Alone..Depressed..Sad..

Ggrand
Community Champion
Hi..I'm new here..just need to put my feeling down..no one to talk to makes depression and anxiety so hard...the last 4 days I have either been in bed crying or on the lounge crying..I can't seem to get out of this...I am becoming a prisioner in my own home as its getting progressively difficult to go out.. I have to go out Tuesdays so I do everthing on that day but it's like I'm holding my breathe all day until I get back to the safety of my home then I can let go and that starts the cycle again of spending the next 6 days at home either in bed or on the lounge sad and depressed...I really feel like just giving up.. My husband passed away 4 years on This coming Thursday. My children live 6 hours drive away and have small children so I don't see them that much.Bad mum and grandmum I am on there last visit i was pleased to see them but I just wanted them to go home. I feel so aweful and numb atm..
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Ggrand
Community Champion
Deebi, I done nothing to her, I didn’t even know she was angry until she said how, stupid, dumb, and what an idiot I am for having Betty as my friend...it was all because Betty wouldn’t let her take my keys or my dogs to her place, after the ambulance took me to hospital...I don’t even talk to the neighbour...She reminded me so much of the way hubby used to go off at me calling me dumb, stupid, useless, the same...plus she knew I still wasn’t well but she didn’t care, she let fly at me because Betty or I didn’t do as she said...now I keep thinking about this and I know I shouldn’t because it’s bringing so many tears to me.... I think about, first parents, brother, then hubby now my neighbour, What am I going to do now...geez i rang Betty and told her not to come here because my neighbour said she will tell Betty what she thinks of here....I feel like I can’t have anyone here anymore, dam it I have stayed in bed all day today, kept my dogs inside because, I’m to dam scared to go outside now or let my dogs out....I’m broken Deebi, I can’t see a way up anymore,I’m stuck living next to her...

Guest8901
Blue Voices Member

Dear Grandy

I know you feel broken right now sweetheart and perhaps as though there is no way out of where you find yourself currently. I realise you are in a dark, lonely and frightening place right now.

I so desperately wish it were different. I so wish I could wind back the clock and take away all the trauma you've endured throughout your life. But you know what? I cannot do that ... nobody can. All we can do is to change direction now, to ensure our future is better than our past. This can be done Grandy.

Lets start with the 'broken' bit. Okay, so you feel broken. Little wonder Grandy, with all that you've been through, and the unfortunate lack of proper support you've had over the years.

Broken can be repaired Grandy. Think of a beautiful mosaic. Made from many broken pieces. But lovingly pieced together again to create a truly beautiful new 'whole'. A mosaic is not only beautiful Grandy, it is also much stronger than the original. Much more resilient and able to withstand the rigors of whatever comes its way.

Think of yourself as the broken pieces now Grandy. Gather them up and put yourself back together again to create a mosaic. You will be stronger, more confident, happier. You will shine brightly, just as all your many admirers here already see you. You will finally start to see yourself as we all do.

Grandy dont be afraid to walk out your door. Your neighbour was wrong, not you. Its also highly likely she had good intentions of trying to help you (re the key and doggies). Her method and manner was unfortunate however. Do you think you could give her the benefit of the doubt? Even if its only so your poor doggies can go ouside.

Okay so I am delivering you a ladder and a torch to help you emerge from the dark place you're in. Reach for the stars Grandy, seek the light we know is still there, still within our reach. And I will be here reaching out to you.

Amanda 💕💫

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member

Come here darlin 🤗 let it all out I won't let go till you're ready. Gently rubbing your back. Here sit down lovey got you a hot cup of tea and biscuits. Grandy it's so wrong and so unfair, you don't deserve these belittling troubled people you've had in your life.

Now lovey you'd say same to me.
Please darling can you ring MH and let them help you. Grandy don't give up.
This is way too much alone you poor darling. Wish I could be there for you.
Also can you get them to contact your MHN. Talk to her, you like and trust her

Your neighbours clearly a very angry woman with problems and letting it out on you. At first I thought good she was looking out for you but then wondered why she'd want the keys & remembered her being so ill tempered about your beautiful fur buddies. Possible don't know she actually might have been trying to help.

I know Bettys elderly, I like she didn't give the keys and dogs to her. Did she go off at her? Maybe let Betty make that choice sweety 🤗
She can't dictate who you have at your place! Grandy that's your house and your friend. You don't have to take this. I feel she needs standing up to like you did 👍 trouble is she might get worse too so I think you'd be better talking to the cops. A stern talking could settle her down. Does she own or rent do you know?

Darlin I/we love and care so deeply about you. You feel broken 😢 honey this is way too much to do alone. You're so beautiful and don't deserve any of this. You're life treatments been so sadly atrocious.
You've survived SO much and still standing.
There's a better life to be had than this, we'll find the way together with everyone else here.

We're different people in different circumstances understand completely if not an option...

A choice for much later when you're stronger I know would be incredibly hard for you but worth a try, doubt tbh if I'd be this sweet but what about baking a cake which is a kind gesture. Sometimes angry people can soften to kindness. Take you're MHN with you and tell her you're struggling with living, youse live next door etc ..why are you so angry with me..I didn't do anything to you. Or MHN could tell her. There's a remote possibility it could break her barriers. Unforgivable how she's going on I know.
My ways not necessarily right but would be going off back, trouble it could fuel the fire.

UBOK Grandy. Always with you. Deep love 💑🤝💜

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member

Hello lovely Grandy,

Oh my goodness lovely. Grandy You are smart, kind, so caring and the most beautiful lady I have met in such a long time. I wish I were able to come over and give you the biggest longest hug Grandy ❤🤗.

Your neighbours words have no merit Grandy - because, as Deebi said, she doesn't know you. I also agree with Deebi in that your neighbour sounds like she has problems. ..it's not you.

Instead of thinking of her words, and those words from the past, are you able to maybe read through your thread and read out loud to yourself all the beautiful words your friends here have said about you?

We're all here with you hon. Hold on to OUR words and hold on to us. Hold on to us Grandy 👭👭👭👭👭. (We will deal with your neighbour later...)

You are loved and cared for so much Grandy. That's because you and your love mean so much to us. If only all of us here lived in the same suburb 😊. Try not to let the neighbour take you away from us beautiful lady.

Sending you peaceful thoughts.

As Amanda said we're here for each other so please write as much as you need to. It does help.

Sitting with you Grandy ❤👭😚

Hi lovely Grandy and all your caring friends,

I feel your wonderful friends have covered a lot of ground with their compassion and gentle suggestions so I have very little to add...

I will say this though...why don’t you take a seat next to all of us? We will gently surround you with our love and care...I hope you feel our collective warmth and affection for you...

I’m thinking maybe let’s bring you into the here and now. I know it’s many times easier in theory than in practice but I would gently suggest that you (gradually) find strategies to not let recent struggles drag all your previous traumas to the surface as well. I feel that’s too much to handle...

I think perhaps it would help to find ways to focus on one trauma or struggle at a time. At the moment, I think you’re feeling so overwhelmed because this isn’t just about your neighbour but it’s also about it dragging up feelings about your parents, you husband and your brother as well. That’s a lot...

Here and now, dear Grandy.

Here and now.

One thing at a time, lovely one...

Deep love, care and comfort

Peppy xoxo

........thinking of you beautiful Grandy. Here is a big warm comforting hug for you. ..because you deserve it 😘😘🤗🤗 🤗🤗 🤗

❤❤❤❤❤👭👭👭❤❤❤❤

Lee 🌹🌹❤❤

Birdy77
Blue Voices Member

Dear Grandy,

I know you are hurting so much right now.

We all wish we could take that pain away.

You are cared for and loved and respected so much here.

All your friends are here sending you much love ...

Please be gentle with Grandy, and treat her the way we would all treat her, very gently and with a lot of love.

We're all sitting with you.

🌻birdy

Ggrand
Community Champion

Deebi. Lee, Peppy, Amanda, Birdy, and everyone....thank you so very much for your kind, caring and encouraging words.. just letting you know that I am listening and appreciate you all so very much..My mh team visited me today..and talked about their concerns for my safety...

My younger brother returned my calls and we talked about what’s been happening with me.....He is also going to ring our older brother and ask why he rang me and wants to see me... and tell him to keep away as charges can still be made...

Its hard to talk atm, but I so much want to,.. because you all mean a lot to me....but I can’t seem to be able to..... please look after yourselves all of you...

Grandy...

demonblaster
Blue Voices Member

💑💜 love you darlin

Thanks for update 🤗😚

Guest8901
Blue Voices Member

Thank you Grandy. Thats all reassuring news, re your MH team visit and your younger brother being on the front foot regarding your older brother.

I know how hard it is to talk sometimes, even when you really want to. Dont push yourself though. It will happen ... when you're ready.

I'm here for you Grandy ... to listen when you're ready to talk ... to watch over you when you're not up to taking proper care of yourself ... to hold your hand when you need reassurance ... and to just quietly be here when you need a friend.

💕 🐶 🍀 🌺

Amanda