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A_Tech PTSD for Medical and First Responders
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Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting t... View more

Hi, Well obviously this my situation. I was hoping to find others here that might have a similar background to chat with, it can be so hard to talk about this stuff with non-med people (and I mean no disrespect, it's just often graffic or upsetting to others). Im a 40 year old female that has spent the last 10years in the State Trauma Hospital as an Anaesthetic Technician. My PTSD was brought about after years of exposure to shocking traumas, deaths, and no support from management. I would love to hear from anyone that has a similar story, or just wants to chat. Cheers

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MimzeeMc Police Issues
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I, and I can only guess, too many others, have been denied a voice. I am disturbed by the way police issues are handled in Queensland. I always heard about bad police but have only recently come to see just how bad an officer of the 'law' can be. I d... View more

I, and I can only guess, too many others, have been denied a voice. I am disturbed by the way police issues are handled in Queensland. I always heard about bad police but have only recently come to see just how bad an officer of the 'law' can be. I do not believe that one's mental health should completely deter them from speaking out. That those of us with Complex PTSD are treated as though we're the classical movie version of insane, is derogatory and offensive to say the least. It is discrimination. I have not given up on being heard. And I condone anyone else, who is safe to do so, to speak up. The problem is the misuse of one's appointed office. Those who are corrupt wield their power over the general public IS NOT acceptable from those who work in the public sectors. These people create and enable criminals. And they ARE criminals too. The majority of us who resign to bad behaviour, are ourselves the victims of injustice. And sadly, we defeated victims have given up on certain morals and principals. We have given up on the idea of a better world and instead, let go and accept our predicament. It's the whole, monster begets monster thing. If we can't defeat our monsters, we lean towards becoming just like them. Though I've noticed some of us tend to do this either, in complete denial or completely unaware of one's self. If we can't be heard in court. If the law fails you as it has me. Find a way to speak. Forums, the correct government departments, make an anonymous complaint to the police headquarters of your state, share a brief letter about your opinion in the Letter to the Editor section of newspapers. If you are sure you are wronged and are sincere, there are those who will take notice. We may not see the chain reaction that comes from one person caring, but it just might be that, that one person will become part of a larger change. BUT remember, there are certain rules to addressing certain people or departments. You may not see any results for you, that's true. It is about many voices growing together as one. The more who speak, the louder we get. The louder we get, the harder we are to deny. SPREAD AWARENESS. Certain mental health issues should NEVER be an excuse for injustice to be committed against us to have our voices made unheard. It's time ALL public employees were made to undergo mental health checks regularly, from psyches, outside of their own department. People are people, regardless of who or what. Fallible. Flawed. Bias. Common.

SurvivalMode Broken- am I unfixable?
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Hi, how did I get here, where do I even begin. I am a middle aged female who is not good at talking about me or my feelings but I am suffering, my marriage is suffering. Growing up watching my father abuse my mother was very distressing. Us kids were... View more

Hi, how did I get here, where do I even begin. I am a middle aged female who is not good at talking about me or my feelings but I am suffering, my marriage is suffering. Growing up watching my father abuse my mother was very distressing. Us kids weren't on the receiving end but it still impacted greatly. I was not close to my dad I had a lot of fear, hate and anger towards him. I learned from a young age to appease people, not express my anger and to defuse situations not escalate them. We were a very close family with no other family in Oz. My mother was my world as were my sisters and brother, we did everything together and my husband and I were always there if needed, especially for my youngest sister who became judgemental, opinionated of me and my family as she grew. My older sister in her late 20's was diagnosed with Schizophrenia, she turned on me, hating me and tried to hurt me physically. We couldn't trust her around me at all. Basically I lost my eldest sister as our relationship and she was never the same and I blame the illness not her.In 2004 I suffered an injury unable to use my predominant arm with multiple operations to try and fix I was diagnosed suffering chronic pain disorder, anxiety, panic attacks, major depressive disorder and loss of memory & time. I shut my emotions down to cope with the pain and got by as I had 2 children try to look after-lasted 13 yrs. I couldn't seem to unlock my emotions after. My father died 2014 my mum didn't cope (depression?) helped her through it all as much as we could while my sister and family were causing trouble for mine. Mum and I had an argument over them as the judgements, accusations wouldn't stop and I just couldn't keep taking it and that day changed everything. Mum turned on me/us and said told horrible, nasty malicious lies to family and they were happy to believe it. Who would have thought the very people I was closest to and trusted most in this world 'my family-my best friends' would be the ones to hurt me, my husband & kids so badly. They threw me/us away. I use to 'feel' so much love, laughter and happiness. That trauma too is locked inside. After 8 yrs I reached out as I couldn't live with myself if anything happened to them, nothing has been spoken about what happened but it is not the same. I don't belong. I have all these emotions/anxiety coming up that I am struggling to contain and function with. I feel so overwhelmed. Thanks for listening!

Guest_31027981 A Lot of Anger
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There are 3 things I do not ever do. 1.I dont lie. 2. I dont steal. 3. I dont cheat. My wife, who has know me for 30 years, knows these things about me. These ideals have been a part of my moral compass my entire life. So, I am driving to a new job i... View more

There are 3 things I do not ever do. 1.I dont lie. 2. I dont steal. 3. I dont cheat. My wife, who has know me for 30 years, knows these things about me. These ideals have been a part of my moral compass my entire life. So, I am driving to a new job in remote SA and I get a text from my wife, who was away for work as she worked 5 wks on 2wks off. The completely out of the blue text read "are you seeing someone else" with some random persons facebook account as a screenshot. I'm not even friends with the person she sent the screen shot of, that person had simply followed me. I was so angry. I pulled up, called her and basically ended our marriage. I was so hurt and angry at her for even thinking I could ever do such a thing. If I was that kind of person, I would have cheated with her when we reconnected but it just isnt me. Anyway, we are trying to sort our shit out BUT, I just cannot seem to get passed the hurt and anger. I feel like she doesnt trust me. Without trust there is nothing. Not in my eyes anyway. I keep wondering how long it will be before she accuses me again. To be honest, in many ways I regret returning to the relationship after the initial breakup but, necessity is the mother of questionable choices. Any ideas on getting passed this anger I feel toward her?

Mothership Passive
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I have realised that I'm passive, I don't speak up for myself, mentally weak, avoiding conflict, avoiding an argument, all the time, Is this a ptsd symptom, I've had several traumas since I was a teenager, I'm 66yrs old now

I have realised that I'm passive, I don't speak up for myself, mentally weak, avoiding conflict, avoiding an argument, all the time, Is this a ptsd symptom, I've had several traumas since I was a teenager, I'm 66yrs old now

Guest_52192962 Too much - I can’t handle anymore
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Hi Ten years ago (seems like a long time) I made a stupid decision to go online and try to date. I was 26 I had a 3 Bedroom house all to my self. I was Working. It was 6 houses from the beach. This guy, I met on oasis (dating App) ruined my mind set ... View more

Hi Ten years ago (seems like a long time) I made a stupid decision to go online and try to date. I was 26 I had a 3 Bedroom house all to my self. I was Working. It was 6 houses from the beach. This guy, I met on oasis (dating App) ruined my mind set and affected and Ruined My LIFE. I say this because he controlled me todo anything. It was an online dating app. This got really Toxic and became bad really fast. I made the mistake of allowing him to pick me up and take me back to his place in his car. As soon as I was there, he’d (with his Mum) kick me out. I faught back and was manipulated even more. The police got involved. He said he used me for financial gain ideas. And that he needed help. I was so pissed off, but I didn’t want todo anything as you could imagine that would result in criminal activity. So I let revenge manifest over the years. He would Email me at Late wrong times. Like I.e 2:00 in the morning. And torment me by talking about himself and how he thought my sisters were a catch. I’ve gone through depression My whole life. And whilst I was drinking, and from a divorced Family I was coping and managing. He managed to isolate me from my family. Then he applied for an intervention order ON ME. Couldn’t fkn believe IT. Because we kept fighting in Emails and Phone Conversations. I’ve managed to move myself over 69 Times whilst dealing with people (share house tenants, and families) shit. As I approached mental Health.., (they wernt aware what I was going through). So they miss diagnosed me and detained me every time I went to an Emergency department for Help because I was homeless. I havnt had kids or met a person through ANY OF This. My mothers lack of support just means I want her further away from me. I’ve gained so much weight from stress eating, and I was over weight before. I developed an abscess skin infection (which I’ve endured for 9 Years) and ive had multiple insicion and drainage operations. Anyway I’m highly (At_My_Wits_end) suicidal and all the advice I got from sister (3 of them) in Canada. Is that my life is getting smaller - and smaller.

Rosy Today is not a good day
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So much has happened in my life, since childhood. My father was very strict, my mum had mental health issues since childhood. We were sent to my Nan's when mum was not good and we were often by my dad that we would be sent to an orphanage. Whenever t... View more

So much has happened in my life, since childhood. My father was very strict, my mum had mental health issues since childhood. We were sent to my Nan's when mum was not good and we were often by my dad that we would be sent to an orphanage. Whenever they had an argument I was told it was my fault, I believed that because mum got pregnant with me, they had to get married. I was often left out, whilst my sister was loved by everyone, I have always loved her, she is my rock. When I was 17/18 I got my first job, where I was groomed and sexually assaulted by my boss. At the same time, my parents separated and my mum took my two sisters to live in another town, then a couple of weeks later, my dad moved out and I was left alone. I often wondered why I was left behind, that I was so unloved. I have no happy memories of my childhood, I remember hugging my dad once and he told me to get away and pushed me away. I never hugged him again. Throughout my life I thought I had friends but I've found that most of them talk to me only because of my husband. I worked hard and had a good reputation and then I started working where I work now. I didn't notice at first how toxic the environment was until I found out my boss was telling everyone how useless I was at my job. Apparently my boss told other staff what a terrible person I was, how I couldn't do my job and told stories about me. I couldn't figure out why colleagues stopped talking to me. I decided to resign and another manager stopped me, a few weeks later, my boss was investigated and had her contract terminated. I have spent the last couple of years trying to unravel the lies spread but it has been hard. In the meantime, I have had breast cancer and a heart attack and I am not the person I used to be. Now my marriage is in name only, and my husband who says he loves but he no longer shows affection or sleeps withe me. I'm tired of this existence.

Empathuniverse Narcissistic abuse recovery
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Hello Everyone, I just wanted to say hello to everyone in this group who may be struggling at this time to be able to talk to someone and get the support of resources that they may need at this time.I am presently trying to focus on recovery after be... View more

Hello Everyone, I just wanted to say hello to everyone in this group who may be struggling at this time to be able to talk to someone and get the support of resources that they may need at this time.I am presently trying to focus on recovery after being in two NPD relationships back to back.I learned a lot but it was also extremely traumatic and I have so much too unpack. ONE of the biggest things is how to have healthy relationships, set boundries and gain my own self worth and just plain saying no and putting myself first.Some of the things a NPD doesnt want you to do is be empowered so its unlearning all of that so your not absolutely miserable. Its amazing that we give so much away in the name of love only to have someone completely abuse it. I am the only one who can say no and no again and I want to exercise that right. Anyone who loves and supports you will work with your needs and not need to take so much.You may not be in this place and time in your own recovery as everyones story is different but I do hope that you have some support or are on your way to being able to reach out for it. Please do we are not the product of the NPD relationship we are so much more than that.

Guest_10073 Coercion, Abuse, and Feeling Alone in My Struggle
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I’ve been coerced into sex by someone who I thought was a mentor and a leader in human rights.I respected and admired him lots.He’s a researcher, a women’s rights defender, and runs a civil service organization. He approached me romantically and coer... View more

I’ve been coerced into sex by someone who I thought was a mentor and a leader in human rights.I respected and admired him lots.He’s a researcher, a women’s rights defender, and runs a civil service organization. He approached me romantically and coerced me into sex, making me feel trapped and confused. We were in a relationship, but the whole time, I felt pressured and controlled. The event happened before I came to Australia. I was staying in Thailand at the time because of the conflicts in my home country. There were some times I was sick, intoxicated, or under his influence, and he used that to manipulate me. I initially resisted even his kiss,but it felt impossible to escape later days because of his repeated attempts and influences. Looking back, I now realize that what he did was wrong, but at the time, I didn’t understand it fully. What hurts the most is the disbelief and blame I’m facing from others, especially on social media. People don’t understand coercive control and rape, and it feels like no one believes me. He kept reaching out to me online, using me as a sex object, and I’m devastated by how he used me for his own purposes. I feel worthless, like I’ve lost my dignity and self-worth. The trauma, nightmares, and pain are overwhelming. I’m seeing a therapist almost every day to try to make sense of it, but it’s hard to cope when society and the connections he has make me feel so alone. I feel like no one understands what I went through.

Angle Past problems with sister
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Hi I am 15 I struggle with sister problems I am the youngest I have fear of abandonment in 2023 my middle sister who is now 17 left because she couldn't handle the answer no it has a huge affect on me ahe is constantly saying awful things about me on... View more

Hi I am 15 I struggle with sister problems I am the youngest I have fear of abandonment in 2023 my middle sister who is now 17 left because she couldn't handle the answer no it has a huge affect on me ahe is constantly saying awful things about me online and ahe calls me all these names what do I do as I cant respond or in her eyes it's abuse and as of safe environments she has ruined school for me as I get called names and things thrown at my head