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BeyondBlue Welcome, read this if it's your first time here !
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Hey there! This section is where you can find many of the longer conversations that are happening on the Forums. It is a special place for people who have been sharing and supporting each other for years. We know that our mental health can be a journ... View more

Hey there! This section is where you can find many of the longer conversations that are happening on the Forums. It is a special place for people who have been sharing and supporting each other for years. We know that our mental health can be a journey with ups and downs. Take a look through these longer conversations and you can see how supportive, validating and kind this community can be. It can be tricky to join an ongoing conversation but please feel free to contribute. You are the expert in what has worked for you and what you are living with. We want to hear about it, and these wonderful discussions are only ever richer for what you can add. There are a few tips for this section of the Forums that might be helpful Have a good read. These are long and in-depth conversations so before you step in, have a read of a few posts to get a sense of the space. It is not a great spot for New Topics. Replies are very welcome, but if you want to start something fresh try another section of the Forums. Thanks for your understanding, we want to hear what you think of these conversations and look forward to your contributions. Thanks Beyond Blue

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HamSolo01 I just feel like i have no chance..
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A bit of context: im 23, studying full time and i work a little bit on the side as a tutor. Ive been dealing with this crap for 4 years now and it hasn't exactly gotten any better. As a result of depression and social anxiety ive had no relationships... View more

A bit of context: im 23, studying full time and i work a little bit on the side as a tutor. Ive been dealing with this crap for 4 years now and it hasn't exactly gotten any better. As a result of depression and social anxiety ive had no relationships, no girlffriends, no sex, no nothing. Increasingly over time friends are starting up relationships and enjoying feeling desired. I tried tinder once, and actually met a girl who as it turned it out had a fair bit in common with me but because of my depression and anxieties i was a total mess. I screwed it up.. That was just over a year ago. I still haven't been able to get over it. It was the first time i had actually ever been on anything (even though she maintained it wasnt really a date). The only other time before that was with a girl i spoke to at uni and got friendly with. She was insane. Told me mental health wasnt even a thing.. then she just ignored me and that friendship ended in the dumps. I feel gross, less of a man and feel like i will just be on the scrap heap. Whats worse is that it just gets harder and harder as you get older. If i have another person tell me i must have it good because im a tall guy, relatively good looking (apparently i am according to some, yet i dont think so.. or else i wouldnt be failing so much) and that "the girls" must like me i may punch them in the face. It's warped too.. when people compliment you on your appearance your immediate response should not be anger... but if people actually knew the hurt and pain... i feeel like i should be out there... or else im just gonna regret my young years.. I just feel so alone. My depression has creeped up on me and my anxiety is through the roof. No use talking to my family.. they haven't learned anything. Im not going back to hospital. Its boring. It gets in the way. I feel like i dont belong there... Anyway. Feels a bit better to say that here.

Steven1 My wife isn't the least bit interested in sex and I am taking it personally. Should I?
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Hey guys. I am hoping I am not the only guy in this boat... my wife never wants to have sex with me. We are still relatively young (I am 30 and she is 29) and we have been married 4 years, been together about ten. We used to have a pretty active sex ... View more

Hey guys. I am hoping I am not the only guy in this boat... my wife never wants to have sex with me. We are still relatively young (I am 30 and she is 29) and we have been married 4 years, been together about ten. We used to have a pretty active sex life but it has gone dormant since we had kids about 3 years ago. She always says she is tired and makes excuses like she can't be bothered or other trivial things. And she never comes on to me. I always have to initiate it and I feel rejected and horrible when she knocks me back. Being depressed and having low self esteem probably makes it seem worse, but I take it pretty badly being knocked back and going without sex for months. I feel maybe she isn't attracted to me or in love with me anymore but she denies this. I don't know what to think anymore. Any thoughts anyone?

sherlocks Work Cover Slaughter 20+ Years
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Hello I have to share my Mental Health Treatment Recovery To The Now This . What am I? What’s left Of Me ?My Mental Health Journey Under Work Cover Insurers of 20+ Years!. I have been under my insurer for my work place injury, I think it’s time to sh... View more

Hello I have to share my Mental Health Treatment Recovery To The Now This . What am I? What’s left Of Me ?My Mental Health Journey Under Work Cover Insurers of 20+ Years!. I have been under my insurer for my work place injury, I think it’s time to share me, I have been trying to recover from my mental health for so long now. Sad truth is I have had to beg for admission in a suicidal state, I have to get approval from administration to decide if I can have treatment. I have to wait until they decide if I am approved admission. This could take two weeks or more, I’m waiting in a mentally severe fragile state. I have recently experienced interference in my recovery two weeks on a four week program and they refuse further care and admission. The Claim Manager Not a Doctor Not a Medical Practitioner an office worker. It was embarrassing and shameful. I had an attempt on my life woke up 2 days later on the floor. I experienced a mental health breakdown needing urgent care and nothing. Three weeks later I get approval for another two week stay. I had a breakdown attempt on my life waiting waiting waiting for Claim manager’s decision. I have been abused denied and lied to and faked my identity it has been a deathly painful abuse neglect of a serious corrupt broken system

The-problem-tm The other woman in an arranged marriage
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I met my partner 9 months ago. He told me 2 months later he was married with a child. I stayed, I listened. From what he described abuse and coercive control were the mainstream in the dynamic of their relationship. He's been telling me for months he... View more

I met my partner 9 months ago. He told me 2 months later he was married with a child. I stayed, I listened. From what he described abuse and coercive control were the mainstream in the dynamic of their relationship. He's been telling me for months he will leave her, and has once before but returned due to guilt and family pressure (they have a child, <1). I started out feeling okay about this, I understand the pressure he is under but I'm beginning to run out of patience. A (large) part of me feels this isn't my problem and I deserve more. Last time we broke up he showed up with flowers and told me he was on the verge of killing himself without me, I guess I just don't know how to get out now and I'm scared of losing my chance at happy ever after if he does get it together.

MM15 Terminated from work
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High stress role that eventually became too much led to long term depression and anxiety. After utilising all my sick leave (5 months) and having had a medical review which concluded I wasn’t ready to return, I was terminated by work. I ended up putt... View more

High stress role that eventually became too much led to long term depression and anxiety. After utilising all my sick leave (5 months) and having had a medical review which concluded I wasn’t ready to return, I was terminated by work. I ended up putting in a late general protections claim but couldn’t manage it and bailed out early. Work objected to the delay brought in an external legal team and it became expensive and far too stressful. Income protection has started, which I am thankful for. Am wondering if I should look at work cover. how stressful is all this?

Geniue Mental health
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Hi its Geniue here i haven't posted anything for a long time. But I'm glad I'm back. I'm very passionate about the work that Beyond Blue does because it's close to home for me. I guess for me when someone goes through immense struggles at such a very... View more

Hi its Geniue here i haven't posted anything for a long time. But I'm glad I'm back. I'm very passionate about the work that Beyond Blue does because it's close to home for me. I guess for me when someone goes through immense struggles at such a very young age it makes you wonder how on earth you can survive something like that and that is my story. For myself I was dealing with such incredible adversity still growing still trying to figure out who I was and I was heavily compounded with things that someone at a young age should never have to go through little loan experience. How does someone navigate there way through that but somehow that's what I did. I just want to say WE ARE NOT VICTIMS we are actually SURVIVORS of other people's bad choices. It never was bout us for the people out there who can relate to my story but everything to do with them. Please takecare and know this you are beautiful and deserving of all the wonderful things life has to offer. Because now I truly know that within my heart and soul. Don't let anyone take that special person that is in you away. Because it is there I found myself and I know you can too. Thankyou

QldMouse Decades of depression and loanliness, where to now?
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I’ve been reading these most amazing posts, from people who sound so nice and are suffering so much. Sadly I can relate so much to so many people. With apprehension can I share some of my story in the hope of getting a reality check and possible advi... View more

I’ve been reading these most amazing posts, from people who sound so nice and are suffering so much. Sadly I can relate so much to so many people. With apprehension can I share some of my story in the hope of getting a reality check and possible advice. Like so many I had a sad childhood which then turned to fear, shame, loneliness and depression in teenage and young adult years. A partner was found for me, I lacked the courage to ask her out. A short burst of happiness followed with the birth of a truly wonderful daughter who gives me the reason to carry on each day. Sadly my wife comes with her own inventory of baggage and has suffered depression most of her life. Over our 20+ year marriage I’ve tried to remain supportive but have done a pretty crap job, and after hitting a low point I started getting therapy. I’m told I’ve made a lot of progress but I don’t feel it myself. I’m exhausted, I feel so lost, trapped and alone. I have no friends, no life, and nothing but fear. I’m over the hill, accelerating down the other side with only a few years to go. My wife has sought help in the past but without success, and will not consider counseling or any form of assistance. She remains medicated, but it had an adverse reaction on me. I feel so bad for her and shame that I’m such a rubbish husband. The therapist I’ve been seeing thinks I should leave and pursue my own path to happiness, but I think she underestimates how much that terrifies me. The fear of being even lonelier than I am now and losing my daughter, the one person that keeps me going, I just can’t cope with that. I still love my wife but our relationship has been poor for a couple of decades. We don’t talk honestly, and she is a bit harsh on me at times. I’m not saying I don’t deserve it, and I understand I’m overly sensitive. My therapist says that I have qualities that women are looking for, but I am very skeptical. I am paying her to make me feel better after all. She also underestimates how truly bad I am around women. I have suffered social anxiety since I was young, panic attacks and a morbid fear of women. I literally cannot talk to a woman I like, it is hard enough for me to breath in her presence. I dread to think what they must think of me, my deep breathing is not rudeness it’s an inability to obtain oxygen. Pretty poor prospects really. I’m lost, can I help my wife? Can I help me? Can I help us or is it really too late? How do you tell? Thanks for reading, be well everyone.

Saree_p Really struggling
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Hi All, This is the first time I have ever tried to use a forum. I simply don't know what else to do. Atm I have a lot of memories, images, voices from past experiences resurfacing. On top of work environment that can trigger these. I simply can not ... View more

Hi All, This is the first time I have ever tried to use a forum. I simply don't know what else to do. Atm I have a lot of memories, images, voices from past experiences resurfacing. On top of work environment that can trigger these. I simply can not take it anymore and cope. All I want to do is make everything stop. I have been sitting with suicide for a while now, and I am tired of fighting it. I feel like I have exhausted all my options, I am wondering if anyone has any advice. I have started the process of seeking help, however it'll take months to organise. On top of this I can't exactly share what's going on etc. Sorry

ChrissyStar Animal cruelty, climate change, monoculture...the list goes on.
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I feel hopeless and have decided not to have children because of the state of the world (why would I wish to bring a child into this when I myself, do not like to live here?). Does anyone else feel the same?

I feel hopeless and have decided not to have children because of the state of the world (why would I wish to bring a child into this when I myself, do not like to live here?). Does anyone else feel the same?