Why is No such an hard word to say
I have all my life struggled to say the word no to people and if i do i feel so bad and hate my self for saying no.
I find it so hard to say no to my ex like her asking me to have the kids when she is supose to have them and just say yes even though i had plans or an appointment and just change them or cancel them.
It is really hard to say no to the kids i give them everything they ask for.I feel like a bad parent at times but feel worst if I do say no as my son starts crying and it breaks my heart and makes me feel so bad.
Why is this one little word so hard to say?
Not at all, it can be an incredibly difficult thing for a lot of people to establish healthy boundaries. And others just go their entire lives doing things for other people and before they know it they’ve never done anything for themselves. There is nothing wrong with doing things for other people, but it should be because you want to not because you are made to do them. Good luck xx
Grey rock is a strategy for dealing with narcissists, but it may work with dealing with your ex? It sounds like she likes drama, and might be a bit manipulative? It just involves giving her as little information and as dispassionately as possible.
"I have plans that day".
Her - "What plans?"
Her - "Is everything all right?"
And so on. If you google grey rock narcissist, it might give you some ideas.