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BeyondBlue Welcome, read this if it's your first time here !
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Hey there! This section is where you can find many of the longer conversations that are happening on the Forums. It is a special place for people who have been sharing and supporting each other for years. We know that our mental health can be a journ... View more

Hey there! This section is where you can find many of the longer conversations that are happening on the Forums. It is a special place for people who have been sharing and supporting each other for years. We know that our mental health can be a journey with ups and downs. Take a look through these longer conversations and you can see how supportive, validating and kind this community can be. It can be tricky to join an ongoing conversation but please feel free to contribute. You are the expert in what has worked for you and what you are living with. We want to hear about it, and these wonderful discussions are only ever richer for what you can add. There are a few tips for this section of the Forums that might be helpful Have a good read. These are long and in-depth conversations so before you step in, have a read of a few posts to get a sense of the space. It is not a great spot for New Topics. Replies are very welcome, but if you want to start something fresh try another section of the Forums. Thanks for your understanding, we want to hear what you think of these conversations and look forward to your contributions. Thanks Beyond Blue

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startingnew Not coping after disclosure
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Please help me. Im really struggling. last night i disclosed something that ive kept with me for 2 years now. Im already struggling with ptsd anxiety and depression but the event that i disclosed also comes under ptsd. I rang a hotline and the first ... View more

Please help me. Im really struggling. last night i disclosed something that ive kept with me for 2 years now. Im already struggling with ptsd anxiety and depression but the event that i disclosed also comes under ptsd. I rang a hotline and the first time in 2 years ive spoken about it and im so embarrassed and ashamed. I hate myself and blame myelf for it. And im terriffied! !

Kazzl This bipolar life
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Are your moods are like an elevator with no control buttons? Mine are. Ground floor ... I feel normal, content, just quietly getting on with ordinary, everyday life, loving my family and friends. This is as it should be. And maybe there's nothing wro... View more

Are your moods are like an elevator with no control buttons? Mine are. Ground floor ... I feel normal, content, just quietly getting on with ordinary, everyday life, loving my family and friends. This is as it should be. And maybe there's nothing wrong with me after all. Live. Going up, top floor. Oh look! There's a shiny thing! I want to sing! Let's go buy stuff! Let's have a big party and invite the world! What could possibly go wrong! Woooooo hoooooooo! Play. Going up (a different day) top floor. What do you mean you don't agree with me! I'm right! Why don't you think like me? Keep up! How can you be so illogical? I'll f-ing shred you if you don't do what I want! Rage. Going down, lower ground floor. Flat, listless, can't be bothered. Can still function but it's a drag. Cope Going down, basement. I'm never getting out of bed again. I'm useless, worthless. Total idiot, how could I ever imagine I could do anything, nothing ever goes right because I'm wrong. I'm a burden to everyone. Hide. Welcome to my bipolar world. It's always been my world, but it's only recently I've seen it for what it is. About 15 years ago I was diagnosed with clinical depression during one of my 'basement' times. I had a lot of lower ground floor times too, on and off, and I kept out of the basement (so I thought) with alcohol. Until that took me into the blackest ever basement with only one obvious way out. Having survived doing something very dangerous I realised I had to stop drinking or I really would die. I never took much notice of the playful times or the anger, that was just me, I was fun sometimes, and sometimes I was a devastating bitch. Ha! Deal with it people! Well, yes, but in time the elevator started going up and down too quickly and, as I became more aware and more knowledgeable about mental health I realised this wasn't good. Doctor. Diagnosis. Bipolar 2. Lithium. So, I've started this thread in the hope that other bipolar folks will join me, to share experiences and strategies. In my 'beginners' understanding, we are different from other fellow travellers of the back dog. While we experience depression as many others on this site do, the hypomanic or manic ups and, for some the rapid cycling that can happen, are experiences unto themselves. I want to learn more, and I want to share with others. I hope my fellow elevators will join me here. BTW, it's a ground floor day in my head today! Yay! Love Kaz

Eves Sons on remand
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I am heart broken Never had any kids in trouble until now.My youngest son last night was refused bail and is now on remand in police cells waiting to be transferred to the MAP.Next court date is in October I cant stop crying its heart shattering.My s... View more

I am heart broken Never had any kids in trouble until now.My youngest son last night was refused bail and is now on remand in police cells waiting to be transferred to the MAP.Next court date is in October I cant stop crying its heart shattering.My son has mental health and I am concerned for his mental well being.

Guest_64536267 Navigating long term unemployment
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I’d like to hear stories of how people got out of longterm unemployment. The steps they took, supports they engaged etc. Please be as specific as you feel comfortable. I’m trying to figure this out as my anxiety is heaviest regarding career. I’ve not... View more

I’d like to hear stories of how people got out of longterm unemployment. The steps they took, supports they engaged etc. Please be as specific as you feel comfortable. I’m trying to figure this out as my anxiety is heaviest regarding career. I’ve not engaged Centrelink or Employment services because of this. I’d like to hear all the ways people got themselves back out there. Conventional or not. What industries they found welcome etc. Even just how they got their resume and references done. Located in SA for those who have tips or experiences locally.

Ggrand Alone..Depressed..Sad..
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Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my o... View more

Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..

Geniue Hope
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Hi Everyone just sharing how im feeling today a little down life can be such a struggle and you think to yourself if it will ever get better than it currently is. It was through sheer determination and fight will power and hope and my incredibly fait... View more

Hi Everyone just sharing how im feeling today a little down life can be such a struggle and you think to yourself if it will ever get better than it currently is. It was through sheer determination and fight will power and hope and my incredibly faith that my life has turned around for the better. I know we all uniquely different but if I can say anything at all is find what brings you happiness and joy in your life and yes life is not always rosey and there is going to be times where we will think we cannot go on but trust me you can there is so much more out there waiting for you to experience hang on and never never ever ever give up because you hold the power in you just believe dig down deep to find it only if your open to it. It dosent come easy nothing worthwhile is easy but if your willing to put in the work trust me when I tell you it is more than possible to have the life you so rightfully deserve. All hope faith to everyone out there.

Geniue Mental health
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Hi its Geniue here i haven't posted anything for a long time. But I'm glad I'm back. I'm very passionate about the work that Beyond Blue does because it's close to home for me. I guess for me when someone goes through immense struggles at such a very... View more

Hi its Geniue here i haven't posted anything for a long time. But I'm glad I'm back. I'm very passionate about the work that Beyond Blue does because it's close to home for me. I guess for me when someone goes through immense struggles at such a very young age it makes you wonder how on earth you can survive something like that and that is my story. For myself I was dealing with such incredible adversity still growing still trying to figure out who I was and I was heavily compounded with things that someone at a young age should never have to go through little loan experience. How does someone navigate there way through that but somehow that's what I did. I just want to say WE ARE NOT VICTIMS we are actually SURVIVORS of other people's bad choices. It never was bout us for the people out there who can relate to my story but everything to do with them. Please takecare and know this you are beautiful and deserving of all the wonderful things life has to offer. Because now I truly know that within my heart and soul. Don't let anyone take that special person that is in you away. Because it is there I found myself and I know you can too. Thankyou

Matchy69 how do i stop crying
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I feel so alone,i dont have many friends or anyone who wants to know what i am going through.I just find my self just breaking down and crying.I just want some one to listen and not to judge me.

I feel so alone,i dont have many friends or anyone who wants to know what i am going through.I just find my self just breaking down and crying.I just want some one to listen and not to judge me.

Potato_head4eva Idealised death since as young as I remember, at 28 things finally changed for me
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Since as young as I can remember? I’ve always struggled with severe anxiety and regulating my mood. I would experience some instances of euphoria and many experiences of depression and idealisation of suicide effectively before I even was familiar wi... View more

Since as young as I can remember? I’ve always struggled with severe anxiety and regulating my mood. I would experience some instances of euphoria and many experiences of depression and idealisation of suicide effectively before I even was familiar with the word ‘suicide’. A 28 years old finally things changed for me. I finally got the help I needed and I’m continuing to receive the help because it’s a long and hard path to health and wellness after being so mentally unwell for so long.

focus008 Nobody’s Person
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Hi all, I have just recently joined.Im 38, female, single and living alone.I’ve come to realise lately that although my family love me because they are my family and will always have that tie to me, I am not important to anyone by choice.I am no one’... View more

Hi all, I have just recently joined.Im 38, female, single and living alone.I’ve come to realise lately that although my family love me because they are my family and will always have that tie to me, I am not important to anyone by choice.I am no one’s best friend, I am no one’s partner, no one has ever loved me enough to stay or go want to marry me or have children with me. It must be the most wonderful feeing in the world to mean so much to another person, but I am always left feeling not good enough and alone. I come home to an empty house after work and cry because life isn’t meant to be lived alone and I feel so alone… I just don’t know what do do about it.