Hi, welcome
Thankyou for posting here because so many young people like you use google and end up here on posts like yours with the same problem and they find answrs. So you are actually helping others and thats a great thing to do.
What I found when I was at school is when the same thing happened ther eis a number of possibilities. The most common is that they can express their true feelings online but when face to face get embarrassed that they've exposed their true feelings. So they backpedal by deflecting the topic or go into denial. Does that make sense. Or they had a change of mind. Or they are unsure themselves and as confused as you are.
This situation is very common among those unsure of their sexual orientation, bisexuality can, at a young age be very confusing to themselves as they venture through their feelings so change of mind can happen within minutes to hours.
So what is important here? If people have real feelings for another person and you are hanging out with each other in a group, those feelings if strong will reappear and get stronger, then you know where you stand. Until then its best you do one of two things-
- let it go, let them have the confusion until they know better what their feelings are. Their initial feelings are too shaky to be taken too seriously
- If you like the person a lot then seek an opportunity alone with them (like during school breaks or walking home) to let them know you like them.
If you want to act on telling them you like them, effectively giving them the green light to pursue their friendship then there are easy ways like - "out of our group I like your personality the most" or "want to talk on message tonight? I get bored between 7 and 7:30 at night"
So seek clarification or allow it slide. Either way you'll feel better than being confused.
TonyWK
