Young people

i feel led on, stressed, jealous, replaced, i need somone.

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i feel as if i’ve been led on by someone and then they’ve switched up and chosen someone else to favour.i have an online friend who i’ve been best friends with for over a year now, i know how to be safe online and meeting people and avoiding creeps, ... View more

i feel as if i’ve been led on by someone and then they’ve switched up and chosen someone else to favour.i have an online friend who i’ve been best friends with for over a year now, i know how to be safe online and meeting people and avoiding creeps, so don’t criticise me. Our friendship is a flirty friendship so we regularly will share a flirty line and have a laugh, although some of the things this friend had said to me has made me question what we were. It started to go downhill when i told this friend I was bisexual and that had only recognised myself as bi for around a month, she was very chill and happy with it, and that was the end of that conversation. Around a week or two later she wants to talk to me and tells me that she thinks she is pansexual, saying she doesn’t care about someone’s gender when she dates them though she has never dated anyone that was not a guy before, i’m chill and happy with this fact, what throws me off is she says “i’ve always been attracted to you though”, i feel confused at this and didn’t know how to take it as no one had ever expressed something like that to me so i am unsure how to handle that, i say thank you and carry on with the conversation, though that lingers in my mind forever.Some times passes, about a month or two maybe, things are ok, she meets this guy and i’m already skeptical because i know this friend never adds people a lot, im a bit worried for her, i play games with her and this guy finding out he is also struggling at home, a week goes past and she tells me she is dating him, i find this out during school and break down. I know this friend has had horrible experiences in the past with relationships so i am immediately worried to my stomach, having to miss out on last period and sit in the school office crying sorting myself out. This guy had previously tried to scam her in a game and she had told me the night before that she didn’t want to date him, i desperately did not want my friend to do something she didn’t want to do or that she would regret, and what do you know. I’m terrified that this guy is going to try scam my friend of not only her game items but her time and effort, obviously i do not like this guy because im worried for my friend, i know he is struggling so from my veiw it looks like she has decided to date him out of guilt because he needs somone, although this pisses me off because i thought id finally found my platonic somone. After this i talk to her, and start to distance myself from her and this guy. I’m also told of family isssues that my aunty and uncle had split up, i really love my aunty, she is a best friend to me so that made me distance from not only her but pretty much everyone in my life. I’m online not as much, in which she and apparently a lot of my other friends notice so she decides to talk to me. I use the family issues as an excuse, i might have slightly mentioned about the guy too, i don’t remember. She says it’s ok she wanted to know why i was distancing not to stop doing it. Since that conversation i felt she has been distancing from me and ive asked her if I have done something, as im typing this im waiting for a reply. i see her online heaaapss, with her boyfriend 99% of the time, i hate it, i feel replaced, jealous, stripped from something i was happy with. all this has been severely affecting my own mental health, but im one of those people who cry whenever they get asked if they’re ok, so instead i reached a resort of saying all this on this website where im not under as much pressure.Overall, i feel like i just need somone to be there for me, somone new, everyone i already know is not fit for the job as i once thought they were. i need somone.there is probably heaps of stuff i missed while typing this, but this is briefly what happened without mentioning details.

I hate being a p plater

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Exactly what the title says. I understand it won't be forever, and in fact, I only have 13 months left. However, right now, I'm genuinely really struggling with my p plates. I wish I could take them off, but I can't risk a penalty for doing so. My lo... View more

Exactly what the title says. I understand it won't be forever, and in fact, I only have 13 months left. However, right now, I'm genuinely really struggling with my p plates. I wish I could take them off, but I can't risk a penalty for doing so. My logical brain is saying keeping them on is the right path to avoid a penalty, but my illogical brain is telling me to take them off to allow me to blend in and simply live. I want to use my phone. I genuinely want to. There are times when the GPS just doesn't work (ie can't get me to a certain place on time, if at all), and when that happens, it's really, really tough. I want to choose my own music and not listen to radio music. While the USB method works fine for me, the cost of downloading music from iTunes adds up fast. I feel the ban on intermediaries like CarPlay is nothing but a display of bureaucratic laziness; creating a blanket ban allows for easier enforcement than creating nuance.

How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?

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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

Porn Addiction Help

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I’ve been struggling with porn addiction last few days as I have been watching porn for hours and can’t stop thinking about porn and took a while to stop. Please help me.

I am an idiot with psychosis.

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I really hate that im brain dead, today I tried to take my mum to a class and I got in the buss as usual but then I had to go to a stop that I didnt know and when i put the gps to get there i couldnt understand it and we ended up going home and my mu... View more

I really hate that im brain dead, today I tried to take my mum to a class and I got in the buss as usual but then I had to go to a stop that I didnt know and when i put the gps to get there i couldnt understand it and we ended up going home and my mum is so mad and said me and dad are brain dead and im so fed up with my life im always in problems alot probably more than everyone else i even have psychosis so this bloody life is just unfair I have to endure all these problems and I really cant be alone, i have no smartness to be independant whats so so ever and no street smartness I am clumsy i trip all the time, and Im too quiet according to everyone, and family say im demonically posssed and i struggle to retain information even in conversations so im stuffed.

tired, directionless, overwhelmed and unsatisfied

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Hey 18 m. For the past couple years I've slowly felt like I was slipping away from myself and now everyday feels like im watching someone and being someone else rather than myself. In highschool i used to play sports and do 3 extra curricular activit... View more

Hey 18 m. For the past couple years I've slowly felt like I was slipping away from myself and now everyday feels like im watching someone and being someone else rather than myself. In highschool i used to play sports and do 3 extra curricular activities and still get almost straight As while having time to go out with family and enjoy, in college i dropped sports and 2 of the extra curriculurs and the third transitioned into more of a teaching role. At the time dropping the sports and extra curriculars felt good cause it was less to do and i thought I'd have moe free time but now it feels like i lost that talent and skill and wish i could get it back but now i feel like i have no time. In college i used to hand every assignment in late and my grades dropped to Cs abd Ds with a couple of Bs here and there and i never did my work, i used to catch the bus and walk around my city and did tons of hikes which was my sort of escape but id always talk to myself in my head these long conversations about who i was and what i was doing and i could never get out of these thought cycles that drove me crazy. Luckily i pulled through with a good final score for my atar but because i wasn't expecting it i didn't aim high with my uni and feel like i chose wrong and went for the 'worse' uni i guess rather than the better one but i convinced myself it was too much effort to switch and that i actually wanted to go to the 'worse' uni so i stuck to it but i always wished i had applied myself a bit more with my studies. I never knew what i wanted to study so i randomly chose a 4 year engineering degree because it was what i was mildly interested in and i do the work and its fine but nothing that makes me feel like i love it, my parents came education and i know its importance soil i dont really want to just stop without knowing what im doing. Once i started working, between work, my university and that teaching role i have i feel exhausted. Everyone wants me to give them more time and put in more effort but im already stretched thin, i collapse every night by 9 pm i can barely function and i get up by 6:30 to get ready for the day. The days fly past now and it feels like im watching someone live my life rather than being present, i wish i had such to my sports because i never get time for myself including the gym. I lie to my parents about uni, i lie to uni and my jobs about being sick just to get one afternoon to drive out superuser in my city and relax for a couple hours because i know if i tell the truth my parents will say to cut down on work but i have to work and how it affects my uni but i don't want to really stop anything, i value my education and know that i can transition and still use it for something or another in the end, i need to work for money, my teaching role is thr most fulfilling thing i do but recent work drama has made me start to reevaluate my position there and my parents deserve my time too more than anyone but now theres nothing left for me and idk how much longer I can keep this up.

Lack of motivation in life, inability to look after myself, clean, eat, wash belongings

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Hi All! I am new here and had a search through the forum but could not find what I was looking for, so apologies if I am repeating a topic covered. I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression previously, and although I am feeling much bett... View more

Hi All! I am new here and had a search through the forum but could not find what I was looking for, so apologies if I am repeating a topic covered. I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression previously, and although I am feeling much better now than a few years ago and have a will to live and succeed, I find it difficult to look after myself. I live out of home and can keep a job (I'm in my mid twenties) but I just can't get myself organised. I was just wondering if other people found it hard to look after themselves. I always try and get all excited and start up a new regime of how I am going to eat well and be productive but it never seems to happen. I regularly skip meals because I don't have the energy to cook, or the motivation. I go on shopping sprees and buy the food and then just end up throwing it out because it goes bad. I often just et snacks because I don't have to prepare anything. I also smoke heavily so that I stop feeling hungry, because that is easier than feeding myself. I can't see the floor of my room or any surfaces. I just don't seem to be able to clean up after myself and then I find my room causes me anxiety and makes me upset. I can only keep the other areas of my house clean because I don't want to annoy my housemate. I don't seem to be able to do it for myself. I avoid having people over because I find my room so embarrassing (the same thing happens in my car and handbag). My room fills up with rubbish and dirty dishes. I go on a cleaning spree sometimes, but the next day I am back to dumping things on the floor! I just seem to procrastinate everything in my life. I can have a whole week off and just spend it sleeping in till the afternoon or watching TV all day. I don't go to the shops until they are almost shut just because it takes me that long to get out of the house. I can make it to work on time, but I cannot time manage for myself. Only when someone else makes me. I am always late to things (significantly) and this frustrates everyone (including myself!). I want to change, but all these things in my life just seem too hard. I can have washing build up for months! I just don't know why I have no motivation and can't seem to get any. I'm not sure if this is linked to my history of anxiety and depression or if it is something else. I was wondering if anyone had similar symptoms and if they had found a way to overcome them. Thank you for your help.

Worsening procrastination and functioning at uni and work

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For most of this year, I’ve been struggling a lot with studying and general motivation. I’ve always procrastinated, but deadlines used to be enough to push me into action. Lately that hasn’t been working, which is starting to worry me. I avoid uni wo... View more

For most of this year, I’ve been struggling a lot with studying and general motivation. I’ve always procrastinated, but deadlines used to be enough to push me into action. Lately that hasn’t been working, which is starting to worry me. I avoid uni work most of the time, even when I’m stressed about falling behind. I end up procrastinating, distracting myself by doom scrolling for hours, and then feeling worse afterwards. I’ve already dropped one course and I’m struggling to keep up with the rest. It’s not just studying either, everyday tasks like cleaning my room and staying organised feel difficult too, and it’s starting to affect my job as well. I still care and want to do well, but when I try to start things I tend to shut down or avoid them instead of acting on it - and then tell myself I don’t care to feel better. This has been happening alongside low mood/self-esteem, anxiety, and some unhealthy coping habits. My thoughts overwhelm me most of the time. I reached out to the university counselling service but didn’t follow up because I wasn’t sure whether this is something counselling could help with, or whether I should be approaching it differently. I still enjoy parts of my life like sport, and hanging out with friends. I guess I’m trying to understand what’s going on and what kind of support would be appropriate?

Burnout?

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Hi everyone,I'm currently in Year 12 doing a really heavy STEM workload (Methods, Physics, Chemistry, Biology) and aiming for medicine. For the last few months, I've been stressing a bit, and my body often hits a wall. Right now, I am dealing with fa... View more

Hi everyone,I'm currently in Year 12 doing a really heavy STEM workload (Methods, Physics, Chemistry, Biology) and aiming for medicine. For the last few months, I've been stressing a bit, and my body often hits a wall. Right now, I am dealing with fatigue, brain fog, and this tension in my head and jaw. Sometimes gravity feels so heavy that my body physically really doesn't want to move and just screams at me to do nothing. I'm fluctuating between feeling completely overwhelmed/anxious/guilty and just feeling totally numb, apathetic, and unable to hold my attention. I've been making stupid, easily avoidable mistakes on my schoolwork, and life in general, and my gut has been constantly upset too. I had a weekend of "rest" but I woke up on Monday feeling exactly the same, if not worse, because the line between resting and avoiding the massive pile of work is completely blurred. I’ve wanted to do medicine my whole life because I love human biology and want to help people through vulnerable moments. But feeling like this makes me terrified that I don't have what it takes to be a medical professional. If I can't handle a heavy Year 12 week without it feeling like my body shutting down, how am I supposed to handle a hospital? I feel like my brain is screaming at me to just give up on schoolwork, but I’m terrified of failing or getting stuck in a pathway that won't satisfy me. Has anyone else experienced this kind of physical "freeze" response from academic stress? How do you break the cycle when resting just makes the guilt and the deadlines worse? I just feel so drained and trapped and afraid of the future.

Anger and frustration

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Hi guysim a 21 year old studying at uni. I moved out of home from regional vic at 18 to move to Melbourne to study. I have recently had issue (past 3-5 months) of just being constantly angry. I struggle with chronic treatment resistant eczema and I f... View more

Hi guysim a 21 year old studying at uni. I moved out of home from regional vic at 18 to move to Melbourne to study. I have recently had issue (past 3-5 months) of just being constantly angry. I struggle with chronic treatment resistant eczema and I first noticed I was getting increasingly angry when I would have outbursts at friends for suggesting a treatment option or something they’d seen online they thought could help with my skin.my mother has Huntingtons disease and a few members of my close family do too. I’ve known about this since I was a kid so I don’t think it should be affecting me mentally as I’m not too close with my mother due to her own anger issues I’ve had to deal with growing up. I had issues with her throwing things and screaming up until I moved out and last time I went home I was recently out of a break up where I was cheated on and my mother and I got into a random arguement about my hair (I’m not even sure why) but she ended up yelling at me calling me a selfish b!tch and told me to drive home. (It’s a 4 hour drive to my place). im a completely independent person meaning I pay rent, bills, for my car, food etc etc all on my own while I study so I constantly have the stress of that and because my lease is ending and my housemate is moving out I’m scared I have nowhere to go at the end of the year as I don’t have the money to pay a new deposit and first month of rent (for the houses I can afford this will end up being 3-4k). I used to live in a share house but I felt very isolated and felt like I couldn’t even use the bathroom in the place I lived in and am not willing to do that again.does anybody know anything that can help me relieve stress? Or even manage my anger? Im becoming really bad at focusing aswell with my uni work, and im so close to being done (end of the year I finish) so I really can’t afford to stuff it up now. I feel like im letting all my friends down with my outbursts of yelling and insulting them. But when im upset and angry I can’t think about what im actually doing.help please

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