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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Pink grapefruit Feeling lonely
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Hi, I am f 50. After migrating to Australia, I have been spending a lot of time for work for a living and I did not do much to make friends. Because of this, I don’t have many local friends and feel quite lonely lately. If I feel this way now, I am a... View more

Hi, I am f 50. After migrating to Australia, I have been spending a lot of time for work for a living and I did not do much to make friends. Because of this, I don’t have many local friends and feel quite lonely lately. If I feel this way now, I am also afraid what would happen after my retirement. I know there are some clubs or activities but I have not had a courage to join them yet. Is it common?

username1115757 hallucinations?
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does anyone else get hallucinations from worrying about upcoming things?like, for example, I have a first aid course I am meant to attend today, but I've been up all night beating myself up. making up stories and so on of all the bad things that coul... View more

does anyone else get hallucinations from worrying about upcoming things?like, for example, I have a first aid course I am meant to attend today, but I've been up all night beating myself up. making up stories and so on of all the bad things that could happen, sick and worried about leaving the house. And at one point while I was having a panic attack I started to see stuff that wasn't there.I've been suffering from severe depression and anxiety for about 20 years now and it just keeps getting worse/thoughts of {you know} don't leave, but nothing this visual.

Jose Looking for clues?
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Has anyone gone through a situation where you were attacked by the entire society literally? I am trying to convince myself that I am having delusions but it's more than a dream at the moment considering what's going on. I think I am so famous in the... View more

Has anyone gone through a situation where you were attacked by the entire society literally? I am trying to convince myself that I am having delusions but it's more than a dream at the moment considering what's going on. I think I am so famous in the entire country I live in and even think I am involved in a grand conspiracy. Yes this might be delusion but the moment people see me they attack, period. Passive attack to make me mentally sick. I feel like a celebrity, I am kind of enjoying little bit of it every now and then. Playing with attackers is my new hobby and something that keeps me moving to be honest. Gotta give them credit for that eventhough they don't realize it. But what in the world have I done to end up like this?

bubba Feel so lost
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Hi, Am a complete newbie here, so forgive me if Im not posting in the right spot. F48 married and no kids.The last few months have been a complete struggle and I don’t know whats wrong. Am not happy with my life at the moment. It’s a bag of mixed emo... View more

Hi, Am a complete newbie here, so forgive me if Im not posting in the right spot. F48 married and no kids.The last few months have been a complete struggle and I don’t know whats wrong. Am not happy with my life at the moment. It’s a bag of mixed emotions and I ride the waves of ups and downs everyday. I have told no one I have been feeling this way. Not even my best friends, husband or my own family. I wake up when hubby goes to work, and when he leaves I can easily sleep another couple of hours. I currently don’t work. When I do wake up, it feels like it’s a real struggle. The house is a mess, it’s not a huge mess but could def be better, but I just feel so overwhelmed I just leave it be. I’m bored at home, but then I have always liked my own company too. I may go out and get a few needed essentials, but just come home again and lay on the bed, and be on my phone, probably sleep again another couple of hours before hubby comes home from work. All of my closest friends are interstate or overseas. I can’t seem to “gel” with anyone local. And once I do find someone who could be friends… they say they are leaving soon to travel around Oz, or are just too busy to meet up. i miss having deep and meaningful conversations with people about anything. (Other than my husband) And ones I feel drawn to are of the opposite sex and married or long term relationships but then that makes it awkward too. But I have no desire to cheat etc.. I just miss connecting with people. I have no friends locally. Not a single one. We are in a social club and I’m on the committee because I have nothing else do to. And I just simply did it, as I have all the time the world to help out. I feel it’s the only thing that gives me purpose in life at the moment. i keep cancelling upcoming medical appointments probably for the last 6mths. I just can’t be bothered with anything. Its making me more sad, as I realise I need help, but don’t know who to ask, what questions to ask, and I really dont want to be put on medications. i suppose you could say fear of the unknown. I just feel, sad, down, depressed, overwhelmed, lonely, lost just about every single day lately. And I hate it. I’ve lost the old me somewhere along the way and I want and need it to change. Or is it just simply perimenopause lol… far out 🤦‍🤷‍thanks for reading.

Grxmloid Paralyzing anhedonia
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For the last 2 years I have had anhedonia which started at the time my chronic health issues began. I've determined it's origin is in my gut problems (at least mostly) and I am working with a naturopath & still waiting to get an endoscopy/colonoscopy... View more

For the last 2 years I have had anhedonia which started at the time my chronic health issues began. I've determined it's origin is in my gut problems (at least mostly) and I am working with a naturopath & still waiting to get an endoscopy/colonoscopy with the hospital gasteoentorologist which is the only thing I can afford right now. I tried to manage it myself because I thought i knew what it was (the initial chronic fatigue and sickness was caused by a catalyst) I was also struggling to work, but now I've had to borrow money, because it became a matter of life and death (I became so suicidal). I feel so upset I let it go this long and get so bad before I caved in and realized I couldn't do it on my own. What I was doing was making it worse or not helping. I've been getting treatment for only 2 months now which I can't believe. I've become more impatient than ever. 2 years of my life gone to this.I've done so many tests, and now awaiting on results from yet another, being heavy metal toxicity (could be highly likely considering some of the causes leading up to everything). I now need to move house as the property owner who inherited the house doesn't want to pay capital gains tax. I am only just starting to feel some improvements from the gruelling process of trying to get the right measurements of probiotics etc (which were giving me extreme side effects in the beginning) and now I'm facing the loss of a familiar, safe house and suburb plus one of my housemates is leaving for new Zealand instead of coming with me and my other housemate to the next house. Meanwhile I've been so isolated because how this has all been impacting my brain function, and my mood, has made it virtually I m possible to socialize. But I'm trying to so hard, nonetheless, however I'm able to. But I have drifted significantly from the people in my life. When I am with others most of the time I feel boring because the anhedonia means to creative thought, no excitement, no natural vibrancy. It's destroyed my self esteem which now thst my brain is working better I am trying to do mindful practise on. The housemates rightfully so organized a house cooling party which at this stage I am dreading. 4 of my friends are away travelling and I don't know how who will come of my invites, nor how I will cope being at a party (I've tried a few this year, normally I'm a party person, but they were so difficult) because it feels like I'm just acting. Because I don't feel any joy and my mind isn't working lile normal, every thing I do is in memory of who I was. I am doing things because "that is how that's done for this reason" not out of a natural momentum. It's bad to not try but its also bad to just be faced with the fact that I still just feel so numb and dissociated from myself and the world. I'm glad it's improved to the point of crying some days but I just dont feel human and I am so sick and tired of being in survival mode for 2 years. I am an optimist but this will push anyone the the edge. I don't want to die I just want to be better and this has got to be the hardest thing I've ever done

passingthrough Depression and negative affirmations
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Hi all, I'm not sure how to use this forum to get help, and feel that I have nothing to offer fellow participants, but I need to try something at this time. I'm 34M, probably somewhat autistic (but undiagnosed) and been struggling with what I roughly... View more

Hi all, I'm not sure how to use this forum to get help, and feel that I have nothing to offer fellow participants, but I need to try something at this time. I'm 34M, probably somewhat autistic (but undiagnosed) and been struggling with what I roughly call depression. I'm currently taking SNRI antidepressants and attending therapy. Other than that it's hard to say what's going on with any clarity. I regularly tell myself these things, usually in threes and always including the last two:“I can’t do anything right”“I can’t do it”"I can't do anything"“I hate myself”“I’m a loser”“I deserve to die” I believe that this is causing me to feel worse, and creates negative feedback loops. I just want to know if anyone has any suggestions for how to either stop or ignore this behaviour. I've tried contradicting it ("I'm doing my best, and I deserve to be happy") and tried logically dismantling it ("Loser? I didn't realise this was a competition", "Deserve to die? Everyone dies!") but so far nothing has really worked. It's mainly triggered by rejection or criticism, either by my partner or me, for example criticism of my work performance or behaviour. I've talked to my therapist about it, but we haven't really discussed any strategies. I'm happy to read other threads, just don't know where to start. Thanks.

LoneWolf Dysthymia, PTSD
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Hello Good People, I am 78 and a hyper-sensitive male struggling with dysthymia and PTSD for the last 68 years. (A victim of a very immature narcissistyic father!) I tend to pick up on every subtle nuance in my surroundings. I play the game of life, ... View more

Hello Good People, I am 78 and a hyper-sensitive male struggling with dysthymia and PTSD for the last 68 years. (A victim of a very immature narcissistyic father!) I tend to pick up on every subtle nuance in my surroundings. I play the game of life, get hurt then socially isolate for several months. Fortunately I am blessed with musical and artictic talents which appears to soothe the savage beast. What I would like to know from other sufferers: Is it normal to run and hid for for such a long time or should I be seeking help? I am already on prescription medication! Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Hazels Parents and depression
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I'm 16 and have been feeling depressed for a long while now and my parents don't care, I try on many occasions to bring up the topic because I'm at the point where I'm having suicide thoughts but they just add more fuel to the fire and I can't take i... View more

I'm 16 and have been feeling depressed for a long while now and my parents don't care, I try on many occasions to bring up the topic because I'm at the point where I'm having suicide thoughts but they just add more fuel to the fire and I can't take it any more I'm trying ways to try and cope

JJ1981 WANTING TO FINALLY VENT MY TRUE SITUATION
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Well…I may be 43 years old. I’m supposed to be enjoying the best years of my life, living on my own terms, getting respect from people.But, I happen to be one of those people who keep “falling through the cracks” in Australia (as the Aussie patriots ... View more

Well…I may be 43 years old. I’m supposed to be enjoying the best years of my life, living on my own terms, getting respect from people.But, I happen to be one of those people who keep “falling through the cracks” in Australia (as the Aussie patriots would say - Happy Australia Day, by the way!). But if you understand my story (and it’s a long one), you would appreciate that it’s really a matter of having cracks made in front of me then being pushed through them! A lot of cracks…Despite me being quite smart, hard working and competent, I ended up in a profession that is thankless, should have paid me better, should have gotten a lot more respect and is now infested with backstabbers as my colleagues. I became burned out and started to veer away from full time commitments because of this lack of social, professional and financial respect.I wanted to start a new life in a new city. Although I was very grateful to have been there, I did not improve my income, make any real friends or find love. I did not get any increase in credibility in myself as a person, man, and future protector and provider. I had to resettle back in my old city (of which I despise so much because of the arrogance of its people there). Even that was not enough to stop my family from barraging me with criticisms about how weak, ungrateful and disloyal I was by wanting to move away from the people in my old city. My mother told me that this arrogance “happens everywhere”, is normal and is not allowed to be countered against - as a matter of being “nice and respectful”. And that I was “ABANDONING” them, which was never true!Being nice and respectful to a people in an Australian state costing me 12 years of my adult life, a $70,000 HECS debt (that would probably never get paid off), left me without any genuine social connections, no true financial security AND destroyed any credibility I have had with the people I care about?!?!?!I had another argument with her after so many. I now swear to myself that this will be the LAST argument because I am sick and tired of being scared of how she will react. My late father being a kind of enforcer for her didn’t make things any easier (even though he probably knew I was right - but don’t contradict the wife, if you want her to stay loyal!)I’m thinking about splitting my time between my old and new city, but my mother wanted me to STAY BACK because I’m basically seen as a loser! And I’m looking at even more criticism from my family!Despite me seeing one of the best psychiatrists in Australia, being on two separate mental health medications and being a patient in two mental hospitals, this is the legacy of which I am really trying to shake off but don’t think I can ever recover from. Me having a recent broken leg didn’t make things any better - I never want it to happen again. On top of all health problems related to my psychological stress ranging from obesity (of which I worked really hard to drop) to sleep apnoea, to depression and reactive anxiety, to testosterone deficiency.And, if that was not enough, I did not that there were some occasions when (sigh) some minor suicidal thoughts “tried” to enter my head. That had me REALLY scared! I’m crying just typing the last sentence. There is no way that I would think about committing it, but people are really trying to make it look that I have to attempt it before people start actually taking me seriously!I am feeling well and truly stuck, alone and scared. And, I feel that I will get into so much trouble, whether I step with my right foot or my left! Me not having anyone to talk to or help me out makes it even harder still. I honestly don’t know how I managed to hold out so well for so long in my life!The only remedy in my life is, really, to make dramatic, rapid and genuine progress in what I want to do with my life, everything from making constant decent money (as in six figures with the inflation happening here) to setting up my own family. But, I feel that any window of opportunity left to set things right is shrinking much faster than I want it to.So sorry to be a burden to anyone trying to read and analyse this, but I don’t know where else to express myself right now.

Jess8078 How to support someone who doesn’t believe in support?
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Hi! thank you for reading! sorry for generalising, but what do men do to feel better which is not simultaneously bad for your health (like drinking alcohol)? my husband doesn’t believe in meditation, taking a breath, going for a walk or talking to pr... View more

Hi! thank you for reading! sorry for generalising, but what do men do to feel better which is not simultaneously bad for your health (like drinking alcohol)? my husband doesn’t believe in meditation, taking a breath, going for a walk or talking to professionals. (These are things I would do if feeling blue). I have told him to take “me” time. He took a long time off work (2yrs) which I supported to reduce his stress levels, but it honestly didn’t help much. I was working full time, and was still more relaxed than him. The only time I see him fully relaxed is with a beer in his hand. Or out fishing (but that requires organisation and good weather…). any advice on how I can help him would be great. (And don’t say intimacy, well aware of that one and doing my best).