Recovery addict

[Guest_40175004]

My partner is a recovering addict, we got together when he was still using, have known each other for about 14 years. 

Anyway I said things wouldn't work with him.using so he has stopped 4 months clean and before that he was using less and less.

I'm super proud of how far he has come, growing so much as an individual and re building relationships with family members. 

But I feel like our relationship is falling apart, it's like he has no interest in me, this starting happening the less he was using and is completely gone, not affectionate at all.. is this a part of the recovery process ? 

I ask him all the time and he says we're fine he just doesn't know what's wrong with sexually!! 

I just don't know how to feel anymore, I feel like he has lost all love for me 

I'm not even sure what im looking for here 

[Eagle Ray]

Dear Guest,

I'm sorry you are going through this difficult patch with your partner. I don't know but I just wonder if the addiction was like self-medicating to deal with something he was having trouble with and now that he has stopped using the troubling things are coming up again? Addiction can be a mask for painful emotions, a way of becoming numb to difficult feelings. I could be totally off the mark, but perhaps he is feeling things now the addiction was previously masking?

It may not be that he has no interest in you but that he is having feelings that are difficult to process and making him distracted. Is he getting any counselling at all, or received counselling support previously in the process of stopping using? I just wonder if that would help, or for the both of you to go to counselling together?

It's so lovely you are proud of your partner and also that he has been able to rebuild relationships with family members. It's understandable you are feeling vulnerable if he has become less affectionate. I hope maybe you can find some support together to work out what is happening.

Sending you support,

Eagle Ray