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Hi, I’m Michi and still in high school but I would like some help on who I am. All of my friends are either straight or gay and I don’t think I belong under any of those terms, I just don’t know how to fit in. I also don’t think I’m asexual, I don’t know where I belong, it’s been like this for a year now and I just don’t know how my friends will react if I say I don’t know what gender I’m attracted to. It has been hard since most of my friends either have crushes or a lover, I don’t feel like I fit in with the society. Thank you for listening 🙏
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Hi, welcome
On life sometimes the obvious isn't obvious and peer pressure adds complexity to what should be natural.
So, we have 8 billion people on this planet and all are individuals, even identical twins have their own uniqueness. So why do we have a need to "fit" into one of half a dozen categories of sexualising orientation? What is your best approach to solve this puzzle?
Maybe accepting that you fit into your own unique pigeon hole is better than trying to fit where everyone fits? To achieve that, an open free mind that's led by your inner desires as you treat the journey as an exciting venture. After all do you need to fit into what others tell you? How do they know what you are attracted to?
It's the same with other topics eg having a lover like others have. When you eventually find someone you fall in love with would they appreciate that you didn't follow all the sheep but you resisted that pressure to seek the most compatible partner? These are all questions to ask yourself and if you enjoy that journey without crumbling to peer pressure, you'll be a happier person.
I knew a guy in school that believed he was bisexuality. I joined the Airforce but returned after 3 years when we bumped into each other. I asked him if he was still bisexuality and he told me he was straight and his belief he was bisexuality came from what another guy had claimed he was. So it's much better to relax and discover who you are over time and enjoy every moment.
I hope that helps.
TonyWK
