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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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guest2046046 Struggle with job/life?
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Hello everyone,I hope everyone is doing ok.I am putting up a post here to discuss a few things. I have previously struggled with depression, which was especially severe during my last few years of high school. Now that I am out of high school, I had ... View more

Hello everyone,I hope everyone is doing ok.I am putting up a post here to discuss a few things. I have previously struggled with depression, which was especially severe during my last few years of high school. Now that I am out of high school, I had thought that things would improve but unfortunately they have not really overall. I know that there are so, so many people with other problems more severe than mine but I thought maybe putting up a post would help me feel a little better. I thought that I wanted to go into the vet nursing industry and after securing an amazing opportunity at a vet clinic to get paid whilst learning skills and experiencing what it is like in the industry as well as studying, I couldn't help but feel overwhelmed. I am so grateful to have received this opportunity, but I can't help but think that it should have gone to someone else. I have grown to dread every single shift I am scheduled onto, and my hours have been reduced, giving me a lot less pay to live off and causing quite a bit of stress because I feel I am not earning enough money each week, and I don't think I can afford to go to therapy to help myself work through this. On top of this, I had thought before working at the clinic that it was going to be based around the pets and supporting surgery, cleaning, etc. however I am answering phones and dealing with customers at reception a lot, whilst feeling a bit discouraged after my co-workers have made some subtly discouraging comments to me. I am an introvert and have developed a bit of anxiety around constantly talking to people, which I think has made me a bit worse of a receptionist. I know I should not be complaining about this and I feel terrible complaining but, doing that sort of extroverted reception work & also having the euthanasias impact me more than I thought it would, and I have stayed for at least 5 months to see if things would get better. Even though I could push through & continue working there, it still feels a bit terrible. I am beginning to become tired and very much numb to everything and don't really have any feelings about it except for a bit of dread knowing I have to work another shift this week. Am I just having some anxious feelings associated with the shifts and it is an unconscious response now that I should try to reverse and push through? Otherwise I have tried job searching, but it is so hard to get a job, and most seem very customer basedSorry for the long post.I appreciate any comments.

Guest_39317800 Feel like my bum is small and I need some lift or plastic surgery
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Hi All, I am a bit disappointed in the size of my bum, and can’t handle the way that I feel about it. I need help to emotionally regulate my feelings toward this subject.I am not trying to trivialise the subject - it may well be body dysmorphia. I ne... View more

Hi All, I am a bit disappointed in the size of my bum, and can’t handle the way that I feel about it. I need help to emotionally regulate my feelings toward this subject.I am not trying to trivialise the subject - it may well be body dysmorphia. I need to find a way to overcome these feelings of frustration about my bum because it is overtaking my thoughts. Thanks Beyond Blue for giving me an outlet for this horrible feeling.

CMF Meditation, Manifesting, Gratitude & The Law of Attraction
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Hi everyone, Not sure where to start so hope I can express myself clearly and maybe with others' input we can expand on this. I'm interested in people's thoughts/ experience with meditation, manifesting, gratitude & the law of attraction. I've recent... View more

Hi everyone, Not sure where to start so hope I can express myself clearly and maybe with others' input we can expand on this. I'm interested in people's thoughts/ experience with meditation, manifesting, gratitude & the law of attraction. I've recently started using the Smiling Mind app to meditate when going to sleep and sometimes when feeling a little anxious, like tonight. It is something i thought i could never do as my mind rarely stops, however, with persistence, I find I enjoy it. I guess i tend to have a negative mindset which I am determined to change.I always felt uneasy about thinking positive things as i thought i would jinx myself, and that whenever I made a positive comment or felt happy it would go wrong or something negative would happen. So i refrained from allowing myself to be too happy, I guess to 'protect' myself. Recently i have been feeling happier, stronger, expressing gratitude and taking note of when things have come to me when i needed them. Coincidence, or answers to what i put out to the Universe? I like to think the latter. A work colleague one day told me to manifest something i wanted, put it out to the universe , so I'm trying. Example, recently we needed to measure the floor space at reception so we could calculate how many people we could have in at one time. I needed a tape measure, which i did not have. At that moment our handyman walked into the office. Guess what he had? I am getting into the habit of practising positive thinking instead of thinking/expecting negatives. If something 'negative' does crop up, it can be dealt with, it's not the end of the world. I look for the positive in every negative situation. I am becoming more aware of being grateful for little things, things like getting a good car park at work, a warn cosy bed, a tidy house. I feel when i am expressing gratitude I am putting positive thoughts out into the universe and I notice more positives instead of focusing on negatives. Late last week we had internet issues at work and a colleague i found a little annoying. I've been feeling very drained, agitated, negative for a few days. This morning things were not running smoothly for me. A result of my negative mind perhaps? Little things became a big deal, my morning was crap. If i look back, it wasn't really an issue, i just did things in a different order which gave me more relax time this evening. The Law of Attraction, positive thoughts, positive experiences. What are your thoughts? cmf x

Guest_71855601 Is this normal?
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Lately I’ve been feeling just unwell. I graduated high school 2 years ago and have travelled many places but since last August I came back to Australia and I couldn’t find a job or think of a single thing to do with my life. I’ve spent so long in my ... View more

Lately I’ve been feeling just unwell. I graduated high school 2 years ago and have travelled many places but since last August I came back to Australia and I couldn’t find a job or think of a single thing to do with my life. I’ve spent so long in my apartment and I know what everyone says “go outside, take care of yourself, find a job, study on the side, get your license, find a hobby” but they all feel impossible and uninteresting. Whenever I stand up I feel like breaking down and I can’t socialise like I used to. I get tired after spending 20 minutes with my family and I feel horrible about it since I love them so much but they think I’m uninterested in them and that I’m just lazy. I don’t want to be seen as lazy and just all round a horrible person. I’ve been getting angry at myself and taking it out on everyone around me even through I try so hard not to. I’m confused and scared since I’ve never felt like this before and it feels like no one ever takes it seriously or listens to me. If this has ever happened to you please help me I’m tired of being sick and scared. I’ve tried everything.

Guest_59945807 Driving
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Should I get a new driving instructor well im going for a test soon and this instructor has been really rude to me and had raised his voice at me and hasn’t been really been clear about explaining stuff to me so I was doing a reverse parallel parking... View more

Should I get a new driving instructor well im going for a test soon and this instructor has been really rude to me and had raised his voice at me and hasn’t been really been clear about explaining stuff to me so I was doing a reverse parallel parking and it came up to the full lock right which I didn’t know at the time because he explained it the way that I would not get and then when I said to him like which way do I have to turn the wheel on and then he said obviously it’s the right way like you said it to me like in like a very very rude tone and I asked him do I have to stop and break before I do do the full lock left for 45° angle and then he like touched my shoulder and I felt like so uncomfortable and he’s like an older man too. We can’t find any women around here. I just feel so uncomfortable and I just feel like that. I can’t do the driving lesson before the driving test with him because I just feel like I’m just gonna get yelled at if any advice please reply to this.

FaithHopeLove in between phase
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hello thank u 4 reading i wanted 2 post here bout my current situation. i am in what i call an in between phase where i have finished 5 years of study & i am seeing where i might end up living. where i live has been stressful & i realised 2day the ex... View more

hello thank u 4 reading i wanted 2 post here bout my current situation. i am in what i call an in between phase where i have finished 5 years of study & i am seeing where i might end up living. where i live has been stressful & i realised 2day the extent of it which is, that i had a mould infestation that started 2016 where they blamed me 4 it then they treated it but i chat with a lady 2day that said she had a mould thing & now has a disease & low immunity which made me think maybe this is same with me as ive had low immunity issue 4 a while eek with that i think will be approaching a dr. Anyway so thats that but the other thing i wanted 2 mention here is just having time 2 sit & let things settle far 2 much has been happening 4 me since 2019 which might post bout elsewhere. The wins are that i now have a dip counselling a cert mh & a 2nd dip & i volunteer at the Prayer helpline, anyway being that this thread is re staying well i will mention here that i am seeking the silver lining in my life & trying 2 reflect in thankfulness such as i have a home & food & live in a nice area. Also, i have realised with my chats here that self preservation is key we need to put self first if we r going to b of help 2 others i mentioned 2 my friends re that analogy think i heard re we need 2 put our oxygen mask on first in order 2 help others God Bless

Roses_191 Im happy!
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I got an A on my math exam All my therapies and diets helped me to stay stress-free

I got an A on my math exam All my therapies and diets helped me to stay stress-free

Michy007 Determining the cause- anxiety/depression
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I'm hoping to hear others stories, re how anxiety is determined (the cause). Or are there many out there who suffer with anxiety, and unclear what the true cause is?My understanding is there can be causes that go deeper than what appears on the surfa... View more

I'm hoping to hear others stories, re how anxiety is determined (the cause). Or are there many out there who suffer with anxiety, and unclear what the true cause is?My understanding is there can be causes that go deeper than what appears on the surface.I also don't refer to it as 'my anxiety' as that would indicate 'I own it' when I don't. I don't own it, yet I do need to understand the what, and how? (what is the underlying cause, and then understand how to 'fix')For some of us, triggers or fears can come from an early age, and only ever trying to find our way through life, whatever that entails. I believe it is fair to say that many of us find the only way we can navigate our way through life, is based on learnt survival skills from an early age. Survival skills we learnt, haven't always worked in life. I have a fair idea as to what has shaped my life, trauma from a young age. Then events through life became somewhat traumatic- traumatic in comparison to say someone who didn't come from a dysfunctional family. None of this is new to me, yet have to say that I've never learned to 'unlearn' thoughts, and learn new ones that are helpful. I’ve had major struggles with thought processes in life, resulting in anxiety and depression, even if just from time to time. I’ve seen many therapists through life, yet none who have been able to break it down, in a way that makes sense, or to create change. Never seeming to get to the root problem. Whether it is abandonment issues/fear, or whatever, to-date I’ve just not found the right help. I would be most interested to hear of others stories, even if still having challenges

white knight Intermittent mental disability block
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I dont know about others here but I seem to have the above. My direct issue is that sometimes I cannot cope with minor details but that could be an old male thing. But I think its more serious than that. eg My mother figure passed last January. I'm e... View more

I dont know about others here but I seem to have the above. My direct issue is that sometimes I cannot cope with minor details but that could be an old male thing. But I think its more serious than that. eg My mother figure passed last January. I'm executor and have to do many tasks soon like empty out her house and huge garage that her husband (passed 2 years ago) filled with machinery and wood for carpentry work. It's a big task. So next month we plan to stay there 4 days and do it all. My problem isnt the workload ahead but my inability to focus on the details that my wife (bless her heart) sometimes brings up. Eg who are we going to give the glassware to?, the tools, etc maybe we should get the carpets shampooed, do you think we can pressure wash the paint ? and so on. These are normal questions but I shut down as I cant easily cope with thinking about these things. It's like only major things I can plan like boxes, pressure washer and garbage bags to take with us then wait till we get there and then think about how we go about the finer tasks. When I shut down I tell my wife I cant cope and now she understands but in the past it was too hard for her to comprehend. Another example is finances- I no longer have the ability to think deep while driving the car. If my wife asks me what I spent $98 on two weeks ago my bad memory wont tell me what. If a description isnt possible eg paypal then its anyones guess and if she said "was it for the car"? I begin to get frustrated. Memory loss is a buggar. One day we had $105 taken out of our account by a company we didnt know, we thought we were scammed. After an hour tracing it etc I recalled where I was at the time and it was at a service station for fuel. But we argued as the car couldnt take such an amount of fuel, so I had to think further. Turned out when you add the 3 pies, 2 sausage rolls, block of chocolate and thick shake it adds up eh. lol. Being eftpos there was only the company name (say Mercury Co) but not a fuel suppliers name eg BP. I'm convinced medication over the years is to blame but my dad also had depression and got stressed easily and left such tasks to my mother. Not my wifes fault BTW. Anyone understand? I cant write things down because I'd have to remember to do that. TonyWK

Alex_ Impulsive lying
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Hey, i have always had a lyinv probblem just little white lyes and i just cant stop i dony want to lie at all I do it will out even realising what i said and i feel like crap I tell my self i got to stop cant i just can Any advice is welcome

Hey, i have always had a lyinv probblem just little white lyes and i just cant stop i dony want to lie at all I do it will out even realising what i said and i feel like crap I tell my self i got to stop cant i just can Any advice is welcome

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