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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Georgiesad Help please 🙏
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Hi everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I don’t actually know what I need or what is wrong with me. I married a man I love so much, however I suspect that my issues with self esteem, self love started long before I got married. This ... View more

Hi everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I don’t actually know what I need or what is wrong with me. I married a man I love so much, however I suspect that my issues with self esteem, self love started long before I got married. This man and his family controlled every aspect of my life for the first 3 years of marriage. I was working 2 jobs, not allowed to see my family, never saw a pay check and if I even questioned was yelled at, called names. I was put down about how much I earned, and my weight but still I stayed. It really killed my self esteem. I fell pregnant in 2017 which was a surprise and my husband tried to convince me to have an abortion which I just could not do. My first trimester was hell. Once born forming attachment was horrible and I was constantly judged on my parenting. I believe I developed bad depression here. After this everything went numb. I don’t really remember time after this. I worked like crazy… my attachment with bubs kept dropping off and I kept trying to please. my partner and I finally had a breakthrough in 2021. In 2022 I was diagnosed with infertility and needed 3 rounds of IVF to fall pregnant with our now son. After many miscarriages a requirement to have chemo after one of them I was pregnant. My pregnancy was horribly traumatic.. I was diagnosed with complete stage 4 placenta previa and spent most of my time in and out of hospital. I delivered baby through emergency C-section at 33 weeks and spent many weeks in special care nursery. baby had issues with breastfeeding and reflux which resulted in extended use of a gastric nasal tube and full formula feeding which made me feel so inadequate as a mother. The one thing I wanted to be more than anything in the world. After this pregnant I was told no more at all. my maternity leave is now finishing and I feel like this whole chapter of my life is over, like it was stolen from me. I feel resentment, anger, irritable, sad, lonely, bitter, hate There are times I think about being gone but it’s just thoughts. the reason for the long story is that I just feel like everything is so messed up that I don’t even know where to start. I feel like I can’t change anything so how do these feelings go away? I feel like the only way I can do this is to accept what I can’t change and move on but I just can’t do it. I am so easily triggered and feel like I’m just broken. I suffer badly from panic attacks and bouts of episode where I struggle to breathe what do you do in this situation? I’m so lost.

Caelan I'm unsure what to do ?
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So I'm 16 and I still live with my parents obviously but they're very against therapy or psychiatrists but I think I might have something wrong with me so I'm a little stuck. I often don't remember chunks of days, as if I wasn't there, but I still we... View more

So I'm 16 and I still live with my parents obviously but they're very against therapy or psychiatrists but I think I might have something wrong with me so I'm a little stuck. I often don't remember chunks of days, as if I wasn't there, but I still went through the motions of the day like brushing my teeth, eating, etc. Sometimes this blank state goes for a couple days and my friends often say I seem like a "different person" on those days. I, of course, googled it but it's all coming up as DID or OSDD. I don't want to jump the gun and say that's what I have but... Could that be possible? How should I even go about talking to someone about this?

Krippy Hi, I’m going through a tough time, I don’t know what’s wrong with me
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Hi, My name is Matt, I am Australian. I was diagnosed with quite a few conditions when I was a kid, but at the moment they feel like they’ve all blurred into one so I’m having trouble finding where to go to get support - or even find other people goi... View more

Hi, My name is Matt, I am Australian. I was diagnosed with quite a few conditions when I was a kid, but at the moment they feel like they’ve all blurred into one so I’m having trouble finding where to go to get support - or even find other people going through the same thing. So for the past two years, I was doing really well at work - kicking goals you could say, I was on a low dose of an SSRI for many years but about 6 months ago I went cold turkey off it because things were great. Had minor symptoms for a month then forgot about it. I think I started getting bored at work and a little depressed over the months - until one day I had a massive panic attack in a friend’s car. I hadn’t had a panic attack for about 5 years so forgot about them. I started getting them a bit more so my GP said I needed to go back on the same SSRI. Things were great for the first 7 days, but then the anxiety got worse and all of a sudden I got severe anxiety, agitation , minor confusion, racing thoughts & rumination and some memory issues and then came the dissociation. I just snapped and I don’t know why. I didn’t think it was the SSRI because I’d been on it 6-7 months prior. So I went to the doctor and she took me straight off the med, and told me to wait 7 days and then try an SNRI, and to take a low dose anti-psychotic at night. There is 3 days to go before the SSRI should be out of my system, but I don’t really feel any better. The racing thoughts have calmed slightly but I feel like I have brain damage, I feel so strange and the mornings are brutal with evenings being a bit easier. I’ve lost my appetite and I can’t enjoy anything anymore (when I could just before the snap). I talk to people on the phone and they tell me I sound normal, I can still drive but I’m a lot more scattered and disorganised. It’s so scary, I’m worried that when the med is out of my system - I’ll still feel like this and that this wasn’t a medication reaction and I’ve just gone crazy or had brain damage. I’m off work and afraid to go back because I feel so weird and disoriented in the morning. My family is away on holiday at the moment so I’m alone. Just scared, I’m after support, advice, and just to know if anyone else has experienced anything like this. Thank you.

Wilber Struggling badly, just reaching out
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I'm here hoping to connect with others. I've been dealing with severe depression for about 4 months. I had a crisis years ago and kind of stabilized from that but things are getting really bad again. I recenly did 3 therapy sessions that didn't help ... View more

I'm here hoping to connect with others. I've been dealing with severe depression for about 4 months. I had a crisis years ago and kind of stabilized from that but things are getting really bad again. I recenly did 3 therapy sessions that didn't help much. I'm a 35 year old male, minimal friends, I hate my job, no self esteem. I have a girlfriend but my issues are making her depressed which makes everything worse. I think about suicide all the time. I'm going to try medication again, I was on some before which made symptoms worse initially. So I've avoided meds for that reason. I'm just so tired of the pain and misery. My self talk is so toxic it's like I just hate myself and the world. Anyway I'm seeing

Tonic Tonic The Bard on Being a CSA Survivor and Depression
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Hi Gang. Just Joined. No stranger to Forums/Fora, just come to look around and Sound Off. CSA aged 8-9, 12, Again @ 14... Undiagnosed Depressive since 14, I had ALL the Symptoms and the Cruel, negative Mind-Spirals downwards.. Insomnia and Guilt adde... View more

Hi Gang. Just Joined. No stranger to Forums/Fora, just come to look around and Sound Off. CSA aged 8-9, 12, Again @ 14... Undiagnosed Depressive since 14, I had ALL the Symptoms and the Cruel, negative Mind-Spirals downwards.. Insomnia and Guilt added... Upped it to Manic Depression in 2003. A source of Great Healing, as it turns out, like a Pressure Valve let off. Confronted The Past, Wrote all about it to myself (SOME others), the more came bubbling Up to be Dealt with. Defuse some Traumatic Event, and More will come clammering to be healed also. I have been coaching and counselling fellow survivors over 20 years now. Here's a Great Depression TOOL from My Drawers, use it Often! "If you can take a Depressive who is... REALLY Closed Off, and get them to help do something Charitable for another friend, it CAN have an amazing effect! It costs nothing to Contrive, and is Worth a Try." Dr Jordan Peterson the PSYCHOLOGIST, WHom I admire. A few More of his tools with me. Nice to be here. Tonic The Bard

amd1953 Owed to Solitude
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I owe a lot to my current situation in life. In fact, it's probably as close to heaven on earth that I will ever get. I've served my apprenticeship in the School of Hard Knocks. It was actually a life sentence with no time off for good behaviour. I t... View more

I owe a lot to my current situation in life. In fact, it's probably as close to heaven on earth that I will ever get. I've served my apprenticeship in the School of Hard Knocks. It was actually a life sentence with no time off for good behaviour. I think it was Mr. W. Shakespeare who said "All the world's a stage". And that is precisely what we are - actors on a stage. Some of us play our parts really well and fool the audience into actually believing what we say we are. Then there are those who find it impossible to be anything other than what they are. Not good actors at all. That's where I make my entrance. But I don't play to the audience any more because it is a complete and utter waste of time and effort. Now that I have settled into retirement, I can stop the acting and the pretence and be whatever I choose to be. It's a great pity that we have to spend the greater part of our lives playing to an audience. Some people get away with turning their backs on the bright lights and sink into blissful anonymity. This is what I am trying to do now so that I can gather a little happiness around me before I drop off the perch. When I think back, I seem to have spent so much time trying to keep everyone else happy and giving in to do things when I don't want to. I never had the nerve to say no so I guess I was a real pushover. I think it's time to turn the page on the script and write my own dialogue for a change. Or is that asking too much? I'm not really sure myself. Maybe I am expecting too much. Shame on me eh? But there will come a time when I run out of choices and that will be the end of it. The curtain comes down on another production. I only hope it doesn't come too soon. If we do what we want to when we want to do it, we are called selfish. I have nothing left to give. It's all gone. The audience have gone home and the stage is a dusty platform waiting for the next deception. Sorry, production.

Rizla Deflating my issues
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I try and keep my mind preoccupied at all times I listen to music fall asleep to YouTube so I don’t have to deal with what I’m feeling and I think it’s getting to me but I hate feeling emotional I’ve always put a mask on that I’m great but I feel it’... View more

I try and keep my mind preoccupied at all times I listen to music fall asleep to YouTube so I don’t have to deal with what I’m feeling and I think it’s getting to me but I hate feeling emotional I’ve always put a mask on that I’m great but I feel it’s starting to slip and it’s scaring me to feel my emotions or let ppl in

Guest_45750852 Needing help
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Hi, I’m currently struggling with life in general. I feel to prevent myself spiraling downward I need help but can not afford it. I have a mental health plan but can not find anyone in my area that either has space for new clients or bulk bills. My c... View more

Hi, I’m currently struggling with life in general. I feel to prevent myself spiraling downward I need help but can not afford it. I have a mental health plan but can not find anyone in my area that either has space for new clients or bulk bills. My childhood was very traumatic and I use to have a psychologist, however I had reached a really good headspace and she retried. I haven’t been in a few years and really need someone’s help. I think I’m really looking for peoples experiences whom have been in a similar situation as I mentioned above and how to find help.

Tib Anxiety and depression
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HiI have never used a forum before.I am 69 years old and have suffered from anxiety and depression off and on all my life. I run a small business on my own that's not doing so well. I worry about the future if there is one at my age. I'm tired of wor... View more

HiI have never used a forum before.I am 69 years old and have suffered from anxiety and depression off and on all my life. I run a small business on my own that's not doing so well. I worry about the future if there is one at my age. I'm tired of worrying about finances and if I will have enough to support myself if I happen to live too long. I'm tired of dealing with the world and it's ups and downs. I live alone, I isolate, I don't socialise. My business takes all my energy. When I am working I feel fine, when I stop depression sinks in and everything feels pointless.I have a son, daughter in law and grandchildren but they don't live nearby. I would like to visit them more often and for longer periods of time but it's expensive because they don't have room for visitors and I have to stay at a hotel. I am missing out on my grandchildren, to them I am only an occasional visitor. I feel like I should be grateful but I'm not. I have never felt that life is a gift. It just seems like one long long trial you have to get through somehow and which I always have, but for how much longer.

Lostson29 Drug addicted son mental health problems
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Hello I’m after any advice that is going to be helpful to my son situation. He is 29 and is a drug addict. This is his third time in Jail. He has mental health issues that have not been diagnosedi’m currently unwell myself and have a lifetime medical... View more

Hello I’m after any advice that is going to be helpful to my son situation. He is 29 and is a drug addict. This is his third time in Jail. He has mental health issues that have not been diagnosedi’m currently unwell myself and have a lifetime medical conditions that will eventually claim my lifeI’m his mum I love my son dearly I don’t condone his behaviour or his choices . He had a good family home a good job, manager and I had two grandchildren whom I will now never get to see againmy son turned to drugs when he had his second child and was told by the mother that she only wanted a child support, baby, he was kicked out of the home they shared and came back to live with mehe’s oldest child. Nine years old was to another woman, and both mothers knew each other, both decided that he was no longer to his other child either . This devastated, my whole family me as a grandparent, my daughter as an auntie and my son, as their fatherhe found the quickest most easiest way to make money was to turn to drugs and doing crime to pay for this solicitor of $20,000 to get his children back at that time I offered to sell the house prior to his drug use,I’m not writing this as an excuse because people deal with things differently, but the Depression of losing his children, especially after nine years was too much he reached out for help but it was all money orientated, and the court system for trying to get contact with the children was about a yearHis addiction has turned him into a person that I cannot help, and I don’t know how to hes verbally abusive and is disrespectful to everybody, including the police and Jailthe first time he got out of Jail he went back in because he broke parole. The second time was much more positive. He came out, got a job was clean for six months. He sort help but got caught up again with the people that he calls his family, rather than his own family the police would not let his prior sentence go. He had four months to serve, and he thought well if I’m going to do four months I mose well do moreall this time he tried to get mental health. The parole board revoked his parole and locked him up for a week with no explanation still to this day. We have not got an explanation this set him back tremendously, especially after six months of holding down a job and drug tested and reporting and attending every meeting he spent one week in lock up and one day in Jail and I picked him up again. I could tell that he just wanted to give up there’s currently a threat on his life from his choices and mine. I don’t know if I can have my son back here and I don’t know how to tell him that I can’t watch him, destroy his life by banging his head into the wall. I stood in front of the car. so he couldn’t drive away He told me he doesn’t care how much he’s hurting me told me he would kill me he’s brought criminals to my house given them keys to my house brought substances to my house and other items. I have random junkies ringing me Pretending to care about himI’m in pain lying in bed most days with my own conditions. I can’t even help myselfHe’s tried to kill himself several times in the past when he first went to Jail. He rang me 16 times a day to tell me he’s going to kill himself. He needs help. I know the jail won’t give it to him, he tried before to do mental health in there and it’s an outside program, so it’s very limited and they haven’t got the roomanybody, suggestions and help would be greatly appreciated thank you