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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Crum Felling as if life has no more road
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Im 36 ryr old male how has a partner and 3 young boys living out of town on small property. Everything was as happy as we could be with our youngest child being sick from birth which has caused a lot of stress and worry to us all to then have 2yrs ag... View more

Im 36 ryr old male how has a partner and 3 young boys living out of town on small property. Everything was as happy as we could be with our youngest child being sick from birth which has caused a lot of stress and worry to us all to then have 2yrs ago my nextdoor neighbour/ relative had taken his own life to were l had found him. It was these last 2yrs of trying to keep a family together work 2jobs plus help out my relatives widow had all but brought me to my knee. Untill 2 months ago l found out l have end stage kidney failour. My hole life has been flipped and l have no direction we dont know how long l have left to live and lm scared of my children not having a father to grow up with.I dont know what path to take after the multipul fail surgerys and pain mentaly and physical. I am at the end of my road worthless sick and broken and still trying to hide the pain from my kids. With my life now been every 2day in hospital for treatment. No dignity left. With the feelings of being strong father and husband have been removed. And to alot of you guys out there know this feels like the end of life with no other way out. I need help to see a better future.

Chars2004 I'm finding it hard to keep going.
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Hi, my pronouns are she/her. I'm 20 years old I'm really struggling to keep going with life and especially the how. In primary school I struggled a lot to regulate my emotions because of at the time- undiagnosed autism. There were also a few kids who... View more

Hi, my pronouns are she/her. I'm 20 years old I'm really struggling to keep going with life and especially the how. In primary school I struggled a lot to regulate my emotions because of at the time- undiagnosed autism. There were also a few kids who bullied me for my differences. Anyway long story short after primary school I started to school refuse, And from 14 I never went back to an in person school, I tried to finish high school online a few times but I always freaked out and cancelled it. Anyway I'v been depressed for a long time and have really struggled with pure o ocd and social anxiety as well. Tonight I felt so depressed. It's hard too put into words but I just feel like I failed at life. I have no friends haven't for years. I barley leave my family's home to go out anywhere. I keep trying to find something too study so I can move forward get a job ect. But I feel like I have no passion for anything career wise. I tried to start a photography course and then realize photography was never for me anyway. So then I think about just getting a job but most unskilled ones need you to socialize and customer service and I start panicking around people my age I don't know its so hard . So I feel stuck really stuck. Because I do want to move out and have my own space and eventually have friends and a girlfriend. And find other people to talk to who are also in the LGBTQIA+ community (I'm a lesbian). But it all feels so hard to just be able to do normal things like get a job. I've tried so much therapy but its not working. And just feel like I'm a failure and stuck. The only things besides my family that make me feel anything other then either numb or anxious is my passion for queer stories especially wlw stories, books shows, games etc. When i'm in a story I feel free. But I cant turn that into a job.So I just don't know what to do.If anyone here is/has been in a similar situation and has any advice and/or suggestions it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you( and sorry for the bad grammar never fully learnt it but I'm trying to teah myself)

MEL88 Moving abroad
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I moved overseas 9 months ago for a sporting opportunity for my son and brought my husband and 2 younger kids and my eldest daughter with me. I've been so homesick and my eldest daughter decided to move home after a few months as she missed her life ... View more

I moved overseas 9 months ago for a sporting opportunity for my son and brought my husband and 2 younger kids and my eldest daughter with me. I've been so homesick and my eldest daughter decided to move home after a few months as she missed her life back in NZ. I haven't really coped with this and missing out on her life and achievements and I feel so much guilt. I've been struggling with depression for months now and I contemplate going home everyday I don't like the job I'm doing and am just a miserable person to be around. I know this sounds so selfish as I moved here to support my son but I just can't find peace with being here. I haven't made friends and just feel constantly lonely even though I've got my other children with me. How can I decide to leave and go back home or embrace this opportunity in this country and stop being so sad and miserable.

geelt I'm stuck I don't have control
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For the past week I've been draining myself mentally worrying over nothing. Using my brain power going in circles. I just want to stop and scream in frustration that nothing is going well. I'm one setback away from just losing it.Everything is a dist... View more

For the past week I've been draining myself mentally worrying over nothing. Using my brain power going in circles. I just want to stop and scream in frustration that nothing is going well. I'm one setback away from just losing it.Everything is a distraction.So much going in circles. I don't know what I want to do career wise so I'm trying to find entry level work. I'm too stuck to go study. I want something to at least get me out of this cycle of not doing anything. Something to get me out of the house away from home something to commit to. I can't find any work. My employment service is fed up with me always not getting the job after interviews.I'm being treated like an idiot and I hate it, but I can't refute because I'm an idiot. They're asking me why I want to work in retail, because they keep giving me retail jobs to apply for. Because entry level retail is all I can do. Because I keep telling them I'm not well enough mentally to handle a job and want to focus on my mental health so they tell me to apply for retail jobs. Then after not being able to find retail work they say why do you want to do retail when you aren't suited for retail, you should think about what you want to do, go back to study. I don't blame the employers I go to for interviews. Who would want to hire a disheveled mess of a candidate who is trying not to break down someone who has no confidence and is desperate with no meaningful experience. Best case is I find a job I don't like but I have to suck it up because its the best I'm going to get. Then after doing a job I cant stand I have to go home to a place I cant stand with people I cant stand. People who make me deal with their problems and if i say no they make more problems. And if I rty to escape they make more problems. I wish I had a healthy family. I wish I had a healthy home life but everyone hates eachother and no one can communicate with eachother no one is willing to change. I'm spending every day not being able to think properly getting pushed around by everyone. I'm trying strategies I've learnt but they dont work. I try my best not to lose it and reframe my thoughts and stay grounded. It doesnt work. I try to stay in the moment but the present just makes me mad. I try not to dwell on the past, try to rationalise my thoughts try to understand why I'm thinking the way I am but it doesnt go anywhere. I try waking up every morning to go for a walk then it rains. I try to go outside the birds my sibling keeps feeding attack me. I tell him to stop feeding birds so they get dependant on him and he starts raising bugs to feed them. Now theyre exhausting themselves by attacking their reflections and pooping everywhere.I go on a diet to lose weight and my dad keeps buying fatty meat and snacks and if I dont eat it he will get mad and start making life miserable because no one loves him. I hate cooking steaks. I hate being called master chef by my mum. communication doesnt work for those who cant communicate. In the end I havent tried enough and its my fault. I have to stop trying to fix things. I have to wait for everything to crumble and collapse so i can escape the rubble and move on with life.

geelt Feeling overwhelmed and lost with life
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Lots of things are happening at once and I just need an outlet to vent my emotions. My head is full of useless unnecessary thoughts and worries that I keep making up for myself. I can start a new activity or hobby only for me to hyper-fixate and get ... View more

Lots of things are happening at once and I just need an outlet to vent my emotions. My head is full of useless unnecessary thoughts and worries that I keep making up for myself. I can start a new activity or hobby only for me to hyper-fixate and get myself burnt out and wasting a lot of time and money that I really shouldn't be spending. I overthink things and that affects my enjoyment of the activities I do. Thinking and worrying about buying things to do or thinking about doing things but when I get to doing things I start loathing it. I have no impulse control and stress over money when its just a dollar wasting so much brain power over nothing. No discipline. Currently on Job Seeker applying for work with low qualification/ no education needed. I decided that I'm not going to try going back to University because it doesn't feel worthwhile, but also realized how limiting employment opportunities are. Having to rely on public transport with transit taking 1-2 hours at worst to the closest available work. I've recently begun volunteering at a 2nd hand shop as well just to get out the house and interact with people. I worry about having no time to do things I enjoy if I start doing paid work which is contrasted by not enjoying the things I do for enjoyment or overthinking and stressing over small details. I haven't driven in a year and only have my Ls. Stressing and loathing about it wont help and it feels exhausting trying to ask help from my parents. Paranoid about crashing the car and I've been overthinking when going for walks near/crossing the road when the cars are nowhere near me but the hesitation makes worry and is affecting my alertness. I've even begun worrying when going up escalators even though the fear is unreasonable. A lot of hesitation and a lack of confidence with everything I do. The support groups I've been going to so I can take my mind off things have had their funding cut so they've been changed to fortnightly and the counselor I've been going to won't be able to see me for a couple months. I don't know what I want to do long term so I'm trying to change my mindset. Its fine to not make a lot of money, its fine to keep living at home with my parents, its fine not to accomplish anything grand and have a simple life. I have lots of ideas and thoughts of things to do but never follow through and just wallow in self pity and feeling restricted and limited in what I can do having to compromise I dont know

Guest_19133201 Apps
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Sorry but this would be the hardest app for mental health / anxiety/depression there's got to be a easier way to reach out to there's instead of typing

Sorry but this would be the hardest app for mental health / anxiety/depression there's got to be a easier way to reach out to there's instead of typing

Earth Girl Getting stereotyped
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So this is a bit complicated because sometimes I am straight and other times I am a bit on the bisexual side? It took me a long time to figure out if I was straight or bisexual because... it changes? Well, when I say bisexual, curious might be a bett... View more

So this is a bit complicated because sometimes I am straight and other times I am a bit on the bisexual side? It took me a long time to figure out if I was straight or bisexual because... it changes? Well, when I say bisexual, curious might be a better word because I think about women when I have "particular alone time", but I don't actually want to have sex with them? And when I feel attraction to other women when in person, it's only romantic attraction where as when I have attraction to men, it's sexual attraction as well. I don't even want to touch other women when I have attraction to them, I just... I don't know? So it's really confusing. My sister told me that it's very common for girls to get girl crushes which I think might be what's going on with me. I asked her if she gets girl crushes and she said "Yeah! I"m like 'Ohhh, she's pretty." I still don't know what exactly a girl crush is though. Is that when you have some attraction to another girl, but don't actually want to touch them irl? Because that's what happens to me. Anyway, I was wondering what I should do about getting stereotyped for being curious and if there's a way I can even stop being curious because I find it easier when I'm straight and not a bit on the bi side. (I don't have a problem with other people being bi, I just want to go back to being completely straight and not having moments of curiosity because it's awkward and it makes other people feel awkward as well). Being straight is just easier for me personally. People say that since I am bi that it makes me masculine which I don't identify with. Bi girls and lesbians can be feminine and straight girls can be tomboys. I identify as feminine even if I have moments of curiosity.

vulnerable Seeking Friends, support, company and encouragement in SE QLD.
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I've been through the ringer as have many of the people here writing and reading these posts. I'm a single Dad with 50/50 care of two kids I'm aged 50 and in spite of living in Brisbane for almost 15 years I've never developed a social life especiall... View more

I've been through the ringer as have many of the people here writing and reading these posts. I'm a single Dad with 50/50 care of two kids I'm aged 50 and in spite of living in Brisbane for almost 15 years I've never developed a social life especially one with mates to hang out with and talk to when life gets hard. I feel like many of my attempts to break free of self sacrificing behaviours fail simply because I lack support and the small victories create a false sense of security that ultimately means i slip back to old habits/patterns etc. I really hope someone reading this has some insight into how I can form new friendships and break free of the isolation I feel. K

Guest_10024 Tension / Cervagenic Headaches
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Hi everyone , I’m hear to talk about my Chronic tension headaches / Cervagenic headaches 28 yr old male . Not really sure on which one it is . I’ll try make the story as short as possible , pretty much mid Covid 4-5 years ago I randomly woke up with ... View more

Hi everyone , I’m hear to talk about my Chronic tension headaches / Cervagenic headaches 28 yr old male . Not really sure on which one it is . I’ll try make the story as short as possible , pretty much mid Covid 4-5 years ago I randomly woke up with a headache and my thought was I had Covid and turns out I didn’t , so time went on and they continued to stay - 4-5 years later I still have them . These headaches have put me in such a bad place in my life , I’ve been in a psychiatric hospital twice due to them and I’ve been on several medications and plenty of different pain relievers . I’ve also had mris and ct scans and it all shows normal . I’ve seen naturopaths , neurologists , headache clinics . Chiropractor . Psychiatrist doctors and I’ve also had Botox , I currently take medication at night and I’m suffering with bad insomnia and still chronic tension headaches , I also recently saw a new neurologist and in the two appointments I had with him he’s come to the conclusion that it’s just stress ! I understand that stress can contribute to chronic headaches but I’m still yet to believe that’s why I have them this bad , can any recommend what I do next . I have a feeling they are steaming from my spine/ neck .. I really can’t go on living like this. I have a 5 year old daughter and partner and I just want to a normal person . The tension headaches leave me with very tense traps and sore neck to pain stemming around my head like a vice , I also am unable to work due to the pain as they are pretty much here every single day . I have a bony change to my c5 in my neck and decreased disc spaces to my lower back , Any help or peoples story’s would help a lot. I just don’t know what to do Tia

Allosaurus Depressed partner says they don’t love me
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My partner was diagnosed with severe depression 6 years ago. 2 years ago they started antidepressants, they’re taking the highest dose possible.We have been married 10+ years. A week ago told me they didn’t love me anymore, and hadn’t had feelings fo... View more

My partner was diagnosed with severe depression 6 years ago. 2 years ago they started antidepressants, they’re taking the highest dose possible.We have been married 10+ years. A week ago told me they didn’t love me anymore, and hadn’t had feelings for me for over a year. They don’t know if it’s the drugs affecting them or if they’ve had a genuine change of heart but they’ve done a good job of faking it - I was blindsided.Folks with depression or partners of people with depression, has this happened to you? If it’s just the drugs messing with my partner’s head, is there any hope for us?I know weaning or changing meds is a long road. I want to fight for my marriage and the person I married but I am also angry and upset at the way my life has been turned inside out.