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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Hopefull7 Introducing myself
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I have had major depression since I was 16. It started with mild short anxiety attacks, then social anxiety and lack of motivation to do things and talk to people in social settings. I have overcome many of my problems with social anxiety. I did this... View more

I have had major depression since I was 16. It started with mild short anxiety attacks, then social anxiety and lack of motivation to do things and talk to people in social settings. I have overcome many of my problems with social anxiety. I did this by having to do things at work and by getting a cute friendly dog that people were not afraid to say hello to when I was walking her. I also have to be careful not to become overly stressed and lose sleep. This can cause a major depressive episode and require hospitalisation. Anyway I am hoping to find some interesting discussion and my experiences may help someone else.

Johnny_ Help re: particular physical symptoms of depression .
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Hello everyone, I look through the forums but couldn’t find anything. I know this is a long shot but I thought I’d ask the question anyways. I don’t feel like I have severe depression as I still have the want to do things and enjoy the things I can a... View more

Hello everyone, I look through the forums but couldn’t find anything. I know this is a long shot but I thought I’d ask the question anyways. I don’t feel like I have severe depression as I still have the want to do things and enjoy the things I can actually do. I do believe I have mild anxiety though but I just don’t t know. My psychiatrist/ psychologist just aren’t certain. What’s been happening is when I go out to the shops, I’m ok for a 30/60min then I get my usual anxiety symptoms (muscle tension/light headedness/tiredness/muscle aches) before I leave head to the car and relax. Sometimes I break down in tears briefly then feel good. Other times imgood in 10min but the muscles aches stay just not as bad. Also, it’s happening when I do any physical activity (cables workout at the gym/wash my car/ 30min walk / swim etc) the same thing happens. Outside of this I’m generally ok and only deal with light muscle ache’s which come and go. It’s a quiet life atm but things were way worse, my head was all over the place etc but my head is good now apart from what I’ve said. does anyone else get these kind of symptoms is my question? Thankyou in advance.

Dee2024 Intro
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Hi everyone I've just joined this community and I'm hoping to get some feedback on practical issues that cause me acute anxiety, particularly around family.Because I have self isolated for the last 3 years I am finding it hard to communicate through ... View more

Hi everyone I've just joined this community and I'm hoping to get some feedback on practical issues that cause me acute anxiety, particularly around family.Because I have self isolated for the last 3 years I am finding it hard to communicate through normal channels and hope that this online forum will be helpful.I'm happy to provide comments where I can.I thought I posted already but as it's been a couple of days and I can't see the post I'm trying again.Wishing you all the best and looking forward to connecting.Cheers Dee

DidYouEverDoubtMe Just popping in to say hi :)
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Looking to bring my life experience and generally helpful attitude to the forums in the hope that it might be of value to someone, where appropriate. Long-time sufferer of major depressive disorder however have managed to make much progress over the ... View more

Looking to bring my life experience and generally helpful attitude to the forums in the hope that it might be of value to someone, where appropriate. Long-time sufferer of major depressive disorder however have managed to make much progress over the years with perseverance from me and the health professionals supporting me. I've found understanding it helps a lot too and am so thankful for websites such as Beyond Blue, Black Dog Institute, etc that provide such important information on mental health. Looking forward to giving back to the community and just chatting about life and our experiences along the way.Thanks, DidYouEverDoubtMe (or Dyedm for short )

Carrie_87 Manic depressive son
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Just need some coping strategies to help my son through a bad patch very worried about him.

Just need some coping strategies to help my son through a bad patch very worried about him.

Chumptastic ADVICE FOR PRE EMPLOYMENT MEDICAL ASSESSMENTS
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WARNING: DONT EVER ADMIT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH CONDITION IN A PRE-EMPLOYMENT MEDICAL ASSESSMENT, LIE INSTEAD I was interviewed for a job at a local council & had progressed to the next stage, a pre employment medical. I naively thought it would be stand... View more

WARNING: DONT EVER ADMIT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH CONDITION IN A PRE-EMPLOYMENT MEDICAL ASSESSMENT, LIE INSTEAD I was interviewed for a job at a local council & had progressed to the next stage, a pre employment medical. I naively thought it would be standard fitness for work & that the potential employer would only get a pass/fail thing or baseline information. However I had to fill out a copious questionnaire asking a number of questions totally irrelevant to the job I was applying for. I also had to get a drug screen so I had to list all my meds, some of which are not the usually SSRI for my depression. After id filled it out They told me to sign a paper so that they could send ALL my medical history to HR at council. I was very concerned about privacy so I called the HR officer who was dealing with my application to voice my concerns. Long story short even thought I was deeply concerned I felt I had no choice but to go through with it because I hadn’t received an offer. Anyway the Dr asked a whole bunch of very intrusive questions about whether I’d been hospitalised (yes) whether I had bi-polar (no) why I was on each specific drug, whether work had ever exacerbated my depression (no, but not working does) etc etc. Then I met with my potential bosses for a coffee which went really well, had a great conversation about the role. I asked if there were other candidates who had progressed through to this stage & they said no, I was at the top of the list and they weren’t talking to anyone else. That reassured me that all but got the job. So I turned down another job offer. After a week of hearing nothing I emailed the HR officer who eventually got back to me to say I was unsuccessful. I asked why & she said they had a number of candidates and that someone with more qualifications and experience (I have a PhD & 15 years exp but ok) had been successful. Yeah right. Makes total sense. So a warning for those who are applying for jobs: make sure your meds won’t be picked up in any drug screen & keep quiet about your meds & mental health condition. All this de-stigmatising of mental health in the workplace is just utter bullshit.

Lost19751 So Lost
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Honestly dont know what to say. Married with kids and well feel totally lost. Covid killed my relationship. I had to work through , mrs had to stay home looking after kids. Think she feels i didnt carry my weight although i was gone most of the time ... View more

Honestly dont know what to say. Married with kids and well feel totally lost. Covid killed my relationship. I had to work through , mrs had to stay home looking after kids. Think she feels i didnt carry my weight although i was gone most of the time due to work. She hasnt forgiven me for not being there. Ive tried to kickstart the relationship again although nothing. There little to no hugs, kissess, support etc and i just feel past my used by date. Suggested counceling although shes not interested. I see couples holding hands, kissing etc and it breaks my heart. Days are getting longer, harder. Some days i wish i just didnt wake up and I could sleep for longer. Im exhauated, tired, lost. I have no direction and feel confused. Nfi what i can do and feel like i just want to give up. Bahhhhh ;(

krystendewberry Overwhelmed & Struggling
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I had just typed up my whole story and was almost done then its erases & gets wiped!Been writing it all day and I'm officially exhausted and devastated that typing all of it that I was struggling writing just goes away!! I'm not doing well! View more

I had just typed up my whole story and was almost done then its erases & gets wiped!Been writing it all day and I'm officially exhausted and devastated that typing all of it that I was struggling writing just goes away!! I'm not doing well!

tevont Helpless and hopeless.
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I am an international student currently residing alone in Hobart city. Recently graduated, I am facing a sense of helplessness and hopelessness as I embark on the job search with only four months of experience. Compounding my challenges, I recently e... View more

I am an international student currently residing alone in Hobart city. Recently graduated, I am facing a sense of helplessness and hopelessness as I embark on the job search with only four months of experience. Compounding my challenges, I recently ended a relationship with my boyfriend during my first internship at a firm, and now I find myself shouldering the burden of double rent payments after living together. Struggling with loneliness in a city where I lack close friends, I am uncertain about my prospects following the one-month internship and am unsure how to inquire about potential job retention. The prospect of living alone in Hobart has become a significant source of anxiety, as I am uncertain about my goals. I currently lack the confidence to make new friends, with my colleagues at work being my only social connection.Adding to my distress, I am grappling with the emotional aftermath of the breakup, which occurred just five days ago. As my rent lease approaches expiration, the financial strain of high rental costs exacerbates my challenges. I miss him a lot.

2024-01-11 Harangued by darkness
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When it comes to my mental wellbeing, I've never come clean outside the closed conversations with trusted friends before. But as I get older & more isolated, I suffer more and more with anxiety and feel very shy about sharing my state of mind with ot... View more

When it comes to my mental wellbeing, I've never come clean outside the closed conversations with trusted friends before. But as I get older & more isolated, I suffer more and more with anxiety and feel very shy about sharing my state of mind with others. I don't want to attract judgments that will adversely affect anybody's future opinions about me. My sleeping is often interrupted by dark thoughts that are not a part of my reality. And throughout the day, my reality is interrupted by senseless & unreasonable negativity that brings down my day. I live in a building with a range of people that I get along with nicely, a beautiful family, and a good husband of 38 years. I am functional, well-organized, I stay on top of my domestic commitments, and I am a good contributor to our residential community. I live in a lovely apartment in a beautiful part of the world. I have so much to be thankful for and yet I am plagued by anxiety, anger, impatience and extreme irritability. There have been various periods throughout my life (from 10 years of age) where I have become prone to these emotions, and again I have found myself living in this same headspace over the last few months. I absolutely hate it! Admittedly, as a family we've had a lot going on lately, but it's really hard feeling out of control while my husband remains on the same trajectory as always - steady, balanced, unphased. It makes me want to scream!! Trying to act normal around him is hard work...impossible. Is there anybody out there who has been where I am (and have been countless times) throughout my 65 years?