Depression

constantly feeling invalid in my mental health

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i just want to know someone feels the same way and that it doesn't mean i'm truly not allowed to feel this way or talk about it idk. i constantly feel like everyone around me has worse things going on and every time stuff is getting worse for myself ... View more

i just want to know someone feels the same way and that it doesn't mean i'm truly not allowed to feel this way or talk about it idk. i constantly feel like everyone around me has worse things going on and every time stuff is getting worse for myself I'm not justified in it and I'm not depressed enough so I'm just speaking from a privileged point of view and pretending to feel this way while everyone else is ACTUALLY struggling. like i constantly feel like i'm faking being depressed or even faking stuff i've been diagnosed with since i was a child because i don't have certain traits of it or i don't cry enough and i don't harm myself enough ?? does this make any sense

Narcissist and Alcohol

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Hi all,It's been a while since I have posted and things still haven't changed. I have stayed in a rollercoaster of a marriage with a wife who is abusive and narcissistic. She has an alcohol dependency which exacerbates her moods and the mental abuse ... View more

Hi all,It's been a while since I have posted and things still haven't changed. I have stayed in a rollercoaster of a marriage with a wife who is abusive and narcissistic. She has an alcohol dependency which exacerbates her moods and the mental abuse she delivers. Nothing I do is ever good enough and she tells the kids how bad I am as a father and how other dads are better. I stay so my kids don't lose their home which I know is wrong, but it is the reality I have surrendered myself to. My kids have endured their mother's manipulation and abuse for years, and know what she is like and do their best to not agitate her. They are not kids anymore and do stand up for themselves occasionally. To make matters worse my father has brain cancer and has created a bucket list of sorts where he is travelling overseas to see family and friends, not knowing how long he has. My sister is accompanying them incase he has a seizure. They have paid for me to fly to Singapore business class to spend a few days together just my mum, dad and sister. We used to go as a family when I was younger and it means a lot to them and me. This has triggered the abuse to increase ten fold. She tells the kids your dad doesn't love you, he is going away with his real family etc etc. she is trying to push me over the edge, and I do wonder if that is her end goal. I know the answer is to leave her, but I think I am beyond that. Just needed to vent.

Mental curiosity

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Hello Everyone, I have been feeling a certain way for a bit now. Sometimes or most times i will be a calm, peacful and sort of energetic person with everyone around me. I will feel happy and be someone that is really extroverted. But at times, i can ... View more

Hello Everyone, I have been feeling a certain way for a bit now. Sometimes or most times i will be a calm, peacful and sort of energetic person with everyone around me. I will feel happy and be someone that is really extroverted. But at times, i can feel really negative and angry, or just overwhelmingly tired when i havent done anything, resulting in me just not talking with anyone, or being highly unmotivated. I will just have times where i just dont want to talk to anyone. Just sit and watch something, which at times doesnt do much for me either. I just want to sit and do absolutely nothng at all. Just in silence and i dont know, ponder about things. But it seems doing that sort of feeds into the negativity. I work full time and full time study in the engineering fields, while having downtime by going to the gym everyday. I dont necessarily feel burnt out, but i am not sure if what i am feeling is being burnt out. Me turning into someone negative, and imagining all these angry scenarios in my head really messess up my day and makes me into someone that is sometimes unnaproachable. I really want to know and have an idea of what i might have so i can prepare myself and possibly get treatment.

Dealing with end of life as I knew it. Massive changes in my life.

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Hello, The last seven months have been nothing but massive upheaval and changes. I already suffered from anxiety and depression. These changes have made everything worse and I feel so isolated. I went through and currently am still experiencing a med... View more

Hello, The last seven months have been nothing but massive upheaval and changes. I already suffered from anxiety and depression. These changes have made everything worse and I feel so isolated. I went through and currently am still experiencing a medical trauma starting seven months ago. But life still went on whilst I was having to deal with that. I lost my amazing dog due to illness and old age whilst I was having treatment and there was nothing I could physically, mentally or emotionally do for her. I was too unwell to help her. She wasn’t alone. As a family dog. But 15 years and she is just gone and the house is so quiet. She was quite a large dog,so her presence is so noticeably absent in just space alone. And that was only two weeks ago. Then just two weeks later, my family member who has lived with me down my end of the house, moved out. We have spent our childhood together and almost 15 years of our adult lives co-habitating in this space together. Indirectly, we became part of each other’s daily routine by just sounds alone. Even if we didn’t speak directly to each other, we could hear each other living our lives in our rooms. I’d hear their alarms go off in the morning. I could hear them working from home during the day on phone calls and walking up and down the hallway to get coffees or something to eat. At night I could hear them laughing at the tv, taking a shower in the bathroom or even using the toilet spray in the toilet. (The walls are thin in this house). I have become so used to those daily sounds being in my life. I could go to sleep at night comforted by the sounds coming out of the room next door. I felt and have always felt safe living with this sibling being in the next room. And in the space of just 16 hours on the one day, they packed up all their belongings and emptied that room. That morning they lived here. By that night they no longer live here. And they aren’t coming back to live here again. They have called their new place their home verbally. And whilst I am genuinely happy for that sibling to have finally found their own space and independence. It is just another loss too quickly after the last. I don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t know how to see all these spaces empty or once belong to someone else, but now know that they don’t. It is so incredibly sad and overwhelming and I can’t process it fast enough and my depression is getting worse. I feel so isolated. I can’t talk about anything I am feeling with the family members left in this house. I have tried and tried. They are emotionally unavailable and are legitimately unable to have real connection type of conversations. The person I was connected to the most in this house,is the one who moved out. I just don’t know what to do. I have to walk past their empty door everytime I leave my own room. The silence is so prominent. The grief is so raw. I dream about my dog at night. My house used to be full of life and happiness and now it is full of unhappy people and no connection to one another. We can’t have a discussion together. We are all feeling like there is a dark shadow over our house and waiting for the next thing to happen. I am all alone. Being unwell, I can’t leave this space either. I just need someone to talk to or be heard or have a human connection with. I am not dealing with this well. Any changes are hard for me to process and just this year alone, there has been too many massive changes in short succession. Thank you for taking the time to read this or respond.Doors 24

TOO much to deal with. I NEED Advice. I DON'T WANT TO LOSE THIS Girl, & Everything else!!!

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4) On-top of everything. - I have a Helicopter Mother. She's so restricting. When it comes to, constant messages, texting me, or ringing my phone. If she exaggerated nothing, about my personality, and makes it, in relation, to my Misdiagnosed Schizop... View more

4) On-top of everything. - I have a Helicopter Mother. She's so restricting. When it comes to, constant messages, texting me, or ringing my phone. If she exaggerated nothing, about my personality, and makes it, in relation, to my Misdiagnosed Schizophrenia. - My Father. Is a dead beat. He just sits behind the T.V.. I don't have a close relationship with him. He just pays that Bills. The fact his not involved. Is why his a bad parent, but it's also a very amazing thing. When his not caring to be engaged with us, because he doesn't cause problems, to some extent. - Their not logical parents. When it comes to having realistic concern, about my future. - BOTH my Parents, are a contributing factor. To why I can't develop. Their inconsiderate, selfish, manipulative, and they can't lose arguments. They undervalue my intelligence. They have always treated me as a Child. They have low expectations. They speak on my behalf. If I don't want to Work. They abnormalise anything. If I can't keep a routine. My father also. He always went against us. To say. If we can't have pets, because we can't look after ourselves. But then. Years later. He would say. If we want a Pet. When he was trying to reflect it on us. If we're losers, and how we have upsetting lives, with no company.

Things aren't going well

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social withdrawal has been my coping mechanism lately, i dont feel great. fatigue's been bad, ive even been withdrawing from things i used to enjoy which is sad i dont like going out the house knowing i dont feel safe coming off as moody because i wo... View more

social withdrawal has been my coping mechanism lately, i dont feel great. fatigue's been bad, ive even been withdrawing from things i used to enjoy which is sad i dont like going out the house knowing i dont feel safe coming off as moody because i would just brush it off with an "im fine" unless im in a counselling/chaplain session

Help

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Can I hear what you'd do if you were me. I feel like I have exhausted all options to treat my depression. Has anyone ever got better from depression? I really need help i cant function.

TOO much to deal with. I NEED Advice. I DON'T WANT TO LOSE THIS Girl, & Everything else!!!

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I've got so many problems, & concerns. I don't know how to tackle everything, and I'm wanting to have, a mediocre life, & secure my relationship, with this other Girl, but I just, logically, have too issues, & no one suitable in my life, that's the r... View more

I've got so many problems, & concerns. I don't know how to tackle everything, and I'm wanting to have, a mediocre life, & secure my relationship, with this other Girl, but I just, logically, have too issues, & no one suitable in my life, that's the right personalities, who understand, & can provide me, with valuable feedback.1) To go through all the conventional, ordinary problems first. - It's not just how. I'm 31, and I don't have, Payed Work History. I don't want, Entry Job's, like Sales, Factory, Hospitality, or Retail.- I would never want. TAFE, Construction, Manual Labour, Apprenticeships, or even any, Diplomas, or Certificates.- I also never wanted to do University. I don't have a Year 12 VCE, or a needed ATAR. I'm not a Study Personality, also. 2) When it comes to my Driving. I don't have standard, regular ability. I had too many, unprofessional, inconveniences, that didn't allow me. To normally develop. There was many reasons, why I wasn't in a ideal smooth circumstance, for me to easily become optimal. But I at least have, a Licence, a Vehicle, & I've had driving lessons, despite how I'm not driving, for a few years. It's also my parents, their not suitable for me. 3) I'm Misdiagnosed, with Schizophrenia. I've been, mistakenly, wrongly understood. I have been, under involuntary treatment. Since 2012. I have became, a Malpractice-Injustice. When it comes to, how I'm now. Pre Diabetic. I've had a Cholecystectomy, and had my Gallbladder Removed. I had other side effects, but besides that. I now have, Belly Stretch Marks, that I have to live with. This means. I have to comply to. They make me need. - Medical Certificates, to Drive. Every Second Year.- If I need, Occupational Therapist, Off Road, & On Road Assessments, potentially, whenever they ask me.- I have to visit a Psychiatrist. Every 3 Month's, not just every 6 Month's, or Once a Year. It's every 3 month's, which is absurd, especially when I know. I'm wrongly diagnosed, with Schizophrenia. - I have to buy the detrimental drugs, from the Chemist, every Month. When I don't want to be taking any.

Struggling with my mental health

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Hi, I'm an adult woman and I have autism, ocd, and adhd. I've had bad mental health for 1 year and 7 months now. It all started when I lowered my medication by tapering down slowly over a course of months. When I was on the lower dose I got a ocd tho... View more

Hi, I'm an adult woman and I have autism, ocd, and adhd. I've had bad mental health for 1 year and 7 months now. It all started when I lowered my medication by tapering down slowly over a course of months. When I was on the lower dose I got a ocd thought and I got obsessed and then my mental health started deteriorating and spiralling and I hit rock bottom. Then I increased my dose slowly, my mental health has improved since going back. But ever since l've lowered my dose and then increased it, it doesn't feel as effective as it was before, and I don't know why. Most of my obsessive thoughts are about my collectables (my figurines) and my (video games). Whether they are “perfect” or “not perfect” this has been going on for 8 years now. Also, I'm getting treated for my ocd by an ocd trained psychologist, I’m doing exposure therapy and I’m seeing a psychiatrist. My psychiatrist thinks my adhd is making my ocd worse, he thinks by treating both my ocd and that will help my mental health, but so far I notice no improvement. I've been doing a lot of things trying to get better, but I need more help. I don’t want to suffer anymore. Any advice would help thanks.

I don’t know what to do?

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I’m not really sure what to do or where to go from here, but lately I’ve just been feeling really “bleh” all the time. Like I’m stuck at a baseline where life feels mediocre and flat. I still have small moments of happiness or excitement, but they’re... View more

I’m not really sure what to do or where to go from here, but lately I’ve just been feeling really “bleh” all the time. Like I’m stuck at a baseline where life feels mediocre and flat. I still have small moments of happiness or excitement, but they’re very fleeting and I can’t seem to hold onto those feelings for long before I go back to feeling empty, bored or emotionally dull again.I feel exhausted and under-stimulated at work, even though I used to genuinely enjoy my job. It’s like my brain needs more challenge or engagement now. On top of that, I’m currently doing around a 3-hour commute every day which is draining me more than I realised.Another thing that’s been affecting me is that I used to live independently and had my own space, but due to circumstances I had to move into shared living. I think losing that sense of independence and comfort has impacted me emotionally more than I expected.Nothing in my life feels fully aligned right now and I honestly don’t know where to start fixing it or what changes I even need to make. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has felt like this before and what helped you get out of it?

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