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[Gracie_PY4]

Hi there, 

My names Grace. The past couple of months now I’ve been struggling with some depression and bad anxiety about everything in my life pretty much 😅. I’ve been working my way through things with my psychologist slowly. My days however have no joy, I don’t have any hobbies anymore, except gaming and Lego but they fade a bit too. The only thing that brings me joy are watching tv, I guess to distract myself, and family occasions, however that doesn’t really work well. I recently dropped from full time to part time. I really struggle at work. My bosses are hard to work with, they can be condescending and rude sometimes. I feel like I’m failing at a job I’m actually doing well in. This job feels like the same thing everyday, if you know the movie it feels like ‘Groundhog Day’. Everyday is miserable and ongoing. I no longer have the energy to speak to customers or do tasks, or want to turn up. Everyday I have to drag myself out of bed feeling completely miserable knowing I’m going to do the same thing everyday. Even though I’ve become part time it still doesn’t feel different and I don’t feel any better. 

I am currently looking for a job, no responses from anything and I have no motivation to apply for anything anymore, however the fact that I want to get out of this job. I just feel very unhappy and don’t know what to do. My parents say keep applying but for me that takes so much energy and work, and I always will do it, but I just feel very sad. 

[Sophie_M]

Hello Gracie_PY4, 

Thank you so much for sharing what you are going through with us. 

Things sound really heavy for you right now, and I think it's completely understandable given how you're feeling at work. We don't often acknowledge just how much work can impact every area of our life and our ability to show up with energy for the things we love, but it really can. Even part time, work takes up a lot of hours every week. And if we are spending multiple hours a week feeling anxious, undervalued, or uninspired - it can take its toll! It sounds like work isn't really providing you with the support and recognition you deserve, nor the inspiration to keep striving and growing, which must be really tough. I can hear there is a lot of pressure on you right now...

I am curious though, when was the last time you remember things feeling lighter, easier, and more enjoyable? What was different about your life? 

Bonus question, as a fun exercise: imagine you had 24 hours, endless amounts of money, you could do anything with anyone and be anywhere in the world - what would you be doing and why? 

This exercise can be really great in allowing us to see what's important to us right now and what is missing that might actually be the key to our fulfilment. 

I know things are really challenging at the moment, but you sound quite driven. I have no doubt you will be able to shift through this more tricky phase. But what I think might be just as important as being driven is finding those moments every day that bring you joy, that make you smile, that bring your life meaning. Have a think about it - I would love to hear what your answers are! 

Talk soon,
Sophie M. 💙
 

[Algernon]

Grace, I love the lego challenge!! You get to make or invent something really cool 🙂 I wish life came with a lego instruction book. Some simple guide that explained how to fit the pieces together. It's ok to feel down. Sometimes you need to go there, even wallow it in. You know you have an opportunity though? Your customers will value kindness. Your parents are nagging you which means they care. You know when you wake up in the morning you get to chose how you greet the rising sun. You are Grace. That is your name 🙂