Three self-care things you did today!

[ecomama]

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care.

Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps!

Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too.

Best wishes
EM

[golden82]

Hi Not_Batman,

I hope you are well and having another good self-care day 🙂 I am getting lost in all the threads...

But, thank you very much for this info re the guided meditations. I really should persist with them a bit more - I have tried them before, but get agitated and switch off. Thanks for reminding me of them though. I like the nature ones and really like how you and everyone on this thread seems to do a lot of noticing - senses and stuff. Even though I don't do this/find it hard to settle/calm ..I definitely think it is something very worthwhile.

You are such an asset to have around the forums - just thought you should know! Thanks for all your input 🙂

[golden82]

Hi Lillylane,

Just read your post about talking yourself calm. I think that is amazing work! 🙂 And awesome self-awareness, self-care.

I have been trying to do that too when I get in a panic - not for the sleep paralysis like you; but I regularly get very dizzy, shaky and confused and numb hands/feet and legs and sometimes face - which is very scary. The Drs are not sure what the reason is as in addition to the anxiety etc I have a long history of anorexia which has left my body and systems all a bit out of whack. But I have found instead of thinking I am dying and creating more panic -instead by trying to tell myself it is just anxiety and/or low blood sugars etc and need to eat something. Although I still am panicked, it is slightly less which helps a bit. Takes it down from an 11/10 to a10/10 lol.. but every lil bit helps hey.

Keep well Lillylane 🙂

[golden82]

Hi J - Star!

Thanks for your warm and encouraging message to me 🙂 I noticed your absence over NYE - so yeah, you were missed around the forums too! I hope you had a nice break. Sort of read about it across your thread/s. I get so lost... I can't keep up. BUT I mentioned somewhere (I think?) that I found some threads by 'accident'. ie just clicked to have a read (which I don't normally do). But one was yours and another was Blues and Sleeps, WK. And I think there is so much crossover of all of us and EMs input (and others) who are all sort of on this journey of realizing/awakening, acknowledging where we are at and why. And supporting each other with our findings as we go. I don't know if any of you feel the same - but I tend to think, it wasn't an 'accident' I clicked your thread. It was some higher intuition because I was/am at rock bottom of realizing and having to accept and start looking at the pieces of the puzzle and putting them together - in a way for the future. If only I had more energy - it is such baby steps/sometimes no steps at all. But at least not backward I hope. Although I don't have much energy and so don't post much, just reading those threads and learning with you all is self care I think 🙂

I hope your self care is going well today x

[golden82]

hi EM!

I hope you are looking after yourself today 🙂 I have been trying to catch up reading and seems as though you have been super busy with the house movements. Sounds like the end result will be peaceful though. I like the Scandi style too. I thought I was a minimalist (used to be). But lately for a few years been hoarding - like unable to throw stuff away. Getting overwhelmed. Putting it off. Which is not the natural me... so I am hoping it is due to the state I am in/my mind is in. Just the cPTSD we discuss and the frozen/stuck way I am at the moment - for these past years.

So, yep, I have heaps of sunnies lol. I tend to wear them when I need to go out to apts - can feel invisible a bit this way. But that is a great idea to even wear them inside at the window if it helps. Thank you.

I am sorry I am not giving your posts with the breadth of wonderful advice the justice they deserve in my reply. But please know I truly value your input and will keep referring back to them. Just very overwhelmed where I am at right now. But windows are open (2 at least), and the breeze is making the blinds move around giving me airflow and just enough light - but not too much. And now I think of it, if I actually tuned in and noticed as you guys do, I am sure I would hear nature. But been busy trying to reply to everyone lol. Will try the nature sounds later. Plan to pop across to your craft thread too - I have enjoyed reading that one also 🙂 Thanks EM x

[golden82]

Hi Blue 🙂

Thank you so very much for your post to me and all. Sorry this is delayed - I read it and soaked it up - and will continue to read back over it. It is so good thank you 🙂 I am sorry you have gone through some of this stuff also. I am a bit up to speed (only a bit) of your posts from your thread. I stumbled across yours of Qs and also Jstars and Sleeps and WKs and EMs input on them all too. And have been trying to read them as best I can. I have found them very helpful for me/my understanding and acceptance of what I have endured - which I was in denial - still sort of am. It is easier to put on the rose coloured glasses and blame myself and ignore all the abuse; than it is to get my head out of the sand and realize that my family have been/are abusive to me. And they are not going to change - that is how they are. So awakening and alone but trying to heal and carve out a future - not easy with the effects of cPTSD, but I am hopeful for at least better days than what have now. So I have found reading your thread of your own awakening to be so helpful.

I used to listen to thunderstorms and rain on my phone and have something I downloaded about sleep sounds. I totally forgot haha. You reminded me; so thank you. I do that unfortunately, find an idea to help and then get overwhelmed and forget about it - when it was there all along. I like your idea of live watching animals, birds, fish. I didn't even know about that. Will try it at some stage for sure. Thanks Blue. Also the note of spending on ourselves is what I need to hear. I phoned and enquired for a pedicure today. Didn't book. Just did a phone enquiry as a baby step. I plan/hope to book one next week. Just allowing myself is the difficulty.

Take care and I hope your day has some self care x

[golden82]

Hi everyone;

So from writing my replies, I can find some self-care I have done -

1) Catching up with BB forum

2) Opened 2 windows and let the fresh air and bits of natural light in

3) Phoned and enquired for a pedicure for next week. Now next week actually have to book and follow through with it ..

[smallwolf]

Hey Hey Hey...

1. watched a video on YouTube (its a cooking show where the presenters were tasting odd ingredients)

2. morning coffee

3. spent time with cat (then he told me he had enough)

[Wanderlust123]

Hi all,

The three self-care acts I did today were:

- Go to gym

- Sing along to some music

- Check in on the forum

Hope you all had a good day 🙂

[Not_Batman]

Hi all.

Ok, few days of self care, ive tried to have fun as this is my last week of holidays 😞 . Since we cant leave the state, and are limited to where we can go, we had to make do.

went on a day out with the family, and went to a maze. It was A-maze-ing (yeah i said it!), the kids loved it and had fun. It was so good to see them having so much fun.

had the most amazing (there it is again, i cant stop) chocolate brownie.

went to an 2nd, 3rd, or 4th hand store. Picked up a music magazine from the 1930’s in really good condition.

ended the trip with ice-cream.

went on another day out to another town.

Went to a museum

had a walk on the botanical-ish gardens. I had to remind everyone to close their mouths when they look up into the trees, on account of the birds 😉

played tiggy in the park with the kids. I think im still ‘it’, so they best look out tomorrow.

Ended the day with...ICE CREAM!!!

i expected the kids to sleep in the car on the way home, but it was Mrs_Not_Batman that took advantage of not driving, and had a cheeky kip both days.

i guess thats all the travel for a while. I really hope restrictions are lifted soon.

Hey golden82. Senses are very powerful, my psych said that i sound like i enjoy sensory experiences...i had no idea until then. But turns out i do, especially nature because multiple senses are being used.

smallwolf, was it Iron chef? - i loved that show.

all, great SC, always like to hear what everyone is up to, and taking care of themselves.

Not_Batman

[ecomama]

Hey golden, WOW just WOW! No energy? Hey girlfriend you just ran a marathon of replies!!

Well done you! and I LOVE your self-care things! WOW again! lolol.

I'm SO proud of your awesome efforts!

Can't wait to hear about your toe nail polish next week! I hear the shellac is the way to go but you need special nail polish to get if OFF again. Still it can last for AGES and look really nice for a long time too. SO WORTH doing and you're worth doing it FOR.

Go you!

I'm taking deep breaths of the breeze right now.
If that's all you can manage to do, deep breathe IN those beautiful breezes coming through your OPEN windows then that's your mindfulness for today lol. Perfect.

Just a note re: numbing you feel in spots.
I'm not sure what yours is btw but I get that with tumbling C-PTSD reactions. (Dissipated over the past 9 months).
I've also had severe dizziness which became vertigo (and vomiting) from same reactions. (All but gone over the past 18 months).

Now to tell my BODY that lol. Without warning my body brought disEASE that i had when I was a child merely from being asked to describe same time period to my daughter.

So I'm not getting a Pedi lol but I need a Podiatrist and am phoning when they open on Monday morning.
Are you phoning for a Pedi same day?

I'm SO GLAD you're doing this for yourself. ENJOY!

You've so got this golden!

Love EM