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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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HGR Closet cross dresser at times
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I've recently separated with my wife after 33ys & have three kids.I'm a closet cross dresser.I feel such a failure and so sad most of the time.I don't know who to talk to.

I've recently separated with my wife after 33ys & have three kids.I'm a closet cross dresser.I feel such a failure and so sad most of the time.I don't know who to talk to.

quirkywords The skill of worrying or minding less? How is it achieved? What does it mean?
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Yes you read the title correctly, How do we mind less , How do we learn not to worry over every thing, How do we stop getting upset over every comment we feel is not positive. I would like to discuss ways people have learnt to stop worrying about sma... View more

Yes you read the title correctly, How do we mind less , How do we learn not to worry over every thing, How do we stop getting upset over every comment we feel is not positive. I would like to discuss ways people have learnt to stop worrying about small things,and how to not mind about what other people think. Also how can we stop being reactive and turn that into creative response, not sure how to do this but others may have an idea. Sometimes we can get angry over lots of things and it is hard to learn how to channel that anger. I know the more I let things get to me, the worse I feel. I have always tried hard to do mindfulness but I still struggle. Maybe if I can stop minding about things that don’t matter I can stop overthinking. I would like this thread to be a place where we can exchange ideas and share personal experiences about what works for them and what does not. Feel free to post and let’s get the discussion going. Quirky

StephenP12 Addictions- keeping well with them
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Feeling like my addictions are still there, anyone got any distractions that don't involve so much tech use? For keeping well and more than just a simple walk, yeah technology use getting too much of a hold, cos yeah some of the other addictions/dist... View more

Feeling like my addictions are still there, anyone got any distractions that don't involve so much tech use? For keeping well and more than just a simple walk, yeah technology use getting too much of a hold, cos yeah some of the other addictions/distractions are stuff like yeah diet related etc. . Nothing too bad just mainly yep food, which is shameful to mention. But is what it is anyway if the post here, if this makes sense then yeah would be good to have some thoughts of anyone. That sees this thanks, basically just some distractions to balance out the other things. And keep well that way

ecomama Three self-care things you did today!
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We can do it BBers, we can do self-care. Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps! Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too. Best wishes EM

We can do it BBers, we can do self-care. Sleepy21 pointed out research that shows self-care REALLY helps! Please share what you do for self-care so we can get inspiration, ideas and motivation to do it too. Best wishes EM

Blondee71 Support
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How can you convince people that the things you mention to help you heal are serious requests? They’re all down for “what can I do to help?”, but when you mention small things they either mock or ignore? How am I supposed to get well@?…

How can you convince people that the things you mention to help you heal are serious requests? They’re all down for “what can I do to help?”, but when you mention small things they either mock or ignore? How am I supposed to get well@?…

Pink grapefruit Motivation as a leader
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When you have toxic team members in your team at workplace who complains to you about your leadership and that makes you less evaluated as a leader, how will you keep motivate yourself and tackle this situation?

When you have toxic team members in your team at workplace who complains to you about your leadership and that makes you less evaluated as a leader, how will you keep motivate yourself and tackle this situation?

car10001 need someone to talk to but am ok
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hi everyone am ok just reaching out. was just wondering how people know and what they experience to know when it may be time to leave job (close that chapter) and move onto another (start the next chapter). many of you lot know that am at some point ... View more

hi everyone am ok just reaching out. was just wondering how people know and what they experience to know when it may be time to leave job (close that chapter) and move onto another (start the next chapter). many of you lot know that am at some point wanting to give up hospitality and move onto other things while still capable and be own boss. sometimes things happen or dont go how you expect and you tell yourself not much longer or something else and to just try and hang on. will very likely be giving up hospitality as soon as it sells or closes as have other commitments and responsibilities and other work goals and feel after 14 years. nearly 15 that its time to take a break and move on and concentrate on those. grandparents are needing help and needing to be able to help when needed and have local bingo commitments and want to do other work. also the boss makes things in her shop and other friends try it and miss out and feel doing your own is only way and that am going to have to spend money that dont really have at moment to buy own kits and gear and supplies. how do you find friends to share contents with and a place if you dont have your own place just yet without continually booking cabins (still book one maybe every few months but if its every week or fortnight costs add up). what could you do to find the money. just trying to hang on until place sells or closes and you keep telling yourself probably wont be much longer and to just hang on. do feel positive that the other work is going to work out great however could be like a cousin with his shed building business and take a while to pick up. sometimes you feel a little left out. what could you do. when you look up in google clues that a employee is about to leave or is thinking of leaving some sites list getting new certificates and education as one clue. why would that be a clue when sometimes you can get further education and certificates to benefit your current job or other commitments, because of that you wouldnt think its always a clue. thanks

SC_12 Feeling of Regret and Worry
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Hi I'm currently studying at a Uni here in Melbourne. I got a cat 2 weeks ago and returned him to a rescue organization due to severe anxiety and stress. I have cats back in my home country, and since I miss them, I decided to adopt a cat. However, a... View more

Hi I'm currently studying at a Uni here in Melbourne. I got a cat 2 weeks ago and returned him to a rescue organization due to severe anxiety and stress. I have cats back in my home country, and since I miss them, I decided to adopt a cat. However, after having him, I started feeling uneasy, and anxious and had extreme worries. Worries like if he won't poop, scared too much if he goes out when I'm away most of the day (WIndows and doors re closed though), or my inability to play with him when I get home from work as I'm mentally and physically tired. This led me to sleepless nights, panic and not doing important things like going to school, low energy at work and not being able to talk to my partner and close friends at all. I decided to return him and prioritize myself knowing that I have to juggle so much with study, work, and obligations back in my home country and also for my cat, that he finds a home that has play time and can fully take care of him. Now, I feel sad all of a sudden, miss the cat and sometimes feel empty when I'm alone and if I made the right decision. Can you help me feel better and not to be so harsh on myself? I feel so bad

quirkywords To apologise or not to apologise is that the question?
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Welcome everyone. I call myself the queen sorry as I'm always saying sorry whether things are my fault or not . Someone could tread on my toe and I would say sorry .A friend will be late and I'll say sorry. You get the idea. I am often being told I s... View more

Welcome everyone. I call myself the queen sorry as I'm always saying sorry whether things are my fault or not . Someone could tread on my toe and I would say sorry .A friend will be late and I'll say sorry. You get the idea. I am often being told I say sorry way too much and that could affect my self-esteem.. It is just second nature to say sorry. I am not aware of it until someone points it out. I thought I know people who never apologize or rarely apologize but no one ever seems to say to them that they should apologise more. So do you think it is worse to apologise too much or too little ? I am interested in your personal experiences.

jackinthebox87 Inner critic struggle daily
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Hi all and thank you in advance for replies. I'm in my 40s and have battled a life of a strong inner critic to a point now where I simply just struggle to live each day without feeling hard on myself. I've had this weird habit for so many years where... View more

Hi all and thank you in advance for replies. I'm in my 40s and have battled a life of a strong inner critic to a point now where I simply just struggle to live each day without feeling hard on myself. I've had this weird habit for so many years where I journal a pageor so and talk about how I'm going to make some changes and find inner peace. Then in a day or two I feel down for whatever reason and end up throwing away the journal and starting again and then repeat. I definitely had a strict father and have problems because of this but wish I could just break the cycle and get through each day and keep going. I've made so many stupid mistakes in my life and done plenty of bad things just to help numb the emotional pain and it just makes everything worse. I wish I could just have a fresh start but this is not possible. I've had plenty of times where I've had suicidal thoughts but I guess I'm a fighter and still here. It's hard to explain and weird but hoping someone has some similarities or solutions because I've tried so many things. Thanks again.