(once abusive)Dad dying overseas...

[1TassieDevil]

I am the only member of my family living in Australia as my Dad slowly passes away back in the UK. I am feeling so much torment and resurfacing trauma from an abusive childhood that I've had to take time off work to process and deal with all these unexpected and debilitating emotions...any advice or similar experiences? I feel so weak 😞

[indigo22]

Hi 1TassieDevil,

Welcome and thank you for reaching out to us.

I am sorry you are feeling so tormented by your past at present, I am not really surprised though.

Losing a parent, no matter the relationship, is not an easy thing to come to terms with because there is always still some level of bonded connection between you.

You did what you needed to, to put the situation behind you and now it's back to haunt you unexpectedly.

Did you ever have any counselling to help you sort through the trauma you experienced with your dad?

We are here to support you at any time, however, since this is having such an adverse effect on you, I would like to suggest that you talk to someone in real time. I will put some info below for you to reach out to, they should also be able to give you some information on supports in your local area.

No child should ever have to go through abuse and I am so sorry it happened to you.

I will be here if you want to talk more.

Griefline - available 8am - 8pm 7 days - 1300 845 745 (grief support)

1800Respect - available 24/7 - 1800 737 732 (domestic violence support)

Beyond Blue - available 24/7 - 1300 224 636 (general support)

Lifeline - available 24/7 - 13 11 14 (crisis support)

Take good care of yourself,

indigo

[1TassieDevil]

Hi Indigo 

Thank you so much for your understanding words. I did have counselling in the past and I've reached out to a free counselling service for help. 

Really appreciate your kind words at this time. 

They have helped already just having someone understand.

Thank you 🙏

[indigo22]

You are most welcome, it's why we are here.

Glad to hear you are getting some help.

Anytime you feel like talking, just reply to this post and I will get a notification.

I hope you begin to feel more at ease soon, take good care of yourself in the coming weeks/months.

indigo

[1TassieDevil]

Thank you 🙏 I have a call with a counsellor tomorrow through mindspot.org. I go back to work this Thursday and need some strategies to cope...I feel people will think I'm making such a fuss because my Dad's dying. Not realising the deeper issues and emotions involved. I'll let you know how I go 🙏