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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Struggling Struggling with life
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Tired of feeling not supported by my peers and community. Working in environments that just suck the life out of you is draining. Some of the worst working toxic environments that provide the most important services. Poor inhouse counseling services ... View more

Tired of feeling not supported by my peers and community. Working in environments that just suck the life out of you is draining. Some of the worst working toxic environments that provide the most important services. Poor inhouse counseling services and when the help needs help you know things are going to collapse. Im done with being the one feeling like I have to save everyone.

Numb Help
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I've been blessed with children and grandchildren. Secure in my home and enough to live by comfortably. So why is it, everyday, I have a swelling of emotions churning inside of me. I constantly hold back tears. Nothing excites me, as constant disappo... View more

I've been blessed with children and grandchildren. Secure in my home and enough to live by comfortably. So why is it, everyday, I have a swelling of emotions churning inside of me. I constantly hold back tears. Nothing excites me, as constant disappointments has seen never to expect. My past wrongs have caught up with me. My phone hardly rings. I've no friends. No life. I am so lost. I hardly see my grandchildren. Estranged from my siblings. I want so badly so so badly to move forward. To just do. But I am ineffective to action. I am broken. I've nothing to look forward to. I am not suicidal, although that thought is my only companion. And I wish everyday was my last. I'll go seek professional help, in the meantime, I would truly appreciate to hear from anyone willing to share how they clawed their way out of severe depression. It's just a dark place to be. thank you

L31GH Loosing my family
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I got married in January but been with my wide/partner for 7 years. We get on so well when we get on, we hold hands/kiss/spend every moment together, but when we don't its awful. We go all out in arguments and say the most hateful and hurtful things ... View more

I got married in January but been with my wide/partner for 7 years. We get on so well when we get on, we hold hands/kiss/spend every moment together, but when we don't its awful. We go all out in arguments and say the most hateful and hurtful things we can to upset each other. My wife is currently going through menopause and is struggling with the changes and I'm trying to accommodate that but its so difficult. No way am I putting that as the reason for us falling out but its a factor. Last night we screamed the house down over our daughter (my step daughter). My wife keeps everything from me regarding what's going on, last week I found a vape and thrown it out, only to find my wife went and brought her a new one ( she is 15). Last night I saw my wife texting her that she knows she is smoking weed and when i questioned it, my wife went mad that I was looking at her texts. She screamed at me and told me my kids hate me and that she hates me and never should of married me and then after I had walked away she followed and i started to argue back calling her a liar etc. In the end she went to a different room and I stayed in bed. This morning it started again and I lost my temper and thrown my coffee cup against the wall near where she was. This was the end and now she is saying she is leaving me, the kids hate me and wont talk to me and that I will left alone with nothing. To be honest she is right, without her I have nothing in my life, no family, no friends, only work. I've lost everything due to trying to be part of my daughter life and be part of my wife's life. I have suffered from depression before when I got divorced years ago and tried to take my own life, No i feel like doing it again, the pain and the struggle I went through is to much to face again. Mi lost lonely and ruined everything

Lozzy 12 years of bad luck that isn’t ending
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I have never done anything like this before, I am a very private person and keep my struggles to myself. The fake smile and pretending to be fine are an everyday thing for me but right now I am feeling like I can’t go on.It all started 12 years ago w... View more

I have never done anything like this before, I am a very private person and keep my struggles to myself. The fake smile and pretending to be fine are an everyday thing for me but right now I am feeling like I can’t go on.It all started 12 years ago when my 3rd child was born, my husband had started drinking every night and he had become extremely abusive. Not physically but verbally to start with and only to me, never to my children. He would tell me things that he knew would deeply hurt me for no apparent reasons, things like a deceased family member that he had never met would be ashamed of me and that my children hated me. Even once telling me my youngest child should never have been born.My 2 eldest children eventually went to live with their father because they couldn’t take it anymore leaving me and my youngest child alone with my husband. Things got extremely worse, he would never be able to remember anything the next day and even when I recorded the abuse and played it back to him he would apologise saying he couldn’t even recognise his own voice in the recording. I fell into a deep depression, not being able to get out of bed and that made him angry. Finally I built up the courage to leave him. I took my then 9 years old and we would couch surf between family members and camp in a tent till we finally found a home 6 months later. Our first home was sold after only 6 months of us renting it so we had to relocate. Our second home had many problems and we were instructed by the real estate that we would be better off leaving. During our second home renting I had a seriously bad car accident and due to the insurance company being slow I was house bound with no vehicle for 5 months, then when I finally got another car I had nothing but mechanical issues.Our 3rd house was full of mould and water damage but we did our best to make it a home and not complain as houses here are hard to find. We have no working oven and no heating but we now have a reliable car, a roof over our head and each other. Life was starting to look okay.Then two weeks ago I received an email saying this property had been sold and my lease would not be renewed. After making a dump into a clean liveable home we now have 10 weeks to find somewhere to live and being that my child is autistic, moving out of this area is not an option. My now ex husband has found out we will be homeless again and is now putting pressure on me and our child to move back in with him, he claims he has changed but I know he still drinks every day and going back to him means I will lose my independence and I will be totally dependent on him financially. On top of that I just can’t forgive him for what he put me through.I am lost with no idea what to do. Every house I have applied for has been rejected and I don’t see a light at the end of this bad luck tunnel.

Guest_25599980 I'm so done with everything
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I'm just so done, every year gets worse and worse. This year, my dad got into a car crash that could have killed him, luckily it didn't. My 14yr old sister tried to kill herself, came out to me that she smokes cigarettes and a plethora of other thing... View more

I'm just so done, every year gets worse and worse. This year, my dad got into a car crash that could have killed him, luckily it didn't. My 14yr old sister tried to kill herself, came out to me that she smokes cigarettes and a plethora of other things, then ran away from home(I don't live with her). Then I got into a big fight with my bio mum about how she was treating my sister, her daughter, calling her selfish and a horrible person using my sisters animal against her to get her back home. Which worked because she is living with them again. That fight ended up with my mother and little brother giving me the silent treatment, they didn't talk to me for about 3 months maybe. All this happened and then the parent I live with(my offset parents, I ran away at 16 and I am 21 now) got mad at me because I didn't clean for one day out of the entire year and she lost it at me, she started to yell at me and then threw a brush at me. Nothing I say or do will make her happy. She always threatens to kick me out and stuff like that. I don't really have anywhere to go or any money. They did talk to me abt saving but this last month has been really expensive, I had my bffs birthday and my own as well as capricon. Also forgot to mention I study a bachelor full-time and work casual while having to basically act as a full-time cleaner and do extra stuff for my bffs sister. I think they are gonna kick me out, im just so tired.. I want to fall asleep and never wake up.

PugPug Late Night Thoughtstream / Poem
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Pre warning, some heavy imagery. I am doing okay, just feeling incredibly numb the last 6 months. Here's a thought stream from last night. ~~~ My right hand stings, pain lingering from the tip of my fingers toward my palm. I have slapped myself an in... View more

Pre warning, some heavy imagery. I am doing okay, just feeling incredibly numb the last 6 months. Here's a thought stream from last night. ~~~ My right hand stings, pain lingering from the tip of my fingers toward my palm. I have slapped myself an inumerable amount of times in the last hour in an attempt to stop myself from crying. To focus on a stinging sensation that wasn't my heart. I look at my reflection. My eyes are puffy from crying, my skin red and hot. I notice I'm subconsciously avoiding my reflection. My own eyes wander over my face like a curious stranger. I wonder why now. Why is now the time to linger in my head. The last few weeks have been manageable. I haven't cried once. Haven't felt sad. Or felt much of anything. I haven't felt much joy but it's okay because I haven't felt any sadness. But alas, I finished the rest of my weed last night. My vape died this morning. My ex-girlfriend has been away for three weeks and she will be back within a day. I picture her face, I then picture wanting to smoke, followed by wanting to vape, followed by wanting to doom scroll, followed by what I actually do, which is staring at my palms for an hour. It all hits me at once. I see her again. I picture her face and before I know it, I am nothing but a stream for my tears to flow across. I am nothing except for the feelings I have right now. The past few weeks I haven't felt joy. Now all I feel is sadness. My skin crawls, my fingers dig, my teeth clench and my chest heaves in and out with every exacerbated breath. I choke out a scream, as my hands are drenched in tears and snot. I don't want anyone to see me like this. Not even myself. So I begin to tear down my mirrors. Nothing to see here, nothing to see. I put weight down on my eyelid with my pointer finger. I drag my eyelid down slowly, I don't blink, I don't cry, I don't even gasp. I begin to disassemble the work I put into myself over the years. My eyes first. Then I begin putting my hands over my mouth. My mother's beautiful craftsmanship. I tear down years of rituals and years of regrets. I destroy who I am from within, I remove the bad, the good and all the inbetween. I am exhausted from crying. I am sick of disappearing. I am finished talking, you won't get a word out of me anymore.

Guest_44518917 Depressed
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I am writing this because I find it difficult to explain everything I have experienced verbally. There have been so many events over the years that I feel I have carried a lot of pain without having enough opportunity to properly process it. I want m... View more

I am writing this because I find it difficult to explain everything I have experienced verbally. There have been so many events over the years that I feel I have carried a lot of pain without having enough opportunity to properly process it. I want my counsellor to understand the history behind how I am feeling now, including my IVF journey, pregnancy losses, the loss of my son, my medical complications, my recent premature birth and NICU experience, and the difficulties I have experienced in my marriage.

Guest_65917790 This is prolly really stupid
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Ive grown up with ADHD my entire life, and I know how my brain works, but this one leader at you youths apparently thinks she knows it better. Okay, so last week at youth group they started a rule to turn off your phone during small groups. I told he... View more

Ive grown up with ADHD my entire life, and I know how my brain works, but this one leader at you youths apparently thinks she knows it better. Okay, so last week at youth group they started a rule to turn off your phone during small groups. I told her that I need it to focus (because my mind had been yelling that night, so I was sketching on Ibis while listening) she said no no put it down, I can't leave you off the rule of everyone will do it. Okay yeah, but I have a disability sooo. Anyways I told her sorry that she feels it but with my ADHD ive tried other fidgets and this so far is the bestest one that works, being on my phone held be be able to actually process words instead of hear them and she starts saying that it's now how ADHD works? Girl, I'm the one who grew up with this. I told here there are different types of ADHD she says yeah but ADHD doesn't work that way... do you have my mind girl. Anyways this week I go again, I'm just going to keep the light dull and play subway surfers as I listen so I can focus, she again says to turn off the phone, but ive been having a bad night, my brain is overwhelmed, so I out on my headphones, a thing ive told them means I'm overstimulated, and she just keeps telling me to turn off my phone then gets upset that I'm ignoring her so I had to sit outside the youth Hall. I'm sorry this just really annoyed me, I have no clue how to get the message through to her that my phone is the only thing Ive found so far that makes me actually able to process words, like before with a different thing, yeah I hear but I don't understand, but with my phone I can process, understand, and respond, especially at youth with small groups and the long videos

Gameoveraus PTSD and other things have pushed me beyond breaking point numerous times
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Just a quick summary at the start of last year i was in a nervous breakdown from work stress, i fell asleep or blacked out while driving and caused a 5 car 1 truck pileup on a major highway, I was the only one injured tho from what i know. I have no ... View more

Just a quick summary at the start of last year i was in a nervous breakdown from work stress, i fell asleep or blacked out while driving and caused a 5 car 1 truck pileup on a major highway, I was the only one injured tho from what i know. I have no recollection of the actual crash or immediately after.Go forward a month i started getting pain in my shoulders, spine and ended up in hospital a bit later with bi-lateral shoulder fractures/dislocations and a false epilesy diagnosis which got my license revoked. Spent 5 weeks in hospital with basically no independence, while in there besides the torture of not being able to sleep, and the horrific conditions the nursing staff and patients had to endure my father passed away 3 days before my shoulder surgeries, i never got to say goodbye abnd then i was in there for another 2 weeks after inc. the funeral i went to for the day.I got kicked out of hospital at the 5 week mark as i was taking up a bed, and was an incovenience with all my grieving and need for constant pain meds.Come home and the next few months i slowly started to turn it around then one of my shoulders gave out again, due to them botching the surgery so i had to have yet another surgery (a replacement this time) and another week in hospital in the same ward, same conditions once again they botched part of the surgery leaving me with aeonemia and my good shoulder got a small fracture again from having to be the bearer while the other was incapacitated again. One of our pets had to be put down 6 weeks later and then work fired me Xmas week for being off for so long (20yrs of service and the higher ups didn't give a shit, i wasn't even being payed for some of it i was using up all my ammassed leave not even a send off at the xmas partyThis whole time the medical system wasn't telling me anything regarding the Epilepsy, or other diagnosis's they wouldn't even rescan or tell my GP, until i checked myself into a mental ward in February this year on the verge of suicide then i got answers of Oops we made a mistake but we aren't going to retest to make sure and your chronic pain, deal with it qet get a sedintary jobThe PTSD i was doing great headways with therapy but there's only so much can be said before you are just going over the same things again and again. Nothing can change what happened.Now im heading back to that dark place again, hate my body (partly a different story), hate this situation, wake up every morning in agony, can't seem to get a job and every step forward is hit with a barragfe of obstacles and people who don't care to do there job or if they do care they can't do anything about it

Guest_22335196 Hi
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After giving birth, why day by day I feel so stress and nobody care about me.I don’t know how to decribe the feeling , I feel so down

After giving birth, why day by day I feel so stress and nobody care about me.I don’t know how to decribe the feeling , I feel so down

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