Nothing good has happened for 2 years and I’m done

Chumptastic · ‎16-06-2020

Hi,

since finding out my husband of 12 years cheated & lied to me for the whole relationship yet portraying himself as a champion of women & a totally devoted empathetic husband my life has gone from one disaster after another. My 21 year old son had seizures & was in icu in feb. Unknown cause & he still can’t drive, still going for lots of tests & specialist appts, my 2 cats died in the last 6 months. I had to put my beloved horse down last Friday. My job ends in 2 weeks & I don’t have another. And my now ex is being horrendous about the property settlement. I’ve had to hire a lawyer at $500 an hour to even get just 50% which the ex is only conceding to give me 44%. That’s the measure of his fake remorse. They say whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Bullshit. There’s only so much you can take before your permanently damaged. I had an ultrasound to check a cyst yesterday & was disappointed to learn the cyst has shrunk. Ovarian cancer would have been a graceful way out of the shitstorm that is my life.

Chumptastic · ‎20-09-2020

Thanks EM. He served me with divorce papers a couple weeks ago. He put my occupation as unemployed which hurt just as much as he knew it would. I know my suffering is a drop in the ocean compared to yours. My ex is not violent, just plays nasty evil mind games.
I tried phoning the WLS in the 2 timeslots they have available and despite calling numerous times I was unable to get through. They are overwhelmed so I’ll just have to suck it up and pay another $10k. Just hope I get more from it this time than with the last lawyer. Very depressed today. Sunday’s are usually like this. I just know he’ll worm his way out of the repartnering questions like he has with everything else. And yes I don’t know that. But past behaviour is the best judge of future behaviour & when you’ve gone through loss after loss after loss you no longer have any hope in the future or in justice. Sorry for the maudlin response but it’s really how I feel

Chumptastic · ‎27-11-2020

So long since I’ve been here I don’t know if anyone will read this. So the divorce has gone through and I accepted a settlement I could live with. Same unfair % but I get cash instead of super. I don’t feel great about it. But at the time I had 3 potential job offers so was feeling great.
now I have none.
I was told I was at the top of the list for one job with a govt agency but after a very intrusive medical where my mental health issues were subject to interrogation I was told someone else with more skills and experience for the job. I had already turned down a job because I thought I’d got that one.
im sure they’ve decided against hiring me because of my mental health.
how ironic.
the job would have been such as boost to my mental health. Yet I didn’t get it because of my mental health.
I’m on the wrong side of 50 so that will hamper my future job opportunities.
so now I’m back where I was before hospital only with less hope. More money tho so that’s a positive.
Im suicidal again but I realise that it’s only because I’m in so much pain again
I think my life was always going to end this way. lonely and worthless. A stupid joke to everyone

Sophie_M · ‎27-11-2020

Dear Chumptastic,

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smallwolf · ‎27-11-2020

Hi, I have not forgotten you. I don't have time this second to respond to you 😞 but will do so later in the day.

Changing, losing and getting a job can be a stressful time. I hope by reaching out to here some of the emotional pain was released even if only briefly.