Hey Spellrune192, thank you so much for reaching out to us, welcome to the forums.
As somebody who is also quite familiar with self-care/psychology but struggles to take on my own advice, I understand where you're coming from.
With regards to sleep, relaxing videos can be really helpful at night. They tend to put you into a better headspace to settle down by giving your mind something else to focus on. They're also a really low-maintenance form of self-care, as all you need (generally) is a device, and a good pair of headphones.
It's all about small steps with self-care, especially with returning to hobbies. If you like cooking, try doing something really simple and low-effort, for instance. If you enjoy painting but haven't found the motivation recently to do it, sit yourself down and start colouring in a picture or doodling on a piece of paper, and the motivation tends to follow. I once heard somewhere that we get caught up in the idea that motivation will come before action, when it's often the other way around.
I will always be an advocate for journaling. Setting aside a little bit of time (even five minutes) in your day to get all of your thoughts out there can be really helpful. Journaling doesn't have to be just writing, either. Doodling counts as journaling.
Couples' counselling/therapy may also be something you could look into. There are many misconceptions about couples' counselling, but it can be really good if you feel that there are things that you would benefit from working through together, or if you're seeking ways to better support your partner/have them better support you through something.
I hope some of this advice can resonate with you. We're here to chat some more with you if you'd like to.
All the best, SB
