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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Guest_93784489 Ruptured ACL
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I have been playing sport for as long as I can remember and about a month ago I obtained an injury in one of my footy games. I ruptured my ACL, which meant that I required surgery. I am now 3 weeks post surgery and I just feel so lost. I feel like I ... View more

I have been playing sport for as long as I can remember and about a month ago I obtained an injury in one of my footy games. I ruptured my ACL, which meant that I required surgery. I am now 3 weeks post surgery and I just feel so lost. I feel like I can’t do anything and I find it so hard to talk about with everyone. My boyfriend has been my absolute rock during this period but I just don’t want to burden him with these feelings. I just don’t know what to do anymore

emila_03 I don't know any more
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im a school leaver, I left at the end of year 10 because of bullying and "friends throwing me in the trash" (discarding me) I was also bullied a lot about my weight even when I have managed to maintain that weight for 2 years, at the end of year 9 a ... View more

im a school leaver, I left at the end of year 10 because of bullying and "friends throwing me in the trash" (discarding me) I was also bullied a lot about my weight even when I have managed to maintain that weight for 2 years, at the end of year 9 a boy called me a hippo and made big belly hand motions, after that I left school that day only 10 mins into class, ever since then I was never concerned with my weight and how I look now and all the negative emotions and feelings settle in. I got bullied for my weight even more in year 10 including people starting rumour of me being lesbian (not saying anything bad, its just upsetting when people call you something your not and make a big deal about it). at the end of year 10 I left and am now in tafe doing childcare, I'm only 1 semester in and now I just don't know anymore, I feel empty and lonely, I no longer feel happy and cry everyday also having an emotional breakdown at my job the other day I had to leave and go home, I believe I'm also stressed from all the assignments (5 assignments due in same week) but I don't know how to identify it. I also don't have a free day to myself anymore 5 days tafe then weekends are work. iv tried to talk to my mum about it but she don't really listen saying its "adult life". I don't know what to do anymore. has anyone ever felt like this?

Bombastus I don't know what to do, struggling to try and stop hoping I die.
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I am a 32 year old male, 33 tomorrow. I am going to spend my birthday alone, as I spend most days. I work full time 5 days a week, and every second Saturday. I am suffering from extreme loneliness, I do not have a single person I would call my friend... View more

I am a 32 year old male, 33 tomorrow. I am going to spend my birthday alone, as I spend most days. I work full time 5 days a week, and every second Saturday. I am suffering from extreme loneliness, I do not have a single person I would call my friend, even co-workers behave more like adversaries or bullies even threatened to kill me (jokingly I think). I have no family to spend time with either, they are either disinterested, busy or contribute to negative mental health. I am really struggling to navigate what it is to be entirely alone as an adult, I don't really know how to enjoy anything because my depression and loneliness takes up the majority of my mind while I'm trying to be present.

Lost_Alone Feel like I’m always wrong
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I feel like I’m trying to constantly accept and or validate how others feel and to help them. My own thoughts and feelings are often challenged or feel like they are being dismissed as less important. I know I’m not always right but surely I’m not al... View more

I feel like I’m trying to constantly accept and or validate how others feel and to help them. My own thoughts and feelings are often challenged or feel like they are being dismissed as less important. I know I’m not always right but surely I’m not always wrong either. When I try to share my feelings or thoughts about how im coping ir my concerns about issues I often get I'm too controlling or judgemental ir that other people have much worse. Even my partner says that mental health stuff is just a form of spontaneous nonsense or he says that even with all of his challenges in life he’s never felt that way and that I should just think about all I have to be grateful for. Which I know has a place but….I still feel. he constantly rants on about negatives and I don’t feel supported emotionally or trying to help my children emotionally. My youngest has spent 2 nights in a mental health ward and I feel like lots of it is my fault because I don’t approve of some of her friends - I don’t see them as being a positive influence in her life and worry that they are leading her into a troubled life…which is kind of where we are now. I don’t want her to have to go through this but I am powerless.

Skylar feeling numb or stuck?
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I don't know how I am going to explain this so it makes sense to read but I'll try.I have been feeling very plain and flat lately, I do suffer from extreme anxiety and depression and I am in tough with a psychologist on a regular basis to discuss a l... View more

I don't know how I am going to explain this so it makes sense to read but I'll try.I have been feeling very plain and flat lately, I do suffer from extreme anxiety and depression and I am in tough with a psychologist on a regular basis to discuss a lot of things. But recently I have just had this feeling of nothingness, like I sit in my room and will binge watch movies, or TV and I laugh and really enjoy them, I laugh and make jokes with family and co-workers all day long, but personally I don't feel anything at all. I have always been a sensitive person, too much so, I am a sympathy cryer and I stress about everything very easily but lately when people around me have been having a hard time or struggling I have been struggling to connect or even care about their problems, I try to fake it and do what I can to talk to them but I feel I am not a great help because I am genuinely struggling to connect with them or with anyone. I occasionally feel random moments of discomfort, and on high alert for no reason, like I feel a shiver go through my body as if my blood has run cold, and then nothing. Usually I am pretty good at determining my issues and I know what to do to fix them, but I can't quite get a grasp of this flat feeling.

Nothing Left I’m lonely and lost and close to giving up completely
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I had an episode of major depression and anxiety almost 4 years ago. Fought on for 18 months before the family had enough and the marriage ended. Divorce going through now. I’m 51. I’ve lost a lucrative career and my home, my grown up sons hate me an... View more

I had an episode of major depression and anxiety almost 4 years ago. Fought on for 18 months before the family had enough and the marriage ended. Divorce going through now. I’m 51. I’ve lost a lucrative career and my home, my grown up sons hate me and won’t speak to me. I have no friends at all and no family in Australia. I literally go to my new crap paid job or sit at home with my cat. I never go out or do anything. My meds keep stuff in check to a point but I’m constantly sad and lonely. I wish I was still with my wife but that’s gone, I can’t imagine I’ll ever get someone else and see no point in life now. My self esteem and confidence is zero. I hate myself. What can I do? Right now I’m just existing and I hate life.

JJJ I don't know what to do
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Hi, I'm a second year university student, and recently I've been experiencing a lots of negative emotions that I'm struggling to cope with. The constant anxiety I'm having with my studies is really impacting me day to days. I'm cyring all nights, nea... View more

Hi, I'm a second year university student, and recently I've been experiencing a lots of negative emotions that I'm struggling to cope with. The constant anxiety I'm having with my studies is really impacting me day to days. I'm cyring all nights, nearly everyday. I would be eating and suddenly think of the assignments dueing soon, and immediately lose appetite, with that weird, disguting feeling emerging from my stomach, urging me to continue on study. But when I get to my desk I'd start procrastinating, franctically scrolling through social medias and kpop vids while torturing with the stress of assignments. Every morning I'd wake up and know that I'd need to study but am struggling to even get up off bed. I know I should stop procrastinating and take action immediately but I just can't Things had gotten worse yesterday when I was taking my break from study. Standing on top of the stairs, I had such a strong urge off throwing my self down the stairs so I can get a broken limb as an exemption or a medical condition to apply for an extension. My self destructive thoughts had becoming more and more frequent. But what really confuses(?) Me is that these depressed and anxious moods usually occur during time at school. Like I'd be fine during the holidays, having regular appetite and no trouble falling asleep. But as soon as I get caught up with too much works I'll experience a super strong sense of eagerness of self harming. A few weeks ago I had an instructive thought about crushing myself into the traffic when I was waiting for my bus just to end and take a break I don't want to share this to anyone since I'm sounding psychotic. My sister had a severe case of depression and I don't want to add any more burden to my family. I also fear the efforts to reach out to a psychologist

Herrr Where to start
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sorry, I don't know how to explain or where to start. I know I need to see someone but I'm never kid free or maybe I just to scared I have 3 kids oldest 13 youngest is 2 I live with youngest 2s father sleep in separate rooms because it's his house he... View more

sorry, I don't know how to explain or where to start. I know I need to see someone but I'm never kid free or maybe I just to scared I have 3 kids oldest 13 youngest is 2 I live with youngest 2s father sleep in separate rooms because it's his house he owns it and he was always telling me to get out of his room when I wouldnt give him sex or let him touch me. I just felt after a long day with the kids on me 24/7 I wanted to relax in bed with my partner but not be touched. I do the cooking cleaning of everything inside/out have the kids all day everyday I feel distant from my kids like maybe I envy them idk. I'm cranky all the time partner is always telling me I need anger management. I know I'm depressed if I didn't have my kids or knew of someone I trust to love and care for them I wouldnt be here I think of it everyday. I try to have a day off but partner still calls out to me for help. The other day I stepped back done nothing all day. House was a mess youngest put poo everywhere. I made them sandwiches for dinner, ( lucky because partner just sent them to bed) he didnt even know I fed them. He had the audacity to ask me to vacuum. I do it everyday. I said no ill do it in the morning he got the shits. Everytime I ask to do something he says no one tells him what to do he will do it when he's ready. Fk after reading this shit I can tell I need to leave.

jane_1 supporting someone with OCD
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Hi Beyond Blue community,I am reaching out as i am not sure how to support my partner who has intrusive thoughts OCD. For example, they constantly ruminate over intrusive thoughts or thoughts on whether the way they are feeling is right, if they shou... View more

Hi Beyond Blue community,I am reaching out as i am not sure how to support my partner who has intrusive thoughts OCD. For example, they constantly ruminate over intrusive thoughts or thoughts on whether the way they are feeling is right, if they should be happy in this specific moment and if they aren't, why not. They constantly think about whether their feelings are real or if they are pretending and it makes them very distressed. They have received a diagnosis from a pyschologist but despite this, they question whether they actually have OCD. I wanted to know if anyone has had experience with supporting a partner with OCD and could share how they support them. I would also like to know if anyone with OCD has experienced/experiences this and is willing to share what helps them? Thank you

Guest_53780064 Depression
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For a long time I have been struggling to find my purpose in life, I am a mum and have been since I was 17 although I love my children but I feel lost. For basically my whole life I have been a mother. But who am I outside of that.? I have been strug... View more

For a long time I have been struggling to find my purpose in life, I am a mum and have been since I was 17 although I love my children but I feel lost. For basically my whole life I have been a mother. But who am I outside of that.? I have been struggling a lot lately and I don’t know how to approach that conversation when someone I trust, how do you tell someone that you actually can no longer see into the future, and you are struggling to see the next day every day you wake.