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[velvetfaerie]

My first introduction thread after being here FOREVER..... because I always do things backwards...

Velvz. Bipolar.... type? Not sure. I walked out of the psychiatrists office the day he tried putting me on more meds. That was a decade ago.

Anxiety issues. OCD issues. Occasional SH concerns. Checkered history of substance abuse.

I manage for the most part by exercising, good healthy food and good sleep practices. Substances these days are 3 drinks maximum and I'm rat assed.

I work full time. Study part time. Bought my own house years ago. On my own. Ok the bank helped lol!!! Most days for me are 10-14 hours depending. That's work and study and house things and exercise.

At the moment I'm struggling because I believe I've burnt myself out and pushed myself into hypomania. I'm all over the shop. Been here before but no psychosis stuff. Woo.

Oh man I don't know what else to say. No kids. Love kids. But conscious decision not to have my own. Love men. But sadly I'm intolerant to relationships after a while. Moody 😁😁

Animals and music are my passions.

Yeh so..... **** awkward silence***

velvz.

[velvetfaerie]

TOTAlly giggled!!!

Just spoke to him. House sale or not he has until sept 1st to make me exist. To stop hiding me. Yes a bit long I know but it marks 2 years.

if he wants my commitment and exclusivity he needs to stop being so loyal to her tantrums. Circumstances or not. She threatened to take the kids away that’s the game but he enjoys being ignorant to legalities.

I feel like an idiot for being so tollerant but believe me I pulled no punches this time.

I will start dating again.

Im going to the gym.

[CMF]

Question. Does his ex know he is seeing you?

[velvetfaerie]

Nope and that’s my main issue.

she thinks we broke up.

[CMF]

Ok, but she did know about you.

yeah, he needs to stand up to her. She can't take the kids away just cos he moved on. The fact she would even mention that says a lot about her. 1st of Sept is a long time to be patient and tolerant of this crap. Maybe research and text him info about his rights and he can show her and tell her to move on. Show her that she can't do what she is doing. I'm suggesting you do it cos obviously he won't.

[velvetfaerie]

I have. He chooses not to.

Lots to think about.

[CMF]

gee, you've done everything and he still won't budge? Don't waste the year waiting. Easy for me to say. The house isn't sold, do they still live together? Sounds very complex, I'm trying to work out this hold she has over him and why. You have mentioned he has depression I think? Maybe I'm being too hard on him.

[velvetfaerie]

She comes and goes as she pleases. Stays at Mother place.

She threatened to move interstate with the kids. A year ago. Empty threat.

no he’s an idiot.

[Doolhof]

Hi Velve and All,

Hopefully the sleep pattern will continue to improve.

It can be very helpful to decide which friendships to pursue and which ones to let hang for a while.

Children can certainly bring us back to reality and make us more accountable for who we are as people. It is wonderful the 10 year old hung out with you! Sounds cute.

You crack me up the way you describe your guy as a "man thing hobbit creature".

Cheers from Dools

[velvetfaerie]

The ex has him railroaded.

This women is unbelievable. She works full time. Her mum pays for her holidays while my hobbit pays for her housing. She is 40 and NEVER stood on her own two feet the virus !!!!!!! I want her OUT OF MY GENDER!!!!!!!!

Grr. Yes at the moment they kind of share the house for ease of keeping it looking good for home opens and for kid care. But he is non confrontational. She takes full advantage.

GRR.

I am better today. Just hungry. AHAHHA. I need to buy lunch.

[velvetfaerie]

I just looked at the wheel of power and abuse I saw recommended on another thread.

I sent hobbit a copy. SHE the evil so and so.... uses a lot of the tools in the wheel to control him. She is abusive.

**angry face**

I need lunch. I an HANGRY