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[Annika_Joy]

Hi I am new to BB and to forums in general.

I am currently experiencing great sadness as a result of what my doctor calls an overwhelming load of grief. I support my elderly parents (demanding father with Aspergers and mother with end stage dementia), and have an adult child who has a serious mental illness and keeps cutting off contact with me for months at a time. I have only seen her children a few times, for an hour or so each time.

I have no friends, as I seem to always attract people who need help, then ditch me when their crisis is over.

The lights in my life are my son's family who love me very much.

I am particularly interested in seeing posts by people with adult children with mental illness who cut off communication repeatedly for no apparent reason. I am also interested in any posts about domestic violence, including how to get over the harm done to your children after the family court ignores their evidence and forces them to spend unsupervised time with sexually, physically and emotionally abusive father.

Thank you for making these forums available.

[Lyla_E]

I was also sexually abused by my biological father but we got the help i needed but it involved cutting off communication with the rest of his family. I only saw my aunty a few weeks ago for the first time since i was 5.

[White_Rose]

Dear Lyla

Hello and welcome to the forum. I am so sorry you had such dreadful experiences in your childhood. I am glad you received the help you needed. Being estranged from part of your family is hard and I expect it was sad for you. They would naturally want to believe your father but it does not make anything easier for you.

How did the meeting with your aunty go? Was this a planned meeting or accidental? I hope you felt OK about it all.

Would you like to talk about anything in particular? If so perhaps you can start your own thread which will then be more visible to everyone. However, replying on this or any other thread is OK.

Mary

[Summer Rose]

Hi Lyla E and wave to others

I just wanted to let you know that I am also very sorry for the abuse you endured as a child. No one should have to suffer through that, not you or Annika Joy.

I'm so glad that you got the help you needed, as so many others don't. Although I imagine it's challenging to still be dealing with the broader family issues. You were very brave to go and meet your Aunt. I hope it was a positive experience for you.

White Rose suggested Annika Joy contact https://www.1800respect.org.au or https://www.whiteribbon.org.au › find-help › domestic-violence-hotlines and it seems to have been a great idea, so thought I would repeat it for your benefit.

You take care.

Kind thoughts to all

[Ian62]

Hi I'm new to these chat rooms. I live in a caravan with my wife & stepson on my parents 5 acre property. It's a bit cramped, I can't get a rental house. My parents are elderly parents(dad 78 has Parkinson & mum 79 has chronic diarrhea neither for them are very well). I moved here 18 months ago to look after them. I don't have a job got the sack as school bus driver in April. I have a small business mowing lawns, not much work at this time of the year. I get depressed sometimes & stressed.

[Summer Rose]

Hi Ian62

Welcome to bb and thanks for sharing your story. Rest assured that you have joined a kind and caring community, where people understand mental health conditions and issues.

I think it's wonderful that you have moved closer to your elderly parents, although I can also understand why you're feeling stressed and depressed. Looking for a rental and work at the same time is tough.

Do you have a GP yet? I ask because I think it would be helpful for you to seek professional advice about your depression. With the right treatment most people do recover.

If you can find the Welcome and Orientation tab, under the heading "All Posts", you can make an introductory post there too. More people will see it and you'll be able to make more connections.

Kind thoughts to you