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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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AnotherHuman Saying Goodbye To Life
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Hello, I think my time in life is coming to an end soon. I'm not certain when it's going to happen...or where...but I know it's approaching. It's sad to think about all the different lives I could have lived. All the different people and things I cou... View more

Hello, I think my time in life is coming to an end soon. I'm not certain when it's going to happen...or where...but I know it's approaching. It's sad to think about all the different lives I could have lived. All the different people and things I could have become. All the experiences I will never get to have. It's odd being on this side of the fence. When I was younger - the door was open to all kinds of possibilities. Those doors are closing now, one by one. I had promised myself not to become the kind of adult I am right now. I saw all the warning signs from others I observed falling into similar traps. I guess I just didn't have what it takes. Somebody once told me when I was 16 sitting alone in a university library reading The Lord of the Rings "Stay curious, or you'll end up like me". I've never forgotten that. It appears I am becoming that kind of a man. The person that only warns others of a bad life because he couldn't live a good one for himself. Everything virtuous in me has been sucked clean and now there's nothing left but the hollowed shell of a human being who once thought he could make it out in time. Ah, well. My heart goes out to anyone struggling and I hope with all I have left that you can push through. I have accepted my role in life, as a loser. It's over for me now and I am making peace with that.

Guest_52609803 I wish I wasn't the one conscious in this body
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I initially wanted to title this "I want to disappear", but I'm not meaning I want to end my life, I mean that I don't have the energy for anything in my life. I wish I wasn't the one conscious in this body, but instead watching my life in 3rd person... View more

I initially wanted to title this "I want to disappear", but I'm not meaning I want to end my life, I mean that I don't have the energy for anything in my life. I wish I wasn't the one conscious in this body, but instead watching my life in 3rd person. Because I honestly can't be bothered making the decisions or moving it myself. Since 2020, I've been feeling really disconnected from everything. I lost friends after grad from what I can only assume was due to my jealousy; I started to game more and more to escape my reality; My eyesight is so incredibly bad that it's getting -0.5 worse each year; I could never keep a job for more than a year because I kept telling myself how unfair the job was or how unprofessional it was; I jumped 5+ different tertiary courses and accumulated debt; I let my learner drivers license expire this month, barely driving 30 hours since getting my learners 5 years ago; and I even got diagnosed with PCOS which has still been left untreated because of my laziness - so I'm obese, constantly tired, insulin resistant / pre-diabetic, hormonally imbalanced, not getting my period and craving food all the time.My sleep schedule is so bad because I'm gaming into the night, or using this time to study. But I'm even missing my classes, so I'm still weeks behind. When my sleep schedule goes super bad to the point when I am up at 7am, I just force myself to stay up the next day till 9pm so I can "sleep on time". But when I sleep, I am constantly sleeping 9+ hours; sometimes even 12+ hours. I've tried taking supplements and getting into a routine (like skincare or haircare), but I lose interest in it by the 2nd week.It is so hard to even get myself checked up with a GP, because I can't stop sleeping or getting off my ass. It took me 2 weeks to get a blood test because I kept putting it off, or messing up my fast. I want to get help so bad, but if I want my physical and mental health properly checked, I have to get through the first obstacle of actually going, and then the next obstacle of paying money that I just don't have.To top it all off, I just feel SO ALONE. Because no one has experienced all of this like I have; no one can relate! I have no one that knows how to comfort me or to help me because they just don't understand any of it. I love my boyfriend, friends and my family, but no one is able to - or should! - put aside what is going on in their life, just to help me. What can I do?

Akitagirl i would like to unburden.
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hi All,I guess its just a small (ish ) thing, but I would like to share what happened to me yesterday. I don't have anyone to discuss it with, but I don't want to add it to my emotional baggage.I recently started a casual job. i had done two shifts a... View more

hi All,I guess its just a small (ish ) thing, but I would like to share what happened to me yesterday. I don't have anyone to discuss it with, but I don't want to add it to my emotional baggage.I recently started a casual job. i had done two shifts at the local country hotel. a new manager started yesterday, and I met him when I stopped by for a drink to fill in 40 minutes between appointments. honestly he struck me as being a bit of a jerk right off the bat. anyway I didn't think too much of it. later in the day I got a phone call from him saying that I would no longer be required. I asked him if he could tell me why, he replied "because I heard that you said I wasn't going to last". I was pretty shocked. I didn't say that at all, what I did say (to a workmate) was that I'm not sure that I trust him 100%.I know I shouldn't have said it out loud at all, but I didn't imagine she would go ahead and tell him. anyway, as a result I am feeling angry, both at myself and at him. I have lost my job. partly I blame her for being such a snitch, partly I think he's being petty, especially because I had not said what I was accused of, but mostly angry with myself. why cant I learn to keep my big mouth shut and my opinions to myself.I feel stupid.

Kristen support for keeping myslelf well while supporting someone through attempted suicide
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Dear all, I’m looking for some support and advice on how to cope while supporting a loved one who recently attempted suicide. I was the person who found them, and since then I’ve been struggling with constant, intrusive thoughts and overthinking that... View more

Dear all, I’m looking for some support and advice on how to cope while supporting a loved one who recently attempted suicide. I was the person who found them, and since then I’ve been struggling with constant, intrusive thoughts and overthinking that I can’t seem to switch off. I really want to be there for him, but I’m finding it hard to manage my own mental wellbeing at the same time. How do you balance supporting someone else while also looking after yourself? Any strategies for managing the thoughts and focusing on what I can control would mean a lot. Thank you

eliz_a2998 Being better help
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It's been six months since I last self harmed. It is officially one year ago I was in the psych ward because of an attempt to take my life, it's been very hard trying to get my life back. It's weird I feel as if I've forgotten who I was before I was ... View more

It's been six months since I last self harmed. It is officially one year ago I was in the psych ward because of an attempt to take my life, it's been very hard trying to get my life back. It's weird I feel as if I've forgotten who I was before I was sick I feel lost a lot and not real.

Rubaiya I don’t know
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I am unable to do anything. Specially I can't study. I have assessments due. instead of doing that I am doing everything. I struggle with getting things done. Even if try to somehow starting the task I just need to do it perfectly or either not at al... View more

I am unable to do anything. Specially I can't study. I have assessments due. instead of doing that I am doing everything. I struggle with getting things done. Even if try to somehow starting the task I just need to do it perfectly or either not at all. When I can't do perfectly I just became sad and leave the task. My to do lists and never getting ticked. Even I don’t have a to do. I don’t have any list. I can't make a list. I can't plan anything. Even if I do I can't finished it. There is a lot of voices in my head. They always argue. I can specially hear two voices one is the voice of current me and another is 2 year old me. The 2 year old me to trantrums, take implusive decisions, don’t want to wait, have big emotions, meltdowns and my older self try saying no no don’t do it..Toodler me always wins and current me is just tired and frustrated now. Want to run. It feels like having a giant head on you body that gives you pain, wrong directons, confused directions. I am always confused, having multiple options in my head..Being in relationships that you know don’t serve you, But keep going for more than 10 years, there is someone is me that says stop!! this are the signs!! I do Stop.. But when I cut connections , I get implusive, even if that moment they are hiding anywhere in the world I would find them.. Don’t know what to feel, what to do, what to expect myself..I am not consistent in anything in my life.. I hate myself..I don’t deserve anything

Guest_36048069 Feeling low
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HiNever done this before well where to start I suffer from depression, anxiety dyspraxia and I tend to take it out on my 3 kids and wife even tho I know they’ve nothing wrong as of late I’ve been more angry and short fused which makes me scared that ... View more

HiNever done this before well where to start I suffer from depression, anxiety dyspraxia and I tend to take it out on my 3 kids and wife even tho I know they’ve nothing wrong as of late I’ve been more angry and short fused which makes me scared that something else going on in my brain. I have had suicidal thoughts but never actually tried to I am medicated. There’s other stuff but I’m not sure how personal I should get

guest2046046 Struggle with job/life?
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Hello everyone,I hope everyone is doing ok.I am putting up a post here to discuss a few things. I have previously struggled with depression, which was especially severe during my last few years of high school. Now that I am out of high school, I had ... View more

Hello everyone,I hope everyone is doing ok.I am putting up a post here to discuss a few things. I have previously struggled with depression, which was especially severe during my last few years of high school. Now that I am out of high school, I had thought that things would improve but unfortunately they have not really overall. I know that there are so, so many people with other problems more severe than mine but I thought maybe putting up a post would help me feel a little better. I thought that I wanted to go into the vet nursing industry and after securing an amazing opportunity at a vet clinic to get paid whilst learning skills and experiencing what it is like in the industry as well as studying, I couldn't help but feel overwhelmed. I am so grateful to have received this opportunity, but I can't help but think that it should have gone to someone else. I have grown to dread every single shift I am scheduled onto, and my hours have been reduced, giving me a lot less pay to live off and causing quite a bit of stress because I feel I am not earning enough money each week, and I don't think I can afford to go to therapy to help myself work through this. On top of this, I had thought before working at the clinic that it was going to be based around the pets and supporting surgery, cleaning, etc. however I am answering phones and dealing with customers at reception a lot, whilst feeling a bit discouraged after my co-workers have made some subtly discouraging comments to me. I am an introvert and have developed a bit of anxiety around constantly talking to people, which I think has made me a bit worse of a receptionist. I know I should not be complaining about this and I feel terrible complaining but, doing that sort of extroverted reception work & also having the euthanasias impact me more than I thought it would, and I have stayed for at least 5 months to see if things would get better. Even though I could push through & continue working there, it still feels a bit terrible. I am beginning to become tired and very much numb to everything and don't really have any feelings about it except for a bit of dread knowing I have to work another shift this week. Am I just having some anxious feelings associated with the shifts and it is an unconscious response now that I should try to reverse and push through? Otherwise I have tried job searching, but it is so hard to get a job, and most seem very customer basedSorry for the long post.I appreciate any comments.

amd1953 I could just scream
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I have had enough of this life, let's move on to the next one. I am kidding of course. I've had enough of everyone who thinks that they are better than everyone else. I've had enough of people who think they are worse than everyone else. I am tired o... View more

I have had enough of this life, let's move on to the next one. I am kidding of course. I've had enough of everyone who thinks that they are better than everyone else. I've had enough of people who think they are worse than everyone else. I am tired of any kind of authority. I am so tired of hearing about politics, religion, economics, global warming, global cooling, the mission to Mars and the mission to the moon. I hate cars, bikes, trucks and bicycles, people and small children. Yesterday I had a letter telling me that I had to vote in some forthcoming council election. I hate them too. If you don't vote, we'll hit you with a fine and the longer you try to hold out, we'll raise the fine. We will take you to court, find you guilty and throw you in jail forever. If you don't pay your annual rates, we'll sell your house and throw you out on the street. Terrific!It's wonderful to be alive!amd1953

Guest_39317800 Feel like my bum is small and I need some lift or plastic surgery
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Hi All, I am a bit disappointed in the size of my bum, and can’t handle the way that I feel about it. I need help to emotionally regulate my feelings toward this subject.I am not trying to trivialise the subject - it may well be body dysmorphia. I ne... View more

Hi All, I am a bit disappointed in the size of my bum, and can’t handle the way that I feel about it. I need help to emotionally regulate my feelings toward this subject.I am not trying to trivialise the subject - it may well be body dysmorphia. I need to find a way to overcome these feelings of frustration about my bum because it is overtaking my thoughts. Thanks Beyond Blue for giving me an outlet for this horrible feeling.

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