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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Thelongestroad Energy levels and sleep
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Does anyone have any experiences with feeling so low on energy that it almost feels like you’re temporarily paralysed to get up? Sometimes I feel scared of not waking up on time and I’ve seen a doctor about it but to no avail have I had any changes

Does anyone have any experiences with feeling so low on energy that it almost feels like you’re temporarily paralysed to get up? Sometimes I feel scared of not waking up on time and I’ve seen a doctor about it but to no avail have I had any changes

1_at_Peace Hi and asking how to receive support at work
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Hi all, I've just joined and would like to know if any members have received effective support for their depression and/or anxiety at work - particularly in public service? I've been isolated and despite requesting training and support, I haven't rec... View more

Hi all, I've just joined and would like to know if any members have received effective support for their depression and/or anxiety at work - particularly in public service? I've been isolated and despite requesting training and support, I haven't received any while others were offered so much training & support. I complained which made things worse, caused aggravation of my mental health and untrue accusations about my performance. I don't feel I can apply for other jobs as I'm unlikely to get positive references from my supervisors. I've also lost so much confidence. I've been bullied like this before also. Instead of them agreeing to adjustments recommended by my practitioners, I was directed to stop working after I was assessed as unfit for duty by a psych they engaged. I have to wait until late March for an independent psych to assess my fitness to return to work So I've had to use up all my paid leave. This has caused me financial stress also. Having some time off was good but not 2.5 months! All I asked for was to have equitable support and training. There's much literature at work that suggest employers will support people with mental health but it hasn't ever been my experience. I've looked into legalities - I'm told it's too hard and expensive to make a successful case. So if there are any ideas for support, who I can turn to etc, I 'd be most grateful. Many thanks for taking the time to read my post.

bfic12 Socially awkward
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Does anyone know of a dating website or app specifically for socially awkward people? I feel like there would be so many people out there that would benefit from this. I feel like i cant be the only person thinking this, there must be other socially ... View more

Does anyone know of a dating website or app specifically for socially awkward people? I feel like there would be so many people out there that would benefit from this. I feel like i cant be the only person thinking this, there must be other socially awkward people out there wanting to connect with someone. How do i find these people?

Linz Workplace Injury
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Hi My name is Lindsay and I am a male Reg Nurse who was working in a geriatric dementia ward at my local hospital, In 2023 I was injured while working with a patient that resulted in surgery and I will never have full use of my arm in the future. I a... View more

Hi My name is Lindsay and I am a male Reg Nurse who was working in a geriatric dementia ward at my local hospital, In 2023 I was injured while working with a patient that resulted in surgery and I will never have full use of my arm in the future. I am now going thru workers compensation claim that I find difficult and confusing. On top of this I struggle at times with the sense of loss because I have not worked for sometime. Dementia patients can be a lot of fun to look after but they can also be very violent at times more than the public realise. I have experienced a fair bit of both. There is little support when you are injured and mentally and emotionally along with pain and the realization that you cannot do what you used to do. I also suffer from rheumatoid and osteo Arthritis and as I get older it gets more difficult. My question is are there support out thee of other nurses going thru the same sort of issues. all these things put strain on my family with My wife having to do things I used to do, hobbies I now find difficult to do, I am still recovering from the surgery and this will take time.I find it very hard to find people who understand, I am 64 years old and not that good with tech stuff but willing to learn. Just reaching out to see what's out there. Lindsay

Guest_75398280 Why does everyday feel the same?
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You ever wake up and have to repeat the same day over again? Same activities, same hobbies, same life habits etc. there’s nothing much you can do to change it? Or is it just me. Everyday is a repeat of the previous.

You ever wake up and have to repeat the same day over again? Same activities, same hobbies, same life habits etc. there’s nothing much you can do to change it? Or is it just me. Everyday is a repeat of the previous.

Thorney Post-HSC
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Hi! I recently finished my HSC. In all honesty, I think I did pretty well! I'm not stressed or anxious about my results. What I wanted to focus on was post-hsc emotions. I'm finding it hard to adjust to life now - not having to do much, and relaxing.... View more

Hi! I recently finished my HSC. In all honesty, I think I did pretty well! I'm not stressed or anxious about my results. What I wanted to focus on was post-hsc emotions. I'm finding it hard to adjust to life now - not having to do much, and relaxing. I cannot remember the last time I fully relaxed. I can't actually find many stories about people post hsc, only stress and anxiety during the hsc; hence I am wanting to know about other experiences! I'm not exactly depressed or anything, I just don't really feel excited about anything. I'm going to Uni next year and doing something I really, really like - and I'm just not excited about it. I think it's part of myself relaxing and being content with where I am and not being ready to move forward. I think about living alone and I just can't fathom it. (I won't be living alone for a number of years, but it just seems like another massive change and I don't know how people do it). Pre-HSC I was (and still am) an introvert and I prefer being alone. But now, I seem to want to be around people (a lot!), likely for familiarity. I'm also really missing my friends - I try and catch up but there is just so much happening between all of us. I try and talk to family about some of my general anxiousness but they are busy (and/or dealing with their own stressors). I'm considering talking to a professional about my mental health. During the end of my HSC I became so anxious I was throwing up just due to pure stress. I have never been an anxious person, let alone so anxious I had a physical reaction. I sought out some stress tablets and they helped. I had to take some post-hsc as well, because I just feel/felt so anxious due to this massive change in my life. It's all just so new. My question(s) are/is, how do you cope with these big kind of changes? How do you cope with feeling a bit lonely? How can I get myself to actually relax and not hold on to this kind of stress? I (like many others) are/am just so used to school, after so many years - it is such a massive change that happened so fast, I feel like I have whiplash. I'm not exactly struggling mentally, but I'm not the same compared to pre-hsc, and I want to make myself excited and a bit more happy again and honestly, just try and get myself mentally back to 'normal'. Thank you for reading. Have an amazing day! Please share some similar experiences if possible .

1993_J Lost in life path is messed up dv
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Hi I’ve been though a lot alot, double enthusiasts on the alot when I was 13 I was pregnant not long after I was living in my own house right the school to let me finish my education with a baby, then she passed away at 2 months old. Two years later ... View more

Hi I’ve been though a lot alot, double enthusiasts on the alot when I was 13 I was pregnant not long after I was living in my own house right the school to let me finish my education with a baby, then she passed away at 2 months old. Two years later I had her sister and then a boy and another girl, but I’ve been in demestic violence relationships even lost my children over this, and now I’m pregnant again and I’m doing it again I’ve just been kicked to street with no where to go

Ggrand Virtual Birthday and special occasions Party 🎉🎂 🎊 🥳…
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Hello everyone…勺.. Many people on these forums, spend birthdays, Easter, Christmas, New Years Eve…and many more significantly important days in there lives feeling a lot of loneliness and sadness because they live alone, or are estranged from family ... View more

Hello everyone…🩷.. Many people on these forums, spend birthdays, Easter, Christmas, New Years Eve…and many more significantly important days in there lives feeling a lot of loneliness and sadness because they live alone, or are estranged from family members and friends…I am one of those people…..loneliness seems to overtake and overwhelm me/us on these special days, more then any other day… If it’s your Birthday or an important day in your life you’re very welcome to share your day/s here on this thread where members of these forums can celebrate with you…we can all bring virtual food, nonalcoholic drinks, in the hope that you don’t feel so lonely….and we make your day a little special….Beyond Blue community members are not just people, we all are a special and unique family…caring, supporting and being their for each other… My love, care and gentle warm hugs everyone….🩷..Grandy…

Ail_ Blood pressure
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I have extreme anxiety due to fluctuating blood pressure readings . Doctors keep changing meds to try and solve the problem but no relief. I am 84 yrs old and suffer from Peripheral Neuropathy and was diagnosed two years ago and that is when my BP is... View more

I have extreme anxiety due to fluctuating blood pressure readings . Doctors keep changing meds to try and solve the problem but no relief. I am 84 yrs old and suffer from Peripheral Neuropathy and was diagnosed two years ago and that is when my BP issues began I have been admitted to outpatient hospital on numerous occasions, usually by ambulance. Just curious if anyone else has this problem ? My friends and colleagues who have been diagnosed with high blood pressure have been controlled successfully y medications, have tried meditation, Yoga, deep breathing and downers would love some comments this forum

JS23 Feeling very Anxious after first home purchase
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Hi there,This is my first post here. My partner and I have slowly been looking for a place to buy in the last 3 or so months and recently the place we are renting the owners have decided to sell. I ended up going to an auction over the weekend for a ... View more

Hi there,This is my first post here. My partner and I have slowly been looking for a place to buy in the last 3 or so months and recently the place we are renting the owners have decided to sell. I ended up going to an auction over the weekend for a place which both my partner and I have seen. We really liked the place and supringsly won the auction. Its within our budget etc but now I'm feeling really anxious and feel like Ive dragged my partner into unecessary debt and feeling buying remorse. Has anyone gone through this? I was hoping to get some tips of how to process and tackle my anxiety.Thank you