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BeyondBlue Welcome to the Grief and Loss section
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Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and annivers... View more

Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and anniversaries, and honour the memories of your lost loved ones. Everyone’s experience of grief or loss is unique. You might experience all kinds of difficult or overwhelming emotions, and you might sometimes wonder if the sadness will ever end. This - and anything in between - is a normal reaction to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but it can help to allow yourself to share your grief, and let others support you. Please be aware that discussions in this section of the Forums may include references to self-harm and suicide. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. If need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Griefline – between 8am and 8pm (AEST), call 1300 845 745 to chat with a specially trained volunteer You are not alone in this, and we are here to support one another. Thank you for being here. Kind regards,Beyond Blue

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Guest_97760106 Grief
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My baby girl died today. I can't help with feel the pain that I wasnt there in her final moments. What helps you cope.

My baby girl died today. I can't help with feel the pain that I wasnt there in her final moments. What helps you cope.

Missmymum Lost my mum
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My mum passed away Wednesday night suddenly and I’m not coping. She was my best friend and only support. I don’t know what I’m gonna do without her, and I’m terrified. I promised her I wouldn’t give up when she passed but it’s so hard. Does anyone kn... View more

My mum passed away Wednesday night suddenly and I’m not coping. She was my best friend and only support. I don’t know what I’m gonna do without her, and I’m terrified. I promised her I wouldn’t give up when she passed but it’s so hard. Does anyone know anything that could help me, please?

Rach28 Surrender pet aftermath
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Hi everyone. I'm really struggling a month after surrendering my pet. Today I found out he's with a foster carer and up for adoption. My heart is literally broken once again. Has anyone else had to make the heartbreaking decision to surrender your pe... View more

Hi everyone. I'm really struggling a month after surrendering my pet. Today I found out he's with a foster carer and up for adoption. My heart is literally broken once again. Has anyone else had to make the heartbreaking decision to surrender your pet/best friend and are you struggling with the news that your pet is being cared for by someone else and will get a new mum soon. I just so badly miss being his mum beyond words. I miss it every single day... I should be the one caring for him. And I'm not... it's unfair..

Guest_53168226 Loss of partner.
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I lost my partner of 15 years six months ago. We were just beginning to adjust to a new stage of life together, with all of our children having moved away. Our youngest had recently started secondary school and was living in a boarding house, so for ... View more

I lost my partner of 15 years six months ago. We were just beginning to adjust to a new stage of life together, with all of our children having moved away. Our youngest had recently started secondary school and was living in a boarding house, so for the first time in many years, it was just the two of us.Then he was diagnosed with a chronic illness, and within five months, he had passed away.I am now living completely alone. I returned to work part-time to help manage my grief and to have some human interaction. During the days I work, I cope reasonably well. But when I come home to an empty house and the evening begins, the tears come. The loneliness feels overwhelming, and I am consumed by grief and loss.My grief is not only for my partner. It is also for the life we shared, the future we had planned, and the everyday moments that are now gone. For 15 years, it was always us, alongside our family. Now I am trying to find my way in a life that feels completely different from the one I knew.I don't know what my life looks like without him. I feel lost, lonely, and uncertain about how to move forward.

Guest_40285827 I’ve been through a lot this year.
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Hi lm struggling to live life after my brother taking his own life this year 10/2/26 due to work cover and drug issues. I’m shattered he was 51 lm 50 & sister is 52 we are a year apart I’m the youngest. My son who’s 11 at the time first witnessed my ... View more

Hi lm struggling to live life after my brother taking his own life this year 10/2/26 due to work cover and drug issues. I’m shattered he was 51 lm 50 & sister is 52 we are a year apart I’m the youngest. My son who’s 11 at the time first witnessed my brother’s passing. I ask myself WHY! He was full of talent, very intelligent & attractive didn’t look like a drug user. why didn’t he speak out? I can’t believe it . My mother who’s 75 didn’t have to experience that. At the time l wasn’t living here at mums cos my brother used to abuse me. Plus my mum is a difficult mother to live with. Waiting for high priority housing so me & my beautiful boy can live a healthy life without interruption. I can’t stand my mother she’s put me down, yells at me omg my brother she pressured him all day. secondly my god son & nephew who’s 30 passed away on the 15/5/26 he got abducted & murdered it breaks my heart they caught 6 of them. He didn’t deserve that they had weapons etc he had nothing they have been charged for murder etc. how can l move on I think I never will. He had no enemies of any sought. He was a drug user just a little & had mental illness problems & arguments with his parents on a daily basis. So he used to live at mine temporary in public housing after 37 years l got it. But waiting as high priority to be moved due to severe circumstances living there and how it’s built etc when am l going to be free of problems daily arguments with mum. Son sees it. please help me what should l do? I won’t say it on here u should know urself. How? thankyou for reading & please try assist me as best as you can cos lm at that point l can’t deal with it.

Guest_14218046 Lived experiences
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Hi im looking for support groups with people that have lived experiences with losing there child 2 a car accident please

Hi im looking for support groups with people that have lived experiences with losing there child 2 a car accident please

Spice-of-Life Narcissistic abuse survivor
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Hi All- any survivors of NPD abuse? I am an empath and realised I became a people pleaser from childhood where I experienced terrible abuse. I married, husband later diagnosed with Autism but narcissistic traits which were the issue followed by DV. W... View more

Hi All- any survivors of NPD abuse? I am an empath and realised I became a people pleaser from childhood where I experienced terrible abuse. I married, husband later diagnosed with Autism but narcissistic traits which were the issue followed by DV. When child safety became involved it woke me up to leaving before kids experienced it too. (Which sadly happened later on access visits) Then I went through intensive counselling for years only to finally end up engaged to a man I later figure out has NPD and there was financial and emotional abuse (gaslighting/DARVO etc) The act had me fooled, but the lies all came undone and I saw 2 people: the one I loved. Then the cold, calculating one who seemed to enjoy deceiving and using others as it was a fun game. Of course the later was real him and it rocked my world as I’m kind and believe the best of people. Probably because I know what it feels like to struggle. Now I have this intense anger at all the behaviour from childhood to now. Then I feel numb as my whole blueprint for life has been BS- I’m not responsible, it’s not me, they were projecting their own crap onto me and dodging responsibility. I erroneously believed in mutual respect, honesty and good intentions . I don’t know how to ever trust again and have lost my faith especially in men which is unfair. I’ve been through a lot- but the last guy took the cake. I’m so so thankful to be free as it was sociopath level scary when all the evidence came to light and the switch flipped. I’ve since learned there can be machevallian where they are very skilled at manipulating and matched this person.. 🥹I am grieving that I haven’t had a safe relationship and likely won’t as I quit now as I’m not going to survive any more rounds. I do lots of self care, get to church, work, care for kids (now 100% care) trying to make friends post discard ( met some nice people). But I just feel numb- exhausted, ruminate then yo-yo with anger and depression. I feel like a zombie. I don’t talk about it except with therapists as I want to be free of it. Is anyone else going through this? Recovered? What helps? Thx in advance ☺️

D4rk My life is an ongoing mess
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I can't seem to cop a break. For years I have had so much heartache and stress. But it's starting to really take an effect on me. My grandmother died a week ago. Ive been her carer for almost 10 years since my dad died. We had the funeral yesterday a... View more

I can't seem to cop a break. For years I have had so much heartache and stress. But it's starting to really take an effect on me. My grandmother died a week ago. Ive been her carer for almost 10 years since my dad died. We had the funeral yesterday and we've just found out my step son is in jail on major chargers. I don't know how to deal with life at the moment. I dont know how to help my parnter navigate this situation. His kid is 22 but he's been a pain in the arse the last 14years. I just dont know what I'm meant to do with my life anymore.

BlueLily War
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I recently watched an animated film called 'Grave of the Fireflies'. (Spoilers ahead) It follows two children who lose their parents during World War II and eventually die from starvation. I couldn’t stop crying while watching it. What struck me afte... View more

I recently watched an animated film called 'Grave of the Fireflies'. (Spoilers ahead) It follows two children who lose their parents during World War II and eventually die from starvation. I couldn’t stop crying while watching it. What struck me afterward was the realization that I was grieving for fictional characters while, at this very moment, countless real people, including children are suffering and dying because of wars happening somewhere in the world. It made me wonder: have we become desensitized to suffering of war happening far away from us? Do we fail to truly feel these tragedies because they don’t directly affect our own lives? And should we feel guilty for enjoying a warm meal when so many people caught in war are starving? It got me thinking, how little ordinary people can really do about wars driven by political conflict. While innocent people continue to suffer, it often feels like world leaders fail to take meaningful action to prevent it. Blue

Mr. Anxiety Nees help coping for 3 family deaths
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Hi all, 26 year old male, severe depression, anxiety and regular panic attacks. This is the first time I've public posted my thoughts so bear with me. I suffered from mild depression and anxiety from my early teens, up until November 2014 when my eld... View more

Hi all, 26 year old male, severe depression, anxiety and regular panic attacks. This is the first time I've public posted my thoughts so bear with me. I suffered from mild depression and anxiety from my early teens, up until November 2014 when my eldest brother passed away in a car accident at aged 32 following that in 2016 my mother passed away aged 52 from a stroke whilst shopping with my youngest sister who was only 11 at the time. And again following that, in September 2017 my other brother just 3 years older than myself at 29 years of age passed away in his sleep from pneumonia and an enlarged heart (undiagnosed). Since my eldest brother passed away, my depression, anxiety and stress has been unimaginably through the roof, with it only getting worse after each death. My last brother to pass away was considered my best friend so it was a "double whammy" and i took a month of work from my new job which i only started 7 weeks prior. I feel lost, alone and my social anxiety stops me from doing the most basic of tasks, such as calling someone, getting up to go to the shops, etc... I came here because I keep having time off work and cant keep it up as my financial situation doesnt allow it, I can no longer do things I enjoy like working on my project car, as I dont have any money to fund it, which make me more depressed and it just keep going around in circles. I am currently medicated and have just started taking something to help me sleep (California rockey fuel apparently). I was previously on another medication for 4 years, but it didn't work for when my family passed away. I cant speak to my partner, friends or family because they get upset when Im upset. I bottle my emotions up a lot and I cant help doing it, its just how I am, I've been seeing a physiologist each fortnight for the past 9 months, i feel good after i go but i go back to feeling the same the next day. I cant afford more time off work as I am the sole income earner and I currently have a childcare bill in excess off $500 not to mention car regos due, so that stresses me out more. What should I do? Please help.

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