Confused about wife’s herpes

[RustyRoo]

My wife and I have been married for 25 years. Recently she announced she had been diagnosed with genital HSV1 and was having what seemed to be a severe outbreak. She then accused me of giving it to her and of having an affair which I never have. So I got tested and was neg HSV1 & 2.

I then reminded the events of ten years ago when she also accused me of giving her an STD. Further testing was required to identify what type but that I needed to be tested for everything. And she accused me of having an affair. Which I hadn’t. I was tested for everything and was neg. When I enquired about her further tests she said it turned out not to be an StD- just a false alarm.

back to present day. I asked to see her medical records from 10 years. Initially the Dr had lost them. Finally they showed up and to my surprise ten years ago was not a false alarm nor a mystery std. in fact a blood test had found her to be HSV2 positive and guess what HSV1 negative. So ten years ago she lied about HSV 2 and now she can contracted HSV1 genitally.

Is there anyway this could have happened without her having cheated?

What should I do?

[indigo22]

Hi RustyRoo,

Welcome and thank you for reaching out to us.

I can understand your uncertainty and confusion around this and we are here to support you.

The problem is that none of us are medical professionals and are unable to give you the answer to your question. My advice would be to have a talk with your own doctor to uncover the ways in which this can be contracted. The answer needs to come from an unbiased reliable source.

It's most unfortunate that your wife was not upfront with you about the results from 10 years ago, it would be very hard for you not to suspect something else was going on due to her dishonesty.

I hope you are able to get some clarity on this, we will be here to support you when you want to talk.

Take good care of yourself,

indigo

[randomxx]

Sorry op , what an awful shock for you.

lf it was me first thing l'd do is research on how someone can catch it , if at all, without actual sexual contact and what are the odds. You may know right there if she's lying or not.

However l'd also find it pretty hard to believe even if poss' she's caught it in some other way bc she sounds like she's immediately turning it onto you shifting it from herself and sorry to say but that doesn't sound innocent to me.

Hope for you l'm wrong and wish for the best..

rx

[Guest_33375171]

Hey,

stressful times, but at least you know you are all clear. Having said that, the herpes virus can stay dormant for decades before activating usually when a person is rundown or stressed.  Also can be spread from mouth to genitals and vice versa, honestly I would get qualified sexual health professionals advice. Look up a  sexual health clinic in your area. Local gps are sometimes not up to date on the information out now.