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BeyondBlue Welcome, read this if it's your first time here !
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Hey there! This section is where you can find many of the longer conversations that are happening on the Forums. It is a special place for people who have been sharing and supporting each other for years. We know that our mental health can be a journ... View more

Hey there! This section is where you can find many of the longer conversations that are happening on the Forums. It is a special place for people who have been sharing and supporting each other for years. We know that our mental health can be a journey with ups and downs. Take a look through these longer conversations and you can see how supportive, validating and kind this community can be. It can be tricky to join an ongoing conversation but please feel free to contribute. You are the expert in what has worked for you and what you are living with. We want to hear about it, and these wonderful discussions are only ever richer for what you can add. There are a few tips for this section of the Forums that might be helpful Have a good read. These are long and in-depth conversations so before you step in, have a read of a few posts to get a sense of the space. It is not a great spot for New Topics. Replies are very welcome, but if you want to start something fresh try another section of the Forums. Thanks for your understanding, we want to hear what you think of these conversations and look forward to your contributions. Thanks Beyond Blue

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sherlocks Work Cover Slaughter 20+ Years
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Hello I have to share my Mental Health Treatment Recovery To The Now This . What am I? What’s left Of Me ?My Mental Health Journey Under Work Cover Insurers of 20+ Years!. I have been under my insurer for my work place injury, I think it’s time to sh... View more

Hello I have to share my Mental Health Treatment Recovery To The Now This . What am I? What’s left Of Me ?My Mental Health Journey Under Work Cover Insurers of 20+ Years!. I have been under my insurer for my work place injury, I think it’s time to share me, I have been trying to recover from my mental health for so long now. Sad truth is I have had to beg for admission in a suicidal state, I have to get approval from administration to decide if I can have treatment. I have to wait until they decide if I am approved admission. This could take two weeks or more, I’m waiting in a mentally severe fragile state. I have recently experienced interference in my recovery two weeks on a four week program and they refuse further care and admission. The Claim Manager Not a Doctor Not a Medical Practitioner an office worker. It was embarrassing and shameful. I had an attempt on my life woke up 2 days later on the floor. I experienced a mental health breakdown needing urgent care and nothing. Three weeks later I get approval for another two week stay. I had a breakdown attempt on my life waiting waiting waiting for Claim manager’s decision. I have been abused denied and lied to and faked my identity it has been a deathly painful abuse neglect of a serious corrupt broken system

The-problem-tm The other woman in an arranged marriage
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I met my partner 9 months ago. He told me 2 months later he was married with a child. I stayed, I listened. From what he described abuse and coercive control were the mainstream in the dynamic of their relationship. He's been telling me for months he... View more

I met my partner 9 months ago. He told me 2 months later he was married with a child. I stayed, I listened. From what he described abuse and coercive control were the mainstream in the dynamic of their relationship. He's been telling me for months he will leave her, and has once before but returned due to guilt and family pressure (they have a child, <1). I started out feeling okay about this, I understand the pressure he is under but I'm beginning to run out of patience. A (large) part of me feels this isn't my problem and I deserve more. Last time we broke up he showed up with flowers and told me he was on the verge of killing himself without me, I guess I just don't know how to get out now and I'm scared of losing my chance at happy ever after if he does get it together.

MM15 Terminated from work
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High stress role that eventually became too much led to long term depression and anxiety. After utilising all my sick leave (5 months) and having had a medical review which concluded I wasn’t ready to return, I was terminated by work. I ended up putt... View more

High stress role that eventually became too much led to long term depression and anxiety. After utilising all my sick leave (5 months) and having had a medical review which concluded I wasn’t ready to return, I was terminated by work. I ended up putting in a late general protections claim but couldn’t manage it and bailed out early. Work objected to the delay brought in an external legal team and it became expensive and far too stressful. Income protection has started, which I am thankful for. Am wondering if I should look at work cover. how stressful is all this?

Geniue Mental health
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Hi its Geniue here i haven't posted anything for a long time. But I'm glad I'm back. I'm very passionate about the work that Beyond Blue does because it's close to home for me. I guess for me when someone goes through immense struggles at such a very... View more

Hi its Geniue here i haven't posted anything for a long time. But I'm glad I'm back. I'm very passionate about the work that Beyond Blue does because it's close to home for me. I guess for me when someone goes through immense struggles at such a very young age it makes you wonder how on earth you can survive something like that and that is my story. For myself I was dealing with such incredible adversity still growing still trying to figure out who I was and I was heavily compounded with things that someone at a young age should never have to go through little loan experience. How does someone navigate there way through that but somehow that's what I did. I just want to say WE ARE NOT VICTIMS we are actually SURVIVORS of other people's bad choices. It never was bout us for the people out there who can relate to my story but everything to do with them. Please takecare and know this you are beautiful and deserving of all the wonderful things life has to offer. Because now I truly know that within my heart and soul. Don't let anyone take that special person that is in you away. Because it is there I found myself and I know you can too. Thankyou

QldMouse Decades of depression and loanliness, where to now?
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I’ve been reading these most amazing posts, from people who sound so nice and are suffering so much. Sadly I can relate so much to so many people. With apprehension can I share some of my story in the hope of getting a reality check and possible advi... View more

I’ve been reading these most amazing posts, from people who sound so nice and are suffering so much. Sadly I can relate so much to so many people. With apprehension can I share some of my story in the hope of getting a reality check and possible advice. Like so many I had a sad childhood which then turned to fear, shame, loneliness and depression in teenage and young adult years. A partner was found for me, I lacked the courage to ask her out. A short burst of happiness followed with the birth of a truly wonderful daughter who gives me the reason to carry on each day. Sadly my wife comes with her own inventory of baggage and has suffered depression most of her life. Over our 20+ year marriage I’ve tried to remain supportive but have done a pretty crap job, and after hitting a low point I started getting therapy. I’m told I’ve made a lot of progress but I don’t feel it myself. I’m exhausted, I feel so lost, trapped and alone. I have no friends, no life, and nothing but fear. I’m over the hill, accelerating down the other side with only a few years to go. My wife has sought help in the past but without success, and will not consider counseling or any form of assistance. She remains medicated, but it had an adverse reaction on me. I feel so bad for her and shame that I’m such a rubbish husband. The therapist I’ve been seeing thinks I should leave and pursue my own path to happiness, but I think she underestimates how much that terrifies me. The fear of being even lonelier than I am now and losing my daughter, the one person that keeps me going, I just can’t cope with that. I still love my wife but our relationship has been poor for a couple of decades. We don’t talk honestly, and she is a bit harsh on me at times. I’m not saying I don’t deserve it, and I understand I’m overly sensitive. My therapist says that I have qualities that women are looking for, but I am very skeptical. I am paying her to make me feel better after all. She also underestimates how truly bad I am around women. I have suffered social anxiety since I was young, panic attacks and a morbid fear of women. I literally cannot talk to a woman I like, it is hard enough for me to breath in her presence. I dread to think what they must think of me, my deep breathing is not rudeness it’s an inability to obtain oxygen. Pretty poor prospects really. I’m lost, can I help my wife? Can I help me? Can I help us or is it really too late? How do you tell? Thanks for reading, be well everyone.

Saree_p Really struggling
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Hi All, This is the first time I have ever tried to use a forum. I simply don't know what else to do. Atm I have a lot of memories, images, voices from past experiences resurfacing. On top of work environment that can trigger these. I simply can not ... View more

Hi All, This is the first time I have ever tried to use a forum. I simply don't know what else to do. Atm I have a lot of memories, images, voices from past experiences resurfacing. On top of work environment that can trigger these. I simply can not take it anymore and cope. All I want to do is make everything stop. I have been sitting with suicide for a while now, and I am tired of fighting it. I feel like I have exhausted all my options, I am wondering if anyone has any advice. I have started the process of seeking help, however it'll take months to organise. On top of this I can't exactly share what's going on etc. Sorry

ChrissyStar Animal cruelty, climate change, monoculture...the list goes on.
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I feel hopeless and have decided not to have children because of the state of the world (why would I wish to bring a child into this when I myself, do not like to live here?). Does anyone else feel the same?

I feel hopeless and have decided not to have children because of the state of the world (why would I wish to bring a child into this when I myself, do not like to live here?). Does anyone else feel the same?

Moonstruck I can't find the right place for me to post
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I don't know any more where to put a new thread if I make one, or which ones to join in. I always used Anxiety because that is my major condition but that has been relatively under control lately - I feel Depressed today - but I don't qualify for the... View more

I don't know any more where to put a new thread if I make one, or which ones to join in. I always used Anxiety because that is my major condition but that has been relatively under control lately - I feel Depressed today - but I don't qualify for the topics there either. I'm depressed mainly because there doesn't seem a place for me. I love some of the threads and personal thoughts for example in Staying Well, but I can't join in there, because I don't have any tips for Staying Well. I tend to have almost paranoid thoughts through over-thinking "problems" that I would like to talk over but don't know where to talk them over before they reach the paranoid stage...I want to avoid that. I join in the Social threads saying light hearted jokey things because thats the only place I seem to belong. I dwell on any problems my adult sons have in various aspects of their life and want to "fix things for them" - our relationship is very loving and close though - they are wonderful to me - so there is no real "problem" with my relationship with them....so I don't seem to belong in the "relationships, family" section either do I? I worry about them all the time - when I tried to express this on forum I think it was misconstrued that I had "empty nest syndrome" - trying to adapt to my sons' leaving home....No, that's not it...they've been gone for years and years...I am a grandmother. I liked the Getting to Know You, or is it Me? thread very much - but have been given suggestions how to start my own thread and what section to use etc and get the feeling I'm being steered away from there too. So I am still confused. I don't feel particularly anxious today, so this shouldn't even be in Anxiety! Do you see my dilemma? In fact the more I write the more I feel like crying - I don't know where to go next.

Dolly My fiancé has bipolar
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My fiancé has always been very kind and loving towards me and has always told me how much he loves me. He has always told me to never doubt his love for me. Our wedding is all planned for 7 weeks time, then out of the blue 2 weeks ago he said that he... View more

My fiancé has always been very kind and loving towards me and has always told me how much he loves me. He has always told me to never doubt his love for me. Our wedding is all planned for 7 weeks time, then out of the blue 2 weeks ago he said that he couldn’t marry me, as he doesn’t love me. I am absolutely shattered and at a loss as to what to do. I have always known from day one that he has bipolar and I am very supportive of his needs. He means a whole lot to me, I love him unconditionally.Any advice would be greatly appreciated.