are my mates, so I kinda just feel like I'm doing stuff solo. Aside from that, it's also just life stuff in general and all the expectations of relationships, careers etc. Being close to 25, I just feel like there's a milestone or something expected of me somewhat. Maybe I'm just overthinking it, I don't know... It's weird, I never thought I'd be listening to podcasts and audiobooks, and watching videos about self-help and self-development, or even start writing about my day or feelings on a daily journal. But I have been, and I'm trying to work on myself, and sometimes it seems like it's such a slow progression. All the self-help and self-development really does help, and I do recommend it. I realised it's help me with managing my overthinking and feelings of anxiety and stress in my life right now. There's a lot I want to let out, because I don't talk about my feelings well. Just to conclude, I'm thinking of starting therapy. It's my first time and I don't know how to approach it. I don't really know what the process is like. I don't know how much I would be spending in sessions and how effective these sessions are. If anyone is able to help out, I'm all ears and thank you. For the past couple of years, I've been thinking of going. But I just didn't want my family, and friends to know that I'm doing therapy. I guess I just don't want them to ask questions and treat me or talk to me differently like I'm unwell and stuff. Thanks

MARSHA Year 12
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Hi. I’ve been getting 50-60% on my assessments for term 1 I’m in year 12. I have gotten 30% in legal and 50% in English advanced, 40% in maths standard, 50% in modern history, 70% in biology for term 2. I really want an ATAR that is at least 80-90, a... View more

Hi. I’ve been getting 50-60% on my assessments for term 1 I’m in year 12. I have gotten 30% in legal and 50% in English advanced, 40% in maths standard, 50% in modern history, 70% in biology for term 2. I really want an ATAR that is at least 80-90, and I want to do criminology alongside with forensics. I do so many curricular activities at school so it’s been tough on me. I don’t think my goal for 80-90 ATAR is possibile anymore, and now I’m scared because I will end up being a disappointment at this rate

banann My tiredness is affecting me a lot
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So recently, I've felt very tired, physically. Like I can't be bothered to do anything anymore and I'm struggling to focus in my classes. It hasn't affected my grades but it has been worrying me. On top of that, I always feel so restless and I always... View more

So recently, I've felt very tired, physically. Like I can't be bothered to do anything anymore and I'm struggling to focus in my classes. It hasn't affected my grades but it has been worrying me. On top of that, I always feel so restless and I always struggle to fall asleep. Recently, I've been having trouble sleeping properly and not being able to doze off, which is making me more tired. I don't know if anyone else experiences this or is struggling through this. I'm also half-way through my high-school journey so maybe thats why. Also this is my first time using this website to talk.

anonyue too much stuff stressing me out
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i'm a 15yo girl in year 10 and i honestly can't handle all these things anymore. i have a bunch of exams coming up but honestly i'm already so drained, every exam i do i feel so exhausted and like i can't handle it anymore, can't even make it through... View more

i'm a 15yo girl in year 10 and i honestly can't handle all these things anymore. i have a bunch of exams coming up but honestly i'm already so drained, every exam i do i feel so exhausted and like i can't handle it anymore, can't even make it through the week. and i have to practice for my clarinet exam and stuff, and i have band stuff to practice for too. i'm trying to find work experience and idk where to go for that, also i really want a part time job for money but literally nowhere wants to hire teensdon't even get me started on my family, my dad has been smoking every day even though he hasn't smoked in years and he swore he quit, and it's stressing me out. my mum found out and she got so mad and i just wonder what's even happening to my dad. he's wasting money buying all these cigarettes and his mood is cosntantly terrible i hate being around him. my brother is in his 20's and won't get a job, all he does is lie around and watch stuff on his phone even though he has a degree, and my mum is constantly yelling at him. i hate seeing him lie around uselessly every day and i wish he would move out and stop draining this family's resources because we are honestly not that wealthy. like i wouldnt mind having all these family issues if i was rich or something but no i literally worry every day that my family is gonna become poorit's gotten to the point school is literally an escape for me, like it's stressful but at least i can just focus on just learning stuff and be surrounded by my friends

LKIO6867 my super duper cool intro
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I'm new to beyond blue, and need a space to connect with people my age and going through sorta the same things, here's some things about me!I'm 12, a year seven in highschool, and a combination type ADHD mind."what is combination type ADHD, LKIO?" si... View more

I'm new to beyond blue, and need a space to connect with people my age and going through sorta the same things, here's some things about me!I'm 12, a year seven in highschool, and a combination type ADHD mind."what is combination type ADHD, LKIO?" simple! inattentive and hyperactive, it's a living nightmare in school.I also have a few other things, since ADHD rarely, if not never, is alone up in our heads. I also have anxiety, depression, and some other things. One of my special interests is Warframe! I main volt, and I have the Amir Gemini skin, and I decided to grind for Nova to get the Kaya Gemini skin!I hope I can make some friends :3

Tilster_42 how can I organise a school counselling session?
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Hey everyone! Just wondering how I can self refer for a school counselling session…? I’ve never done this before so I’m not sure how to book one, and I don’t really want to ask anyone in person because that might worry them and I don’t want to have t... View more

Hey everyone! Just wondering how I can self refer for a school counselling session…? I’ve never done this before so I’m not sure how to book one, and I don’t really want to ask anyone in person because that might worry them and I don’t want to have to worry about someone worrying about me, y’know?Do I just contact my school via email or is there a specific type of person who I need to reach out to? I.e, deputy head, head of well-being, office staff. (of course, if every Aussie school has a different wellbeing system then I guess asking for specifics is pointless)You know what, it would probably be best if someone just gave me a list of instructions as to what they did or what they recommend I do because I am way in over my head with this. (If you need context I’m asking because I’m losing sleep and the ability to function due to prolonged stress and anxiety)

Leo-child my little intro
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hello my name is sienna im 12 i have adhd and anxiety im currently in year 7 of highschool i love cats art music dance and reading books i have alot of books and i have a cat and dog thats about it

hello my name is sienna im 12 i have adhd and anxiety im currently in year 7 of highschool i love cats art music dance and reading books i have alot of books and i have a cat and dog thats about it

Guest_47909597 Extreme Guilt?
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Alright so I am literally overwhelmed as hell, I'm thinking of the worst to come to me, I'm justifying I'm going to hell, I'm trying to think of reasons why It's not what I think, I'm freaking out, please somebody help me, I screwed around a lot when... View more

Alright so I am literally overwhelmed as hell, I'm thinking of the worst to come to me, I'm justifying I'm going to hell, I'm trying to think of reasons why It's not what I think, I'm freaking out, please somebody help me, I screwed around a lot when I was younger (Im 19 now) and its coming back to me what that means. Im not 100% sure, but I'm certain. I'm feeling the worst in my stomach, I cant do anything to distract myself and I cant even find myself deserving to find happiness or like my old self again. I'm seriously panicking, and I know this is risky to talk about with the circumstances of the topic but If I just can't talk about it to somebody I'm gonna be risking worse of myself. I'm currently crying, shaking, panicking, I feel isolated to talk about it because idk if It'll get me in trouble. I feel nauseous, I'm confused, I'm scared, I'm so so shameful, I need help forgiving myself or recovering from this, please.