NEW YEARS EVE..ARE YOU HAVING A QUIET OR BUSY ONE?

[blondguy]

Hi Everyone!

• How will you be spending your time this Christmas and/or New Years Eve?
• With family...friends..relatives....partner?
• If you are spending this festive season alone...your thoughts are just as valued and appreciated!
• Readers of the forums can post too! Joining the Beyond Blue forums is easy and your thoughts are very welcome 🙂

my kindest wishes for the season

Paul

[CMF]

Hi ER & everyone reading,

Firstly ER, best of luck with your business venture. I truly hope it comes to fruition & brings you much happiness & success.

2024...I want to become the strong independent person I was 5 years ago. I still am that person but I feel sadness at times that my relationship ended. We also will have some changes to the structure of department I work in. It will very possibly create opportunities for leadership roles & I'm would love to move into this role. Alternatively I'm hoping that i cam move into a different role in the future so id like to get a foot in the door there. Ive already planted the seed & apparently i am on the radar. The company head of department has told me there will be opportunities this year. He was working out of our office for 6 months last year & sat in my area so he knows exactly what I'm capable.  We got along really well. We think alike, we read people the same. Maybe that was The Universe putting us to work together . 

I also need to think about myself more. Almost be a little selfish. I give so much to others & I get taken for granted.  I want to learn to value my worth & not let others take advantage of me.  I don't want to be available just for the convenience of others. There needs to be mutual respect.  That's the tough one for me cos the minute I see good in someone I disregard the red flags. I did consider cutting off my ex partner * not carrying old baggainto the new year but we do get along well & he does help me with things at times. I just feel it can be one sided & when he can't be bothered he all excuses.  I know this well. This is a big challenge for me.

2024 is a year of growth & self development for me.  Focus on my goals which I know I'm good at.

CMF 🙏

[Eagle Ray]

Dear CMF,

That sounds positive in relation to your job. I really hope the right opportunities open up for you and you can advance your career path. It is good to be recognised for your skills and experience and it sounds like you’ve done the right things in showing your interest as well as your abilities in relation to new opportunities. It can be really good getting that recognition and it keeps work interesting too as you keep building new skills and get new experiences in a different role.

I relate to what you say about not seeing the red flags when you see the good in someone. I have done that many times. I’m starting to learn to hear the intuitive voice that is telling me when there’s something not quite right about a person or situation, whereas before I’d just overlook that intuitive voice and assume the best in people, only to get taken advantage of. So I really get the importance of learning to prioritise yourself. It sounds like 2024 can really be for you in multiple ways. I think when we do learn to prioritise our own needs we start to attract people who respect us more including our boundaries while deflecting more the people who may tend to take advantage of us. So I hope many good things come your way this year CMF 🙏

Very best wishes,

ER

[randomxx]

Gdaay Paul thx for that and the same back at you.

Yeah suppose l have been in and out round here awhile now ldk , l like the people you know.  Other forums l've been in people have been so hard almost cold in their ways and attitudes, views. l often think is this real , is this what Australians are thee days , yaknow.

Here , people still have soul, compassion, understanding, humanity, the important stuff.

But yeah the lay out, man, ldk. l do often wish we could email ea other privately l mean if it has a block thing that'd still be safe. Some forums also have this people and post block thing too though where that person can't and won't even be able to see any of the others posts any more either,  if that's needed to so that's an extra safety thing again there too. But of course it's also understandable too that they don't allow emailing l get that butttt.

But yeah , finding things isn't easy sometimes l'll scan and scan but other times a notification comes in for that thread and l'll refind it clicking that.

Personally l can never quite pin down what's different about bb that makes it kind of weird in getting about here but it can be a tricky one for sure.

Cheers mate.

[blondguy]

Thankyou Country Music Festival (and a BIG WAVE to ER..KItty...and RX and New posters always)

In 2024...I would like...

* to have someone I could spend some time with, for companionship 

* to drive to Kilcunda and take some wizz bang ocean photographs with my Nikon D7200...its only 40minutes         from langwarrin yet the agoraphobia can make it difficult unfortunately...yet I wont give up! 

* to provide effective counsel to new/existing members when I can

* to make sure my 93 year old mum (who still lives at home) is as comfortable as possible 

Great question CMF and thankyou heaps!

Paul

CC Online Volunteer

[blondguy]

Hey RX

you are more than welcome RX. You have helped so many people on the forums despite your own situation.

I hope you can stay tuned on this thread as I would really like to respond to your recent post. 

I forgot RX...are you a Ford or Holden fan? Not that its important lol...just asking

you Rock RX

Paul

[Eagle Ray]

Dear Paul (and wave to Everyone),

 I hope all those things get fulfilled for you this year.

 I imagine a companion may help with the agoraphobia in getting out to do the photography. I am a mad keen photographer and once I’m doing it I’m completely absorbed in that world and everything else seems to fall away. I wonder if knowing you are going to be in that activity you enjoy and get absorbed in it may help alleviate the agoraphobia enough to get out? I’ve not experienced agoraphobia but my mum had it and I could see how challenging it can be. Do you like to be there at the sunrise or sunset times? I find the light can be beautiful then and it can be quite captivating.

It’s wonderful your 93 year old mum is still in her own home. My 87 year old neighbour is still at home, climbs stairs easily and drives a 3 hour round trip to visit family in a neighbouring town. I’m hoping to be that good at that age!

May you have a fulfilling year of meaningful connections and enjoyment!

Wishing you the very best,

Eagle Ray

[Fiatlux]

Paul, I hope you get to Kilcunda.

I haven’t actually been there myself but I have passed it on the way to Inverloch or veered off the Highway to Phillip Island or San Remo instead. It is beautiful coastline out there.

Summer hasn’t actually started yet but I still haven’t left my own suburb yet. 

[randomxx]

Same Paul and too kind mate but thx again tbh tho , l don't do much here but like yourself if l see something l feel strongly about and may be able to offer at least something well.

Hope you go to though and also take those photographs. You know l had that for a few yrs myself, couldn't even go up the shop.

Right now though l'm stuck in Wagga Wagga 700k from home with car problems on my way home from gf's in Sydney soooo, there ya go my friend, you can do it too, gets easier.

All the best.

rx

[mmMekitty]

Hi Paul,

I like the list you wrote of things you would like for 2024.

I'd love to get you out with your marvelous camera to some beautiful scenery.

It's great you have a goal in mind. Maybe beginning a bit closer to home, though. 

try stepping outside & taking a picture. A pretty plant, a bird, I dunno, a car going by.

Next, walk as far as you can from there towards your front gate, & take another or a few more pictures as you go.

If that's all for one day, fine. If you think you can go further out, like taking a walk up the road, then go for it.

If not, there is tomorrow. One more step, maybe another. See how you feel.

Maybe by next week you can be getting in your car, driving to a local park, to take some pictures, taking some lunch with to have while you are there.

Slowly, by challenging yourself to go that little bit further, I expect you can achieve your goal. By pausing, settling, then a little more...remember, when the anxiety rises, pause to settle & breathe (do you know the way to breathe to help calm yourself?) I'm sure you can.

What do you think?

Hugzies

mmMekitty

[blondguy]

Hey Hey Everyone! (readers/new members are always welcome!)

Hey Fiatlux ....Thankyou and you are spot on! Just after the Phillip Island turn off. Its no surfers paradise yet it is a beautiful 'Raw' ocean beach...big sand dunes...big swell (not for swimming at all) and a peaceful place! Im glad Im not the only only one that hasnt left their suburb yet....Thankyou for understanding 😀

Hey RX....Thanks heaps for understanding about driving too far from the house RX! I know you have been doing it hard. I hope you and your daughter are doing well.....Ive never had a post from anyone while they have been stuck 700klms with car issues RX!! How long did it take you to get your car back on the road? 

Your point is appreciated re the distance away from home and especially with a car that wont budge!!  Very gutsy effort there RX...Nice1 

Hey Kitty....Thankyou for your wonderful post...Excellent. I can leave the house and drive without an issue. Its the old anxiety feelings coming back after my girlfriend passed away in Sept 2022. And I have started doing macro photography at home during the covid lockdowns....as you mentioned in your post. Agoraphobia is about being hesitant to leave our home. Yet that is usually for sufferers who experience acute anxiety...yet you are correct as even though I can leave my home....I will make a serious effort (with my coping mechanisms) to get my butt down there with my Nikon D7200 😀 Thankyou for your care and understanding Kitty!

Hey Eagle Ray...I'll be right back 😀

Paul

CC Online Volunteer