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A_Tech PTSD for Medical and First Responders
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Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting t... View more

Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting to others). Im a 40 year old female that has spent the last 10years in the State Trauma Hospital as an Anaesthetic Technician. My PTSD was brought about after years of exposure to shocking traumas, deaths, and no support from management. I would love to hear from anyone that has a similar story, or just wants to chat. Cheers

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xXJIGSAWXx Emotions following MVA, MBA or other Trauma.
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Hey Everyone, This is my first post to any forum on this topic. Okay so a brief background....I had a big motorbike accident in 2015 which put me in a coma for 2 weeks, multiple admissions totaling 8 months, 18+ injuries and 12+ surgeries. After i wo... View more

Hey Everyone, This is my first post to any forum on this topic. Okay so a brief background....I had a big motorbike accident in 2015 which put me in a coma for 2 weeks, multiple admissions totaling 8 months, 18+ injuries and 12+ surgeries. After i woke from my coma my family were always there. No that is not an exaggeration....my mum was there everyday which at times was nice but most of the time i was just holding everything together because i didn't want my family to see me break i guess. to this day i haven't really dealt with my emotions or feelings, i did see a psychologist in hospital where i opened up, i was on heavy meds so i had NO filter and she said "okay ill pop back tomorrow" and i never saw her again so i guess in a way i began or started to deal with it but that stopped. i have held it together since with a few slip ups though (anger) i spoke to my GP and he at first was just chatting with me because i just wanted to chat, then he said i should start seeing a psychologist so i did, i saw this psychologist when i could afford it, which for the first couple months was every week but then got further and further in between. i was feeling GREAT talking with him and he was helping me. i stopped seeing him because it got expensive and thought i had a lid on things but as of late its like that lid is coming undone. now i know you're probably thinking "simple fix....got back to the psychologist" but i wanted to see if there was anyone else out there like me. so my question is...is there anyone else with a similar backstory/situation and has ever increasing anger and irritability? please forgive the lack of capital letters.

KJay-- Relationship after Domestic Abuse
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Hi, I'm 26 years old and this is a little back story. A week after my 18th my mum was diagnosed with cancer. I took over family duties and very rarely went out. I was drugged and raped at a party with friends (still 18). I suppressed alot of what I w... View more

Hi, I'm 26 years old and this is a little back story. A week after my 18th my mum was diagnosed with cancer. I took over family duties and very rarely went out. I was drugged and raped at a party with friends (still 18). I suppressed alot of what I was feeling to get on with looking after my family. At 19, I fell for the first man that made me feel safe. Around 6 months in I moved out with him and the abuse started - physical, verbal, emotional, mental, and financial (I was the bread winner, caused debt etc). He isolated me from family, cheated and took everything. I was stuck for almost 6 years and feared for my life. Fast forward to now. I have the most beautiful long distance partner. He is so great with communication but I feel myself struggling to let him into the deeper parts of my trauma. I know he genuinely cares and wants to understand but I just don't know how to.. any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated for navigating a healthy relationship after DV x

Jess92 My story :)
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Hello, my name is Jess. I have been living with my partner for about 7 years which is a same sex relationship. Recently her dad has been crossing a line with me; and I feel like its my fault . Would love to hear from anyone that has advice or has bee... View more

Hello, my name is Jess. I have been living with my partner for about 7 years which is a same sex relationship. Recently her dad has been crossing a line with me; and I feel like its my fault . Would love to hear from anyone that has advice or has been in a similar situation:)

Mjtsb Past sexual assault now affecting marriage
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I was sexually assaulted at the age of 18 I have been with my partner now for around 10 years and have 2 children. Since the kids were born I’ve had less interest in intimacy however more recently I had a night out and when I came home he took advant... View more

I was sexually assaulted at the age of 18 I have been with my partner now for around 10 years and have 2 children. Since the kids were born I’ve had less interest in intimacy however more recently I had a night out and when I came home he took advantage of me being drunk, this had happened a few times now and hadn’t really thought much of it because I do tend to want more intimacy with a few drinks in my system. However it’s really affected me and I find myself cringing when he is near meim sure this is all related back to my history of assault but I’m not sure how I can work through this?

Angel_ Police Wife Help
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Hello my husband has been a police officer for 18 years.Suddenly he can’t get dressed for work, can’t go to work, and is generally a mess.He’s seen the doctor and has been diagnosed with PTSD- not a huge shock for me as I’ve watched the symptoms wors... View more

Hello my husband has been a police officer for 18 years.Suddenly he can’t get dressed for work, can’t go to work, and is generally a mess.He’s seen the doctor and has been diagnosed with PTSD- not a huge shock for me as I’ve watched the symptoms worsen for years, most notably in the last 12 monthswhat is shocking is that he’s now not going back to work.. ever - I found this out todayWe now face an uncertain future anyone been here and can tell me what to expect the doctor said today (and it keeps going around in my head) He will never fully recoverwhat the actual!excuse my ignorance- I’m in shock and not feeling overly able to communicate right nowi appreciate your responses in advance

Dukeyberry How do I stop my trauma ruining me?
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5 years ago I lost my Dad at 35. Three months later my partner left our family and removed us from our property.Everything in my life changed.I started again, from a refuge with 4 children to a home of our own. I have worked fulltime since then Also.... View more

5 years ago I lost my Dad at 35. Three months later my partner left our family and removed us from our property.Everything in my life changed.I started again, from a refuge with 4 children to a home of our own. I have worked fulltime since then Also.My heart was in pieces.From the day I lost my dad, I started drinking heavily. It turns out that I'm a highly functioning alcoholic. Our mornings begin around 5.30am, work, school, preschool, sports, play dates etc. Once we were all home I would start drinking while making dinner. I could barely make it to bedtime before literally passing drunk. I've moved around alot and after the last move, promised my eldest that we would stay put til he had finished his schooling.I've just signed a lease for the 2nd year, now I'm wanting to run away. Why is this?I've changed careers also from chef to office, so I can be home at night with the kids. It's since this change that I have been more aware of my alcohol intake. I have tried cutting down, I only have one glass of wine while cooking dinner at night these days. But once dinners done, I sit in front of the TV and wait for 8.30 so I can go to bed.My kids have been raised by their devices for the past 5 years and I'm noticing this now because I'm home at nights and they're all off in their rooms. I'm lonely.I'm realising this past month that I am not the person I used to be.Nor do I like the person I have become.I don't do anything except work, run a household and clean.I'm not the involved parent that I once was. There are so many times where my head is stuck in my phone and I completely ignore what my kids are saying until they yell at me for a response.I have no hobbies. I have isolated myself from all of my friends.I do the bare minimum with my house ( my washing pile is the size of a small car). And I am so wasteful with money that I'm always broke ( I used to be great with money).I gamble when I'm down, I shop when I'm down, I smoke pot sometimes and drink sometimes. Occasionally, when I need to clean my house, I'll use a point of ice to get through it.I believe this all started when my Dad and ex partner exited my life.5 years on, I know the traumas in there, but how do I bring it to the surface and deal with it? I'm not much of a crier, I hate feeling weak which is exactly how crying makes me feel.I want so badly to be someone my children want to be around again.I don't have a life that would afford me rehab, Im a singke Mum with 4 children and no one to take them for an extended period of time. I have thought about going to detox, kind of like a reset.That and ongoing counselling support would definitely help.But what can I do in the meantime?I would love to find someone to talk to on here, tell me I'm not alone.

rhinoceros Having a difficult time - male with intense panic and fear surrounding dating/intimacy
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Hi everyoneI spent 5 1/2 years in a bad relationship. To cut a long story short, it involved a lot of psychological abuse and so many aspects of my life were under the control of my ex. The most damaging aspect of this time was that I was forced to h... View more

Hi everyoneI spent 5 1/2 years in a bad relationship. To cut a long story short, it involved a lot of psychological abuse and so many aspects of my life were under the control of my ex. The most damaging aspect of this time was that I was forced to have sex even though I didn't want to; however when at times my body wouldn't respond (seems normal to not find an abuser attractive in retrospect), I was yelled/screamed at. It was honestly like world war three. I didn't know how to deal with all this back then and I stayed with her honestly believing any issues with intimacy, or the relationship in general were my fault. I left her just over 2 years ago and have been single in that time. Initially once the trauma-bond started to ease, I felt a sense of peace that I enjoyed. Now days I do deal with intense loneliness and in some ways want some kind of deeper connection with someone. Last week a close friend of mine (female) sent me a message that gently hinted she took a romantic interest in me. We've been good friends for a while now. Instead of feeling flattered or feeling good about this, I plunged into an intense panic episode that's lasted most of last week, it's been totally debilitating. I'm terrified of any form of intimacy, especially anything physical, to the point where I feel physically nauseous... this was all caused by one very innocuous message . I don't know even if I am attracted to my friend in that way, I can't even think that clearly with all this fear and panic. I replied to this message, in a friendly way but didn't really encourage that direction of conversation, and we did catch up yesterday , with others, and things seemed a little awkward at first but were better as the afternoon went on. I feel sick with guilt, worried I've hurt her... also absolutely sick of this intense panic and fear. I want to be able to accept compliments from females, and ones I'm attracted to, and even eventually date again... but instead I freeze and invariably push people away.I feel so utterly alone and hopeless at the moment, I never chose to be abused and I'd sure never choose to live like this. I'm hoping others on the forum might be able to empathise and/or offer me some advice? I'd be very grateful.

sallyfrog1 C ptsd recovery & adapting to life
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I'm in my early 30sAm in a pretty good place now in terms of clarity (after a long time of being dissociated)Main thing right now is building a support networkTalking to ppl (esp those without lived exp) and they don't get itPpl often want you to sha... View more

I'm in my early 30sAm in a pretty good place now in terms of clarity (after a long time of being dissociated)Main thing right now is building a support networkTalking to ppl (esp those without lived exp) and they don't get itPpl often want you to share your life experiences and usefulness up to your ageBut for me it's like... I've physically grown but has taken time to allow myself to develop emotionally

laureah21 Feel nothing about trauma
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Hi all,I have been diagnosed last week with adhd and ptsd.trauma was two seperate sexual assaults by different unrelated people in my 20s both at night in my bedroom from breaking and entering circumstances. I now have a bit of agoraphobia linked wit... View more

Hi all,I have been diagnosed last week with adhd and ptsd.trauma was two seperate sexual assaults by different unrelated people in my 20s both at night in my bedroom from breaking and entering circumstances. I now have a bit of agoraphobia linked with night time and general anxiety that comes and goes in certain situations. Can’t really travel (sleep away fromhome) now without sense of doom, that I could never figure out the reason until recently when these memories started coming back to me. So off I went to my GP and now a diagnosis. I didn’t get to really ask any questions yet in my session as it was a diagnostic session. I had some questions about why I’ve never felt anything about this before. It’s strangely like I’d forgotten it. Not completely but like it wasn’t part of me like I’d read it in the paper, I truely wouldn’t have said it affected me as i don’t have any emotion at all attached to it. I have suffered from panic, disassociation episodes, trouble briefly with intimacy with my husband when I just start crying for no reason during sex and I could never explain any of these things to him or myself. Just thought hormones. It always felt like my body was be anxious and my mind had no idea why. All these general mental health problems did happen after these incidents, when I think about it now. I used to be a pretty chilled, glass half full kid with inattentive adhd issues and the general kid fears, were really the only things before that is it normal not to really have any recollection/feelings toward traumatic events? To feel completely removed but still suffer in the physical bodily type way with a reaction?I’m sort of in a bit of shock when I think about the level of affect it may have had on my life from mid 20s on. In my 40s now and it’s all been hidden

white knight Anzac Day, Remembrance Day - to all our veterans
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As a former Defence Airman I salute you all. Australia has a fine record of male and female defence personnel from all corners of our society that served. People from indigenous mobs, multicultural backgrounds or several generations of Australian mig... View more

As a former Defence Airman I salute you all. Australia has a fine record of male and female defence personnel from all corners of our society that served. People from indigenous mobs, multicultural backgrounds or several generations of Australian migration from the UK, we naturally developed a sense of duty all under the Aussie banner. We have many scarred Aussies that returned from war or disrupted nations in peace keeping roles and many of them came back struggling to fit back into our lives. Some carry on with PTSD and its ramifications. We therefore have some that didnt succeed in that task and we honour them. We Community Champions and members, are here to listen. Feel free to post LET IT BE OUR LAST They came home to jeers along a Townsville street Eggs, insults and abuse Is all they got to greet They’d endured the Asian jungles where every step you take Be wary of that trap or your chest would wear a stake In combat with their mates with honour they’d bestow Crank up that rifle, is it friend or is it foe? With shrapnel in their backs and poison from orange air Their fight would go for years but no one showed their care As the Townsville streets cursed when our heros paced the town Soldier honour put on hold their dignity a frown And wait they’d have to do like a falling shell They fought for this land Australia from the battlefield of hell Do you know Vietnam Vets? Then show them of your jest Shake their hand to understand, acknowledging your best But we should always remember to never relive the past The day Aussie soldiers were jeered, let it be our last When we see our wartime hero’s and remember those that fell, Let us not forget the brave….from the battlefield of hell…. DIGGERS DAY (APRIL 25TH) Another diggers day To a bar to sink the myths Flip a coin and dispel the stories On April twenty fifth A belly of swill in a uniform of pain Ribbons on chest and that word “lest” As he walked home in the rain Dare we think how They ever survived the April hours For those diggers are our mates and we shouldn’t hesitate To honour those diggers of ours. Rest your weary legs It was luck and the fall of the dice In you we believe and together we all grieve For those soldiers sacrificed….. So, I ask you veterans, to put faith in us, to see clearly that many of us understand your sacrifice both overseas and now back home. That there is much of your memories that we could never relate to but our ears are still available. Thankyou for your service. TonyWK RAAF 1973-1976