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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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jolesty Hoot Hoot
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A lonely owl calling out for company. I’ve just read the Readers Digestcover to cover and ironically the front cover is devoted to sleep! I do okay often but if I step out of the usual routine nights/mornings like this can happen! Hope you’re doing o... View more

A lonely owl calling out for company. I’ve just read the Readers Digestcover to cover and ironically the front cover is devoted to sleep! I do okay often but if I step out of the usual routine nights/mornings like this can happen! Hope you’re doing ok.

Croix Night Owls (for those awake late and can't sleep)
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Dear AllThe purpose of this thread is as a meeting point for those that can’t sleep and it is late (I.E. AFTER midnight.)It can be a useful space for users to share their issues with insomnia as well as coping strategies. It can also be a general spa... View more

Dear AllThe purpose of this thread is as a meeting point for those that can’t sleep and it is late (I.E. AFTER midnight.)It can be a useful space for users to share their issues with insomnia as well as coping strategies. It can also be a general space for users to converse and support one another throughout a difficult night.Please note – for those that are just bored or lonely we already have a place - the BB Café, which I recommend instead of herehttps://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/bb-social-zone/the-bb-cafeCroix

quirkywords What is honesty and how does it affect your mental health?
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I want to discuss what honesty means to you and your health. People say that they fake being well, or wear a mask so no one knows their pain.Is this being honest. When we do not admit our flaws and our behaviours does this make it harder to have insi... View more

I want to discuss what honesty means to you and your health. People say that they fake being well, or wear a mask so no one knows their pain.Is this being honest. When we do not admit our flaws and our behaviours does this make it harder to have insight into our illness and harder to get better? Do we need to be honest with ourselves and others in order to be well.? Honesty can be a very subjective personal word. What one people feels is being honest another may feel is not. For many years I was in denial about my illness so I would admit to myself I was ill, I was not honest. So what does honesty mean to you? So lets start a conversation. All ideas welcome. Everyone is welcome to comment, new posters, regular posters, I want everyone's ideas. Quirky

Purpleblue13 Need career/life advice and someone to talk to
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Hi, I am a mom of an amazing 16 months old have an amazing husband who works full time and i am currently working 4 days a week with amazing boss and workmates. I wanted to do so many things, study, change career, upskills get a better job with good ... View more

Hi, I am a mom of an amazing 16 months old have an amazing husband who works full time and i am currently working 4 days a week with amazing boss and workmates. I wanted to do so many things, study, change career, upskills get a better job with good pay, care for my baby more, do my hobby, i love making earrings, doing my nails and gardening. I have pets cat, dog and now a fish. All i wanted to say is can someone help me point to one direction! For the past couple of months my thoughts is everywhere and I've been doing everything and still not getting anywhere. I don't know who to talk to or where to go. I'm definitely sure i need help!

cyber_katz I LOOOVVEEE MUSIC
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Every single day all I can think about is music. I am obsessed with it because it just makes me feel so safe but recently I have been worrying because I feel like its turning into this strange addiction. I feel as though only only reason I listen to ... View more

Every single day all I can think about is music. I am obsessed with it because it just makes me feel so safe but recently I have been worrying because I feel like its turning into this strange addiction. I feel as though only only reason I listen to music is to block out the world that is crashing and burning in the background. Its not like I have anything else though. Every single day I can walk for hours just listening to my favourite. The problem comes in because whenever something happens, I go on a walk, listen to music and completely forget out the everything and I don't want to forget- I want to grow and heal. I feel as through I'm using it as a shield instead of a healthy gateway for me to have nice me time. All I think about its music - it completely chews on every single cell in my brain. I am trying to channel the love for music into a more healthier approach by learning about my favourite musicians and how music gets created but I don't have motivation. Lots of love.

quirkywords New year , new day , changing one thing
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A new year , a new day is there one thing you want to change.I don’t do new year resolutions but I think about one small think I can do differently or change. There is no pressure. One thing I try to change is to accept a compliment ,instead of defle... View more

A new year , a new day is there one thing you want to change.I don’t do new year resolutions but I think about one small think I can do differently or change. There is no pressure. One thing I try to change is to accept a compliment ,instead of deflecting it. I thought it would nice for people to share something small they want to change. You can just do it each day. so what small thing do you want to change.?

ScooterCat Am I a bad person?
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Earlier this year, I refused to eat my dad's stir-fry noodles because he made the same thing the night before. He got annoyed that I didn't want to eat his food and he started ignoring me and giving me the silent treatment. He eventually isolated him... View more

Earlier this year, I refused to eat my dad's stir-fry noodles because he made the same thing the night before. He got annoyed that I didn't want to eat his food and he started ignoring me and giving me the silent treatment. He eventually isolated himself from me and got my sisters to do the same. I know I should've voiced this out to my dad and told him that I didn't like how he made the same thing the night before. I shouldn't have just walked off and said nothing. Yet, it felt like I really was a bad person and my mistakes define who I am. It felt like I didn't deserve anything good in life and that I deserve to be punished for everything.

Guest001 Autonomic neuropathy
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I have been told that I have autonomic neuropathy and that there is no cure. My gp has been great but at a loss of what to.i have searched for a specialist but sick of getting told we can help only to end up in the same spot but poorer.I don't think ... View more

I have been told that I have autonomic neuropathy and that there is no cure. My gp has been great but at a loss of what to.i have searched for a specialist but sick of getting told we can help only to end up in the same spot but poorer.I don't think that I can keep going with all the pain I'm in constantly. My partner is very supportive but she can't do anything to reduce pain I'm at a loss for where to turn or who to talk to that may be able to help

Pyrolee Rock bottom and feel worse
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I've been through alot of hardship lately in my life, I've currently got a son and have another kid on the way. Works been extremely stressful and I'm finding everyday I'm just hating people more and more as I have to deal with them everyday. Lost em... View more

I've been through alot of hardship lately in my life, I've currently got a son and have another kid on the way. Works been extremely stressful and I'm finding everyday I'm just hating people more and more as I have to deal with them everyday. Lost empathy and sympathy for people as I find people are just all in it for themselves. Currently come down with covid and very sick, borrowed our sisters car and someone did a hit and run on it which now I have to find money to repair, wife accidentally drove our car into my mothers car so now have to deal with that, had our fridge broke and booked Westinghouse to repair as they said they have all parts and can fix, tech arrived and said can't, don't have parts, hence why I'm hating people, lies and deception, this is one example. I don't get any support from my wife, she's pushing me to buy a house which we can't financially and mentally, been living with my parents, wifes been giving all my hard earned money to her family in vietnam, I bring this up we get into heated arguments, I'm having thoughts on divorce but thinking about my kids, I feel the communication between my wife and myself isn't there anymore, don't know how long I can last, feel broken but can't feel emotions to smile or cry, I've tried counseling but it just reverts to them really not listening and prescribing medication, can't go down path of suicide as I know this will effect my kids but don't know what to do, feel really stuck, this isn't the first time in my life I've felt like this, problems always there no matter what, not sure what to do next

amd1953 Merry Christmas 2023
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I would like to take this opportunity to wish all of my dear friends on Beyond Blue a very merry Christmas and a Happy and Peaceful New Year in 2024. A heartfelt thankyou also to everyone who has taken an interest in what I have had to say throughout... View more

I would like to take this opportunity to wish all of my dear friends on Beyond Blue a very merry Christmas and a Happy and Peaceful New Year in 2024. A heartfelt thankyou also to everyone who has taken an interest in what I have had to say throughout 2023 and have been kind enough to reply. Some of what I have written maybe questionable but hopefully most of it was of some small help along the road to wherever we are all going. I would also like to wish all of those people who find themselves alone during this festive season, the sincere hope that their lives will improve beyond their greatest expectations and that they will find a way through life's little bumps in the road to enjoy this journey through time and space.amd1953