Adopted son of 37 years just contacted me..I'm so scared as what to do.

[Ggrand]

Hi I have another thread but unrelated to this.

37 years ago my husband and young son (2tears old). was living in our car for around 8 months.I was pregnant at the time. My parents disowned me when I eloped with my husband. My husbands parents were strange and we never told them we were living in the car.

I gave birth to my second son while we were living in the car. My hubby contacted his father and his Godmother who both talked us into putting our baby into foster care for a few months until we got organized, as we couldn't have a baby living in the car. After I got out of hospital my father in law told us to stay with him. Then a woman from child services came to see us and said it best to adopt our baby out.I didn't want to but I had to or we were back in the car living and would loose our baby and possibly our other young son . because father in law said it was the only way we could stay with them.

My adopted son found me and contacted me on Sunday I was to shocked to answer him back until today.contact has only been through facebook messenger. I told him i will ring him tonight around 8.30pm.

I have never told my 2 other sons about him. I don't know how to tell them.Will they hate me for doing this as I have hated myself and never forgiven myself over all these years.I have thought about him over the years especially on his birthdays. I am so very scared. Hubby died 4 years ago so I have to do this on my own.

Hubby and I decided we would never try to find him as we didn't want to upset his life..I am a complete mess as what to do..Please can someone help me.

[Elizabeth CP]

Don't apologise for telling us you were feeling down. That is what the forums are for:to express how we feel & get support & encouragement. If we could manage on our own with no bad days we wouldn't need to be here. Hope you are feeling a bit better now.

Listen to the cheer squad all cheering you on even when you feel down we all want you to pick yourself up & move forward. Hopefully our encouragement helps. Many of us really care about you.

[Ggrand]

Hi, Deebi, Tony,Magic,Quirky,Elizabeth,

Thank you all for your kindness and suggestions..

I have rang them before but they talk to me like I'm a stranger..Plus eldest changed his number..

At the moment I don't know...I'm just hurting to much...it just beaks my heart when I remember..

Karen

[PamelaR]

Hello Grandy

I found your thread in the last couple of days and I've been meaning to get into 'my threads' so i can keep up with you.

Haven't posted, but listening!! Not having children makes me feel it's difficult to know what to say. There are so many other wonderful people here Tony WK, ElizabethCP, Deebi, Chicken Wings, Quirkywords providing you with help and support. I'm probably not needed here.

Doesn't mean I don't care, nor that I don't support you.

Kindness always to you Karen.💛💚

Pammy

[monkey_magic]

Hi Karen the night owl,

I'm in my hotel/ motel room still awake...

I received ur post on my thread n loved it...

Drawing on my own or others strength is what I do yes & i highly recommend it to others too.

Are you OK tonight? I hope you are...night night sweet dreams if u fall asleep....

Gotto love a colourful sunrise...

[Ggrand]

Hello Magic,

Im so lucky, because I have big windows in my bedroom and from my bed I can see the sun rising daily, it is really pretty at time, but I do prefer to sit out on my front veranda with a cuppa tea and watch it..

I hope you finally slept.. Take care of yourself and enjoy yourself, we are always here for you Magic.. I'm very very proud of you. You are one amazing person..

Love and hugs 🤗

Karen..

[IsaJett]

Hi Ggrand

I am just jumping in now..as Im new to forum..but I just wanted to send you my support.

and give my thoughts. As a mom you did all you could given the situation. I mean living in a car and all that. I think all involve ...your adopted son and your two sons are all very proud of you ...sure it be a shock to the system but its all a beautiful thing...another brother.and for your adopted son...getting to know you now.

..I am an only child and I only can wish suddenly maybe there is someone else my mom birthed..lol

But I am late in this forum and apologise for anything I have missed...but I hope you are in a slightly better position now but would love to hear more from you 🙂 Keep smiling

[Emmy.]

Hi Karen. Just wanted to let you know i’ve found your other thread too. (I’ve read half of this thread and half your other. I’ll finish them both tomorrow - or today now). I hope you don’t mind me reading them but you’ve been so kind to me, I wanted to get to know you more to offer you better support.

I’m saddened by all you’ve had to go through in this life. It’s just not fair! I pray that things with your sons improve. Give it time ❤️ I wish only the best for you. You deserve it and so much more. Sending hugs your way. Emmy xx

[Ggrand]

Hello Isabel and Emmy,

Thank you both for your kindness.

Grandy..

[Ggrand]

Hello Tony and Quirky...

I have re read a lot of this thread, trying to avoid the triggers as much as possible....I'm very emotional, a lot has happened since I started this thread, and the both of you never left my side...I want to thank you very much for staying along side me...

.I would never have been able to come this far without you both...I would have crumbled and not continued on this journey..

This week is a very special date coming up.. I'm very emotional even thinking about it.. This will be the very first time ever from his birthday in 1980 until now that I can wish my second son a very happy birthday and he will hear those words coming from me for the very first time... I'm an emotional mess thinking about this day this coming week..

I wish that I could express my thanks to you both in a more meaningful way. Please both of you check out bouquet thread...I wish there was more I could say or do to thank you both...You have my heartfelt thanks and respect..

Warm and kind hugs.. 🤗

Grandy..

[Ggrand]

About 2 hours ago I just Just a msg through fb that son number 2 wants to cut all ties from his birth family..This has broken my heart...I’m hurting so much...I’m going to loose him again..my heart can’t take this...Why did he look for me to just throw me away..