Be Yourself but who am I?

[quirkywords]

I have often been told to just be myself but then I am encouraged to be softer, think less, eat less, worry less, relax more , exercise more, be more confident, less timid, less cautious, more adventurous,less selfish, stop being a people pleaser, be happier, be kinder , ask less questions and the list goes on.

I find this confusing if I am to be myself why must I change?

The other problem is who am I, which self should I be: the introvert, the extrovert, the cautious, the risk-taker, the overthinker, the fast talker, the quiet one, the indecisive one, the spontaneous one, the carefree one, the worried one, the selfish one, the altruistic one, and much more.

Thse two words be yourself seem so easy for many people but not for me as it fills me with many questions.

I will limit myself to two questions .

Can you be yourself without changing?

Is it possible to change/improve a part of yourself and still be yourself?

Quirky

[Guest_128]

Hello Croix,

I was being funny 😂 well I think I was being myself,but who am I 😂

[quirkywords]

Later I thought you were being funny, like your comment on the bucket of worms.

I would like to know more about who you are I, the funny and the serious.

Quirky

[Guest_128]

Quirky not probs at all,I do think you are a bit like me.

Ask away just tell me where 🤗

Later

[quirkywords]

Later this is my first thread, and I see it asplace where people can talk about who they are.

Hopefully we can learn from each other. I like to ask questions but there are no tests!!

I think humour and the ability to laugh at oneself is important.

Quirk

[Guest_128]

Far out,your first thread, great one at that.

I am over being tested,take me myself and I or you know what!

I absolutely love humour the more I need. This is what has got me into so much pain. Because I'm blunt, people don't get me.

Looking forward to getting to know YOU.

Later

[quirkywords]

I have always said what I think, my parents used to say i was frank which confused me as I thought it was a blogs name.

I find on forums or emails sometimes my humour does not come across and people misinterpret me. So I try to tone myself down for the internet!!

Quirky

[Croix]

Dear Later~

I suspected you were being funny, unfortunately I made an off-the-cuff remark to someone earlier this evening (in an email, not here) that certainly had unexpected results, so was still recovering and being a bit cautious.

Anyway I hope your confusion is resolved and you are now certain of my marital status - there is indeed a Mrs Walrus

Croix

[Guest_128]

Yes and I can omg remember you love her very much. That is gold.

😘

[quirkywords]

Croix

there seems to be a lot of misinterpretation in emails and in forums , I think it is the medium where you can't see facial gestures or hear emotions.

I hope she likes being Mrs Walrus.

Quirky

[Croix]

Dear Quirky~

You're right, there are lots of opportunities for misunderstandings with these text-based forms of communication. I try to be careful but often guess wrong.

Text has it's place. When my first wife passed away I met and conversed with the future Mrs Walrus by snail-mail, then later by email, finally by phone. This went on for a long time before we met. We got to know each other pretty well.

You asked if my wife liked being Mrs Walrus, well I know she likes being married to me - no I'm not being conceited - just amazingly lucky. As to if she likes being a walrus, probably not, though I've never discussed it with her in those terms 🙂

I think I've probably strayed a little off-topic, ah well

Croix