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Why is No such an hard word to say

Matchy69
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I have all my life struggled to say the word no to people and if i do i feel so bad and hate my self for saying no.

I find it so hard to say no to my ex like her asking me to have the kids when she is supose to have them and just say yes even though i had plans or an appointment and just change them or cancel them.

It is really hard to say no to the kids i give them everything they ask for.I feel like a bad parent at times but feel worst if I do say no as my son starts crying and it breaks my heart and makes me feel so bad.

Why is this one little word so hard to say?

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Matchy69
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Hi Deckt i said no to someone who needed a lift into the hospital as his car had broken down and i said no i was busy and that was i had planned going on a motorbike ride and now i feel bad and think i should have taken him to the hospital.I had that day free from kids and my ex and the day before rings and ask me but this is what allways hsppens i can be free for days and hear from no one but when i have plans it seems something alwsys come up at the last minute.

Hi - In trying to become a little more assertive myself, I started saying "Ok, no worries, I will have a think about it and get back to you soon.". Its been a good strategy as it gives me the space to think about if I want to help with a persons request, if I can, and if I in fact should be helping anyway. It can be uncomfortable at first and takes practice πŸ™‚

Matchy69
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Blue Voices Member
Hi calmseeker,some people have no problem saying no and then some people say yes and then dont follow through with it.I like saying yes and helping people but it has been getting in the way of other things in my life and not being mentally well even effects me more.